StreetCowboy Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 This evening again the boss at our local put his arm around my shoulders to welcome me to his pub (although I was there before he was) and shook my hand. I am not keen on acquaintances putting their arms around my shoulders. If you clap me on the near shoulder, I will resent that. If you put your arm around me, and clap me on the far shoulder, so far, I don't recall ever getting violent. What is your view on uninvited physical contact? 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CharlieH Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 Depends on how well or how long you have known them. NEW, back off ! Old friend, no problem Someone you havnt seen in awhile, no problem. Personally I dont ddo it at all, unless its a female.???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
talahtnut Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 I don't think that was a queer thing to do, was it? 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StreetCowboy Posted January 15, 2022 Author Share Posted January 15, 2022 Just now, talahtnut said: I don't think that was a queer thing to do, was it? It's not unusual, as Tom Jones might say. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1FinickyOne Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 I was out looking at homes with a real estate agent - The home owner was mowing his lawn and stopped when I arrived. He was literally dripping sweat... and then offered to shake my hand.. it was totally disgusting. Now, I just step back and wai everyone... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post talahtnut Posted January 15, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted January 15, 2022 1 minute ago, StreetCowboy said: It's not unusual, as Tom Jones might say. I remember a young lady touched my leg in 1972, , Tom Jones is wrong. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post TimBKK Posted January 15, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted January 15, 2022 “What is your view on uninvited physical contact?” Wouldn’t bother me at all. Acts of friendship that come from a good place are more than welcome. Suggest you light up, no offense intended. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post connda Posted January 15, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted January 15, 2022 (edited) If I see ya, I'll give you a hug. You don't grasp the proclivities of different cultures. "Don't Touch Me." Urban Upper Middle Class Yank. Edited January 15, 2022 by connda 1 1 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pgrahmm Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 Typically for me that could happen within a "broad" inner circle (sports competition their wives would too).... Competing over the years kind of earned that comraderie.... In the OP's example it would be an unwanted & unwelcome gesture beyond a handshake.... Especially in a bar/tavern/restaurant scene.... That's before the Covid pandemic changed all the rules..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post The Hammer2021 Posted January 15, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted January 15, 2022 Unacceptable especially in these covid times 1 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sticky Rice Balls Posted January 15, 2022 Share Posted January 15, 2022 25 minutes ago, The Hammer2021 said: Unacceptable especially in these covid times what about a stick 2 meters long--to poke a pal???..asking for a friend 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post StreetCowboy Posted January 16, 2022 Author Popular Post Share Posted January 16, 2022 10 hours ago, TimBKK said: “What is your view on uninvited physical contact?” Wouldn’t bother me at all. Acts of friendship that come from a good place are more than welcome. Suggest you light up, no offense intended. It's a no-smoking pub 1 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post ColeBOzbourne Posted January 16, 2022 Popular Post Share Posted January 16, 2022 12 hours ago, TimBKK said: Wouldn’t bother me at all. Acts of friendship that come from a good place are more than welcome. Suggest you light up, no offense intended. Everyone has a different level of comfort regarding personal space. You should respect that. Close-talkers and touchy-feely people have no concept of respect for others. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ColeBOzbourne Posted January 16, 2022 Share Posted January 16, 2022 Close Encounters: My own father was a shoulder clapper, and a hand holder. When he shook anyone's hand, male or female, he did not let go for the rest of the conversation, and he placed his other arm around their shoulder the entire time. He was just being friendly. But I felt uncomfortable as I could see the other person squirming to get away and he was oblivious. I hate it when people do that to me. I asked a close-talker once why she does that. Her face was always about four inches from the other person. Her first response was to ask if it was a problem because her breath stunk. I said no, I just don't like it, and you're so close my eyes cannot focus on you. She explained that she really loves to be close enough to see details in the other person's face, individual eyelashes, pores in the skin, feel the other person's breath on her face and inhale their breath. Sounded pretty freaky to me. That's the last thing I want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
userabcd Posted January 16, 2022 Share Posted January 16, 2022 just politely ask him not to do it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted January 17, 2022 Share Posted January 17, 2022 On 1/16/2022 at 2:29 AM, StreetCowboy said: I am not keen on acquaintances putting their arms around my shoulders. One might be so bold as to suggest you change your local. His pub his rules. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritManToo Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 On 1/15/2022 at 8:29 PM, StreetCowboy said: What is your view on uninvited physical contact? Call the police and have the establishment closed for breaking social distancing rules. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bbko Posted January 18, 2022 Share Posted January 18, 2022 On 1/15/2022 at 9:35 PM, connda said: "Don't Touch Me." Urban Upper Middle Class Yank. I'm from the US and agree with you, many of my fellow country men get bothered if touched, even if in a friendly way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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