Age Gap - Younger Thai Wife And Older Aussie.

[Wallaby]

Who really CARES about self righteous bigots? Pick any one of the many evil people in history and ask yourself if you would have cared what they thought of you. It is exactly the same thing. The self righteous bigots are not really any different. They are no better than soi dogs. If you live your own life without harming others then that is all that counts.

He cares because his situation was caused by him not being able to get a proper lady by himself during his whole life and then resorted to prostitution while trying to convince unknown that he has not.

He's clearly very upset he didnt clean up his act and become a person that ladies would be interested in

Hmmmm, you feeling abit sad for yourself in such a position?

Just because a man has a thai girl doesn't mean he CAN'T get a 'proper' lady. He cares what people think, some do care about such things but that has nothing to do with his position. He has a thai girl because he prefers a thai, that is what he wants. Is that so hard to grasp. Surely your life isn't that pitiful that you have to judge others just so you feel good?

OP, go for gold, enjoy yourself, YOU being happy is all that matters. Those that take issue with it are not happy unless they have something to sook about.

[Beetlejuice]

Age Gap - Younger Thai Wife And Older Aussie. What is the general feeling

I haven`t been feeling any young women lately and things are not looking to bright for the future either.

[IanForbes]

I'm not sure who 'He' is, in this diatribe. Is this your acquaintance, or the OP, or some other party?

If this is your acquaintance you are talking about, I do feel sorry for him.

If the OP, then I think you are demonstrating tremendous mental agility in leaping to such conclusions.

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I'm not sure who seriouseats is referring to unless he actually knows the person posting. I don't know how he jumped to the conclusion that the woman the OP met on-line was a prostitute. And, even if the woman HAD at some point in the game of life sold her body for payment, it still wouldn't make any difference. I've known hundreds of prostitutes and former prostitutes and some were nice women and some weren't. I'd choose many of them before I'd ever take a bunch of self righteous bigots I know. I've lost count of all the so called "good" women I've met and known who preyed on other women's husbands.

[thaipod]

it's not that bad you said that you both hit it off great and you are fit and healthy ,there you go good luck to you both .

I've seen worse . recently in Pattaya some old geezer around 65 pushing a pram with a 1 year old and a wife that looked early 20 s . now that's an age difference to worry about

[StreetCowboy]

I'm not sure who 'He' is, in this diatribe. Is this your acquaintance, or the OP, or some other party?

If this is your acquaintance you are talking about, I do feel sorry for him.

If the OP, then I think you are demonstrating tremendous mental agility in leaping to such conclusions.

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I'm not sure who seriouseats is referring to unless he actually knows the person posting. I don't know how he jumped to the conclusion that the woman the OP met on-line was a prostitute. And, even if the woman HAD at some point in the game of life sold her body for payment, it still wouldn't make any difference. I've known hundreds of prostitutes and former prostitutes and some were nice women and some weren't. I'd choose many of them before I'd ever take a bunch of self righteous bigots I know. I've lost count of all the so called "good" women I've met and known who preyed on other women's husbands.

I reckon I would have to come down pretty evenly on the proportion of bigots and prostitutes in my circle of acquaintances. I think Mr Serious has introduced a new character of his acquaintance, solely with the purpose of villifying him; Being generous, and assuming that there was some relevance to this thread, I imagine that he was hoping we would infer that the OP's girlfriend could be tarred with the same brush as the ladyfriend of the newly-introduced and villified acquaintance. Given that the acquaintance is not described as either close or a friend, one wonders how Mr Serious knows so much about his girlfriend; but given that he talks to the cockroaches ... Anyway, this ladyfriend appears to have offended his own girlfriend, perhaps with her outspoken bluntness, or perhaps with sharp and pointed remarks. I find, being thick-skinned, that sharp and pointed remarks are as painless as an acupunctural needle, but presumably that one found a particularly sensitive spot... Perhaps we should err on the side of discretion, and not pursue that feud any further.

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[StreetCowboy]

it's not that bad you said that you both hit it off great and you are fit and healthy ,there you go good luck to you both .

I've seen worse . recently in Pattaya some old geezer around 65 pushing a pram with a 1 year old and a wife that looked early 20 s . now that's an age difference to worry about

Nothing wrong with pushing your grandkid's bairns about in a pram

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[machans88]

Its alot harder to go out with a much younger woman in farangland,i was 40 and dated a 22yo for awhile,the problem is they grow up with access to money which means they have more interests,hobbies.They can buy clothes,go to clubs with their friends,and can enjoy the things their generation has for them,this created a noticable generation gap between us.

The poorer thais don't have the access to money to have different hobbies and interests to us and are usually content with very little,they have little knowledge of anything outside of thailand.A more simplistic life makes the generation gap less.

My thai partner is 15years my junior, im 44 now and she is 29 apart from laughing at her slapstick thai tv shows that i can't stand,we seem to have no generation gap

Edited June 1, 2011 by machans88

[wandrinstar]

No doubt some Brits can remember Grans "What will the Neighbours Think".I was allways puzzled as a Kid what the Cluck it had to go with them.I never got an answer.

[IanForbes]

Its alot harder to go out with a much younger woman in farangland,i was 40 and dated a 22yo for awhile,the problem is they grow up with access to money which means they have more interests,hobbies.They can buy clothes,go to clubs with their friends,and can enjoy the things their generation has for them,this created a noticable generation gap between us.

The poorer thais don't have the access to money to have different hobbies and interests to us and are usually content with very little,they have little knowledge of anything outside of thailand.A more simplistic life makes the generation gap less.

My thai partner is 15years my junior, im 44 now and she is 29 apart from laughing at her slapstick thai tv shows that i can't stand,we seem to have no generation gap

Very good point. I hadn't even thought about that situation. There is an old saying that still holds a lot of truth... "How do you keep them down on the farm after they've seen Paree (Paris)"

When someone has known nothing different then they accept how they've been raised as being normal.

[letitbe]

I am 16 years older than my wife and she always say I act younger than her. Not bothered in the slightest by the age difference, never had a comment on it by anyone and couldn't care less if there had been. Wifey has a very mature head on her shoulders and I'm proud to call her my wife and love her too bits.

17 years so what my first wife was 19 years older than me my second wife is 27 years younger Only problem is my chances of living long enough to see our 2 children into their 20's is probably not very high but then children do loose their younger parents quite a lot. Main thing is to do your best to ensure should something happen to you your family are as secure as you can make it. And what difference does it make is shes from a middle class family or are you afraid people will think she's a prostitute. In 19 years here worst gold diggers ive seen come from richer Thai families. A lot of my wifes friends come from quite well of families but all of them tell me they want to catch a forang to care for them and all their extended family. My wife came from porest background of any of them but dragged herself from the gutter and slum by her own efforts. Then umber of times ive heard claim that someones Thai wife is ok because she has a degree or comes form a rich family and most of them discover years later they have married a leach who is only interested in sucking as much out as they can. And finally few Thai girl from a normal thai middle class family would ever consent or be allowed to have sex with any man at least not until they have been together for a long time. Biggest trick in book to get pregnant ive seen it over and over again and several years later poor mug wakes up. Im totally against abortion except on rare medical grounds and im sorry to tell you your lady almost certainly deliberately got pregnant. It was several years before my I and my wife felt comfortable enough that our relationship would last that we agreed to have children.

[elliss]

Its your life, why worry what other people think. You just set yourself up for a whole heap of crap on here htt

she selected you for a good purpose/ reason , finacial security

you selected her for sex at first sight .

the rest is history , enjoy life .

[BRichards]

Well seems she has the skills to lure a man especially a older man looking for love. You wanted love and that usually includes thinking more with the little guy down there then your head. Does she work has she really ever had a job that she can live off? maybe her work was giving a smile and having men with money and a big heart pay her way. maybe the baby was not a accident. BR

Yeah, she worked in the building indutry and realestate, and yes I was taken to her place of work so i could have a look around, she did not need a man to take care of her at all. Maybe your right about looking for love on my part but I was never going to marry again unless there was a child invoved. Her pregnancy was 100% an accident. I begged her not to terminate.

Only now is she starting to like her move to oz, we had a lot of problems not so long ago. she misses her country and family a lot.

cheers

Is she working since she meet you? Maybe she knew that if she gets pregnant you will have to keep it and she can not lose you.

[happydaze]

@ Elliss

getting a heap of crap was right, but its a bit of fun..

But honestly I am not rich and she was much more finacial be before I got her up the duff. But after that she probably commited to me because I believe its hard to be a single mother in thailand. But also it was not sex at first site, She made me sleep on the floor of her room for a while, thats as soft as a thailand bed. But yep the rest is history..

Edited June 3, 2011 by happydaze

[happydaze]

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<br />I am 16 years older than my wife and she always say I act younger than her. Not bothered in the slightest by the age difference, never had a comment on it by anyone and couldn't care less if there had been. Wifey has a very mature head on her shoulders and I'm proud to call her my wife and love her too bits.<br />

<br /><br />17 years so what my first wife was 19 years older than me my second wife is 27 years younger Only problem is my chances of living long enough to see our 2 children into their 20's is probably not very high but then children do loose their younger parents quite a lot. Main thing is to do your best to ensure should something happen to you your family are as secure as you can make it.  And what difference does it make is shes from a middle class family or are you afraid people will think she's a prostitute. In 19 years here worst gold diggers ive seen come from richer Thai families. A lot of my wifes friends come from quite well of families but all of them tell me they want to catch a forang to care for them and all their extended family. My wife came from porest background of any of them but dragged herself from the gutter and slum by her own efforts. Then umber of times ive heard claim that someones Thai wife is ok because she has a degree or comes form a rich family and most of them discover years later they have married a leach who is only interested in sucking as much out as they can. And finally few Thai girl from a normal thai middle class family would ever consent or be allowed to have sex with any man at least not until they have been together for a long time. <img src="http://static.thaivisa.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/jap.gif" /> Biggest trick in book to get pregnant ive seen it over and over again and several years later poor mug wakes up. Im totally against abortion except on rare medical grounds and im sorry to tell you your lady almost certainly deliberately got pregnant.  It was several years before my I and my wife felt comfortable enough that our relationship would last that we agreed to have children. <img src="http://static.thaivisa.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/jap.gif" /><br /><br /><br />

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yes I undertsand what you saying. Its crossed my mind al ot. But I would give up everything I own to have had my little son so I can sleep at night and I am also not very finacial. She always new that and if she will burn me in a few years then she probably should have stayed working in her job in thailand as she would probably earn more money...

This is the sort of feed back I was after though, people who have experienced the age gap. I have also been married b4 and have had lots of girl friends but all with in a decade of my age.. I really do struggle with it..

[happydaze]

<br />Its alot harder to go out with a much younger woman in farangland,i was 40 and dated a 22yo for awhile,the problem is they grow up with access to money which means they have more interests,hobbies.They can buy clothes,go to clubs with their friends,and can enjoy the things their generation has for them,this created a noticable generation gap between us.<br /><br />The poorer thais don't have the access to money to have different hobbies and interests to us and are usually content with very little,they have little knowledge of anything outside of thailand.A more simplistic life makes the generation gap less.<br /><br />My thai partner is 15years my junior, im 44 now and she is 29 apart from laughing at her slapstick thai tv shows that i can't stand,we seem to have no generation gap<br />

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Yes good point, My wife is quiet happy to have dinner with friends. She has been taken out to the dance clubs with other thais friends but she really hates them. She would rather watch thai Tv, that i also can't stand. They are so bad those shows.

Cheers

[happydaze]

<br />it's not that bad you said that you both hit it off great and you are fit and healthy ,there you go good luck to you both .<br /><br />I've seen worse . recently in Pattaya some old geezer around 65 pushing a pram with a 1 year old and a wife that looked early 20 s . now that's an age difference to worry about<br />

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Yep.. I hate that look.

[David006]

Just enjoy it mate..let the nay sayers eat their hearts out....our "gap" is 24 years but it's irrelevant as long as one is happy and content...

sure keeps ya young and on your toes though....

[happydaze]

<br />Do you really need us to tell you? She lied about her age. Did you find out after you were married?<br /><br />Some poor Isaan girls are honest you know.<br /><br />Some Issan girls are richer than you, some are billionaires.<br />

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I found out her true age before we got married. I was a pissed off.

What I ment by poor Isaan girl was I got a flogging once before on this forum because people just asummed I dragged a poor isaan girl from a bar to out back australia and made her a slave.. when it was not the case at all...I try to be spacific but no one wants to here your life story.

Yes and I have read that some isaan girls do end up making more monry then doctors..

[happydaze]

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First my wife is no poor Isaan girl. She was middle class, with a job ect... with no reason to go looking for a farang.<br /><br />

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I really feel way to old for my wife, even though her last Thai boy friend was imfact 24 years older then her..!! Maybe she needs a father figure

<br /><br />Yeah mate, from these 2 lines and the content of your previous topics you made it very clear that your wife wasn't a poor Isaan girl and also what kind of job she was in.<img src='http://static.thaivisa.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/laugh.gif' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' /><br />

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Marketing for a building company. why?

[StreetCowboy]

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I found out her true age before we got married. I was a pissed off.

What I ment by poor Isaan girl was I got a flogging once before on this forum because people just asummed I dragged a poor isaan girl from a bar to out back australia and made her a slave.. when it was not the case at all...I try to be spacific but no one wants to here your life story.

Yes and I have read that some isaan girls do end up making more monry then doctors..

If your life story is as limited, dull and tedious as mine, you're absolutely right there. And what's worse, it keeps getting longer...

Like most of the posters here, I invent lifestories for the other posters, that I have to continuously adjust as they add still more unlikely twists...

I had Ian Forbes down as an evil genius intent on taking over the world, until he posted photos of his flat in Chiang Mai; now I see him as an impoverished evil genius, fallen on hard times, but trying his best to pull himself up by his bootstraps back to world domination, never defeated and struggling cheerfully on. Like a cross between Attila the Hun and the Queen Mother.

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Edited June 3, 2011 by StreetCowboy

[kmj]

I took our neighbors 21yr old daughter and her 1 yr old son to the doctors when she thought he was sick as her husband was at work, I'm 51, watching farang shaking their heads as I walk with her was so funny...

there really are some self-righteous dicks around and not just on TV

Edited June 3, 2011 by kmj

[JeffreyMcCollum]

Almost 20 years older than mine. make me feel younger and keep me active. My worries are the little white lie and the met on line. Be smart and enjoy I never worry what others think, I live for me

[Rhys]

Dude.. once its up, keep it up.. Grip it and rip it..

[EirikJohannesen]

I see many advantages to marry a young girl, it's much easier to influence her Western ways. A young girl is easier to learn new things and change her way of thinking.

White lies, you have to get used to in Thailand, my wife has stopped completely with white lies because she is young enough to change.

OP, wrote that it was ok with 13 years difference, but 17 was too much, but it's the same girl is it!

Was she more childish after she told you she was younger than she is?

I'm really happy with my 22 years younger wife.

[moe666]

If the OP is tired of his young wife I will take her off his hands when I get back to Thailand. TV is a great place to see a lot of our failings as human beings and what has been spoon fed to us over the years. One guy worries about a young wife another supports Thakisin, another wants a ed-visa but doesn't want to go to school, what a great place to meet our fellow human beings.

I like my girlfriends young and fresh but will never marry again 20 years younger is about right.

Ian Forbes is a evil genuis from canada.

Edited June 3, 2011 by moe666

[nocturn]

I did a poll back in 2008.

The average age difference between man and woman was 15½ years.

It's just your upbringing that makes you fell old.

where did you conduct that poll. i suggest that if it was conducted here, on TV, then the results will be skewed given the vast number of priapic old coots who while away their time here.

[EirikJohannesen]

I did a poll back in 2008.

The average age difference between man and woman was 15½ years.

It's just your upbringing that makes you fell old.

where did you conduct that poll. i suggest that if it was conducted here, on TV, then the results will be skewed given the vast number of priapic old coots who while away their time here.

It is true that there was a big poll on the age difference in marriage a few years ago and it was done on a national basis in Thailand. 15 ½ years match there.

[IanForbes]

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<br />...<br />I found out her true age before we got married. I was a pissed off. <br /><br />What I ment by poor Isaan girl was I got a flogging once before on this forum because people just asummed I dragged a poor isaan girl from a bar to out back australia and made her a slave.. when it was not the case at all...I try to be spacific but no one wants to here your life story.<br /><br />Yes and I have read that some isaan girls do end up making more monry then doctors..<br />

<br /><br />If your life story is as limited, dull and tedious as mine, you're absolutely right there.  And what's worse, it keeps getting longer...<br />Like most of the posters here, I invent lifestories for the other posters, that I have to continuously adjust as they add still more unlikely twists...<br /><br />I had Ian Forbes down as an evil genius intent on taking over the world, until he posted <i>photos of </i>his flat in Chiang Mai; now I see him as an impoverished evil genius, fallen on hard times, but trying his best to pull himself up by his bootstraps back to world domination, never defeated and struggling cheerfully on.  Like a cross between Attila the Hun and the Queen Mother.<br /><br />SC<br /><br />EDIT 'photos of' added<br />

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I'm no genius, and I don't believe I'm evil, other than trying to get a rise out of stuffy people (trolling) occasionally. But, I do like to show that people of modest means can enjoy life to the fullest. We all make choices in life and weigh one thing against another. Everyone wants something slightly different out of life. And, that changes as you get older. I see thousands of people who tie themselves to their possessions and don't see that they've actually put themselves in a sort of jail that limits their freedom. I've broken out of that jail, as have many expats I've met in Thailand. Very wealthy people are often too busy trying to maintain their wealth. They've actually put restrictions on their freedom.

I have a lovely home on a hill in Canada. It is a home that I have sole title to and is paid for. All I need to do is maintain paying property taxes and maintenence. But, I don't even think of the home as mine. To me it is just my children's inheritance and I see it as no more than some place to store my toys. By toys I mean boats, a camper, a trailer, cameras, computers, fishing tackle, hunting and outdoor equipment and all sorts of material things like my big library of books, nice furniture and my paintings. It's all just stuff that my kids will have to get rid of when I die. I can travel where I want, when I want and most often with who I want. I have enough money to do that providing I don't go crazy. I can only sleep in one bed at a time and sit on one chair at a time. Anything more is extraneous and wasteful. I hate waste and always have. That is why a simple room in a clean hotel in Chiang Mai is all I need for 5 months of the year. It is the people I spend my time with that enrich my life. I can have a life in Thailand that would be impossible in Canada. But, there are things I have in Canada that I could not duplicate in Thailand.

So for 5 months of the year I give up living here...

To living in one room in a Thai hotel...

And, by surrounding myself with young people it keeps me young. So far I've been lucky enough to keep up with all the action.

[Huey]

I did a poll back in 2008.

The average age difference between man and woman was 15½ years.

It's just your upbringing that makes you fell old.

Yeah a poll on this website that is made up primarily of western expats. To get a real feeling for it one should look at national averages. Your upbringing makes you feel old because it's rare for men to marry girls young enough to be their daughters and it's generally looked down upon. In BOTH cultures. Do you see allot of her middle class friends married to Thai men with such a large age gap?

But at the end of the day who cares, you see tons of old guys and young girls walking down the street together hand in hand, if they can still hold their head high, why should you care?

[happydaze]

<br />Just enjoy it mate..let the nay sayers eat their hearts out....our "gap" is 24 years but it's irrelevant as long as one is happy and content...<br />sure keeps ya young and on your toes though....<br />

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Thanks mate..