CG1 Blue Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 As I approach my middle years and having been single for quite some time, I start to ask myself questions about the type of girl (woman) I could realistically settle down with. I've long believed it's important to stay within the right age range in order to find (long term) happiness. For example, I wouldn't try to settle down with a 20 year old, even though the opportunities to do that are plenty in the LOS. For one I don't think we'd have a lot in common, and for two the chances of her quickly losing interest and 'playing around' would be sky high. Somebody once told me that a good formula is half your age plus 7. In other words, a 30 year old guy shouldn't go any lower than a 22 year old girl. A 40 year old guy shouldn't go lower than a 27 year old girl, and so on. But that was supposed to apply to the UK dating scene, which is obviously quite different to LOS. Personally I find the 30+ women in LOS much more appealing these days, which I suppose is a result! I'd like to hear some opinions on this - and apologies if this has been covered a million times before! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manarak Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 Age is a factor, but then I can think of 15 or more other things that are more important than age... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pdaz Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 Get the youngest, sexiest one you can. Once she starts to age or get fat trade her in.. You only live once. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
55Jay Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 I've always thought the man being 4 to 5 years older than the wife was about right. But that's what my Dad and Mom were = my formative impression. My Thai wife is just about 4 years younger ~ 3 years 8 months TBE. I have a few mates here about the same, but also some who are 20-25 years senior to their wives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tonray Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 31 minutes ago, Pdaz said: Get the youngest, sexiest one you can. Once she starts to age or get fat trade her in.. You only live once. Shouldn't you be at the White House instead of posting on ThaiVisa Donald ? There is no formula, it is whatever both parties are comfortable and can deal with. Look for happiness not formulas. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farang hunter Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 young girls would not ever understand you unless you pour money on them till they grow up and become ladies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swissie Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 It depends. In the OP's case, looking for a long-term relationship, a 10 to 15 year age difference would be considerd "acceptable" in Thailand. On the other hand, if I was to be diagnosed with terminal cancer, only young and crisby birds would be on my menu. The more the merrier. As I said, it depends on circumstances. Cheers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anotheruser Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 My rule of thumb is around $5,000 per year of age inequity. Give or take. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rc2702 Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 Never go further than 5 above or 5 below for a LTR. Anything else is 18-60 acceptable. Few beers in-Maybe 65. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swissie Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 43 minutes ago, anotheruser said: My rule of thumb is around $5,000 per year of age inequity. Give or take. Does that work also in reverse? A 60 year old Farang marries a 80 year old Thai- Lady. This opens new avenues. Where is my pocket-calculater....it must be here somewhere. Cheers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CG1 Blue Posted April 28, 2017 Author Share Posted April 28, 2017 4 hours ago, 55Jay said: I've always thought the man being 4 to 5 years older than the wife was about right. But that's what my Dad and Mom were = my formative impression. My Thai wife is just about 4 years younger ~ 3 years 8 months TBE. I have a few mates here about the same, but also some who are 20-25 years senior to their wives. The ones who are 20-25 years older than their wives, are we talking 65 year old man with 45 year old woman, or 40 year old with 20 year old? I just can't imagine the latter scenario working out. I guess there are always exceptions though... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dbrenn Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 Age differences don't seem to matter these days. Look at the front runner to be the next French president - married his school teacher, 25 years his senior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ezzra Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 Don't worry too much how older you are compare to her because sooner or later she'll start playing around with a younger men, and you can take that to the bank.... and it would be a folly to believe or expect otherwise.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colinneil Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 Age is only a number. What difference does it make? I am 20 years older than my wife, so what, we are happy. Great marriage, no sex, no beer, no fun, perfect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BEVUP Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 56 minutes ago, ezzra said: Don't worry too much how older you are compare to her because sooner or later she'll start playing around with a younger men, and you can take that to the bank.... and it would be a folly to believe or expect otherwise.... This + Faranghunter Seen this twice or touching on 3 & not know many Falangs & when the Falang thinks all is normal again there's still things he doesn't know Thais have eyes every where & a great communication system Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pdaz Posted April 28, 2017 Share Posted April 28, 2017 My wife is 16 yrs younger than me . Which sounds great. But in truth she is now 14 yrs older than a other girl I ever picked up. Which doesn't sound so good.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeab1980 Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Age has no bearing as far as I'm concerned if you fit together that's all that is needed. Sod what others think probably jealousy anyway. Oh my wife was 20yrs old when I met and married her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brewsterbudgen Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 I'm a sprightly 56 and my wife is 27, and it is working well for us and our 2 year old son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crossy Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 I'm one of those rare creatures, a farang with a Thai wife who's older than he is. She was a granny (just) when I married her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 It is not age so much as maturity... on both of your parts. I am always put off by "formulas, lists, equations" when it comes to relationships. My wife was the oldest of 4 children and shouldered a lot of responsibility when young and it continues onward. Her youngest sister can barely tie her own shoes. If you look at them both when they were age 30, her sister was more like an 8 year old and my wife was a mature adult. Would you rather be judged by your age or your personality, ability, accomplishments? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abhaya Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 The only generalization I can comment on is that older unattractive guys usually feel very insecure and jealous about their partners if they are young and gorgeous by comparison. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maoro2013 Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 My wife is 27 years younger. We have been happily married for over 9 years. No problems. Everyone to their own. A previous poster has it right, their are many things more important than age, for example, the family you marry into. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Minx Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Age is but a number. Me? Happily married to this gorgeous one and have two sons. Love of my life. One just turned eleven the youngest. It works and age is not a difference. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Minx Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Sorry can't edit for some reason. Fell in love and we got married and fourteen years down the track wonderful and sparky still. Not a cougar , never chased guys ever but this one was it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grollies Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 56 minutes ago, Crossy said: I'm one of those rare creatures, a farang with a Thai wife who's older than he is. She was a granny (just) when I married her You and me both Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Minx Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 Twelve years difference. Sorry off topic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
i claudius Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 My wife is 24 years younger than me , we have been happily married for over 20 years and still laugh and joke with each other every day . my previous wife was 18 years younger than me , we were together 13 years , Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brewsterbudgen Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 3 minutes ago, Minnie the Minx said: Sorry can't edit for some reason. Fell in love and we got married and fourteen years down the track wonderful and sparky still. Not a cougar , never chased guys ever but this one was it. How big is the age gap? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Minx Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 From the point of view that a woman with a younger guy you get all sorts of comments. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minnie the Minx Posted April 29, 2017 Share Posted April 29, 2017 I think you get all sorts of sterotypes ( sp) about age differences. If you're in love it matters not, really doesn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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