She has started asking for money

[freedomnow]

6 hours ago, brianburi said:

He never mentioned his Dad received free medical treatment. 
Invest in a dictionary too…….

I think you should re-read it....it is implicit in what he is saying that his dad has to take out private medical insurance since he cannot access free Thai health care.

 

[freedomnow]

46 minutes ago, freedomnow said:

I think you should re-read it....it is implicit in what he is saying that his dad has to take out private medical insurance since he cannot access free Thai health care.

 

..and based on that...he thought her mum was needing private care as far as I read it...he was equating private care being the norm based on his dad...anyway, it's just a new guy in Thailand getting that familiar squeeze and he has had his advice to block her as its the usual B/S routine of guys with soft hearts getting worked by hookerz.

[4MyEgo]

On 3/12/2025 at 9:15 PM, Cameroni said:

 

Yes, there are the odd diamonds and exceptions. It's certainly nice to hear these true positive accounts and of course very happy you found a good woman. But if you had not had the funds to buy her a house, retire in Thailand, how long do you think this woman would have stayed with you? Clearly she is of good character, from what you have said, but don't you think your resources and willingness to buy her a house contributed to her happiness, and thus to her staying with you?

 

Thanks, and yes, ALL women want security of some kind for the long haul.

 

The above said, I have seen a lot of Thai women here, ending up with poor a$$ blokes here depending on their government handouts on a monthly basis to be left with nothing when he departs, suffice to say, I too consider myself an odd diamond too and of course, one has to set traps along to way to be sure to be sure as Paddy would say, and if the rat takes the cheese, then you know what you have on your hands.

 

The fact that she spend a decade with me overseas, supporting me as a stay at home wife with me working long hours from home and me being a single dad on a shared care basis, was a HUGE help, that said, she put a lot of trust in me to deliver on what I promised, i.e. to retire to Thailand in a decade and to build us a nice house, in the end it all worked out, and as you say, character has a heck of a lot to do with relationships.

[PomPolo]

What's her name? I'm in Phuket for a few days I'll do a test run and tell you if she's worth it 

[Cameroni]

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

Thanks, and yes, ALL women want security of some kind for the long haul.

 

The above said, I have seen a lot of Thai women here, ending up with poor a$$ blokes here depending on their government handouts on a monthly basis to be left with nothing when he departs, suffice to say, I too consider myself an odd diamond too and of course, one has to set traps along to way to be sure to be sure as Paddy would say, and if the rat takes the cheese, then you know what you have on your hands.

 

The fact that she spend a decade with me overseas, supporting me as a stay at home wife with me working long hours from home and me being a single dad on a shared care basis, was a HUGE help, that said, she put a lot of trust in me to deliver on what I promised, i.e. to retire to Thailand in a decade and to build us a nice house, in the end it all worked out, and as you say, character has a heck of a lot to do with relationships.

 

Always good to hear one that worked out. How old was she when you first met?

[NanLaew]

On 3/11/2025 at 11:26 AM, Magpiefan1892 said:

What’s with the trolling. I’m just asking a genuine question. If you don’t like the question just scroll pass and ignore if you’re going to troll. What’s wrong with asking a simple question. Why would I get paid for this post. What have got to gain from this question. I’m a genuine traveller from the uk and been to Thailand a few times and yet this is my first experience with a Thai girl.

 

Who are the magpies?

[NanLaew]

On 3/11/2025 at 10:49 AM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day.

 

What happened between "...paid the bar fine and took her back." And "Next day comes around and she messages me..." Did you wake up alone? Was it all a dream? Did you pay her?

 

This could be crucial to resolving this very unique and unusual conundrum that you have presented to us.

 

On the other hand...

[geisha]

On 3/11/2025 at 5:42 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

Is it really free because my dad (a farang) who lives in Thailand has to have medical insurance and pay for medical bills. 

Please read the post correctly.Medical treatment is free for THAIS’ , not foreigners. I don’t know if you’re real or not, but a girl working the bars are prostitutes . When the guys ( many) aren’t in Thailand , this what they do, Ask for money. If you’re ok with that, go ahead , but never forget who you are  giving it to, its not a girl friend or friend. It’s a prostitute. 

[Celsius]

9 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Always good to hear one that worked out. How old was she when you first met?

 

69

[PomPolo]

29 minutes ago, Celsius said:

 

69

A very good age indeed and met a few ladies myself of a similar senescent variety 

[wavodavo]

On 3/12/2025 at 12:32 AM, johng said:

 

Don't send any money  she will soon stop messaging..and if she doesn't well

then maybe you got a keeper.

Send her 100,00- thb and she will be so happy she won't bother you again/

[VBF]

On 3/11/2025 at 10:52 PM, NorthernRyland said:

one and the same. 😂

Cynicism is the Romantic s condom. (Mike Harding)

[Ian Winston]

On 3/11/2025 at 8:49 PM, Magpiefan1892 said:

So I went to Thailand for 2 weeks back in February. I spent 4 nights in Phuket and met this beautiful bar girl on my 2nd night there at a bar. We talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. As I was leaving she gave me her WhatsApp so we can keep in touch whilst I was in Phuket. She messaged me the next day asking how my trip was to James Bond Island and if I was coming back to that bar. I went back and we again talked, played pool and I bought her a lady drink. She wanted to pay the bar fine and take her back. But I was too tired and had to go on a trip the next day. We left it at that and next day she again messages me. I went back to the bar that night and repeated what we did the previous 2 nights. Only this time I wanted to take her back and she asked me to wait as they were short staffed that evening. I waited, paid the bar fine and took her back. Next day comes around and she messages me again to tell her when I landed in Bangkok as I was leaving Phuket that day. I assumed she’d stop contact but she messaged me throughout my last day in Thailand, and asked me to message her when I arrived home in the Uk. We added each other on TikTok and facebook. And for the last 5 weeks we have been messaging back and forth asking how are day has been etc. Told her about my trip back to Thailand to visit my dad in Udon Thani which is where her family is from in the coming November. Last night she messaged me telling me her mother was in hospital and she’s having to pay 450 baht a day for medical fees. She then asked if I can send over 8000 baht which I can’t even afford and would never send money over to someone I barely know. She seemed ok with me telling her no but I’m now wondering if she’s trying to scam me or something after out of the blue asking me to help her with medical bills. Should I now stop contacting her as I see this as a red flag. We’re not in a relationship, she’s never asked for money before. Just two people still messaging each other from time to time. What should I do apart from not send any money over. 

 

[Ian Winston]

As others have said could be a red flag .this is very common with Bar girls and new customers who have barfined them if you would have sent her money you could be  sure she would be asking for more in the future.

just see what happens ,if you like this girl and she doesn’t ask for more money when you return you can take it from there. You have to bear in mind that she is a bargirl,in her job she is expectedto go with customers. If she’s not genuine she will be doing this every time she’s barfined .

I know Girls from the past who had many boyfriends from around the world that sent money thinking they are the only one ,but this might not be the case. Good luck.

[VBF]

17 minutes ago, Ian Winston said:

As others have said could be a red flag .this is very common with Bar girls and new customers who have barfined them if you would have sent her money you could be  sure she would be asking for more in the future.

just see what happens ,if you like this girl and she doesn’t ask for more money when you return you can take it from there. You have to bear in mind that she is a bargirl,in her job she is expectedto go with customers. If she’s not genuine she will be doing this every time she’s barfined .

I know Girls from the past who had many boyfriends from around the world that sent money thinking they are the only one ,but this might not be the case. Good luck.

In my experience and that of friends, I would suggest that this applies to the VAST MAJORITY of bargirls.

 

To the OP tread cautiously and be prepared to learn the worst. 

And from personal experience, ask yourself if this is not just a brief, sexy interlude in your otherwise mundane life and if THAT  is what you're missing.  (Sorry but had to be said)

 

You don't have to tell anyone else but be truthful with yourself 😏

[captain_shane]

A prostitute asking for money, wow what a revelation. Definitely need another 5 pages to figure out this mystery.

[Olsworth]

I dated a number of girls in phuket mostly from dating websites, in phuket especially the girls were insistent on a retainer between 10,000-20,000 a month. One girl I got on well with, however when she asked for money she insisted if I didn’t pay she would find another guy that would pay as it is expected in phuket. I said you have your own shop selling clothes why do you need my money, I said I can lend you 40,000 to buy extra stock and you can return the money to me amd take the profits for yourself. She debated then discussed with my dad’s wife about it. She said sorry I’m going to find a guy that will send a retainer each month. I wished her well, sent her on her way. She found another guy and sent me pictures of her being happy with her new retainer, it lasted a few months then She was back to the drawing board. Another friend that’s a girl I knew, has a boyfriend we were only friends, known her a few years, she got in touch while I was in Blighty asking to borrow her 500B as she had run out of food and was waiting for money from her man to arrive she has a job in a bar, knowing full well she earns a decent amount each month. No need to ask some guy 5000 miles away for 500b especially knowing that she won’t return it. Girls in phuket are generally on retainer that’s been my experience so far. I left Thailand and went to Laos, found a lovely girl who never once asked for money. We are now married living in the Uk with 4 children together. 

[Olsworth]

1 minute ago, Olsworth said:

I dated a number of girls in phuket mostly from dating websites, in phuket especially the girls were insistent on a retainer between 10,000-20,000 a month. One girl (not bar girl) I got on well with, however when she asked for money she insisted if I didn’t pay she would find another guy that would pay as it is expected in phuket. I said you have your own shop selling clothes why do you need my money, I said I can lend you 40,000 to buy extra stock and you can return the money to me amd take the profits for yourself. She debated then discussed with my dad’s wife about it. She said sorry I’m going to find a guy that will send a retainer each month. I wished her well, sad but sent her on her way. She found another guy and sent me pictures of her being happy with her new retainer, it lasted a few months then She was back to the drawing board. Another friend that’s a girl I knew, she has a boyfriend we were only friends, known her a few years, dated her sister (sister slept with me in a heartbeat despite having long term 3 year relationship live in boyfriend, sex is just sex in Thailand) friend got in touch while I was in Blighty asking to borrow her 500B as she had run out of food and was waiting for money from her man to arrive she has a job in a bar, knowing full well she earns a decent amount each month. No need to ask some guy 7000 miles away for 500b especially knowing that she won’t return it. Girls in phuket are generally on retainer that’s been my experience so far. I left Thailand and went to Laos, found a lovely girl who never once asked for money. Hasn’t slept with the whole of Laos We are now married living in the Uk with 4 children together.