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meeting a lady that doesn't need your money

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18 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

Sure. But what do they look like?

 

It's easy to be faithful when nobody wants you.

 

What I'd like to see is a 24 year old that looks like  Yuyu Sai who is actually faithful, despite having tons of options.

 

 

 

You have evidence that Yuyu Sai is unfaithful?

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  • it is what it is
    it is what it is

    20 odd years here, never, ever had a thai woman who wanted money, same as when i dated back home. current gf has five cars, seven houses and condos and runs, at the last count - it's hard to keep up,

  • Harrisfan
    Harrisfan

    Sounds like bs

  • Sierra Tango
    Sierra Tango

    Get a bloody job and stop wasting time posting inane shizen on this forum Bob/Giovani/ Lewi who ever the fark you are, Just go away.

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27 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

 

You have evidence that Yuyu Sai is unfaithful?

 

Sadly not. But it won't last. Yuyu Sai is too rich and too beautiful to stay with that guy, who by all accounts looks like a clueless boy.

 

I'm keeping a close eye.

14 hours ago, Sierra Tango said:

Ah so the traditional sport of Dwarf throwing has been replaced with Buffalo Flipping. They do breed the Northern maidens with a definite robust quality.

No more dwarfs in my area. A lot easier to flip buffaloes for cash.

14 hours ago, Sierra Tango said:

They do breed the Northern maidens with a definite robust quality.

 

Sadly true. Living in CM the scarcity of the svelte, slim Bangkok ladies is a real drawback

18 hours ago, Cameroni said:

I don't think you can get out of it, in the long run. Here's why.

 

 

Agreed. If you're buying her 1,000 baht seafood meals, and Mama needs a new pair of flip flops, She will always be doing slightly resentful mental math in her head.

 

The massive income inequality issue must be resolved. Giving her some money is the way.

 

Problem: You become her boss and her job. And everyone chafes at their boss and job a little bit.

 

And yet, we can pick out a dozen posters here on any day who have negotiated this, sometimes effortlessly.

 

Both sides have to give up something. If anything, giving up a small amount of money is much easier and egoless than their adjusting their expectations in being with a wealthy person.

 

This is why I prefer to date white. I'm going on date #3 soon with someone with whom this will never be an issue.

 

She insisted on paying for date #2. 'Wouldn't even let me leave a tip. I am proud to say that that was a 3,500 baht check.

 

Her family back home only wants a Christmas card from her. No kids. Travels a lot, so not clingy.

 

 

 

16 hours ago, garygooner said:

This means, I was sad because I liked her, but only as a friend ... not like a girlfriend. (She would have been a good girlfriend, but I could only like her as a friend.) Enough now. 

There is no court of appeals when the verdict is:

 

Not Into Them.

 

-Or when it goes the other way and someone is just not that into you.

 


Whatever side you end up on, keep it friendly, classy, and short.

8 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

She will always be doing slightly resentful mental math in her head. The massive income inequality issue must be resolved. Giving her some money is way.

 

 

This is absolutely right. I once had a Thai girl and I wanted to test how attached she was to money. Because for many months she acted as if money did not matter to her at all, would not ask for much at all. This was curious to me and I wanted to know the truth. So kept living my life, taking her out to nice places, flying to different countries. But I did not give her much money or "allowance". Guess what happened after a few months? She felt unhappy in the relationship because she thought she wasn't getting enough out of it. So yes, they do do this mental arithmetic.

 

13 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Both sides have to give up something.

 

Both sides have to be ready and able to be in a relationship. It really does take two to make it work.

29 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Agreed. If you're buying her 1,000 baht seafood meals, and Mama needs a new pair of flip flops, She will always be doing slightly resentful mental math in her head.

The massive income inequality issue must be resolved. Giving her some money is the way.

Problem: You become her boss and her job. And everyone chafes at their boss and job a little bit.

But only give her money after sex, that way you both know what she is, and what her work is!

This is essential for your future ....... too many guys forget what's happening.

13 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

So yes, they do do this mental arithmetic.

 

 

 

It's like when I was a poor actor and my rich friends would invite me out to the Hamptons.

 

Train fare, bringing a host gift, spending like a drunken sailor going out to eat and drink while I was there -that weekend would cost me more than a month of acting classes. Or an ounce of weed.

 

In my last relationship, I wanted to take my wife to Paris. But she owed money to her brother. So I had to toss him $500 towards the loan.

 

You can get huffy and say it's nobody's business, but that does not make for a frictionless life. She would have felt guilty going to Paris while owing money.

 

Someone who makes $12-15 a day views a 400 baht hamburger the way I view flying Business Class. It's great, but that's some crazy money to spend (usually quadruple or more).

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1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

But only give her money after sex, that way you both know what she is, and what her work is!

 

I dunno. I toss 'em 200 baht BEFORE  the massage and I generally get better treatment.

 

Poor people (understandably) have a lot of anxiety about money.

 

Lessening that makes everything a little lighter.

3 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

It's like when I was a poor actor and my rich friends would invite me out to the Hamptons.

 

Train fare, bringing a host gift, spending like a drunken sailor going out to eat and drink while I was there -that weekend would cost me more than a month of acting classes. Or an ounce of weed.

 

In my last relationship, I wanted to take my wife to Paris. But she owed money to her brother. So I had to toss him $500 towards the load. You can get huffy and say it's nobody's business, but that does not make for a frictionless life.

 

Someone who makes $12-15 a day views a 400 baht hamburger the way I view flying Business Class. It's great, but that's some crazy money to spend (usually quadruple or more).

 

We should never underestimate the ambition of women. The girl I mentioned earlier, she would get up at 11 am, ask me to order her noodles, go on Youtube and Tiktok and not do much until I take her out to a restaurant for lunch or dinner. I would order her presents on Lazada regularly, shoes, clothes, the usual. You'd think she'd be satisfied, her life was easy and plesant. But no. Her ambition was to send money to her mother, make sure she's fine, go to 5 star resorts. That's how they are. I've had penniless Filipinas tell me they  want to build a house for their parents. Their ambition is greater than most men realise.

Yeah, shoes are nice,  but she's got iron-clad responsibilities.

 

I am loving (so far) being with someone with plenty of money and zero responsibilities. Like myself.

 

AseanNow-only problem: She's 58.

 

Yoga body, tho.

 

 

10 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Yeah, shoes are nice,  but she's got iron-clad responsibilities.

 

Turns out she didn't care for shoes at all, but she was terrified of her mother. These Thai mothers use the most brutal emotional manipulation to ensure their adult daughters send them cash. I really think if you decided to be with a young thai woman, you have to factor in maintaining her mother, father, sister, whatever it is, maybe all three.

 

11 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

She's 58.

 

Yoga body, tho.

 

 

What about the face?

 

On 5/7/2025 at 10:19 PM, Harrisfan said:

How do u create these?

for the love of god dont tell him

5 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

 

 

 

What about the face?

 

Reasonably good, but not falling down great.

1 minute ago, Prubangboy said:

Reasonably good, but not falling down great.

 

Well Yoga body is good.

 

58 is hardcore though.

Just now, Cameroni said:

 

 

 

58 is hardcore though.

It's nice to be able to have a chat, tho. She's Australian, NGO, has an interesting job. Very cheerful.

 

Ultimately, the horizontal audition up the road will decide all.

On 5/7/2025 at 10:06 PM, camper star said:

It started off like meeting the end of the rainbow, which we all we can't do.

My question is, how do I handle the subject when financial help for the family is needed.

Well, then you picked the wrong Thai woman.  Pick another - there are hundreds of thousand available Thai women out there.  If you actually hit the "End of the Rainbow" then the family doesn't need help - they are already well to do.  If you hit the end of the Rainbow Flag 🏳️‍🌈 - and your girl-friend has a "Johnson," look out. 
Discard that one.  You've got about 1 chance out of a 100,000 that that relationship won't end in tears.

Find one who is a profession (no - not THAT kind of professional) who has a career with a multinational corporation, or with the Thai government. If she is "used goods" and has been married before, even better.  No dowry will be required.  If she has never been married, plan to shell out a considerable amount of cash (gold) up-front, but it should be a one-time investment - you're buying into the family and you have a wife with a solid career and benefits (social security, health care, a pension) that go with it.
She'll be a keeper!  Set the hook and reel her in slowly.

Get involved with the other type of "Professional" (as in The Oldest Profession) you'll be paying out the nose until she rips you off one final time and disappears. Or her boyfriend or actual husband kills you. However, some of those relationships actually work once you get the girl away from their profession.  Sometimes.  Don't bet on it, but don't discount it either.  You will be the "breadwinner" unless you have the cajones to allow her to keep working.  But she won't be around for long.  Guaranteed she has a stable of potential "boyfriends" sending her money.  Don't do it!

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11 minutes ago, connda said:

Well, then you picked the wrong Thai woman.  Pick another - there are hundreds of thousand available Thai women out there.  If you actually hit the "End of the Rainbow" then the family doesn't need help - they are already well to do.  If you hit the end of the Rainbow Flag 🏳️‍🌈 - and your girl-friend has a "Johnson," look out. 
Discard that one.  You've got about 1 chance out of a 100,000 that that relationship won't end in tears.

Find one who is a profession (no - not THAT kind of professional) who has a career with a multinational corporation, or with the Thai government. If she is "used goods" and has been married before, even better.  No dowry will be required.  If she has never been married, plan to shell out a considerable amount of cash (gold) up-front, but it should be a one-time investment - you're buying into the family and you have a wife with a solid career and benefits (social security, health care, a pension) that go with it.
She'll be a keeper!  Set the hook and reel her in slowly.

Get involved with the other type of "Professional" (as in The Oldest Profession) you'll be paying out the nose until she rips you off one final time and disappears. Or her boyfriend or actual husband kills you. However, some of those relationships actually work once you get the girl away from their profession.  Sometimes.  Don't bet on it, but don't discount it either.  You will be the "breadwinner" unless you have the cajones to allow her to keep working.  But she won't be around for long.  Guaranteed she has a stable of potential "boyfriends" sending her money.  Don't do it!

Thank you for your words of wisdom. She actually work for the govt. in a supervisory position and will retire this year. My question is this when we get married am i covered under her health plan. I live here japan and we marry she is covered under the health , is that true for thailan.

22 hours ago, Hummin said:

Hehe, in fact she is, indeed ❤️

 

But I only have to convince myself, not you, or anyone else on this forum. 

 

It is my blessing have a good life, and my best 10 years soon, and I know my wife thinks the same. And I wish you experinced som synshine to, you need it, and many more here at the forum who turned sour from their earlier experiences

Buy that woman some flowers, just for the hell of it, because she deserves them.

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30 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

 

Turns out she didn't care for shoes at all, but she was terrified of her mother. These Thai mothers use the most brutal emotional manipulation to ensure their adult daughters send them cash. I really think if you decided to be with a young thai woman, you have to factor in maintaining her mother, father, sister, whatever it is, maybe all three.

 

 

What about the face?

 

Yes, her mother is very much so muliplating her as if she young girl

17 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Very easy.

Just ask them for money before they ask you.

If they don’t give it to you that means they don’t love you so get a new one.

How's that worked for you?

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1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

How's that worked for you?

Actually her mother wanted to borrow 300000 yen from me. I gave it to her mother and the next morning she gave it back in thai baht  I think her mother was testing me for some that till this day i dont know

 

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

How's that worked for you?

Good thanks Fred.

i never pay them back.

Just now, MalcolmB said:

Good thanks Fred.

i never pay them back.

Keep that up and we'll read about you in AN forums one day. Cheap farang thrown out of Bangkok hotel window from 12 floors.

1 minute ago, camper star said:

Actually her mother wanted to borrow 300000 yen from me. I gave it to her mother and the next morning she gave it back in thai baht  I think her mother was testing me for some that till this day i dont know

 

Like a sin sot, which is supposed to go back to the couple after the party. Many end up in mom's purse.

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On 5/8/2025 at 2:22 AM, spidermike007 said:

Always take your time, if it's good it's only going to get better, if there are problems they're going to manifest themselves over time, so it's our responsibility to push back on the demands until we really get to know them and determine that they're worthy of our devotion.

 

When I say take your time I'm talking one year, two years, three years, most foreigners are too emotionally vulnerable to do something like that but those are the ones who get burned, so don't complain about the consequences if you won't take the time to get to know her and her family first. 

 

She is usually going to want to push the timetable and her agenda. We have to push back. And if she is in a big hurry, just walk away. Very little family assistance for the first year or two, is my advice. 

Thank you for your words of good advice. It is so true to find an asian lady that wins your heart quickly. luckily my relationship with her is now a year and a half. things seem solid. again, thank you

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On 5/8/2025 at 2:22 AM, spidermike007 said:

Always take your time, if it's good it's only going to get better, if there are problems they're going to manifest themselves over time, so it's our responsibility to push back on the demands until we really get to know them and determine that they're worthy of our devotion.

 

When I say take your time I'm talking one year, two years, three years, most foreigners are too emotionally vulnerable to do something like that but those are the ones who get burned, so don't complain about the consequences if you won't take the time to get to know her and her family first. 

 

She is usually going to want to push the timetable and her agenda. We have to push back. And if she is in a big hurry, just walk away. Very little family assistance for the first year or two, is my advice. 

Thank you for your words of good advice. It is so true to find an asian lady that wins your heart quickly. luckily my relationship with her is now a year and a half. things seem solid. again, thank you

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5 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Like a sin sot, which is supposed to go back to the couple after the party. Many end up in mom's purse.

so i was very lucky then

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