After A Lifetime Of Adventure, Why Is It Now So Hard To Pop Off?

[watthong]

1 hour ago, JimTripper said:

That's not the Op's problem though. He's still amped up, just says he can't squirt.

 

Well, I had a case that is the opposite:

This is back in the day of my being the unofficial neighborhood sex therapist in my neck of the woods in Southern Calif, catering to the local bunch of horny down low married or with gf guys who were "curious" but had no outlets beside the beach public restrooms.

 

One time an older guy answered my ad. We met at Starbucks for my "consultation" session. A sweet, gentle white-haired  grandpa type, he hadn't had sex for years with grandma. Couldn't get the little guy up, but he could ejaculate (watching porn though no physical jacking off.) So he wondered if he could pop his nut in a more, erh, holistic way, with some understanding and experienced hand such as yours truly.

 

In full curiosity from both parties, we proceeded. Missionary style with him at the bottom as newbie and for me I wanted to see what's going on. Before long, he orgasmed. We both watched in amazement as a healthy dollop of jizz just oozed - or should I say popped-  out from his totally limp dick. So my guess is that despite the mechanism of getting hard no longer functioning, his synapses were still in full control of the "pumping" of the sluice gate, though not with the full force (needed to squirt)? My one-of-a-kind experience.

Edited November 15 by watthong

[watthong]

On 11/14/2024 at 6:51 AM, SoCal1990 said:

I stay excited, functional, and can keep things going for a couple of hours at times. 

Wow, here I thought at 10 minutes I had broken the record of senior Olympics....

However I now and then surprise myself that at the age of 70, I can still have one of those full-throated, pun unintended, hitting the bull eye orgasm that rival those of my younger days. It doesn't happen that often, actually quite rare, but when the stars are aligned, it shoots straight! One thing I notice is that if I was under the weather or out of sort, it would just ooze - sorry guys for the visuals - and I thought oh no, the end is here. Well it's not. Another thing is that your brain has to be on the deck of the Enterprise, make sure all the synapses do their job in the right sequence and in a timely manner to finally, when the time ehr, comes,  flip the switch.

 

In short it takes good mental focus and a healthy body. Too much substance usage might have  dulled the mind along the years. I remember at the peak of my physical being, say in my 30s, not only I hit the bull eye but I also felt some sort of smoke coming off the top of my head - ie feeling real high - like a locomotive. That was the best part , that lead to the  post-coitus "lovey" interlude, where in the cinema, both partners reach for their cigarette...

Edited November 15 by watthong

[watthong]

On 11/14/2024 at 11:56 AM, RSD1 said:

bob smith had the same problem of being able to load the gun perfectly, but then it wouldn't fire. He switched to ladyboys and never had that problem since. Just saying... 

 

It's called the prostate. 

[SoCal1990]

Thank you for all the comments and feedback.
 

After reflecting on everything, I think I may be overdoing it, or doing it too often.

 

I don't have issues with arousal or erections. I'm into it, I look forward to it, and I have access to partners who interest me sexually.
 

Mechanically, everything works fine, and I ejaculate normally when I do finally orgasm. However, I suspect l've become a bit desensitized.

 

I plan to try to cut back on the frequency to see if that helps me orgasm more consistently during sex. It won't be easy since I'm used to doing it daily, but I'll see if I can reduce it to once every 2-3 days and see if that makes a difference.

 

Part of the driving force for frequency may be the fact that I naturally have exceedingly high testosterone levels. The last testosterone test I did last December showed that my testosterone was over 1,100 ng/dL. But I think high testosterone only contributes to desire/need and not necessarily performance. 

[JimTripper]

2 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

are the ladyboys helping yiu?

Please watch this movie. The title is "Boogie Nights". It's a classic. Let me know what you think...

 

 

[gargamon]

9 hours ago, RSD1 said:

This topic isn’t about erectile dysfunction. 

Neither was my comment. It was about people who didn't need ED meds taking them being a problem later. Kind of like those who inject testosterone which causes their testicles to stop generating testosterone.

[thaibeachlovers]

9 hours ago, Elkski said:

I will have to read up on the ill health effects of every other day ejaculation goals.  I thought this was good for the prostrate? 

Don't believe it. I never missed a day and I still got prostate cancer.

I don't think it's bad though, getting prostate cancer is just bad luck IMO.

When science can actually do something worthwhile, perhaps they will work out a way to not get cancer.

[thaibeachlovers]

6 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

After reflecting on everything, I think I may be overdoing it, or doing it too often.

If you are over retiring age I agree with that. I had to reduce to every other day. When it's hard work it's not fun.

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, RSD1 said:

So if you normally ejaculate between 1-3 times per day, and then reduce that to once every 3 days then that will probably fix most of ones problems with being able to ejaculate.

If that is what you have been doing I think you know the answer. Your prostate must have been working overtime to refill. People get diabetes when the insulin creating glands fail, presumably from too much sugar, and I suspect it's the same with the prostate. overuse it and it's going to fail.

3 times a day, good grief.

[thaibeachlovers]

17 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

I don't know, guys who have sex a lot can get jaded with it, just go through the motions 

Never happened to me.

[thaibeachlovers]

19 hours ago, Hummin said:

Still there is a real topic for some who experience what he describes. 

 

Sensitivity dissappear the older you get

 

What he's complaining about has nothing to do with sensitivity. He can still do it so sensitivity is not the issue.

[thaibeachlovers]

19 hours ago, Hummin said:

To much porn and jerking off can be harming your sex life. 

BS.

[thaibeachlovers]

20 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

This is a particularly important topic for men over the age of 60 as we pay a very heavy price for an orgasm, and the health benefits of cutting down on the frequency of orgasms are enormous. 

I'm no expert but from personal experience IMO that is not true, or just BS. However, IMO once a day is about right, and 3 a day is not a good idea at any age.

I have to do it less, but that's nothing to do with compromising my health. It's just too much like hard work to do it every day.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/14/2024 at 9:10 PM, spidermike007 said:

Well in reality an orgasm is very overrated, and as we get older finishing takes a lot more out of us than it used to. So perhaps your body is just telling you something good, perhaps it's telling you that you don't need to finish, you can just enjoy (in a more tantric fashion) and that's good enough. 

In the interests of science I tried your idea last night and bu**er that for a bad idea.

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

BS.

Not everyone pops after 30sec 😁

 

I always been above average in time, and the older I get, the more I have colour my fantasies and use longer foreplay. 

 

Anyway, I provided links to some articles, but there is a free world to think what you want. 

 

The good thing with a partner who knows you, and play with you, knows which buttons to push, and manage to maintain an interesting sex life.

 

I see some do not understand how the same partner can be interesting over the years, to me it is the opposite, I'm not interested in constantly new partners trying to find someone who could turn me on, when I got what I need home. Looking and Flirting, yes, but not even tempted to go all the way,

[scubascuba3]

4 hours ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Never happened to me.

Maybe you didn't have enough different partners to experience it. Most guys get bored with having sex with just one woman, can call that jaded also

[spidermike007]

While it may seem counterintuitive, abstaining from ejaculation for a set period of time – be it a day, a week, or even months at a time – can have tangible positive effects across many aspects of our lives.

 

While the conversation around avoiding ejaculation may seem to have gotten much more popular as of late, the truth is the original concept has been around for centuries. Our ancestors began hunting for the physical, mental, spiritual, and other benefits of semen retention far before it became an internet fad. While they may not have known the scientific benefits of not ejaculating like we do today, the notions were evident in the form of Taoism and tantric sex. 

 

While there is still a strong need for more research in this area, the bulk of published studies have revolved around the physical benefits of not ejaculating. Unsurprisingly, many of these effects are correlated again with higher levels of testosterone. Things like increases in mood and energy along with decreases in body fat are the same kind of results one might expect from more T. 

 

Perhaps the most exciting news is that the scientific benefits of not ejaculating may manifest more quickly than you’d think. A systematic review of current research conducted in 2018 found that abstaining for less than 24 hours was associated with improved sperm motility. 

 

The longer one doesn’t ejaculate, the more positive the results. The benefits of not ejaculating for a week were explored in 2003. It was found that among the 28 volunteer participants, T levels maxed out on the seventh day. A study conducted two years prior resulted in elevated testosterone levels in those who did not ejaculate for three weeks straight. This all points to the physiological benefits manifesting quite quickly. 

 

Elevated testosterone levels have been linked to the following improvements:

 

Thicker hair

Increased muscle growth

Greater energy levels

Improved sperm quality

As mentioned before, these same physical benefits can also aid our mental and emotional states. It is an exciting cycle of positivity that can potentially start after as little as one day of abstinence.

 

https://premiermensmedical.com/blog/benefits-of-not-ejaculating-practicing-semen-retention/

[RSD1]

1 hour ago, spidermike007 said:

While it may seem counterintuitive, abstaining from ejaculation for a set period of time – be it a day, a week, or even months at a time – can have tangible positive effects across many aspects of our lives.

 

While the conversation around avoiding ejaculation may seem to have gotten much more popular as of late, the truth is the original concept has been around for centuries. Our ancestors began hunting for the physical, mental, spiritual, and other benefits of semen retention far before it became an internet fad. While they may not have known the scientific benefits of not ejaculating like we do today, the notions were evident in the form of Taoism and tantric sex. 

 

While there is still a strong need for more research in this area, the bulk of published studies have revolved around the physical benefits of not ejaculating. Unsurprisingly, many of these effects are correlated again with higher levels of testosterone. Things like increases in mood and energy along with decreases in body fat are the same kind of results one might expect from more T. 

 

Perhaps the most exciting news is that the scientific benefits of not ejaculating may manifest more quickly than you’d think. A systematic review of current research conducted in 2018 found that abstaining for less than 24 hours was associated with improved sperm motility. 

 

The longer one doesn’t ejaculate, the more positive the results. The benefits of not ejaculating for a week were explored in 2003. It was found that among the 28 volunteer participants, T levels maxed out on the seventh day. A study conducted two years prior resulted in elevated testosterone levels in those who did not ejaculate for three weeks straight. This all points to the physiological benefits manifesting quite quickly. 

 

Elevated testosterone levels have been linked to the following improvements:

 

Thicker hair

Increased muscle growth

Greater energy levels

Improved sperm quality

As mentioned before, these same physical benefits can also aid our mental and emotional states. It is an exciting cycle of positivity that can potentially start after as little as one day of abstinence.

 

https://premiermensmedical.com/blog/benefits-of-not-ejaculating-practicing-semen-retention/

Anecdotal garbage from a clinic selling treatments for erectile dysfunction.
 

This isn't from a respected medical journal nor are there any peer reviewed studies. 

[sipi]

Put fingernail polish on your hand. Sit on your hand until it turn numb. Then go for it alone.

It looks and feels like someone else.

You're welcome..

[JoseThailand]

On 11/15/2024 at 6:23 PM, RSD1 said:

Do tell us more about your results with that. 

 

bob can tell you everything about it

[Hummin]

4 hours ago, sipi said:

Put fingernail polish on your hand. Sit on your hand until it turn numb. Then go for it alone.

It looks and feels like someone else.

You're welcome..

2024 now, not 1960 anymore 

 

 

https://www.amazon.com/Sex-Toy-Automatic-Male-Masturbator/dp/B0CGX6THHG

[Elkski]

I think we need pictures.  Maybe none of us could finish with what the OP can dredge up.   

Perhaps gals were less fat back when. Less Botox, open nostrils, cat eyes, ink eyebrows?

Edited November 16 by Elkski

[Ralf001]

have heard a digit or two up the anoos get a soft coc@ to splooge.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/16/2024 at 4:22 PM, scubascuba3 said:

Maybe you didn't have enough different partners to experience it. Most guys get bored with having sex with just one woman, can call that jaded also

Which is why it's important to try new ways of doing it. Of course just doing missionary would get boring real fast. There are hundreds of ways of making it different.

[thaibeachlovers]

14 hours ago, Ralf001 said:

have heard a digit or two up the anoos get a soft coc@ to splooge.

That's what the Dr does when he checks the prostate and it's not going to be much fun.

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/16/2024 at 4:53 PM, spidermike007 said:

While it may seem counterintuitive, abstaining from ejaculation for a set period of time – be it a day, a week, or even months at a time – can have tangible positive effects across many aspects of our lives.

 

While the conversation around avoiding ejaculation may seem to have gotten much more popular as of late, the truth is the original concept has been around for centuries. Our ancestors began hunting for the physical, mental, spiritual, and other benefits of semen retention far before it became an internet fad. While they may not have known the scientific benefits of not ejaculating like we do today, the notions were evident in the form of Taoism and tantric sex. 

 

While there is still a strong need for more research in this area, the bulk of published studies have revolved around the physical benefits of not ejaculating. Unsurprisingly, many of these effects are correlated again with higher levels of testosterone. Things like increases in mood and energy along with decreases in body fat are the same kind of results one might expect from more T. 

 

Perhaps the most exciting news is that the scientific benefits of not ejaculating may manifest more quickly than you’d think. A systematic review of current research conducted in 2018 found that abstaining for less than 24 hours was associated with improved sperm motility. 

 

The longer one doesn’t ejaculate, the more positive the results. The benefits of not ejaculating for a week were explored in 2003. It was found that among the 28 volunteer participants, T levels maxed out on the seventh day. A study conducted two years prior resulted in elevated testosterone levels in those who did not ejaculate for three weeks straight. This all points to the physiological benefits manifesting quite quickly. 

 

Elevated testosterone levels have been linked to the following improvements:

 

Thicker hair

Increased muscle growth

Greater energy levels

Improved sperm quality

As mentioned before, these same physical benefits can also aid our mental and emotional states. It is an exciting cycle of positivity that can potentially start after as little as one day of abstinence.

 

https://premiermensmedical.com/blog/benefits-of-not-ejaculating-practicing-semen-retention/

Sounds like too much work to bother.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/14/2024 at 12:51 PM, SoCal1990 said:

In short, I’m finding it harder and harder to reach climax. I still enjoy sex as much as before, maybe even more now, thanks to a more adult mind that lets me appreciate the experience in a freer, more open way, with no shyness. The excitement is definitely still there too and I’m more in tune with what I like. But actually crossing that finish line? Not so much.

Stop expecting to climax first time. It might take 2 or more attempts to reach lift off.

Attempt 1 fails, wait 5 minutes or longer to relax then go again, repeat till successful.

That works.

A female partner might like that too.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/16/2024 at 2:51 PM, Hummin said:

I see some do not understand how the same partner can be interesting over the years, to me it is the opposite, I'm not interested in constantly new partners trying to find someone who could turn me on, when I got what I need home. Looking and Flirting, yes, but not even tempted to go all the way,

In my limited experience of long time partners, they lose interest and don't want to do it, leaving me high and dry.

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said:

In my limited experience of long time partners, they lose interest and don't want to do it, leaving me high and dry.

That's a real problem many faces, then I would had a second, and I have been joking with my wife about it. A marriage is more than just sex, but sex is important, so if that is still important, I guess need to find other options.

[spidermike007]

1 hour ago, thaibeachlovers said:

Sounds like too much work to bother.

Any sort of self discipline does require some work, but it can often pay major dividends.