Life is hard.

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sexoholic

3 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

am a bad alcholic,

try being a Sexholic like me. Ever hear of tennis elbow? I have penis elbow. Its painful but I can't stop myself. 

[Berkshire]

18 minutes ago, RichardColeman said:

Have you thought of starting a 'go fund me' page ? I'm sure if you explained you are an unemployed, alcoholic spendthrift plenty would donate.

Actually, you may be on to something.  This "go fund me" is such a scam, but plenty of naive people willing to give to complete strangers.  The OP just has to be a little creative.  Make up some sob story.  Involve cute pets/furry animals if possible...people eat that sht up.  But OP, no matter what, do not tell the truth! 

[Pattayabeerbacon]

Just now, Berkshire said:

Actually, you may be on to something.  This "go fund me" is such a scam, but plenty of naive people willing to give to complete strangers.  The OP just has to be a little creative.  Make up some sob story.  Involve cute pets/furry animals if possible...people eat that sht up.  But OP, no matter what, do not tell the truth! 

thats the problem of the world today, A down and out western male is the absolute bottom of the barrel.

 

[Matzzon]

1 hour ago, Skallywag said:

Ah the ultimate Catch 22. 

No job, no money and of course a suggestion to go seek professional help at $160 an hour.  A worthy yet monetarily unattainable solution.

 

OP has an internet connection, maybe read about Buddhism online.

Noble truth 1: Life is filled with suffering

 

Join the club

 

Ok, you might be right. Anyway, no job does not necessarily mean no money. Here we have an assumed fair amount of money to drink, on the other hand no money to afford an Asian relation. As I say, you might be right.

On the other hand, an Asian relationship does not necessarily mean much money. That only happens to guys that comes to this country fishing in the bars. There are plenty of fish in the sea, so better try the luck there.

Buddhism can be of help, if you a serious when offering that as an alternative, and not doing it in a sacastic manner.

Sounds to me that you also have problem in life, due to that you say "Join the club". As most people are well aware of, advice given from others in the same situation is not advisable. That due to that one that have problems, can not advise another to get rid of them. In that case the one advising would have fixed his/hers own first. Unless that person is not enjoying self-inflicted misery.

[Matzzon]

I am so proud over many of the posters here again. When you read the OP, you can clearly hear he has problems and that he is in need of help asking for advice.

 

So, many of you just don´t care about that. You just go on with your silly comment and believe you are funny. Did common sense, respectful behaviour and compassion for a fellow human beeing get lost on arrival at the airport? Lucky you got your luggage. 
 

Many of you should feel very ashamed. Actually many of you also have exactly the same problem. The thing, though, is that you still have a monthly income and are to scared to admitt something is wrong.

Edited August 2, 2019 by Matzzon

[BritManToo]

14 minutes ago, Matzzon said:

There are plenty of fish in the sea,

And they all want you to buy them a house to live in.

[geoffbezoz]

Of course if everything you say is true, but from your forum name though I have doubts, then with your state of depression you should seriously consider talking too the Samaritans. A fantastic organisation whose sole role is to help people. You may think life is hard, possibly pointless where you have been dealt a poor hand, but believe me, there are millions in our world a lot worse of than you and have no means of help and support unlike yourself.

[BritManToo]

6 minutes ago, Matzzon said:

Many of you should feel very ashamed. Actually many of you also have exactly the same problem. The thing, though, is that you still have a monthly income and are to scared to admitt something is wrong.

I had a monthly income, but it's getting less every month.

But the money doesn't really help the problem of old age.

I'm only gonna get sicker and older, I'd rather die before I reach the hospital bed/nursing home/walking frame stage.

[SenorCJ]

Join the military dude. That will give you some direction for a few years. It won’t be easy, but you need some serious change of direction.

Edited August 2, 2019 by SenorCJ

[thirdleg]

what a joyous thread...........hand me the rope!

One thing is for sure, you won't be happier in Thailand with a drinking problem

Edited August 2, 2019 by thirdleg

[Pattayabeerbacon]

Just now, geoffbezoz said:

Of course if everything you say is true, but from your forum name though I have doubts, then with your state of depression you should seriously consider talking too the Samaritans. A fantastic organisation whose sole role is to help people. You may think life is hard, possibly pointless where you have been dealt a poor hand, but believe me, there are millions in our world a lot worse of than you and have no means of help and support unlike yourself.

Help and support how?

 

i work a low income job it pays on par with the dole ( uber eats).

 

I went in for surgery on compassionate grounds to treat a severe medical issue that's preventing me from working full time as i could potentially die if i continue working the field I'n the wrong cercumstance.

 

 The surgeon proceded to tell me the surgery was 3K Upfront, If i don't have the money , I can't get the surgery simple as that.

 

i asked my parents if they help, They told me they don't have the money.

 

Where is the help and support for westerners in the western world?

i dont see it.

 

 

[AverageBloke]

You're in Australia, go to your GP and ask for a mental health care plan. If you are eligible you can get 10 free visits to a psychologist. You are only 33yo so you have plenty of time to get your life back on track. Also don't make life changing decisions if you're suffering from depression. Good luck with journey. 

[ThaiBunny]

10 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

The surgeon proceded to tell me the surgery was 3K Upfront, If i don't have the money , I can't get the surgery simple as that.

So it's a procedure that's not available in the public system on Medicare?

[Curt1591]

Time to suck it up, take responsibility, and deal with it. 

[Radar501]

The OP may have his cause and effect mixed up.   

 

He's not sour coz he can't find a GF.........he can't find a GF coz he's sour.

 

Misery loves company,

[Pilotman]

52 minutes ago, SenorCJ said:

Join the military dude. That will give you some direction for a few years. It won’t be easy, but you need some serious change of direction.

I doubt they would want him, too much baggage.   

[Pattayabeerbacon]

1 hour ago, Matzzon said:

I am so proud over many of the posters here again. When you read the OP, you can clearly hear he has problems and that he is in need of help asking for advice.

 

So, many of you just don´t care about that. You just go on with your silly comment and believe you are funny. Did common sense, respectful behaviour and compassion for a fellow human beeing get lost on arrival at the airport? Lucky you got your luggage. 
 

Many of you should feel very ashamed. Actually many of you also have exactly the same problem. The thing, though, is that you still have a monthly income and are to scared to admitt something is wrong.

 Its a shit time to be alive for a low class middle aged straight white male, I can confirm because i am one.

[Thailand]

The OP is lucky I was born in a cardboard box in the middle of the road etc.

Edited August 2, 2019 by Thailand

[orchis]

17 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 Its a shit time to be alive for a low class middle aged straight white male, I can confirm because i am one.

you're 33.

[4MyEgo]

5 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 

its hopeless, I told my father i dont want to live in Australia because i was lonely and couldn't find a girlfriend, He just told me to keep labouring and stop going to thailand and hold a job.

 

what am i supposed to do? be a lonely shitkicker for the rest of my days?

im beginning to not give a shit if i live or die, I am already drinking myself to death slowly.

I believe your dad has given you some solid advice.

 

Don't be in a hurry to find a girlfriend, because sometimes things don't turn out the way you want them.

 

I was once in a place where you are coming from, I worked hard, found a girlfriend that I thought I wanted, then I married her, it was hell for 12 years of my life, lesson learned the hard way.

 

Came from a poor family, have always been a worker, after my divorce, I hit rock bottom, but stayed away from alcohol within limits) because my father was an alcoholic and my older brother was taken by it, a very sad way to go.

 

I think what you need to do is find a group of mates that you can hook up with for an evening meal once twice a week, shoot some pool, and perhaps go out and maybe, just maybe have a few drinks and put a couple of points on the board if you get my drift, every bloke needs to point a few points on the board, as empty as unloading is with someone your not into, we are all human.

 

Was lost for a few years after my divorce, but catching up with some guys from the gym, then rekindled with a motorbike and some friends who had bikes to get out and about, then 5 years down the track Thailand, the rest is history.

 

Thailand woman can be your worst enemy or your soul mates, that goes for any woman, but if your not hard, woman will take advantage of you, it's in their nature, they need to be handled in a certain way for their own good and for your peace of mind.

 

Suck it in, your not alone, a girlfriend is not going to sort your problems in your head, you need to keep busy, as your dad said, put your head down, work, socialise with a few mates and perhaps holiday in Phuket or some other place in Thailand for fun, within reason, just don't get taken by these cute little kittens who have claws like Lions, many have been taken or are miserable, only invest as much as your prepared to lose, don't be a night in shining armour, that all bull$hit.

 

I think you get my drift, but just remember, there are others out there in worse predicaments than you, we have control our minds as we do our emotions, otherwise we are farked, hang in their mate, you have a long way to go, is it worth it ? YES it is, life gets better, if you let it, but you also have to take control of what you can.

[scorecard]

6 hours ago, blackcab said:

Moved to the Farang Pub.

If you need professional help, there's a pinned post at the start of TV.

[BritManToo]

7 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

I believe your dad has given you some solid advice.

You say that because you're a boomer like his dad.

The world has moved on, western women have no use for men over 30 years old, unless it's to buy them a house.

And after you've bought the house, they'll pop a couple of kids (to keep the house) then divorce you.

Today, your advice gets you divorced and homeless in your 40s.

Edited August 2, 2019 by BritManToo

[marcusarelus]

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

And they all want you to buy them a house to live in.

Nothing wrong with bar girls but if you want one be prepared.  I married an engineer who got a bank loan, built a house and wanted me to share the mortgage payment.  Every time you use the word "they"  we are all prepared what follows is BS.

[Matzzon]

36 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 Its a shit time to be alive for a low class middle aged straight white male, I can confirm because i am one.

I understand you feel like you are in deep shit at present time. It´s not easy to make all the right hcoices in life. Sometimes it takes a turn and all things feel like shit. Just saying, it can change. On the other hand, you have to help it to do that. It doesn´t know what you want.

[BritManToo]

41 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

 Its a shit time to be alive for a low class middle aged straight white male, I can confirm because i am one.

Agreed, not all that good for middle class SWMs either.

Don't forget the young guys coming out of university with a $25,000 debt and a worthless degree.

Edited August 2, 2019 by BritManToo

[Matzzon]

Just now, BritManToo said:

I'm guessing from your rant that you've bought a Thai woman an expensive house for cash.

Good luck, now she has the house, she doesn't need you.

No, didn´t. Ain´t that stupid. She owns the land, I own the house. Separated at the Land Office.

On the other hand, something terrible must have happened to you for holding that heavy load of mistrust and dislike of people. Who have been hurting you, and what happened?

[soalbundy]

If you think life is hard consider the alternative.

[BestB]

I only have few things to say 

 

1. Go to Cambodia and see how life is and all over sudden you will feel blessed even with whatever you have or do not have 

2. I see all your points of how bad life is but did not see anything you had done or attempted to do to improve it 

3. Do not for 1 second assume that you are the only one in bad situation, guy/girl next to you could be sane or even worse. You mentioned some people born lucky with millions , but did it ever occur to you that they may not be happy and have more problems than you. You have nothing so you do not need to worry about loosing nothing , they have everything and need to worry about everything .

 

To appreciate the good you must experience the bad. Without knowing what bad is, how can you identify the good?

 

Seek some medical help, often helps, look into doing some seminars or read books on self development and self understanding and stop concentrating on how bad it is but start concentrating on how to change it. And before you could run , you learned how to walk, but before walking you crawled. 

 

Small goals, small changes , step by step.

 

Getting a dog or even being a volunteer in a shelter may help you greatly and you will realise your life has a meaning , because of you other living being is alive .

 

You will also get to meet lots of new people and dogs make great companions, good to socialise, keep active and responsible. 

Edited August 2, 2019 by BestB

[Pattayabeerbacon]

Just now, BestB said:

I only have few things to say 

 

1. Go to Cambodia and see how life is and all over sudden you will feel blessed even with whatever you have or do not have 

2. I see all your points of how bad life is but did not see anything you had done or attempted to do to improve it 

3. Do not for 1 second assume that you are the only one in bad situation, guy/girl next to you could be sane or even worse. You mentioned some people born lucky with millions , but did it ever occur to you that they may not be happy and have more problems than you. You have nothing so you do not need to worry about loosing nothing , they have everything and need to worry about everything .

 

To appreciate the good you must experience the bad. Without knowing what bad is, how can you identify the good?

 

Seek some medical help, often helps, look into doing some seminars or read books on self development and self understanding and stop concentrating on how bad it is but start concentrating on how to change it. And before you could run , you learned how to walk, but before walking you crawled. 

 

Small goals, small changes , step by step.

 

Getting a dog or even being a volunteer in a shelter may help you greatly and you will realise your life has a meaning , because of you other living being is alive .

 

You will also get to meet lots of new people and dogs make great companions, good to socialise, keep active and responsible. 

i just came from cambodia. i have some local friends there, I get along very well with khmers, They actually told me that about how white people dont stick together and very much understood that i was all alone in the world with no help.

 

A good example is my mother and father being uninterested in my travels , They are just worried about there own pockets,

 

my mother never once asked me "Why are you over there?" or "What are you doing over there ?" She just cares about her work, her properties, her money and her assets.

 

she can be quite two-faced, snobby and evil.

 

[BestB]

6 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

i just came from cambodia. i have some local friends there, I get along very well with khmers, They actually told me that about how white people dont stick together and very much understood that i was all alone in the world with no help.

 

A good example is my mother and father being uninterested in my travels , They are just worried about there own pockets,

 

my mother never once asked me "Why are you over there?" or "What are you doing over there ?" She just cares about her work, her properties, her money and her assets.

 

she can be quite two-faced, snobby and evil.

 

Bud, be thankful you have a mother and a father. I lost my entire family at the age of 36, not a single relative alive and I buried them all.

 

Understand she may not care but at least you can put her name as a point of contact in case of emergency , I can not even do that, and I am single , never married , no kids and only early 40’s

 

You see now what I mean, never think you the only one as one next to you could be in far worse situation.

 

As I said , give meaning to your life, you have only 1 life, live it. Life is a mix, sometimes you get shit and sometimes you get chocolates.

 

When I lost my entire family i also started drinking heavily as I no longer cared but getting dogs saved me.

 

i could not go drink because I had to be up early morning to take them

out for a walk and feed them. My life had a meaning again , it was worth something and someone depended on me. 

 

Chin up bud, can not get any worse, can only get better and cut back on drinking , it is not healthy and does not make any problems go away . In the morning same problems remain and you have less money . ????