Keeping score. Admit it. We all do it.

The question is: How do we do it?

So do you measure your success by....

…how much money you earn/have in the bank?

…how big your house is?

…how expensive your car/motorcycle is?

…how hot your wife/girlfriend/partner is?

...how many friends you have?

…your family life?

….how active/fit you are?

…number of years you’ve been here?

…how well you speak the language?

…how little or how much you wish you were somewhere else?

…number of TVF posts you've make?

…number of TVF “likes” you have?

…how many smiles you receive per day?

…how many girls per month?

...how many beers per day?

…or (drumroll, please)...

...how often you hear “Hello, hansum man”?

By no longer needing to base any decision on finances.

Everything the OP says would come into this, I suppose there will be both positives and negatives for each of us.

It would just depend on that how happy we are with everything the OP quoted, how we measure our success here.

In my case there is much more positives.

Courtesy Gershwin, Gershwin, & Hayward (1934):

De folks wid plenty o' plenty
Got a lock on de door
'Fraid somebody's a-goin' to rob 'em
While dey's out a-makin' more
What for

I got no lock on de door
Dat's no way to be
Dey kin steal de rug from de floor
Dat's okeh wid me
'Cause de things dat I prize
Like de stars in de skies
All are free

By how happy I am.

I'm doing pretty well.

For everyone here on ThaiVisa who considers themselves a success, there are most always others who will come on here to inform them that they are delusional idiots. Why they feel compelled to do so,I will not hypothesize

By how happy I am.

I'm doing pretty well.

Agreed, my benchmark also.

…how much money you have in the bank?

…how big your house is?

…how expensive your cars are?

…how hot your wife is?

…your family life?

….how active/fit you are?

…number of years you’ve been here?

…how well you speak the language?

…how little you wish you were somewhere else?

…number of good TVF posts you've made?

…number of TVF “likes” you have?

…how many smiles you receive per day?

...how great is your view?

...All of the above?

If you think much about all of the above then you cannot have much of a view.

By not having to evaluate how I am going here.

I measure my success only on the "hottness" of my current girlfriend. My current one, I'd give an 8.5. She's pretty damn hot and the farang blokes I meet are all jealous. That is the only thing of importance to me.

Why bother trying to measure your success your the only one measuring.

I try not to think about measuring this but if I did, probably wouldn't look so good. Whoever said the unexamined life was not worth living clearly wasn't an expat in Thailand!

By how grumpy I am.

yawn....

Admit it: we don't all do it.

That list is seems to be all "externally rated": pride, status, wealth.

I am retired and no longer face "evaluations". Hard habit to kick for some I reckon.

Am I content? For the most part. Good enough

You'd have to be Thai to do that. A "Thai expat" is a Thai national that lives in a country that s not within the political boundaries of Thailand. As a British expat living in Thailand I have never kept a score so to speak because I have lived mostly out of the UK since I was 5 or 6 years old, so being an expat has always been the norm for me.

What a load of bullocks.

My success depends on my happiness, not on a bunch of have/have not or do/do not's.

Anybody who measures their success like this, I feel sorry for and need to get a grip on more important things in life.

By no longer needing to base any decision on finances.

thats a success anywhere in this world..

You'd have to be Thai to do that. A "Thai expat" is a Thai national that lives in a country that s not within the political boundaries of Thailand. As a British expat living in Thailand I have never kept a score so to speak because I have lived mostly out of the UK since I was 5 or 6 years old, so being an expat has always been the norm for me.

Interesting. But you clearly didn't lose the British tendency towards pedantry. We all know what he meant posting that on THIS forum.

You should enjoy this:

http://home.bt.com/news/uk-news/a-pedants-guide-to-annoying-americanisms-11363916866278

A. How much money is in the bank is the first line measures of success in Post #1

B. You seem to always bring up that I 'pay" someone to be with me as if that is the only reason she would be with me.

C. I'm not upset -- dealing with guys like you is Sunday afternoon sport as you seem to have comments about me but, other than that you like to make comments about me, I don't know that I make comments about you other than that for some perverse reason you like to make comments about me.

and D. I not answering any of your questions.

I don't care if a

man pays a younger

woman to be with

him or not but I

do find it amusing

that some of them

think it qualifies

as a measure of

your 'success'.

As if to suggest

it's beyond the

means of the

majority of men

who find it

necessary to do so

Throughout my working life my benchmarks have been set low.

And I consistantly fail to meet them, most of the time going out of my way to do this.

IMO, life is given to us to enjoy, if you need to set targets so you can look good in front of others, then I honestly feel sorry for you and the ones you live with.

I measure by my happiness....Usually by not thinking about happiness when it suddenly occurs to me that I'm truly blessed/thankful & happy....

Bringing the same qualities into the lives of those which share mine and are source of my blessings and happiness is the icing on the cake of life.....

The spice/zest - of & for life.....food for the soul....

A lot of vague references to happiness but no real attempt to explain what that means other than to say it has nothing to do with the list in the OP. I don't find that very convincing.

A lot of vague references to happiness but no real attempt to explain what that means other than to say it has nothing to do with the list in the OP. I don't find that very convincing.

I don't think you can really explain happiness. You either are or you aren't.

If you are, and you know it, clap your hands.

trolling and "bickerfest" removed.

Successfully resisting the temptation to get baited into arguments is underappreciated on TVF.

Have you been thrashed by a thai?

Have you had a thai cause an accident by driving into you?

Have you git any scars by mad thai people trying to stab you?

Have you bought anyone a house, car, small business etc?

If you answered no to all, then you are successful.

A. How much money is in the bank is the first line measures of success in Post #1

B. You seem to always bring up that I 'pay" someone to be with me as if that is the only reason she would be with me.

C. I'm not upset -- dealing with guys like you is Sunday afternoon sport as you seem to have comments about me but, other than that you like to make comments about me, I don't know that I make comments about you other than that for some perverse reason you like to make comments about me.

and D. I not answering any of your questions.

I don't care if a

man pays a younger

woman to be with

him or not but I

do find it amusing

that some of them

think it qualifies

as a measure of

your 'success'.

As if to suggest

it's beyond the

means of the

majority of men

who find it

necessary to do so

Nowhere above have I said anything about my 'success'. What you say is 'necessary' I say is desirable.

You need to be Thai to be a Thai expat.