My Valentine Sms

[supaprik]

Woke bright and right this morning full of anticipation, expecting some wonderful words of love to greet my day. WELL.. thus far I have received 1 Valentine message but I did not smile, I felt....hmmm, well I felt strange/weird, actually I don't know how I felt, you see the message was from a gay guy that I know, now before all you haters start your usual crap, I have known this guy for years professionally and that is all, I like this guy as he has a wit and charm about him but sexually....NO CHANCE, I have thought about my feelings with regard to this message and I now wonder if I am perhaps feeling a tad homophobic, strange as I have had many gay friends over the years and never ever though anything much about their sexuality. I wonder what other learned members thoughts are....

[DocN]

Someone loves you...think about how great that is!

If you dont feel the same, that's fine!

Same as in a heterosexual relationship!

[Tonto21]

Hi ‘supaprik’ interesting, the first thing I thought after reading your topic was; just how would a gay bloke feel if he got hit on by a straight woman, I think he would feel fine about it and flattered.

But I’m with you; I would feel…..How to put it, a little outside my comfort zone! Back in the day when I was young…And dumb, I would not have dealt with this well, I would have, (I’ve no doubt) reacted like a total <deleted>. I think I would have felt my ‘masculinity’ under attack.

Now at 54 I would like to think if I had received a SMS like this I would deal with this issue with some sensitivity, after all you say this guy is OK, he just bats for the other team. I give this guy some credit, he sent you an SMS told you how he felt, giving you time to think about it……He didn’t let you know how he felt by climbing into your bed one night, did he.

So, what do you do now? From what you have said you don’t want to start playing ‘where the sausage’ with him so, this is what I would do, arrange a meet, somewhere you can talk, a quiet bar, (somewhere you can leave quick if it all go’s a bit pear shaped) and you need to explain how you feel about all this, the guy deserves to know what you are thinking. That’s what I would do…..Good luck.

[taiwangirl]

I think that it also depends on what the message said. You indicate that you have known this gentleman for many years, so he should have a good idea of if you are straight or homosexual. He may just think of you as a very good friend. Nothing wrong with that.

[hellstens]

I to have some friends who are gay and one of them he had feeling for me, I told him, I like you to, in my way! as a good friend, and not the way you thinking,

and we are still good friends, and never talk about it again after that.

[supaprik]

Thanks for the excellent replies....My faith is somewhat restored ( to a point ) in TV...

Ok,, update..... since my post... I received another 12 sms and 25 email valentine greetings and ALL from ladies!!!

The message from the guy was very simple... Happy Valentines Day, somewhat generic I think, anyway me being me this morning I had the chance to have a coffee with this "happy" guy and basically I told him how I felt when I first read his message, he laughed, smiled, apologized and then explained that in Thai culture ( well his version of it ) it seems that sending this type of message is purely as a wish that I actually enjoy that day. i.e. exactly what the sms said, he also stated, please don't be concerned that he was gay as he knew that I am straight and also have a G/F who he also knows but cheekily added and I quote " but Pee Rik if you ever change your mind call me first na!" I paid for both coffees and left

edit for typo error

Edited February 15, 2012 by supaprik

[dean999]

I was just about to say the same thing your friend had given for a reply. I came home from work yesterday and my wifes female thai friend was in are house, she said happy Valentines day and i felt so weird saying it back to her. Even though she is more beautiful than my wife.

Just look on Facebook, they are wishing everyone a happy Valentines day.

[supaprik]

I was just about to say the same thing your friend had given for a reply. I came home from work yesterday and my wifes female thai friend was in are house, she said happy Valentines day and i felt so weird saying it back to her. Even though she is more beautiful than my wife.

Just look on Facebook, they are wishing everyone a happy Valentines day.

yes it seems another variance to what we from the west perceive to be "the way to do it" but I am happy that I have learnt something else about LOS and this time it actually didn't cost me any money, stress or my dignity