Should I tell another Farang man that the Thai girlfriend he loves is cheating on him?

[CharlesBa]

So, I have a dilemma.

 

I met a Thai woman online and we chatted for about four months before meeting in Thailand and having a relationship, we even had a pregnancy scare (yes, I know, stupid) but luckily she was not pregnant. There were many things that later made me suspicious she was seeing other men. We broke up shortly after I returned home to Europe, partly because she started asking for money. After we had broken up I discovered through an extensive internet search that the whole time we were chatting and later having sex she was in a serious relationship with another farang man, they've been together for at least 18 months. This other man posts photos and videos of the two of them together to his social media accounts for his friends and family to see. I also know that he is paying her money every month and I think he even plans to bring her to Europe to live with him. She's a charming woman and she's attractive, but of course also very manipulative.

 

I feel awful when I know what she is doing behind his back. I have proof from various screenshots and photos that the same time she was messaging him and telling him that she misses him she was actually with me, and that sometimes in the same evening she would do separate video calls with both of us. I can leave this man with absolutely no doubt that his girlfriend was cheating on him and had a pregnancy scare. I also have definitive evidence that she has been at least planning to meet other men behind his back, and I think her infidelity is continuing. He was with her in November and then a few weeks later she was with me, in late February he flew out to meet her again, returning home just a few weeks ago (he's still in quarantine because of the coronavirus, and posting romantic clips of their video calls).

 

I feel awful for the poor man. I asked a Thai friend what she she thinks I should do and she said just leave it, it's not my business. I'm not sure I should take her viewpoint as a useful moral compass though, she's a Thai woman and so would have a culturally specific viewpoint.

 

What do you people on here think my duties are in this situation, and why? If I tell him, anonymously, what could go wrong? At the moment I think he'd want to know even if it devastates him in the short-term.

 

Thank you for your help.

Edited March 26, 2020 by CharlesBa

[baansgr]

I feel your reason, isn't to help him but to get your own back on her...so, no...move on and forget

[Odysseus123]

As your Thai friend has already said..just leave it as it is none of your business...

[Dexlowe]

Ahhhh, love in the time of Corona (apologies to Gabriel Garcia Marquez). Walk away. It's nothing to do with you. 

[Tiger1980]

If your girlfriend was cheating on you, would you not want to know.

[saengd]

Not your business, move on and forget.

[Sundown]

most probably she's living off his money so yes tell him 

[Puchaiyank]

Made me laugh...I have always assumed my gfs have had fun elsewhere from time to time...Thai culture is not western culture...having a gf or bf outside of marriage is not a big deal to many Thais...

 

He probably will not appreciate you pointing out the obvious and creating drama...

 

He is an adult...let him decide if it needs to be dealt with...ignorance can sustain the bliss...don't mess it up...

[Lacessit]

There is no "duty". It is 100% none of your business. You are trying to get back at her for conning you for a while.

[pookondee]

I am wondering how long it will be before the extreme religious folk start claiming this virus is punishment for folks "immoral and wicked ways"?

 

As the O.P says, the guy is probably relatively safe, in a more effective and better organised lockdown in his own country.

 

Cant say the same for the girl in Thailand tho.

 

Id say her love for money and belief that the virus will not touch her because she is "kon Thai" will not stop her lying and running around with other multiple farangs.

 

So theres every chance the guy might not have to pay her monthly wหore salary much longer once this virus takes hold.

 

And if so, i can think of a certain Thai term (3 syllables) that might be quite fitting.

[Davo369]

Oohh dear.. dear, dear, dear,

[Justgrazing]

2 hours ago, CharlesBa said:

What do you people on here think my duties are in this situation

I'd tell the dude .. then if he dumps her the lazy biatch will have to go and find another sponsor .. As for arkin' for money .. a lot of 'em do that .. Ignore until they throw a real strop then diffuse by ditching for another one .. rinse and repeat .. 

[Chazar]

2 hours ago, Tiger1980 said:

If your girlfriend was cheating on you, would you not want to know.

depends if  the cheat was  male or  female

[Chazar]

14 minutes ago, Justgrazing said:

I'd tell the dude .. then if he dumps her the lazy biatch will have to go and find another sponsor

see  plenty of suckers  out there, Wifes  niece is a manipulative cow just  like  her  Mother always  looking for someone to"take  care her"  just had the silicone tittys  done to increase her chances, already has the  tats, braced  teeth and daily narcissistic selfies she  keeps  her 4  yr  old daughter (that she gave birth to at 15) well  out of the picture its  dumped with her Mother while she does "promotional work" mainly at nightclubs judging by  the photos  on farcebook.............shes  pig  ugly  mind. Be ok with the lights  out I  guess????

[misterjames]

I would tell him us guys have to stick together too and I personally would want to know.

[PatOngo]

???? Here we go, YET AGAIN! ………...Just send him this! 

 

 

 

[champers]

I'm struggling to understand why the OP didn't carry out his extensive internet research before or during having a relationship with the lady. Instead he waits till they have split up.

[Chazar]

Better  still tell him shes a right  good  catch to  marry asap.........this  way he "may" learn something useful for the future

[jastheace]

8 minutes ago, Chazar said:

Better  still tell him shes a right  good  catch to  marry asap.........this  way he "may" learn something useful for the future

no. there'll be a post a few months later 'I think my gf cheated on me, what should I do'.

then, and only then with the vast experience of us TVF posters, with our advice,  he 'may' learn something. 

[PatOngo]

23 minutes ago, champers said:

I'm struggling to understand why the OP didn't carry out his extensive internet research before or during having a relationship with the lady. Instead he waits till they have split up.

Forgive them for they know not what they do! ????

[PatOngo]

2 minutes ago, jastheace said:

no. there'll be a post a few months later 'I think my gf cheated on me, what should I do'.

then, and only then with the vast experience of us TVF posters, with our advice,  he 'may' learn something. 

Let them live and learn! 

[Chazar]

16 minutes ago, jastheace said:

no. there'll be a post a few months later 'I think my gf cheated on me, what should I do'.

then, and only then with the vast experience of us TVF posters, with our advice,  he 'may' learn something. 

i  dont think anything will be learnt

[Chazar]

14 minutes ago, PatOngo said:

Let them live and learn! 

im sad and confused............advice???? dont press the wrong icon

[bkk6060]

The other guy may not care.

It is all very common.

I have been in bed with girls and during the act, they answer their phone.

I can here a guys voice on her phone and the girl demands he send her money immediately and hangs up. All the while, continuing the interaction with me.

As I am not looking for love, I think it is hilarious and actually makes the date more exciting.

[PatOngo]

8 minutes ago, bkk6060 said:

The other guy may not care.

It is all very common.

I have been in bed with girls and during the act, they answer their phone.

I can here a guys voice on her phone and the girl demands he send her money immediately and hangs up. All the while, continuing the interaction with me.

As I am not looking for love, I think it is hilarious and actually makes the date more exciting.

Angels.

[Elad]

I once met a bar girl, she had 3 mobile phones, and that was back in the day when phones were like breeze blocks. ????

[Tingtong2mut]

Burn her. Id want to know if it was me. And nothing wrong with doing it for vengeance. 

[Curt1591]

4 hours ago, CharlesBa said:

they've been together for at least 18 months.

Or, have they simply done the deed a time or two and continue chatting on the internet, along with the others that have done or are doing the same? 

 

Seriously?

[AlexRich]

Oh goodness, a newbie post? 

[OneMoreFarang]

He won't want to listen and he will deny it. You achieve nothing.