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Is it Thai etiquette for the farang to pay for everyones dinner?

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17 minutes ago, Johnniey said:

How old are you?

 

I'm 56, been married 29 years to a Thai.

That's nice -- I pay off the family so I don't have to marry their daughter.

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Just now, JLCrab said:

That's nice -- I pay off the family so I don't have to marry their daughter.

Not a hard question -  are you embarrassed about your age?

11 minutes ago, Johnniey said:

Not a hard question -  are you embarrassed about your age?

Embarrassed? Not at all -- it's just not any of your dxxxmn business.

20 hours ago, cheapskatesam said:

What typically happens in drinking-online scenarios with no food.

 

Say a group of friends of similar stature go out and have some beers.. who pays the bill at the end?
Would adding a white guy into the mix disrupt these cultural norms? 

 

Depends on the group, can be oldest or most senior pays. Sometimes everybody shares the bill. 

On ‎03‎.‎12‎.‎2016 at 2:33 PM, KarenBravo said:

 

Who gives a crap.

I come from a more advanced culture where every decision is not ruled by "face", which values substance over appearance and hierarchy is not governed by how much money you have.

You are welcome to return to said culture if you don't like doing like the Thais in Thailand. No one will miss you.

Yes its etiqette among thais who are of low quality. I have never been in this situation, on the contrary everyone seems to reach for the wallet if you are in a group. How do so many farangs end up socialising with these bottom of the barrel people I will never understand. And i have been treated to a meal by people of little means so its not about financial status either I think.

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On 12/2/2016 at 2:57 PM, Nemesis7 said:

When will you people learn! Here no money no honey mostly. Hardly exceptions and that's the truth 

When will you people learn! Here if you are old and fat and want young girls you have to pay them money and buy them sh*t.

I don like spoiled honey where 100s of customers had a dip in da honey pot.

On 12/3/2016 at 11:35 AM, lostinisaan said:

 

   Dating sites, or schools? Thai Love Shrink.com

 

    Thai  Lie  Links , and Thai  Stupid ,  come  to mind .

Play them at their  own game . I  have  and enjoyed  No  rules 555

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12 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

I don like spoiled honey where 100s of customers had a dip in da honey pot.

 

 Now you're talking miles, dude..............

1 minute ago, elliss said:

 

    Thai  Lie  Links , and Thai  Stupid ,  come  to mind .

Play them at their  own game ..     I  have  and enjoyed  , no rules .555

 

 

      Farang Romeo & Thai NitNoi. :mfr_closed1:

On 12/2/2016 at 11:20 PM, crazydrummerpauly said:

7 pages of replies....just how boring is life in LoS that this dumb post fascinates so many ?!

 

  Then  why  ,  have  you been reading 7 pages ,  

      you must have a  boring  life . 

       I   seldom  read TV,   i prefer Thai movies . 555

Only if you are stupid beyond all belief.

15 hours ago, JLCrab said:

Embarrassed? Not at all -- it's just not any of your dxxxmn business.

In other words, you're old and don't want to admit it.  Nothing wrong with being old, I am and thank God I made it to 56!

 

I think as a long time member it is nice to know ages of other members, just being friendly.

 

Also to know if they have female companions young enough to be their daughters. Sometimes i wish I did:) Sometimes some people think my daughters are, which is one of my pet hates. 

29 minutes ago, Johnniey said:

In other words, you're old and don't want to admit it.  Nothing wrong with being old, I am and thank God I made it to 56!

 

I think as a long time member it is nice to know ages of other members, just being friendly.

 

 

 

Old @ 56? Still in the first blush of youth. If you can remember: Cassius Clay in Rome, Marilyn Monroe, JFK, Winston Churchill, Ian Profumo and Christine Keeler, Ban The Bomb, Selma, the arrival of the Mini ( car and skirt), Dawn Fraser, Lew Hoad , MU Munich, The Pill, John Arlott , Fangio, Wembley 66......then you might be approaching early middle age ( or older).

As to the topic, it is usual in most cultures for the oldest to pay, if playing host. I always make it clear , if it is not already, that I am the host and usually extend an invitation for another/others to join....but never like the bunch of hangers on in Wazza's film

7 minutes ago, Prbkk said:

 

Old @ 56? Still in the first blush of youth. If you can remember: Cassius Clay in Rome, Marilyn Monroe, JFK, Winston Churchill, Ian Profumo and Christine Keeler, Ban The Bomb, Selma, the arrival of the Mini ( car and skirt), Dawn Fraser, Lew Hoad , MU Munich, The Pill, John Arlott , Fangio, Wembley 66......then you might be approaching early middle age ( or older).

As to the topic, it is usual in most cultures for the oldest to pay, if playing host. I always make it clear , if it is not already, that I am the host and usually extend an invitation for another/others to join....but never like the bunch of hangers on in Wazza's film

middle aged at 56 ? what are you a tree ?

7 minutes ago, soalbundy said:

middle aged at 56 ? what are you a tree ?

Middle age is 60-85, IMO

2 minutes ago, Prbkk said:

Middle age is 60-85, IMO

you mean most of us will die before we reach old age ?

17 minutes ago, Prbkk said:

Middle age is 60-85, IMO

mid·dle age
noun
  1. the period between early adulthood and old age, usually considered as the years from about 45 to 65.
     
     
    Since the average life expectancy of a male is approximately 77, then middle age would actually begin at about 38.5 
     
    :shock1: oh nooooo!

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I am late middle-aged. I believe it began at 40 and lasts til 60.

 

Certainly, when I get my pension at 67 I am old, it is even called the "Old Age Pension".

 

I'm not going to fool myself.

 

Sure if I live to 90, I am in middle age. But statistically, I will not.

3 hours ago, Johnniey said:

In other words, you're old and don't want to admit it. <snip>

No -- in plain words I don't feel compelled to answer just because you felt like asking.

2 hours ago, Prbkk said:

Middle age is 60-85, IMO

Only if you live to 120-170 years of age would that even remotely be considered middle age.

17 minutes ago, Ahab said:

Only if you live to 120-170 years of age would that even remotely be considered middle age.

I used to think 40 was middle aged ... I'm 36 and feel like I need to move those goalposts ...

1 hour ago, JLCrab said:

No -- in plain words I don't feel compelled to answer just because you felt like asking.

Are you denying that you get an "Old Age" pension?

 

Not many young people I know that get such a thing.

5 minutes ago, Johnniey said:

Are you denying that you get an "Old Age" pension?

 

Not many young people I know that get such a thing.

I'm doing nothing but resisting your badgering.

Just now, JLCrab said:

I'm doing nothing but resisting your badgering.

Keep that kind of talk for the Gay forum please:)

8 minutes ago, Johnniey said:

Keep that kind of talk for the Gay forum please:)

Thank you.

In East Asian cultures (Chinese, Vietnamese, Thai), you should pay for everything on some special occasions, but special occasions only and not in outrageous amounts. You do not want to get ripped off on a daily basis and all the time. If anyone says that's Thai culture, that's wrong.

 

Decent Thais will feel "krengjai" if they feel they are asking for too much, too often.

No, it is not as far as I am aware. In Australia, 8 times out of 10 my Thai friendship group would exclude me and split the bill between themselves. In terms of family, I have never paid the family bill, actually i don't think i have even paid my part from memory (not from a lack of trying). I have only had one encounter where the suggestion that i pay came up. One of my Mrs drunk work friends suggested that I pay for drinks at a club after the work party. Immediately 6 other work friends ripped into him and made him pay for it for even making the suggestion. Thai are labelled as 'generous' people for a reason...they are generous. Even drinks, sitting with family and friends there will always be that one drunk Thai guy that sends the waiter over with a drink that he has bought for you. 

5 hours ago, Prbkk said:

Middle age is 60-85, IMO

 

 

math can be tough.

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