How much do you give to your Thai girlfriend/wife? What % of your income?

[nottocus]

Mine gets to keep what ever she doesn't spend from the housekeeping money...so about 1%

[fang37]

No fixed amount per month. B30-35k. This covers 4 pax - 2 cars - no rent.

Edited September 25, 2015 by fang37

[thaibeachlovers]

so much BS on this ... ' I don't give her anything ' ... what lie's are spoken on TV ...

So any farang who gives nothing expects to be looked after, taken care of ...fed, waited on, sex sometimes ! but you don't provide no financial support whatsoever ?

Absolute BS ... ain't that the truth ...

You know that we mean we don't give her cash in hand for nothing in return.

I'll warrant that most of us support her by paying the rent, food, tv, power and water etc. The reason we do so is that if she only earns an average wage it would mean living an average Thai lifestyle, and none of us want to live like that.

My wife owns the car, but if I want to go on a long trip, I pay for the fuel as otherwise I wouldn't be able to go on an enjoyable trip. I wouldn't buy her the car though.

[chiang mai]

I give my wife 10k baht each month and she uses it to buy groceries throughout the month, historically that's about what we spend on food each month. A further 5k baht goes into an account to pay all the utility bills each month, water, electric, gas, UBC, TOT.

[fang37]

I give my wife 100% - about 3". She is sooooo happy now.

[theguyfromanotherforum]

I live in my gf townhouse she paid for herself. I have been living there for over 2 years and never even paid a utility bill. I am 100% serious.

Of course, I am 42 she is 35 and has self sufficient parents. Maybe that's why?

Before I moved to Thailand I did a lot of research who should I be dating and who should I avoid. I guess it helped a little....

[MaeJoMTB]

I live in my gf townhouse she paid for herself. I have been living there for over 2 years and never even paid a utility bill. I am 100% serious.

Of course, I am 42 she is 35 and has self sufficient parents. Maybe that's why?

Before I moved to Thailand I did a lot of research who should I be dating and who should I avoid. I guess it helped a little....

That's great,but when you're 62 (like us), will you be happy with a 55 year old girlfriend?

[Singharh]

Don't give her anything ! If she is healthy she can find a job in the city and send money home. Pay for her accommodation and work out a budget for the month for food transport etc.

She is using you as her ATM and will bleed you dry. What they say the other girls are getting is a lot of BS....they say that to make them 'look good' to the other villagers .

[theguyfromanotherforum]

I live in my gf townhouse she paid for herself. I have been living there for over 2 years and never even paid a utility bill. I am 100% serious.

Of course, I am 42 she is 35 and has self sufficient parents. Maybe that's why?

Before I moved to Thailand I did a lot of research who should I be dating and who should I avoid. I guess it helped a little....

That's great,but when you're 62 (like us), will you be happy with a 55 year old girlfriend?

Absolutely. There's always porn.

[dennis123]

I used to give 20k baht a month to provide them with good savings, but I always clearly say that I will NOT buy a house or car for them, they can use those 20k for that.

Nowadays I wouldn't give them more than 12k, they can make the other 8k by finding a freaking JOB, damn lazy bitches, whoops lol there I go again.

I know these stories of 30-40-50k very well, a lady friend of my friend also claimed she received 40k, but she continuosly had to borrow money from my friend as her farang was late with paying each time, so eventually it came down to 15-20k as my friend was always honest to me while she always lied to me about how much she got, silly chicks love to brag.

Why doesn't your wife work btw? Grandma can take care of the baby! If they live in Isaan than 12k is more than enough, unless they have to pay off a car + a motorbike + some loans here and there, which might be the case as Thais love to gamble so nothing surprises me anymore. If that's the case I wish you the best of luck!

[peterjackson]

I used to give 20k baht a month to provide them with good savings, but I always clearly say that I will NOT buy a house or car for them, they can use those 20k for that.

Nowadays I wouldn't give them more than 12k, they can make the other 8k by finding a freaking JOB, damn lazy bitches, whoops lol there I go again.

I know these stories of 30-40-50k very well, a lady friend of my friend also claimed she received 40k, but she continuosly had to borrow money from my friend as her farang was late with paying each time, so eventually it came down to 15-20k as my friend was always honest to me while she always lied to me about how much she got, silly chicks love to brag.

Why doesn't your wife work btw? Grandma can take care of the baby! If they live in Isaan than 12k is more than enough, unless they have to pay off a car + a motorbike + some loans here and there, which might be the case as Thais love to gamble so nothing surprises me anymore. If that's the case I wish you the best of luck!

After reviewing your other posts I hadn't realized you had a Thai Girlfriend.

[dennis123]

96tehtarp poster I think gave the best summary. There is no amount that will satisfy her. If you go back to your home country, you will be pressured to send money back to LOS for her mum and others. They will pressure her, to pressure you. The cost of child raising has only just begun. If as you said, she is not working, you can't think of this as just what you would give her as an allowance for odds and ends. I see people saying 20,000 baht a month is too much. but hold on, if you are supporting her, her mother and two children, that is not enough. Gosh, Thai immigration expects Falangs to need 65,000 baht a month (I quote the retirement requirements). So a family of 4 on 20,000 baht really doesn't go far for anything except poorest of poor village life

Thai immigration doesn't want dead poor farangs, if I cut down a (large) bit on drinking and smoking I could live comfortable on 20k/mo, even in Pattaya (east).

[dennis123]

I used to give 20k baht a month to provide them with good savings, but I always clearly say that I will NOT buy a house or car for them, they can use those 20k for that.

Nowadays I wouldn't give them more than 12k, they can make the other 8k by finding a freaking JOB, damn lazy bitches, whoops lol there I go again.

I know these stories of 30-40-50k very well, a lady friend of my friend also claimed she received 40k, but she continuosly had to borrow money from my friend as her farang was late with paying each time, so eventually it came down to 15-20k as my friend was always honest to me while she always lied to me about how much she got, silly chicks love to brag.

Why doesn't your wife work btw? Grandma can take care of the baby! If they live in Isaan than 12k is more than enough, unless they have to pay off a car + a motorbike + some loans here and there, which might be the case as Thais love to gamble so nothing surprises me anymore. If that's the case I wish you the best of luck!

After reviewing your other posts I hadn't realized you had a Thai Girlfriend.

Talking about boyfriends of course but what does it differ, they also have a family to support. My last boyfriend had to support his school going 17 year old brother, and on regular base his 19 year old sister, and then his mother + grandmother.

[dennis123]

It was a fair statement. Do most young women in Thailand marry old white man because of love or because of monthly stipend? I am sure there is love on guy's side. Thai women love their family first.

How can a guy love someone when the relationship is purely based on money? Yes I've been involved in these as well and the longer it lasted the more it disturbed me and I quickly ended it.

[AlexRRR]

It was a fair statement. Do most young women in Thailand marry old white man because of love or because of monthly stipend? I am sure there is love on guy's side. Thai women love their family first.

How can a guy love someone when the relationship is purely based on money? Yes I've been involved in these as well and the longer it lasted the more it disturbed me and I quickly ended it.

To answer your question dennis is by taking the money out of the relationship in other words date an equal, or in Thailand someone who has a decent well paid job who owns or is paying off a house etc.

By having a criteria and sticking to it and out of the bars and seedy areas you will find many suitable partners, I'm always amazed at the guys who cough up an allowance to keep there women, now i bet not one of these guys would do it in there home countries so whats with doing it in Thailand?

[fang37]

Wifey has free access to bank a/cs.

She buys what she needs & then what she wants.

Prevously, I was very protective of $$$ & tight-fisted.

Now, enough to survive reasonably is ample. Visa guarantee is # 1.

[dennis123]

It was a fair statement. Do most young women in Thailand marry old white man because of love or because of monthly stipend? I am sure there is love on guy's side. Thai women love their family first.

How can a guy love someone when the relationship is purely based on money? Yes I've been involved in these as well and the longer it lasted the more it disturbed me and I quickly ended it.

To answer your question dennis is by taking the money out of the relationship in other words date an equal, or in Thailand someone who has a decent well paid job who owns or is paying off a house etc.

By having a criteria and sticking to it and out of the bars and seedy areas you will find many suitable partners, I'm always amazed at the guys who cough up an allowance to keep there women, now i bet not one of these guys would do it in there home countries so whats with doing it in Thailand?

You're changing the question.

My point, 95%+ of the relationships I see here between old man and young Thai ladies is purely based on money, so sure the guy doesn't love, he just accepted it for what it is or another option he must be completely ignorant. Anyhow to stay involved in such relationship feels like self torture to me.

In respond to your comment, if I'd wanted to find an equal I would find one in my own country.

So two options right:

1) Relationship with a beautiful young person in exchange for money and accepting it for what it is

2) Relationship with an equal old one for free, blergh

I opt for option three, switching between single and short term relationships with a young cutie in Thailand, no love, just lust.

I mean why on earth would I stay with an aging nagging wife that doesn't even love me when I can get so many young cuties! You get my drift?

Once again, going for an equal is no option, if people wanted that they would've stayed in their own country or took their old wife with them to Thailand.

Edited September 29, 2015 by dennis123

[fang37]

dennis

Your experience with Thai WOMEN?

[dennis123]

dennis

Your experience with Thai WOMEN?

Non existent but if you observe the gays here they show a lot of similarity to women.

To every rule there's an exception of course.

BUT I observe a lot of couples, and sorry to say, what a miserable show in most cases.

I just made a post about reasons and forgot one so I list them again:

1) The old foreigner accepted the tradeoff, nice looking wife for money

2) The old foreigner is beyond stupid / completely ignorant

3) The old foreigner is scared or tired of staying alone (too expensive to go short time each day)

When I end up in a relationship for longer than two weeks I fall in group number three, eg tired of staying alone.

Edited September 29, 2015 by dennis123

[JoopJoop]

dennis

Your experience with Thai WOMEN?

Limited...and he lives in Pattaya.

You're partnered with the wrong women dude.

[realenglish1]

I give my wife  2 to 4 thousand baht per month depending on what she needs She never asks for money and does not really need it

She words for a muti national and makes a very good salary

 

15 to 20 thousand is like a big salary for a thai woman You guys are being taken for a ride

[happylarry]

What on earth made you delve back into the archives to drag this thread out after so long????.....lol

HL

[MikeyIdea]

10,000 per month the last few years, quite a bit more before that but I have steadily reduced it for many years now as her behaviour has not been that good, all in the house free of course. 7% of my salary

 

She screamed a lot in the past but she tries to control herself now because she knows it will make her money situation worse 

 

I also pay 4,000 baht per month to the extended family and I feel more happy to do that than the money to mummy actually, they are good people

 

[tonray]

On 10/8/2016 at 3:48 PM, realenglish1 said:

I give my wife  2 to 4 thousand baht per month depending on what she needs She never asks for money and does not really need it

She words for a muti national and makes a very good salary

 

15 to 20 thousand is like a big salary for a thai woman You guys are being taken for a ride

If she works for a multi national firm with a good salary, what's the point of giving her money ?

[Paul Catton]

Nil.

Opal retains half her weekly wage for any frivolous spending she wishes to indulge in, the balance we use in our consolidated funds for general expenses, savings and the like.

[mrskint]

My wife gives me £300 per month towards the bills for the house. What's all this nonsense about giving out free money when they could work?

[theguyfromanotherforum]

If she works for a multi national firm with a good salary, what's the point of giving her money ?

Barista at Starbucks?

[mrskint]

Barista at Starbucks?

Even if she was good on her for going out and going some work. Better that than having one that does nothing and expects to get money each month as 'part of the deal' of being your wife which seems commonplace among a certain group of Thais.

[rwdrwdrwd]

Out of our income, after all necessities are paid for including house, utilities, school fees, gas, insurance, food/eating out budget my wife and I take 10k cash a month each to spend on whatever we want, though it's not strict and we can  get more if necessary - to be honest she never does, it's me who dips in for more :D

Beyond a regular expenditure on creams and potions, she uses it to try to make money buying and selling stuff online - pretty entrepreneurial and whilst she doesn't make much it is profitable and is a better hobby than most.

 

Until we got married, we didn't live together and she was working - we just spent our own money and I didn't give her anything. If we went on holiday I paid, but no monthly cash as such. Nowadays a major part of her day to day life is looking after our son, so she isn't working elsewhere and it's down to me to generate income and I don't resent it at all.

Edited October 17, 2016 by rwdrwdrwd

[gk10002000]

Here in the states and acquaintance of mine and I chat at the local wat thai now and then. He is an older fellow, retired military and getting social security.  His Thai wife is younger (no surprise) maybe about 45 he is approaching 70.  His wife is very active at the temple.  Talking with him, he said he made it simple, he gives her his social security.  He gets his military pension.  No ifs, ands, or buts.  This is not based on anything particularly monetary related, or other rational reason, but it is plain and simple.  Try something like that, instead of constantly rehashing percentages, or handling new "requests" for monies.