My soon to be ex Thai wife and her secret lesbian life.....

[lormakmak]

Dear TV members,

Last year out of nowhere my then wife and love of my life cleared off after receiving her Indefinite Leave to Remain visa which is documented in this topic http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/666884-wife-has-uk-ilr-approved-then-vanishes-and-tells-me-not-to-look-for-her/#entry6809820

Much time has passed since then and I am divorcing her at the moment through what they call 'decree nisi' basically the court acknowledges she has received the paperwork filing for divorce but has failed to act...

As you will see from the link it was a very strange happening, she just packed her bag without ever looking back or even meeting me to discuss anything and left a lot of her stuff at the home, I thought she must be with another man or something and thought the grass was greener on the other side....

Just the other day whilst surfing through Facebook I noticed a familiar face who was being recommended as a friend as it does and clicked on the profile....to my shock on her friends list was my still wife and soon to be ex under a nickname but it was her...of course I clicked on the profile of this and this is where I was astounded at what I saw, it seems all the while she had been living a secret life as a lesbian, there were exchanges on there with other lesbians that left me in shock especially as whilst she was conversing with these people she was supposedly happily married and living with me, the likes on there were all for gay bars and clubs and all of her friends on there were mainly 'toms' both Thai and western.

When I first posted on TV about her clearing off just after getting the ILR there were lots of opinions and some laughter at my expense but also lots of supportive people saying things like 'it happens' and 'not the first and won't be the last' the thing is I did feel cheated that I had been used for my status in the UK for her to purely gain the ILR visa and it seems I have been, the exchanges with the lesbians go back to 2012 from what I have seen....

So make of it what you will.... I just thought it was a bit different to the normal wife clearing off story we read about on here

[noikrit]

No different to many I've heard ....... Gotta another one ???? .....

[hanno]

Shame Oprah has retired.....

[liddelljohn]

One of my dads best friends in Eastbourne was married to an english woman for 45 years he was 72 and she was 67 , one night she just said ''i am a lesbian and i am divorcing you'' he was shocked as were the 3 grownup kids , she took him for every penny and basicly made the poor bloke destitute at 72 , her kids have disowned her and looked after him until he passed away 3 years later she moved in with her 59 year old dyke lover .

the moral is its not only Thai women that are barmy Tink Tonk

Edited January 30, 2014 by liddelljohn

[Skint]

Don't let her put you off Thailand get yourself back and have some fun.

Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand

[lormakmak]

Thanks guys for all the words and yes I know it's not just Thai women....

Once the divorce is done I am going to celebrate with 10 days in Thailand as a single man once again

[sam sen]

...and gay men marry women and have families. it happens.

[krisb]

Thanks guys for all the words and yes I know it's not just Thai women....

Once the divorce is done I am going to celebrate with 10 days in Thailand as a single man once again

Yep good for you mate. Great answer.

[neverdie]

Thanks guys for all the words and yes I know it's not just Thai women....

Once the divorce is done I am going to celebrate with 10 days in Thailand as a single man once again

Nice work, straight back onto the horse.......... Be careful now

[i claudius]

An ex lover of mine decided that she was bi many moons ago ,it never really worried me ,but her girl friend used to get jelous

[noikrit]

am jelly mate mate. wish mine was a rug muncher.

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[lormakmak]

Perhaps you can use the 10 days in Los to learn how to make love properly this time.

Are you speaking from experience or just a stallion in the bedroom....(self promotion doesn't count)

[Jip99]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

[Thongkorn]

I know of at least three Thai women who are going to leave there pricks of husbands, as soon as they get there ILR visa, and i say good luck to them, if there husbands had treat them like human beings instead of a accessory, Some even have GPS on there wife's phones to know where they are at all times . two sides to every story, so i have been told in he past.

[Clutch]

am jelly mate mate. wish mine was a rug muncher.

I agree Spoonman, except for the 'Rug'. Part.

[JoeThePoster]

Shame Oprah has retired.....

This one's for Ellen.

[lormakmak]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

Yes it is a shame....but I am afraid by the pics of her contacts on the facebook page I have seen that I wouldn't have got a look in with the toms, they look more like fellas than me.... and my ex is 100% a dee....

you see as a caring and loving man who was fully committed to the marriage I do have in the back of my mind the thoughts that she has been brainwashed by one of these manipulating toms, would make sense as I have let her know that she is free to come collect her stuff anytime, she also has a tax rebate cheque that turned up recently that she doesn't want... said give it to charity or something, it's for over £300....

All of her local Thai friends that she has on the other facebook page are not added as friends on this one...

Freaked out...yes I am, feeling inadequate no I am not (sly dig above about my horizontal skills got me chuckling)

Weird times....

[Clutch]

It doesn't matter with whom or what they run off it, hurts all the same. It's the Deceit.

[lormakmak]

I know of at least three Thai women who are going to leave there pricks of husbands, as soon as they get there ILR visa, and i say good luck to them, if there husbands had treat them like human beings instead of a accessory, Some even have GPS on there wife's phones to know where they are at all times . two sides to every story, so i have been told in he past.

Don't mince your words mate, please tell me what you think of me... an anonymous person you don't even know on an internet forum...if anything I was the reverse to what you are describing above, maybe that's where I went wrong...

but as the old saying goes, two sides to every story indeed but you've only got 1 way of thinking haven't you...

are these men really pricks or do they have reason to be... glad you not my mate cos if that was you planning on leaving your thai missus once you had gained residency out there or whatever do you think they'd keep quiet about your secret? prick or not?

[sms747]

No good without pics whats the fb page?

[Jip99]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

Yes it is a shame....but I am afraid by the pics of her contacts on the facebook page I have seen that I wouldn't have got a look in with the toms, they look more like fellas than me.... and my ex is 100% a dee....

you see as a caring and loving man who was fully committed to the marriage I do have in the back of my mind the thoughts that she has been brainwashed by one of these manipulating toms, would make sense as I have let her know that she is free to come collect her stuff anytime, she also has a tax rebate cheque that turned up recently that she doesn't want... said give it to charity or something, it's for over £300....

All of her local Thai friends that she has on the other facebook page are not added as friends on this one...

Freaked out...yes I am, feeling inadequate no I am not (sly dig above about my horizontal skills got me chuckling)

Weird times....

Brave man to share your experience on here.

Your comments about the "clutches" of the tom open a can of worms. I am aware of may Thai ladies who were 'got at' by the resident mamasons/mafia - usually involved gambling/drinking/whoring. Not that I am against any of that but it seemed so manipulative.

[FiftyTwo]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

Yes it is a shame....but I am afraid by the pics of her contacts on the facebook page I have seen that I wouldn't have got a look in with the toms, they look more like fellas than me.... and my ex is 100% a dee....

you see as a caring and loving man who was fully committed to the marriage I do have in the back of my mind the thoughts that she has been brainwashed by one of these manipulating toms, would make sense as I have let her know that she is free to come collect her stuff anytime, she also has a tax rebate cheque that turned up recently that she doesn't want... said give it to charity or something, it's for over £300....

All of her local Thai friends that she has on the other facebook page are not added as friends on this one...

Freaked out...yes I am, feeling inadequate no I am not (sly dig above about my horizontal skills got me chuckling)

Weird times....

It's not you, it's her.

[howerde]

At least your handsome man status is intact, having her leave you for a more handsome man is something of a bitter pill to swallow. enjoy your holiday

Edited January 30, 2014 by howerde

[Showbags]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

Yes it is a shame....but I am afraid by the pics of her contacts on the facebook page I have seen that I wouldn't have got a look in with the toms, they look more like fellas than me.... and my ex is 100% a dee....

you see as a caring and loving man who was fully committed to the marriage I do have in the back of my mind the thoughts that she has been brainwashed by one of these manipulating toms, would make sense as I have let her know that she is free to come collect her stuff anytime, she also has a tax rebate cheque that turned up recently that she doesn't want... said give it to charity or something, it's for over £300....

All of her local Thai friends that she has on the other facebook page are not added as friends on this one...

Freaked out...yes I am, feeling inadequate no I am not (sly dig above about my horizontal skills got me chuckling)

Weird times....

It's not you, it's her.

She's obviously better.

[slipperylobster]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

Ewwwww. Did you ever see the Tom's here???

[lormakmak]

If only you had known sooner - you might have got the chance to join in.

Yes it is a shame....but I am afraid by the pics of her contacts on the facebook page I have seen that I wouldn't have got a look in with the toms, they look more like fellas than me.... and my ex is 100% a dee....

you see as a caring and loving man who was fully committed to the marriage I do have in the back of my mind the thoughts that she has been brainwashed by one of these manipulating toms, would make sense as I have let her know that she is free to come collect her stuff anytime, she also has a tax rebate cheque that turned up recently that she doesn't want... said give it to charity or something, it's for over £300....

All of her local Thai friends that she has on the other facebook page are not added as friends on this one...

Freaked out...yes I am, feeling inadequate no I am not (sly dig above about my horizontal skills got me chuckling)

Weird times....

It's not you, it's her.

She's obviously better.

ha ha.... look fella you won't get me mad or biting on here.... I suggest you get yourself a stab proof vest now you've made your neighbours lose face over the planned road for your land and will refuse them water for their rice field and concentrate on the mess you've made there instead of trolling on here....

remember you are only tolerated as a farang in the land of frowns never accepted.... Cheers

[Thongkorn]

I know of at least three Thai women who are going to leave there pricks of husbands, as soon as they get there ILR visa, and i say good luck to them, if there husbands had treat them like human beings instead of a accessory, Some even have GPS on there wife's phones to know where they are at all times . two sides to every story, so i have been told in he past.

Don't mince your words mate, please tell me what you think of me... an anonymous person you don't even know on an internet forum...if anything I was the reverse to what you are describing above, maybe that's where I went wrong...

but as the old saying goes, two sides to every story indeed but you've only got 1 way of thinking haven't you...

are these men really pricks or do they have reason to be... glad you not my mate cos if that was you planning on leaving your thai missus once you had gained residency out there or whatever do you think they'd keep quiet about your secret? prick or not?

Yes I do keep my secrets but it piss me off to see all these bleeding hearts describe how they have been let down, ripped off. BY Thai women. And i was not having a dig at the poster, Just another Point from a different angle. if i have offended the poster it was not intentional.

Edited January 30, 2014 by Thongkorn

[Showbags]

It's not you, it's her.

She's obviously better.

ha ha.... look fella you won't get me mad or biting on here.... I suggest you get yourself a stab proof vest now you've made your neighbours lose face over the planned road for your land and will refuse them water for their rice field and concentrate on the mess you've made there instead of trolling on here....

remember you are only tolerated as a farang in the land of frowns never accepted.... Cheers

I have loads of Thainess...I ooze Thainess...I'll be safe as houses

[harrry]

Thanks guys for all the words and yes I know it's not just Thai women....

Once the divorce is done I am going to celebrate with 10 days in Thailand as a single man once again

Nice work, straight back onto the horse.......... Be careful now

Neverdie,,,,what has happened to you....you are so still.

lormakmak.... looks as if you haven't learn't your lesson..look at what happened with the last trip as a single man

[FiftyTwo]

I know of at least three Thai women who are going to leave there pricks of husbands, as soon as they get there ILR visa, and i say good luck to them, if there husbands had treat them like human beings instead of a accessory, Some even have GPS on there wife's phones to know where they are at all times . two sides to every story, so i have been told in he past.

Don't mince your words mate, please tell me what you think of me... an anonymous person you don't even know on an internet forum...if anything I was the reverse to what you are describing above, maybe that's where I went wrong...

but as the old saying goes, two sides to every story indeed but you've only got 1 way of thinking haven't you...

are these men really pricks or do they have reason to be... glad you not my mate cos if that was you planning on leaving your thai missus once you had gained residency out there or whatever do you think they'd keep quiet about your secret? prick or not?

Yes I do keep my secrets but it piss me off to see all these bleeding hearts describe how they have been let down, ripped off. BY Thai women. And i was not having a dig at the poster, Just another Point from a different angle. if i have offended the poster it was not intentional.

Most of the Thai women hooking up with foreigners have no chance of a Thai husband and face a life of hard manual work on their own in Thailand. In the unlikely event they did manage to get a Thai man, he would probably beat them regularly and cheat on them. So the foreign guy comes along, is happy to share whatever he has with the girl, and you describe them as "let down". As far as I can see they should be happy to be given a chance of living a comfortable life in a civilized country. I just don't see your point.

The OP was clearly a decent guy that was deliberately scammed and cheated by a Thai lady to get a UK settlement visa.

Your posts are just strange, why do so many men want to kick other men when given the chance. It's just a piece of nastiness I could never understand.

These girls all signed documents stating they came to live in the UK to be with the husbands they love. If you know different you should be reporting them to the UK immigration authorities for the lying frauds they are. Not encouraging their poor behaviour.

Edited January 30, 2014 by FiftyTwo