Married to Thai girl, found out she's cheating while USA green card/visa is in process

[mikehongpark]

7 minutes ago, puukao said:

Send screen shots of something that gives credibility.

I can give screen shot of anything you want. Wedding invitation? My flight? Credit card transactions? Wedding cert from last year? Of course, I will be blacking out personal info.

[Spidey]

10 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

Not lying, but simplified to get help with the language translation to make it short. Yes, I am having a 2nd marriage reception for my USA friends/family in a month. 

By now, you should probably know that my problem is that I don't know how to BS with women and don't know how to tell sweet little lies.

I opened the 2nd one, after getting the help on the language translation and after confirming the cheating happened.

Being unable to BS women? I think you'll find being able to BS TV posters a whole lot harder.

[holy cow cm]

• Continue on as you are already married. Your friends and family coming will have a blast and this is exciting for them to have a chance and reason to travel. If it does fall apart in the future then so what. But it may not and you are fine. You have really nothing to lose except money. Face?, who cares s USA is the capital of divorce. If you do divorce then get back up in the saddle and feel alive again.
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• GO FO IT! 

[puukao]

So, is she now single?

 

Lots of guys on TV want her Facebook page...... LOLOLOLOL

 

Of course this is a TROLL post:

 

Nobody with half a clue would go to TV and ask advice on their marriage, and then make up their mind in 4 pages.

 

Come on..... next post:  My Thai wife is living with 100 guys who don't speak Thai, should I be worried?  

[tifino]

 

which is/was the 'official' wedding?   

 - the one in LOS was one at the Amphur? or was one at the temple with the monk and family?

 - if the LOS one done official (Amphur), then the US one is not a 2nd wedding, but just a keep the US family happy to be included one.

 - and so, the US one is not going to have any relevance to Green Card actions... 

 

the hazy answer to whether are you actually married yet or not, depends on the above

[mikehongpark]

10 minutes ago, kevin612 said:

you can forgive her if she stays in america only. She will cheat on you again if she stays in thailand.

The National Visa Processing Center approval email came yesterday and she should be able to come in 1-2 months if all of the interview goes smoothly. However, I am given many advice on this forum to drop her in my life. However, I will give her a chance to talk in about 3-4 hours.

[Spidey]

10 minutes ago, biggerpill said:

I am 64 years old and from USA.. had at least 30 girlfriends before I met my wife..

30? Had more than that before I was 25. You yanks do lead sheltered lives!

[theguyfromanotherforum]

16 minutes ago, SuperTed said:

Disagree - age difference is no more an issue for farang as it is for wealthy Thai men.

I’m 49 and diligently banging my 26 y.o. gf every night. I drop her off and pick her up from work six days a week and keep her dutifully by my side on Sunday. I don’t drink much, and she doesn’t either. (If you don’t want to be played by a bar girl, don’t stay with a bar girl.) We both love to hike.

I have given her money before to take her friends out. And then shown up to say hello, or sent my Thai friends to do the same. The same way a Thai man does.

I honestly think about it a bit like I do minding children, tweens. They SAY they hate being told what to do and monitored, but actually they crave it and it makes them feel loved. The response from her friends when I showed up to check on her was positive, if not jealous.

What Thai men have that farang don’t is extended family to keep an eye out. Too bad there are so few farang men I would trust with my gf, otherwise we could keep an eye out for each other!


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Don’t tell me why it can’t be done; show me how it can - Jim Wright

 

You disagree with what?

 

 

[HighPriority]

3 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

The National Visa Processing Center approval email came yesterday and she should be able to come in 1-2 months if all of the interview goes smoothly. However, I am given many advice on this forum to drop her in my life. However, I will give her a chance to talk in about 3-4 hours.

Can you live stream it on FB for us ?

[puukao]

3 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

The National Visa Processing Center approval email came yesterday and she should be able to come in 1-2 months if all of the interview goes smoothly. However, I am given many advice on this forum to drop her in my life. However, I will give her a chance to talk in about 3-4 hours.

my advice is to marry her, have 100 kids, and honor her family and your commitment.  in sickness and in health. in cheating or not, you will be with her until your final days!!!!  at least give her 10 chances, and be there for her.  she is crying out for help, and you were not there for her.   

 

even if she cheat with 1000 guys, you must stay.  

 

6 billion people on the planet.  never-ending comedy.  

[Spidey]

6 minutes ago, puukao said:

Come on..... next post:  My Thai wife is living with 100 guys who don't speak Thai, should I be worried?  

Or, "I have just discovered that my Thai wife has a full set of wedding tackle. Should I be worried?"

[mikehongpark]

3 minutes ago, tifino said:

 

which is/was the 'official' wedding?   

 - the one in LOS was one at the Amphur? or was one at the temple with the monk and family?

 - if the LOS one done official (Amphur), then the US one is not a 2nd wedding, but just a keep the US family happy to be included one.

 - and so, the US one is not going to have any relevance to Green Card actions... 

 

the hazy answer to whether are you actually married yet or not, depends on the above

On 2/23/2018 was the official at the amphur. A day after that was the wedding reception with just her side of family and friends. Green card applications were sent in 4/2018. Notice of action received around 10/2018. Approval to proceed received yesterday. 2nd wedding reception to occur on 2/23/2019 (1 year after marriage registration at amphur)

 

[mikehongpark]

3 minutes ago, HighPriority said:

Can you live stream it on FB for us ?

No, then you will know my identify and probably defame me or something.

[Hummin]

Wow, lucky you to have 30 friends and family members who would take the trip from the Usa. I would enjoy that fact, and just move on ???? 

[theguyfromanotherforum]

How much was the sinsod?

[mikehongpark]

Gotta meet friends up for dinner. The friends that I told to hold off on purchasing their flights.

[puukao]

1 minute ago, mikehongpark said:

No, then you will know my identify and probably defame me or something.

if you love and respect yourself, you cannot be defamed.  be strong, own up to who you are.....  take pride in your life decisions.  

 

if this story is true, you already shamed yourself and family until the end of eternity.

 

i would have made a much better choice.  but that's me.  LOL

 

you better MAN UP son and get off TV.  lol

 

[Spidey]

1 minute ago, puukao said:

you better MAN UP son and get off TV.  lol

Yep, and delete all your accounts. 555

[mikehongpark]

2 minutes ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

How much was the sinsod?

1 mil baht, with a verbal word to send the family $400-$500 USD per month

[theguyfromanotherforum]

4 minutes ago, mikehongpark said:

1 mil baht, with a verbal word to send the family $400-$500 USD per month

 

Run from this skank.

 

She is a peasant wanna be hiso. Let her find another fool.

 

I never paid a single baht for my wedding. My wife's parents even paid for the wedding reception.

 

No wonder you are on "good terms" with her family as you mentioned in the previous thread. They need you.

 

Major Edit:

 

If she can't even keep her legs closed before the ceremony to assure even more money for her and her family's future just imagine the pure joy of a life you will have after the marriage. 

 

There is no good outcome in this for you whatsoever. You have already been insulted and humiliated. 

 

Unless you enjoy being a cuck? Do you? I understand it's a fetish and I have watched some cuck videos on pornhub. Good times.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[madusa]

Even as a kid I had already decided not to take extra marital affairs too seriously that was because I saw my mum really made life miserable for her kids when my father was screwing around. She wasn't happy the whole atmosphere was toxic to say the least. The kids just suffered in silence.

I wonder what would happen after you married you found yourself committing adultery. Not because you want revenge it just happen that you fall in love with another woman. If anything life is full of uncertainty.

I know the feeling that arise in you when just before marriage you found out she was unfaithful. But life is an ongoing process as you grow older in later life you will find true love overcomes all human weakness.

If I really love the woman I would marry her even if she did me wrong.

Your question is a question of your thoughts on life not what I or anyone say in this forum.

Magnanimous and all forgiving is good. It comes back to you.

[mikehongpark]

1 hour ago, RicUSA said:

Am confused - if you have been married 11 months and have not gotten her pregnant by now  ?! How is having another wedding ceremony going to expedite having a child?!?  When the kid is 16 and you are 62 - yes you will be a grandpa in some ways - just my opinion

 

 

 

 

She wanted to wait for her to be allowed into the USA before getting pregnant, which I understood. She used to have a 10 year tourist Visa then we got married in Thailand, and now it's illegal for her to come with her tourist Visa and need to wait for the spousal visa. yeah, I screwed up and didn't do the fiance visa route.

 

[mikehongpark]

OPs gotta go now. Thanks for anyone who offered advice.

[NCC1701A]

3 hours ago, colinneil said:

How many times is this same story going to keep appearing here?

Same thing but written differently, same 30 friends with confirmed flights to Thailand.

Colin I am working on my own version of this story right now.

 

Way better than "Private Dancer"

 

And I am about to send a copy to my publisher. 

[Hummin]

37 minutes ago, biggerpill said:

Hi my friend

I am married to thai lady for 7 years..I am 64 years old and from USA.. had at least 30 girlfriends before I met my wife..wake up  she,s young and using you for your money..get rid of her quick and stop wasting your money..now and.in the future..I have large business in USA but do not flash my wealth..your BIG mistake here

 

Good luck

M

Girl friends? One a year? How does that work out? 

[DashRye]

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[DashRye]

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[jackdd]

There is one guy who you know of, probably there have been more guys in the past who you don't know ????

[CanuckThai]

It doesn't matter what anyone posts about your dilemma.  The bottom line: can YOU live with a cheating Thai woman?  Some people wouldn't give a crap, and know full well, their chosen treasure of a partner has zero morals, integrity or commitment.  You provide the gold, the house, the cars, the allowance to her and family, and she keeps a paddock of boytoys (sorry, I meant cousins).  Hey, I've heard some guys have a fetish of getting whipped and treated like a dog, even pissed on....and on top of that, they pay for it.   Good luck...but keep your back to the wall, just in case one of her "cousins" thinks you're worth more (to him/them) dead, than alive.

[phetpeter]

You married her already, then leave her stuck in Thailand, waiting for the green card, the fact you could have had her over in the USA on holiday trips. you didn't. She had a need! had it deal with, while you were during what! Stuff the 'American wedding' in Thailand. Ship her over to you. and get on with married life. Also if she was studying in the USA, and is working, She wouldn't have a problem getting to the US without you.