Thai men living in England?

[BabyButton]

Hi

 

It's been a while since I posted on here, but it's always been helpful so I am hoping there is someone around this time.

 

I am English, my husband is Thai. We have a 2 year old son and are expecting a daughter in December, we live in Bedfordshire.

My husband has been here on his spouse visa since May last year, but he was here pretty much with tourist visas for 2 years before that and then prior to that we lived in Thailand.

 

I was just wondering if there are any other thai men near us? We live in a village and suprisingly there is 3 thai women on our street and all southern like my husband but we have not seen any thai men.

 

To be honest, life is difficult. He stays at home all day and takes care of our son and then he works in the evening when I get home from work, meaning we do not see that much of each other. Then during the weekends when we do have time together he is always on the Internet catching up with his friends back home. It's a lonely life for the both of us.

 

He hasn't really found his place yet in England and apart from the people at work he has made no friends. 

 

In the new year he will be starting a new job that should give us more time together but I think if he was able to meet with people from home and with people he could talk too it might make his life a bit happier here?

 

Please message me if there are any other couples out there like us =)

 

Thanks!

 

 

[lostinisaan]

I was just wondering if there are any other thai men near us? We live in a village and suprisingly there is 3 thai women on our street and all southern like my husband but we have not seen any thai men.

 

          Wouldn't it make sense to ask the three Thai women if they know others who live in this area? I'm pretty sure that they at least know some Thai men even when it's not in your town.

 

      Good luck for that and congrats to your baby. 

[Donutz]

I'd also get into contact with the Thai that live in your area and see if they can find one or two Thai male friends. But for the sake of integration I'd stick to only one or two peope from the home country. When my girl (wife to be) immigrated to NL she insisted on speaking Dutch all the time, not getting more then 1-2 Thai friends and get into touch with Dutch or other foreign nationals instead. She made good friends with people from her languages classes (women from various Asian countries and South America, the women from north africa sadly formed their own little group) and later with coworkers at the company where she was cleaning. It was difficult at first, having to make new friends and going from a 50 hour a week office job to cleaning floors and tables with very few friends. But she insisted that this now was her new home and was very motivated to become part of society. She did not want to keep too close with Thai contacts both for the sake of that being counterproductive and her not exactly having a positive opinion on the avarage Thai immigrant which she feared would be mostly girls gossiping a lot, showing off and mainly moving for the money rather then for love.   Now for men it's different ofcourse but generally I'd agree with her, I too would only stick to 1-2 Dutch/farang friends if it  ever came to immigrating. Some connection with fellow nationals is good but you must not be trapped.  See if you can find some interesting contacts via the Thai living and working in your area. Best of luck!