Do village girls need to be more selective?

[williamgeorgeallen]

almost without exception the thai girls who are willing to date western men are single mothers and that is just to get financial support. woman like that can not afford to be choosy. also there are only so many western men willing to be milked like a buffalo.

[giddyup]

6 minutes ago, williamgeorgeallen said:

almost without exception the thai girls who are willing to date western men are single mothers and that is just to get financial support. woman like that can not afford to be choosy. also there are only so many western men willing to be milked like a buffalo.

Where do you find this BS? You obviously choose to ignore all the long-term, happy, stable relationships between Thai women and falangs often posted here. I for one have an 8 year relationship with a childless Thai lady, am I the exception to the rule?

Edited March 4, 2017 by giddyup

[williamgeorgeallen]

2 minutes ago, giddyup said:

Where do you find this BS? You obviously choose to ignore all the long-term, happy, stable relationships between Thai women and falangs often posted here. I fopr one have an 8 year relationship with a childless Thai lady, am I the exception to the rule?

i just finished 10 years in thailand.  my post was based on what i have seen. 'almost'  

[giddyup]

Just now, williamgeorgeallen said:

i just finished 10 years in thailand.  my post was based on what i have seen. 'almost'  

What you have probably seen is some 2 week holiday falang holding hands with a bar girl half his age. I know many expats who have been living here happily with their long time wives or girlfriends, so maybe we mix in different circles.

[Khon Kaen Dave]

Do village girls need to be more selective?

It is proved that they certainly do,if you read my post about The chicken restaurant and the Tom Cruise look alike..

[bamukloy]

This thread is hilarious.

 

The girl need to be more selective???5555

 

I would suggest to the OP that only dum dums get hooked up with Isaan farm girls that they met when the girl "work" in Bangkok.

 

Take on the whole family, (usually debt ridden),

become the walking ATM,

while living in one of the most boring place in Thailand.

 

no Thai guys would touch this girls and you say girl needs to be more selective.5555555

[swissbie]

5 minutes ago, giddyup said:

Where do you find this BS? You obviously choose to ignore all the long-term, happy, stable relationships between Thai women and falangs often posted here. I for one have an 8 year relationship with a childless Thai lady, am I the exception to the rule?

Agree with you, "almost without exception" is BS. I have a 30 year relationship and the only child is ours. Generalization is never a good thing.

[IvanLaw]

3 hours ago, possum1931 said:

No, but Mrs Possum has.

 Don't you mind sharing?

(Getting me coat now)

 

[giddyup]

3 minutes ago, abab said:

As if they care who is giving them money...

 

It's guys who should have more face and not shag low so poor farmers.

 

 

I suppose you only shag hi-so supermodels, or are you still living in your mum's basement and watching porn?

Edited March 4, 2017 by giddyup

[joecoolfrog]

3 hours ago, gamini said:

Judging by the type of foreigners living in Thailand today, the girls have not got much choice. Most of them couldn't find a decent looking girl in their own country.

Remind us again , how old were you when you left your home country ?

[smotherb]

23 hours ago, Gecko123 said:

Ladies:

 

This is a good example of the kind of guy you don' t want to bring back to your village. 

I think you will find some of the girls actually want a pitiful example of the farang so that the villagers take pity on them and forgive their actions.

[smotherb]

19 hours ago, chickenslegs said:

What is the view like - up there on your pedestal?

It seems he has explained that

[smotherb]

19 hours ago, eldragon said:

No, they don't. B/c there's not a lot of alternatives, among Thais or foreigners. Plus, these girls don't have a lot of selling points outside of their ass and what's between their legs. Ideally, they would smarten up a bit and go look for an enterprising foreigner closer to their age, but that's not likely to happen. They should really take what they can get, provided they guy is able to take care of em.

I think you may have something there. Some of the girls couldn't pull anything but the dregs anyway.

[Stevemercer]

Novel idea: hold out for a guy that you actually like. Who likes Thai food. Who wants to get to know your mother. And your father. Who's hard working. Who doesn't want to sit around drinking beer and smoking all day long. Who you're proud to go to immigration with.

 

I'm not sure there are many single and available 'good' farang hanging about in villages in rural Thailand? Besides, there's nowhere near enough 'bad' farang to satisfy the demand. 

[smotherb]

3 hours ago, hansnl said:

One might also ask, what choices the ladies really have raising two children with father gone, taking care of Pa & Ma.

Kind of limit the possibilities.

Well, you may have centered on a problem with your post. Why do so many farangs end-up with women who have so much baggage--children, lovers, ex-husbands, greedy family, and all the hassles each provide?

 

I think Gecko's questions is mis-directed. It seems to me it is a buyer's market rather than a seller's; why not be more selective with the girls you choose? 

 

Of course, having a choice means you have to have something of value your self--preferably something more than just a pocket full of money.

[bazza73]

Hardly rocket science. Up country, the average Thai girl is lucky to be making 2000 - 3000 baht a month in the rice fields. That's before being raped or impregnated by the local jai choo. A falang comes along who gives them 8000 - 12000 baht a month for living expenses. They would not care if said falang had two heads and is as hairy as an orang-utang.

[smotherb]

1 hour ago, williamgeorgeallen said:

almost without exception the thai girls who are willing to date western men are single mothers and that is just to get financial support. woman like that can not afford to be choosy. also there are only so many western men willing to be milked like a buffalo.

While I agree it seems many farangs who marry Thai girls end up with girls with children; there are many Thai girls without children. All too often the Thai children are a source of problem for the farang-Thai relationship. 

 

It appears the age-old problem of poor planning still runs rampant.

[SiamBeast]

26 minutes ago, bazza73 said:

Hardly rocket science. Up country, the average Thai girl is lucky to be making 2000 - 3000 baht a month in the rice fields. That's before being raped or impregnated by the local jai choo. A falang comes along who gives them 8000 - 12000 baht a month for living expenses. They would not care if said falang had two heads and is as hairy as an orang-utang.

 

Sad but true. Most old foreigners I know often end up with "broken" girls: ex-whores, bargirls, single moms, or women with just so much baggage that I wouldn't touch then with a 10-foot pole.

 

I do not understand the logic of wanting a woman to be faithful, while accepting that she has children. Kind of an oxymoron.

 

Girls need to be more selective, but men too. It goes both ways. One of my old friends once told me, "when everyone will refuse to enter in a relationship with single parents, families will stay together". Only exception: widows.

Edited March 4, 2017 by SiamBeast

[smotherb]

1 hour ago, giddyup said:

Where do you find this BS? You obviously choose to ignore all the long-term, happy, stable relationships between Thai women and falangs often posted here. I for one have an 8 year relationship with a childless Thai lady, am I the exception to the rule?

I think you are in the minority,  but since there are others, you are not the exception. Just look around you and see how many farangs you know who are married to Thai ladies without children from previous relationships. 

 

I see that same situation in Vietnam, the Philippines, Cambodia. Having children without having a father/husband to help care for them appears to be some sort of standard.

[smotherb]

3 minutes ago, SiamBeast said:

 

Sad but true. Most old foreigners I know often end up with "broken" girls: ex-whores, bargirls, single moms, or women with just so much baggage that I wouldn't touch then with a 10-foot pole.

 

I do not understand the logic of wanting a woman to be faithful, while accepting that she has children. Kind of an oxymoron.

 

Girls need to be more selective, but men too. It goes both ways. One of my old friends once told me, "when everyone will refuse to date single parents, families will stay together". Only exception: widows.

I'd have to modify that quote to say, when everyone will refuse to enter a relationship with a single parent, families will stay together"  No sense in not being able to simply have an input session with a single parent.

[giddyup]

7 minutes ago, SiamBeast said:

 

Sad but true. Most old foreigners I know often end up with "broken" girls: ex-whores, bargirls, single moms, or women with just so much baggage that I wouldn't touch then with a 10-foot pole.

 

I do not understand the logic of wanting a woman to be faithful, while accepting that she has children. Kind of an oxymoron.

 

Girls need to be more selective, but men too. It goes both ways. One of my old friends once told me, "when everyone will refuse to date single parents, families will stay together". Only exception: widows.

I do not understand the logic of wanting a woman to be faithful, while accepting that she has children. Kind of an oxymoron.

I fail to see what having children has to do with being faithful. Do you honestly believe that having children from a previous marriage or relationship somehow turns the woman into a whore. What a warped concept.

[SiamBeast]

5 minutes ago, smotherb said:

I'd have to modify that quote to say, when everyone will refuse to enter a relationship with a single parent, families will stay together"  No sense in not being able to simply have an input session with a single parent.

 

I guess you're right - I corrected my post.

 

"I do not understand the logic of wanting a woman to be faithful, while accepting that she has children. Kind of an oxymoron. "

 

I agree it may look strange written this way - but I was pointing out that no matter how you grow attached to those kids, how good you treat them, etc. they are not yours, and all of this can be taken away at any time if she decides that it's enough. It's basically just walking liabilities and you get no benefit in choosing a single mom vs. a childless girl. The goal is to get married, get a family, and stick with it.

 

Thai men are usually more selective - if she has been single for years, there might be a reason.

[jerojero]

The real question is CAN village girls be more selective. Do they have a lot of of options? 100x village girls for every 1 "select" farang looking for long term relationship.

[smotherb]

28 minutes ago, SiamBeast said:

 

I guess you're right - I corrected my post.

 

"I do not understand the logic of wanting a woman to be faithful, while accepting that she has children. Kind of an oxymoron. "

 

I agree it may look strange written this way - but I was pointing out that no matter how you grow attached to those kids, how good you treat them, etc. they are not yours, and all of this can be taken away at any time if she decides that it's enough. It's basically just walking liabilities and you get no benefit in choosing a single mom vs. a childless girl. The goal is to get married, get a family, and stick with it.

 

Thai men are usually more selective - if she has been single for years, there might be a reason.

Well, I believe you need to rethink this quote too.  Just because a woman has kids does not mean she is promiscuous; she may have been married to their father.

 

My father was killed before I was two and I had two step-fathers,  I got along well with both and would even say I loved them and they loved me. The first was like my real father, I learned a lot from him as I grew up. The second was more of a good friend. He loved my mother and was good to her.  They both treated me like their own. The second had three boys about my age who are more like brothers than friends; he even gave me an equal share with his boys in his will.

 

So, I think it really has to depend on the persons involved.

[473geo]

51 minutes ago, smotherb said:

I think you are in the minority,  but since there are others, you are not the exception. Just look around you and see how many farangs you know who are married to Thai ladies without children from previous relationships. 

 

I see that same situation in Vietnam, the Philippines, Cambodia. Having children without having a father/husband to help care for them appears to be some sort of standard.

Duh.... why do you think Thai women, especially rural Thai women, have children? Just for something to keep them busy  

[SiamBeast]

@smotherb In your case, your mother is a widow - the father died. As I stated in my post, widows are the exception, because it's not their fault (unless they killed their husband). Therefore, your mother has the right to experiment love like anyone.

 

My post is primarly addressed to women who decide to pop a kid at a young age without being in a stable relatiomship, or who decide to separate from the father.

 

[smotherb]

2 minutes ago, 473geo said:

Duh.... why do you think Thai women, especially rural Thai women, have children? Just for something to keep them busy  

Duh, yourself slick, did you read the post to which I commented?  Quite frankly, I believe all women have children for one reason; do I need to explain that to you?

[473geo]

6 minutes ago, smotherb said:

Duh, yourself slick, did you read the post to which I commented?  Quite frankly, I believe all women have children for one reason; do I need to explain that to you?

Perhaps you do as this appears to be a very naive statement

 

"Having children without having a father/husband to help care for them appears to be some sort of standard"

[khunPer]

Gecko123

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Put bluntly, some of these foreign guys the local girls hook up with and bring back to the village fall into the 'look what the cat dragged in' category.

I sometime wonder when a really nice looking young girl come and present me for her boyfriend – sometimes my frist thought is: "could she not do better than that?" – perhaps something the same...

–and perhaps some say the same about my girlfriend...

[smotherb]

Just now, 473geo said:

Perhaps you do as this appears to be a very naive statement

 

"Having children without having a father/husband to help care for them appears to be some sort of standard"

Yes, a standard, it is very common in the countries I mentioned for single women to have children.

 

Perhaps it is your own naive inability to understand.