Caught Red Handed

[tpiety2]

Been legally married in Thailand for 6 months. Caught the wife with another farang, has been going on for 6 weeks.

What do I have to let her have/keep when I throw her out?

Can I keep all gold, iphones , valuables etc. given to her before marriage?

Is she entitled to anything at all.

Little constructive help please she will be waking up soon.

[N47HAN]

Legally 50 / 50 split.

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[ThaidDown]

Yes 50/50 split of what was obtained during marriage but what she had before marriage is hers. (same for you, what you had before marriage is yours)

[jmccarty]

See a lawyer! All might not be lost. I have a falang mate, same thing, he kept the house he lives in and most of his things after he threw her out. Lawyer sorted it out.

[transam]

Sorry to hear that. The farang is a shit too............

[Kaoboi Bebobp]

See a lawyer! All might not be lost. I have a falang mate, same thing, he kept the house he lives in and most of his things after he threw her out. Lawyer sorted it out.

You mean the Thai lawyer stayed on the husband's side? Get the guy's name and keep it on file. Seriously.

[cornishcarlos]

Sorry to hear that. The farang is a shit too............

Chances are the other Farang doesn't know she is with someone else. In fact he is probably married to her as well ..!

[tpiety2]

Sorry to hear that. The farang is a shit too............

Chances are the other Farang doesn't know she is with someone else. In fact he is probably married to her as well ..!

Yea the other farang thought he had found the woman of his dreams.

He actually thought I was snaking him when it all went down... he didn't have any idea she was married.

[Kaoboi Bebobp]

OP, kudos to you for keeping a cool head. Still, it must have been a shock. Hope you are able to recover in short order and protect your valuables. And get on with your life. Good luck, sir.

[Murf]

If you can prove infidelity, you are onto a winner.

[cooked]

Keep all of it and discuss things later.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

File against the foreigner in Thai court for damages.

His passport will be held while they investigate, and you can make a fair bit of cash from him.

He'll probably agree to settle out of court.

[tpiety2]

Keep all of it and discuss things later.

I have to be careful what I say, I don't want it to come back and bite me in the ass.

lots of evidence against her is online, and TV is well known.

[tpiety2]

File against the foreigner in Thai court for damages.

His passport will be held while they investigate, and you can make a fair bit of cash from him.

He'll probably agree to settle out of court.

he's as innocent as me we were both fooled... me the most.

[tpiety2]

OP, kudos to you for keeping a cool head. Still, it must have been a shock. Hope you are able to recover in short order and protect your valuables. And get on with your life. Good luck, sir.

Thanks

you don't know the half of it... knocks the wind right outta ya

[mrtoad]

Was the other Farang whereustay? Did they meet on Thai Friendly?

OP sorry to hear that, it sucks. Hope you get it sorted

[tpiety2]

Was the other Farang whereustay? Did they meet on Thai Friendly?

OP sorry to hear that, it sucks. Hope you get it sorted

They met on Baidu ? I guess something like face book. Come to find out she was on/using

about 5 sites face book, Line, Pick, baidu, instagram, etc.

I think thai cupid, thai friendly etc. are maybe too passé, conventional

Had he not lived locally I think they'd of never met in person

I've learned that to be sure of what they're up to you have to both monitor and limit their usage

on smart phones, notebooks, tablets etc. no matter how sure you are of them.

there are thousands of farang men trolling social media sites for attractive thai women

and

thai women love to hear how pretty and beautiful they are

I know... 'it can never happen to me'

it's always been me that was suspect and expected to succumb to the allure of the opposite sex

according to her, but I never did.

as I live and breath I hope I've learned something from this.

[Thainess]

Why bother to marry them? It only makes it so much easier for them to take you for whatever you've got. Same applies to women of all nationalities. You can have exactly the same relationship whether you're married or not. Marriage is nothing but a legal scam to allow a woman to steal your stuff. Fortunately a lot of guys have cottoned on to that these days, which is why the marriage rate never ceases to fall. Good luck.

[chiang mai]

File against the foreigner in Thai court for damages.

His passport will be held while they investigate, and you can make a fair bit of cash from him.

He'll probably agree to settle out of court.

+1 That's a winning solution.

[wayned]

I once contacted a sponsor of TV regarding divorce. His comments were that most divorces in Thailand are settled out of court and it is normally a 50/50 split. If I wanted his law firm to handle it it would be a flat rate of 100,000 baht. There services are all at flat rates, they don't charge by the hour like they do in other countries. (I once consulted a lawyer in the US, Her charges were $125/hour and she had a timer on her desk and charged you to the exact number of minutes!)

[pmarlin]

Hope you're not on a extension of stay for marriage. Once divorced your reason to stay is over and you have something like 24 hrs to leave unless you can find another reason to stay. You should also be thinking of your visa options too,

[NanLaew]

Hope you're not on a extension of stay for marriage. Once divorced your reason to stay is over and you have something like 24 hrs to leave unless you can find another reason to stay. You should also be thinking of your visa options too,

Yes, but it's not as if the OP is getting divorced today and the amphur has a hot-line to Immigration. I also think the OP can get a 7-day extension if needed? Regardless, enough time for an orderly departure and re-entry if needed. Of course if he has a visa, then panic averted.

Only married six months would indicate not a lot of 'capital gains' in that period that would come under the 50/50 rule. Stuff acquired before the marriage regardless of how long they were 'together' won't count. Without stating the obvious, consider the things that are in her name or she otherwise enables such a rental, utilities, internet, car note, etc.. If there's bugger all to argue about, then quietly move all her stuff outside the door while she sleeps. Oh yes, secure the spare keys she has. When she wakes up and asks where her stuff is, tell her and while she's outside, close the door on her.

[Old Croc]

It would be unfortunate if all the gold, iphones and valuables, that you gave her, were lost in a robbery before she woke up.

[Mario2008]

off topic comment removed.

[FinanceGuy]

File against the foreigner in Thai court for damages.

His passport will be held while they investigate, and you can make a fair bit of cash from him.

He'll probably agree to settle out of court.

What a stupid comment. The other farang didn't know she was married. He's not part of the problem.

[chiang mai]

File against the foreigner in Thai court for damages.

His passport will be held while they investigate, and you can make a fair bit of cash from him.

He'll probably agree to settle out of court.

What a stupid comment. The other farang didn't know she was married. He's not part of the problem.

Maybe, maybe not, regardless, he can be a part of the solution.

[transam]

File against the foreigner in Thai court for damages.

His passport will be held while they investigate, and you can make a fair bit of cash from him.

He'll probably agree to settle out of court.

What a stupid comment. The other farang didn't know she was married. He's not part of the problem.

You reckon, if I were fooling with a married lady and got found out, what do you think I would say to the husband ? Eeeeeeeeeeeeer,

"fair cop guv" or "I am astounded that she is married"....?.....

I know a married lady that found a married farang on one of these sites in LOS, he from down south, they met up , whether they are still "at it" I don't know......

[Kaoboi Bebobp]

Was the other Farang whereustay? Did they meet on Thai Friendly?

OP sorry to hear that, it sucks. Hope you get it sorted

They met on Baidu ? I guess something like face book. Come to find out she was on/using

about 5 sites face book, Line, Pick, baidu, instagram, etc.

I think thai cupid, thai friendly etc. are maybe too passé, conventional

Had he not lived locally I think they'd of never met in person

I've learned that to be sure of what they're up to you have to both monitor and limit their usage

on smart phones, notebooks, tablets etc. no matter how sure you are of them.

there are thousands of farang men trolling social media sites for attractive thai women

and

thai women love to hear how pretty and beautiful they are

I know... 'it can never happen to me'

it's always been me that was suspect and expected to succumb to the allure of the opposite sex

according to her, but I never did.

as I live and breath I hope I've learned something from this.

This comment is aimed generally, not at the OP.

First, I want to say I feel lucky that I have a good GF now after some dodgy ones. In that time, I have developed some pretty hard and immutable rules. One of them is this: if the girl is constantly trawling web sites and social media, she immediately ceases to be a GF candidate. Point blank. An obsessive interest in social media to me is a big red flag. Yes, she may be innocently talking to her Thai "friends". But at some point, some farang or Thai might take a go at her via messages/comments. To me, any girl with an almost obsessive online presence, especially FB, Line and WeChat, etc., means she is open/vulnerable to liaisons. Which probably describes a lot of TGs. (Or worse, is a longtime practitioner of the deceptive arts.) Fine. I will only settle for a girl who doesn't care about FB and its ilk, except when she wants to talk to her best friend, as my GF does. She doesn't even have or want a computer.

But there's always an exception. I have a friend who has a really good GF. But she spent a lot of time on FB. He, being computer savvy, logged her online time. He had good news. She was just chatting with her Thai friends and nothing untoward was happening.

Still, my rule stands.

[tpiety2]

You reckon, if I were fooling with a married lady and got found out, what do you think I would say to the husband ? Eeeeeeeeeeeeer,

"fair cop guv" or "I am astounded that she is married"....?.....

I know a married lady that found a married farang on one of these sites in LOS, he from down south, they met up , whether they are still "at it" I don't know......

yea understood but was not the case here

[harrry]

You reckon, if I were fooling with a married lady and got found out, what do you think I would say to the husband ? Eeeeeeeeeeeeer,

"fair cop guv" or "I am astounded that she is married"....?.....

I know a married lady that found a married farang on one of these sites in LOS, he from down south, they met up , whether they are still "at it" I don't know......

yea understood but was not the case here

Here the person sleeping with a married woman can be sued and damages can be high.

A married man however can have a girlfriend too.

Edited June 18, 2014 by harrry