DId you pay sinsord and how much?

[tifino]

1 minute ago, Janner1 said:

And is a virgin because that is what you are actually paying for.

Far to many think they can be the village bike but the farang must pay for what’s left if he wants to ride it

and she's probably a well repaired pillion in the rear by then...

[Kadilo]

5 minutes ago, Janner1 said:

And is a virgin because that is what you are actually paying for.

Far to many think they can be the village bike but the farang must pay for what’s left if he wants to ride it

Good point. In many cases the parents pimp them out to places like Pattaya, then when they meet a foreign sucker they try to fleece him with the Virgin Mary story and have the cheek to ask for the long term bar fine for marrying them. 

Edited January 30, 2020 by Kadilo

[Matzzon]

2 hours ago, Yinn said:

Most.

Yes, of course. That´s why most inventors in the history of the world is guys. Most of the successful business owners in the world is guys. Not to forget the most prominent investors and stock market experts are also guys. Not to talk about highly recommended chefs, lawyers and bank managers. Actually there is also a bad as the female football and other sport teams need to have help by a male coach. Yeah, Yinn! You know, the ones that you see as most of them are stupid. ????????????

 

Actually I must give it to you regarding the dorks that comes to Thailand and get all love sick on the first woman they see in a bar. The ones that just give away everything they got for the company of a young girl. There you are right, they are the real stupid losers. But they were stupid already since birth.

Edited January 30, 2020 by Matzzon

[IvorLott]

The OP is clearly asking in the wrong place, as obviously every married  member here, has either married a Hi-So General's daughter, who pay them to take her off his hands, or appear to be grooming some young super - intelligent lass through university in return for her favours under the guise of 'marriage'. 

 

OP, do the sensible thing and export your GF to where SIn sot doesn't exist.

[gamini]

12 hours ago, cornishcarlos said:

1.5 million.... They asked for 2 originally, but we only had 1.5 spare ????

All for show only... Straight back to us after the wedding

 

What's peoples issue with Sinsod ?? It's the custom here so just go with it, or insist to get married in your home country...

Its not the custom of upper class Thais.  But how few farangs know any?

[Isaan Alan]

Not sure if someone else has mentioned this but when a Thai man marries a Thai woman, yes he pays a sinsord but he often marries into property because his wife will have been left some of the family property if the parents have died. So in that case it is a real estate transaction. A problem there for us because farangs cannot own property.

So many stories about giving it back after the wedding because it's all for show. They care so much about "face" in their community and to their family and friends. Such a burden to carry! So different to Western ideas of marrying for love. For Thais love is shown by giving money in cash or gold. 

I am reliably informed that a previously married woman especially with children is not generally entitled to any sinsord. However many Thais will argue about that 

[KC 71]

We borrowed some money from my Father in law (for show)

then promptly returned it to him afterwards.I did buy some gold though.

[atyclb]

1 hour ago, ratcatcher said:

1 hour ago, ThaiBunny said:

Thailand is a feudal society.

Serfs up?

thats a very cruel play on words thing to say about the greatest sport

[ratcatcher]

1 minute ago, atyclb said:

thats a very cruel play on words thing to say about the greatest sport

Would you like me to wipeout my comment?

[atyclb]

8 minutes ago, Isaan Alan said:

Not sure if someone else has mentioned this but when a Thai man marries a Thai woman, yes he pays a sinsord but he often marries into property because his wife will have been left some of the family property if the parents have died. So in that case it is a real estate transaction. A problem there for us because farangs cannot own property.

So many stories about giving it back after the wedding because it's all for show. They care so much about "face" in their community and to their family and friends. Such a burden to carry! So different to Western ideas of marrying for love. For Thais love is shown by giving money in cash or gold. 

I am reliably informed that a previously married woman especially with children is not generally entitled to any sinsord. However many Thais will argue about that 

 

 

i may go have a coffee at starbucks tomorrow, can someone please loan me their macbook pro just for 1 hour please

[mike787]

11 hours ago, Yinn said:

This 500 million.

 

 

Damm lottery....I wish i had a vagina, I wonder if someone will pay that much to use/rent my A**H***

Edited January 30, 2020 by mike787

[Andrew Dwyer]

3 minutes ago, mike787 said:

Damm lottery....I wish i had a vagina, I wonder if someone will pay that much to use/rent my A**H***

That depends, do you bleach ?

[SOTIRIOS]

...just look at the 'body language' in some of those photos....it says it all...

 

...looks of contempt...disdain...even disgust.....

 

...yeah....give her (?) a condo...'right off the bat'....you'll be playing 'catch-up' the rest of your life...

 

...and hope that it doesn't serve for her to 'keep her other options open'...

 

...good luck....!!!

[richard_smith237]

5 minutes ago, SOTIRIOS said:

...just look at the 'body language' in some of those photos....it says it all...

 

...looks of contempt...disdain...even disgust.....

 

...yeah....give her (?) a condo...'right off the bat'....you'll be playing 'catch-up' the rest of your life...

 

...and hope that it doesn't serve for her to 'keep her other options open'...

 

...good luck....!!!

 

Or its just awkwardness at being forced to show a public display of affection in-font of a media frenzy when societal values have taught these women up to avoid such shows. 

Edited January 30, 2020 by richard_smith237

[Bassosa]

2 hours ago, ThaiBunny said:

Thailand is a feudal society. Haven't you worked that out yet?

Yep, but I'm not Thai, I'm from a Western background.

 

In a relationship it's give and take. Sin sod and other backwards customs I wouldn't agree with. Luckily my girlfriend is quite progressive.

[cornishcarlos]

47 minutes ago, gamini said:

Its not the custom of upper class Thais.  But how few farangs know any?

 

Maybe so...

[tomauasia]

17 hours ago, tlock said:

I married a 26 year old never married and no kids and paid 200k baht.  The mother borrowed gold and money from friends so at the wedding they announced 400k baht and were able to show it.  

 

I think the general rule of thumb is sinsod only applies to women who haven't been married before.  A condo is taking the <deleted>.  

 

 

I didnt pay and if you do you married the wrong woman. 

[mike787]

30 minutes ago, Andrew Dwyer said:

That depends, do you bleach ?

No but for 500 Mill i will do anything....

[tomauasia]

17 hours ago, Kadilo said:

Tell her if you have to pay you won’t bother getting married. Then see how much is about the money and how much is about being married. 

Correct another Thai scam originated from selling there daughters for sex services. I give to the family small amounts from time to time. If you want to be scammed pay. They can pay me for saving there daughter which they failed to do. Good luck to these Thais.

[allenberg]

2 hours ago, PatOngo said:

You certainly made a lot of guys look stupid when you won the POTY game.

+1

[richard_smith237]

8 minutes ago, tomauasia said:

I didnt pay and if you do you married the wrong woman. 

Based on your singular point of experience you have made this sweeping generalisation that 'if Sin-Sod is paid a man has married the wrong woman’ - with such a flawed and unimaginative argument presented it could also be countered that perhaps your wife married the wrong man !!! 

[mike787]

12 hours ago, fishtank said:

Why would you want to buy a Wife?

Pay nothing.

rent it from walking street.

[tomauasia]

11 hours ago, Tagged said:

In the village I live now, the going rate for a university educated no previous known history is 500 000,- This is what thai men have to pay for sin sod. 

Suckers

[tomauasia]

11 hours ago, Lacessit said:

LOL. IMO you'll find Filipinas have just as much focus, if not more. Just ask Rose Porteous.

There worse lm here now and there f ugly

[ratcatcher]

31 minutes ago, tomauasia said:

Correct another Thai scam originated from selling there daughters for sex services. I give to the family small amounts from time to time. If you want to be scammed pay. They can pay me for saving there daughter which they failed to do. Good luck to these Thais.

You must have an amazing relationship with her family, I hope you speak Thai. You are a noble chap for saving their daughter.

[bwpage3]

You can define Sinsod between two schools of thought when Sinsod comes up in discussions by farangs.

 

Camp 1: Those farang's that have a ton of money/income and gladly pay. (In the west they would pay for a full blown traditional wedding)

 

Camp 2: Those farang's that have little money, pay nothing, think Sinsod is Thai tradition only and 100 other crazy excuses not to pay. (In the west they would go to the courthouse and have the marriage paper signed versus paying for a full blown wedding).

 

Even though some farangs understand the game, they don't pay anything because most don't have anything to pay with.

 

We have read all the post about how many farangs live on 30K a month, you can pretty much bet they are not coming up with 300K Sinsod no matter what, Camp 2.

 

You read this post and hear crazy things like, I didn't pay anything but I am putting a daughter through college? Really? Is that it? Isn't educating your kids part of life and not something extravagant? If that is a claim to fame, you don't have enough of a pot to <deleted> in.

 

I think if one did a serious study on divorce, you would find a lot more people in Camp 2 have been divorced than in Camp 1?

 

It is a know fact that there are many foreigners living in Thailand on the very basic's, got married and dragged some Thai lady into their meager existence of a life, all just to have food and shelter.

 

Sinsod is very important in Isaan.

 

Anyone that understands Sinsod, understands it is part of a deep rooted Thai culture, whether you are Thai or not.

 

You married a Thai in Thailand.

 

I paid around 400K in Sinsod and another 10 baht of gold, which to this day my wife cherishes.

 

The money was returned by my father in law to my wife, and I had already told them I did not care if they kept the money or not.

 

At that time 400k was worth around $10k US

 

A full blown wedding in the US can cost 4 times that much.

 

The whole experience of marching through the village to her house will never be forgotten.

 

It was for my Father in Law's face, so for one day he could be the king of the village.

 

We had a huge reception in the village, with the big tents, live music, dancers, pig roasts.

 

When my wife and I had to get on the stage to make  a speech, she burst out crying, stating " I will never forget what you have done for me"

 

11 years later she never has.

 

 

 

 

 

 

[maprao]

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[Bassosa]

22 minutes ago, bwpage3 said:

You can define Sinsod between two schools of thought when Sinsod comes up in discussions by farangs.

 

Camp 1: Those farang's that have a ton of money/income and gladly pay. (In the west they would pay for a full blown traditional wedding)

 

Camp 2: Those farang's that have little money, pay nothing, think Sinsod is Thai tradition only and 100 other crazy excuses not to pay. (In the west they would go to the courthouse and have the marriage paper signed versus paying for a full blown wedding).

 

Even though some farangs understand the game, they don't pay anything because most don't have anything to pay with.

 

We have read all the post about how many farangs live on 30K a month, you can pretty much bet they are not coming up with 300K Sinsod no matter what, Camp 2.

 

You read this post and hear crazy things like, I didn't pay anything but I am putting a daughter through college? Really? Is that it? Isn't educating your kids part of life and not something extravagant? If that is a claim to fame, you don't have enough of a pot to <deleted> in.

 

I think if one did a serious study on divorce, you would find a lot more people in Camp 2 have been divorced than in Camp 1?

 

It is a know fact that there are many foreigners living in Thailand on the very basic's, got married and dragged some Thai lady into their meager existence of a life, all just to have food and shelter.

 

Sinsod is very important in Isaan.

 

Anyone that understands Sinsod, understands it is part of a deep rooted Thai culture, whether you are Thai or not.

 

You married a Thai in Thailand.

 

I paid around 400K in Sinsod and another 10 baht of gold, which to this day my wife cherishes.

 

The money was returned by my father in law to my wife, and I had already told them I did not care if they kept the money or not.

 

At that time 400k was worth around $10k US

 

A full blown wedding in the US can cost 4 times that much.

 

The whole experience of marching through the village to her house will never be forgotten.

 

It was for my Father in Law's face, so for one day he could be the king of the village.

 

We had a huge reception in the village, with the big tents, live music, dancers, pig roasts.

 

When my wife and I had to get on the stage to make  a speech, she burst out crying, stating " I will never forget what you have done for me"

 

11 years later she never has.

 

 

 

 

 

 

It is sad that your father in law needs you and your money to gain face.

Why can't he gain face with his actions, with his character and what he does?

[richard_smith237]

7 minutes ago, Bassosa said:

It is sad that your father in law needs you and your money to gain face.

Why can't he gain face with his actions, with his character and what he does?

 

Its sad that this is your only take-away from a post where someone identifies that he’s been respectful of the family he’s moving into. 

 

You seem to lack the ability to recognise that not all cultures are the same as ours. I suspect any cross cultural relationship you are involved with involves a lot of tension through your failure to accommodate other traditions, cultures and people. 

[Bassosa]

5 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Its sad that this is your only take-away from a post where someone identifies that he’s been respectful of the family he’s moving into. 

 

You seem to lack the ability to recognise that not all cultures are the same as ours. I suspect any cross cultural relationship you are involved with involves a lot of tension through your failure to accommodate other traditions, cultures and people. 

Yes, there was tension at times and so there should have been. In time you'll figure out a happy medium where both cultures are respected. Once again, it's give and take.

 

My observation is that when it comes to money matters within farang/thai relationships, Thai culture often governs and I wonder why.



 

Edited January 30, 2020 by Bassosa