13 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Yeah, but you're like 80 ......... once a month probably isn't that much of a chore!

 

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Yeah, but you're like 80 ......... once a month probably isn't that much of a chore!

I might just surprise you. My pulse rate is under 60 bpm, look up where that puts me in terms in terms of physical fitness for my age. No chore for me, I am always looking forward to my next bonk.

It's something for you to look forward to.

1 hour ago, jerrymahoney said:

 

I suppose I'll get to that eventually.

2 hours ago, Lacessit said:

I suppose I'll get to that eventually.

What -- 80?

Although I am not alone now, I will be all by myself next month, and looking forward to it. 

Robin Williams said "I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone"

On 2/24/2022 at 5:49 AM, georgegeorgia said:

so my question is , to mainly retired expats who live alone is ,are you never lonely that you need someone to live in with you ?

I find its the complete opposite . 

When I was living with someone  , I just seemed to with that one person all the time and felt a bit guilty and awkward mingling with other people , I much prefer being free and single 

I find it interesting that my original post has been responded to mostly by male expats - all of whom can presumably cure their loneliness with an injection of hard currency. There's nothing which helps the day-after-day challenges of everyday life here, nor are there any suggestions for those expat women who need, at the very least, a few friends to visit and talk to. I didn't realise how devastating it is to realise my only means of communication is by email - when that stops for whatever reason - the abandonment hurts and keeps on hurting. 

 

I'd had a friendly and seemingly genuine relationship with my British next door neighbour and his Thai live-in boyfriend right up until they sold their house, moved a short distance away and had their new home built to their design. Subsequently, it's clear that their friendship was false at best and opportune at worse - leaving me with no human communication or advice when needed. The moo baan is private and very small, with the other expat occupants married to Thai nationals.  It's also a long drive from the centre of Chiang Mai - with little or no farang  group activity. I'm not a fan of driving after dark here, which further restricts my opportunities to socialise.  

On 2/24/2022 at 12:02 AM, RichardColeman said:

Though I am married , I'd be more than OK to live on my own if it came to it. I think growing up as an only child you get used to your own company. I struggle more being married with family than being on my own !

 

 

 

Hmm, I get that.

 

I'm an Hispanic only child, of an Hispanic only child mother, extremely rare for the times and our culture,

 

My Mother raised me to be fiercely independant and self sufficient.

 

The result, although I've been married twice and have 3 children I am perfectly OK being alone.

 

I don't have many real friends, actually only one who I started kindergarden with, 60 years ago.

I've acquired and forgotten many acquaintances over the decades, that bond that some folks seem to need with people outside of family just doesn't bother me.

 

Strangely both my wife's are extremely social. I can/could do the act of socializing for them but it really means nothing to me