I've never been raped or murdered or bombed, therefore all rape/murder/bomb victims must have brought it on themselves, maybe their behaviour or the way they dressed ........ how stupid do I sound?
Next I'll be claiming divorce and asset stripping only happens to guys that deserve it, or weren't careful in choosing their women.
In reality we all want to believe that we're the good guys, and nothing bad will ever happen to us. This is actually dangerous and delusional thinking, bad stuff happens randomly, cars crash, boats sink, snakes bite, dogs attack, earthquakes and floods kill, wishful thinking won't help you avoid this happening to you.