Do Expats become estranged and socially alienated ?

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[Hummin]

It is a sad thing that your originated country make you feel alien, and not leaving you with gratitude that you are able to live the life you have now, because you where born in the country you alienate your self from. 

 

Born in Thailand, it is very much depending on your family is rich or not, to experience such freedom as you have. 

[BobBKK]

Too much introspection - you might be very fortunate to be born into a nanny state and have a good education and career. Now you get to enjoy it in a relatively poor country - who cares if you feel alienated? 

[proton]

I am, I just ignore it and have another drink, then go to a concert. 'Them and they' is only OK for mental patients, trouble makers and idiots, IMO.

[Gottfrid]

This guy just needs to lighten up a bit.

[thaibeachlovers]

LOL. I didn't have to become an expat to become estranged and socially alienated.

Wherever one lives, society doesn't like those that are "different". Just by not joining in the after work swill I was out of the "cool guys club".

[KhunLA]

After meeting some of the aholes here, yes.  I became more anti social than ever.  TH does attract them.

 

Met a few like minded folks also, though TBH, time spent together, can't really say I know them.  Not like childhood friends, or long time coworkers that socialized together.

 

Always been a loner ... but here, I fall into the recluse category ????

 

DISCLAIMER:  didn't watch the vid, as I rarely do from these posts.

[LaosLover]

On 3/14/2023 at 5:08 PM, Gottfrid said:

This guy just needs to lighten up a bit.

Agreed.

 

His hysteria about trans bathrooms and school attendance requirements sounds like a rationale to stay in Thailand, like he wants to, against his wife's wishes.

 

He -and me- sort of moved here specifically to feel estranged from our expensive, dull home lands.

 

Why drag Trans people into it? Partic when he currently lives in Trans-central Thailand.

[herfiehandbag]

Well I don't know about estranged or alienated, but I should imagine that the nearby Thais are thinking/saying " look at that mad Falang walking around in circles in the middle of a building site haranguing his phone!"

[orchis]

he is a confused "defragmented person". if you're trans intolerant Thailand isn't the place for you.

[BritManToo]

1 hour ago, orchis said:

if you're trans intolerant Thailand isn't the place for you.

Would point out, once outside the tourist areas there aren't any.

 

Back to the OP, clinically depressed IMHO.

[Skallywag]

Yes, Dan about Thailand...this guy is a salesman/content provider/real estate agent I believe.  Cannot figure out how he "makes a living", but am a boomer and do not understand how people collecting subscribers and views make money online.

 

He needs a lot of income to raise a couple children and stay in fancy villas on Koh Chang and Jomtien and eat out at fancy restaurants...likely gets freebies for praising restaurants on his youtube and facebook channels.

 

He may be at a juncture where he sees his "content providing" really is not going to provide an income for the long haul, and real estate sales is a competitive market here in Thailand.  

I do not think he is estranged or alienated, yet because his lifestyle seems to be in the top 3% or so of expats here, not that many in his social wheelhouse. 

Yes, just speculating on much of this, yet have followed him online for a few years and this is my take.... 

[Skallywag]

34 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Would point out, once outside the tourist areas there aren't any.

Really?  No trans or ladyboys outside the tourist areas? I do not know, just asking

[BritManToo]

2 minutes ago, Skallywag said:

Really?  No trans or ladyboys outside the tourist areas? I do not know, just asking

I've not seen any, maybe they dress like men when they're not working.

[JoseThailand]

Being a foreigner in a country where a majority of people don't speak English or your language can be very stressful. That's why it's important to build your own social circle. In fact, a lot of expats tend to congregate together and stay in designated expat communities.

[zyphodb]

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Would point out, once outside the tourist areas there aren't any.

 

Back to the OP, clinically depressed IMHO.

There are, much older usually...

 

[BananaStrong]

I know every farang I see is likely a sexpat, running from the law, broke and about to ask me for money, or has or will have AIDS and has a CV similar to a blank page with their mom's number on it.

 

Farangs..............stay away, I don't speakie da inglieeeeeesheeeeee ABC

[transam]

3 minutes ago, BananaStrong said:

I know every farang I see is likely a sexpat, running from the law, broke and about to ask me for money, or has or will have AIDS and has a CV similar to a blank page with their mom's number on it.

 

Farangs..............stay away, I don't speakie da inglieeeeeesheeeeee ABC

Really, you must live in a dodgy area..............????

[BananaStrong]

I have no idea what this blokie is rambling about......

 

If his wife is from the UK, that's problem ONE.   divorce, immediately.  

Kids in Thailand in this pollution?  Should be arrested as a parent to make their kids suffer this air.

 

Not depressed, just trying to say something but I have no idea what it is.  If you are trying to use up all the internet on blah, blah, blah, then I get it.

[BananaStrong]

Just now, transam said:

Really, you must live in a dodgy area..............????

Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Udon, Phuket, Pattaya, and every other single city in Thailand.  

 

Only the richest areas!!!!!  yes, super "dodgy".   Gotta use my farang spray if they get too close!!!

[transam]

2 minutes ago, BananaStrong said:

Bangkok, Chiang Mai, Udon, Phuket, Pattaya, and every other single city in Thailand.  

 

Only the richest areas!!!!!  yes, super "dodgy".   Gotta use my farang spray if they get too close!!!

Oh, Brut...........????

[Gottfrid]

5 hours ago, JoseThailand said:

Being a foreigner in a country where a majority of people don't speak English or your language can be very stressful. That's why it's important to build your own social circle. In fact, a lot of expats tend to congregate together and stay in designated expat communities.

Yeah, same like being a foreigner settling in a foreign country and not care about learning the language in the country he/she like to live in. That´s really ignorant and stupid!

[JoseThailand]

3 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

Yeah, same like being a foreigner settling in a foreign country and not care about learning the language in the country he/she like to live in. That´s really ignorant and stupid!

It may take years to learn the language to a truly conversational level beyond basic everyday phrases and expressions. 

[thaibeachlovers]

12 hours ago, Skallywag said:

Really?  No trans or ladyboys outside the tourist areas? I do not know, just asking

I lived in the village for a while and didn't see any. Obviously that may not be true for every village, but their choice involves a lot of expense that would be unlikely able to afford as a rural worker.

 

Of course, those that become elderly may return to their village home.

[thaibeachlovers]

4 hours ago, JoseThailand said:

It may take years to learn the language to a truly conversational level beyond basic everyday phrases and expressions. 

You speak the truth, but some, it seems, are magically able to speak Thai conversationally after a couple of months in LOS.

 

I came to Thailand too late to discern tones, so my Thai language skills were somewhat restricted.

[thaibeachlovers]

7 hours ago, Gottfrid said:

Yeah, same like being a foreigner settling in a foreign country and not care about learning the language in the country he/she like to live in. That´s really ignorant and stupid!

I find your post ignorant of the fact that Thai is not an easy language to learn, and almost impossible for those that can't discern tones.

 

It's also completely unnecessary for a farang living in Pattaya, Bkk or Chiang Mai.

 

 

[thaibeachlovers]

11 hours ago, BananaStrong said:

Kids in Thailand in this pollution?  Should be arrested as a parent to make their kids suffer this air.

What on earth are you blathering on about? Only certain areas of Thailand get a lot of pollution, and usually not all year.

[LaosLover]

There's also a broad swath of Thai men that are slightly effeminate (by USA standards). My personal trainer is def a soft and very sweet personality. He has a GF he's dodging marrying.

 

I like that everything here is more shades of gray than in the states: religious belief, sex roles, honesty. It feels very forgiving and freeing (even tho I know its not for Thai people).

[OneMoreFarang]

Imagine if YouTubers wouldn't have to publish new videos all the time to keep their subscribers and income. Imagine they would only publish something if they really have something to say and insight into what they talk about... 

[LaosLover]

They keep having to up the ante to get the clicks: "This Nimman coffee bar tour will SHOCK you"

 

Oh, no it won't.