riclag Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 (edited) 24 minutes ago, KhunLA said: @AventurasEnMadrid can't wait till she brings up the Sin Sot, and no Thai person would pay for someone with kids already. That should really let you see things clearly. There will be a nice piece of land of hers or family you can build on, or buy something new in 'her' name. RUN True! But too early in the relationship for that ! For the consideration she’s got two kids . This drastically lowers the sinsot contribution ! Its in his favor. imop Edited July 9, 2023 by riclag 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KhunLA Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 7 minutes ago, riclag said: True! But too early in the relationship for that ! For the consideration she’s got two kids . This drastically lowers the sinsot contribution ! Its in his favor. imop I doesn't lower it, it illuminated even asking for it. Who pays extra for used, when you can rent or buy new. Then if she wants to have a kid with him, just became a family of 4, without the hanger ons... ... RUN 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Plern Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 This is the typical yob insurance I think it's cheeky Go along, pay for everything not out of line Consider it a learning experience on many levels Now you know the score you need not repeat this with another Go find a different and younger woman 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneMoreFarang Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 3 hours ago, Kwasaki said: Come on now some women like commitment, you look for one's who don't, so ok for you. I am since forever together with my gf. Most of the time we are happy and likely we will stay together until we die. In the time since we are together, I saw lots of couples marry and then divorce. It seems the marriage didn't help. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JimTripper Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 (edited) 5 hours ago, OneMoreFarang said: But do you want that? Especially in Thailand. It might be nice to be married to a woman from a rich family. But imagine you have some misunderstanding. And she tells her dad that you are so mean to her. Now what will her rich, and probably influential dad do? If you’re afraid of her father I don’t recommend starting the relationship at all. Edited July 9, 2023 by JimTripper Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mania Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 (edited) Has to be a wind up Six pages of yada yada yada but OP only ever made the original post If not a troll then pretty sad state of affairs when a 42 year old man needs relationship advice on a public forum & cannot decide on a simple matter of visiting GF's family or not Ok I'll play along..... My Advice would be for this girl to run from this sorry excuse of a man ???? Edited July 9, 2023 by mania 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 Ill bet she has a heard of bufallo too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 Did you negotiate how much money you are going to give her before or after you met ???? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hellohello123 Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 9:22 PM, BangkokReady said: He might not have put it very tactfully, but there are many, many reasons not to take on another man's kids. Especially if you're still reasonably young yourself. Agree, its politically incorrect to say like the way he did it, but if you are being totally sensible , the thought should.come.into your mind. Like saying its advisable not to date a woman who has had 3 husbands and 6 kids Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dickie Dee Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 3:19 AM, AventurasEnMadrid said: My new gf, divorced and working for an insurance company in Bangkok and a mother of 2 young children that live with her parents (children’s grandparents) in a city in Isaan wants me to visit her family for the weekend . She actually invited me the first time after only 1 week of dating but I turned her down then. This time I feel a bit uncomfortable but have agreed. Fwiw, I have been supporting her financially somewhat as well and her son is sick with long COVID, but have explained that there are limits. There are several other red flags I am feeling in the relationship but do feel I love her. Feedback welcome. Thank you everyone My new Thai gf took me to another city After7 days to meet the whole clan. Whatever. You have to admit it if she is a vacation fling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chuang Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 Guess who's coming for dinner... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Colabamumbai Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 Go and visit, getting serious she is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BMW Overlander Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 (edited) This thread is hilarious....been a while since I lmao this much ???? The combination of a gullible farang and no good Isan woman never disappoints. Edited July 9, 2023 by BMW Overlander 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NORDO Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 Mom’s rice cooker does not work. Brothers Cell is broke. Dad’s buffaloe is sick. Sister husband left her with three kids. Prepare to bend over buckoo. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BritManToo Posted July 9, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 9, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 6:22 PM, BangkokReady said: He might not have put it very tactfully, but there are many, many reasons not to take on another man's kids. Especially if you're still reasonably young yourself. I've had 5 of my own and 1 step-daughter. Best of all the kids is my step-daughter. If I were in a situation where I could save only one, it would be her. 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swm59nj Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 From what you are doing she might think marriage is in the works. That is what usually happens when they want you to meet the parents. You say you think you love her.. The relationship is less than one month. You need to get to know her more. You might right now like her, be attracted, and infatuated. But a true love. You need more time. And you already have questions about certain things about her. What you are doing to help her is over and above for a very short time in the relationship. My suggestion would say to her you will meet her parents. But make it clear you are doing out of courtesy. Not for a quick marriage. And maybe you should talk to her about these negative things you don’t want to mention. You don’t want to have a relationship with questions in your mind. Or lack of trust . 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wombat Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 You are both I love aren't you? Right So what's the problem? Oh and remembered to put all you buy in her name...it saves all the hassles. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotchilli Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:19 PM, AventurasEnMadrid said: My new gf, divorced and working for an insurance company in Bangkok and a mother of 2 young children that live with her parents (children’s grandparents) in a city in Isaan wants me to visit her family for the weekend . She actually invited me the first time after only 1 week of dating but I turned her down then. This time I feel a bit uncomfortable but have agreed. Fwiw, I have been supporting her financially somewhat as well and her son is sick with long COVID, but have explained that there are limits. There are several other red flags I am feeling in the relationship but do feel I love her. Feedback welcome. Thank you everyone Think of it in a different way, up to now she has "hopefully been honest" with you regarding herself and family back home. You are unsure of how far you wish to pursue this relationship. Go to her parents under the understanding it's a casual meeting without any promises. Assess the situation for yourself then make your decision if you wish to continue the relationship or bail-out. Realise if you want IN... there are no financial limits... you're IN the family or OUT. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Gecko123 Posted July 9, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 9, 2023 (edited) All these warnings that the family will likely descend upon the OP with endless financial hardship stories and conniving invitations to go sightseeing at the local Big C Supercenter, as amusing and entertaining as they are, are mostly just bar stool tales which have been embellished and handed down over the years. The chances of the OP encountering this behavior on an initial visit are pretty slim. Everyone is going to be on their best behavior. The girlfriend will be keeping everyone on a short leash, not only so as to not scare the OP off, but to make sure she remains the main beneficiary of his generosity. Edited July 10, 2023 by Gecko123 1 2 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malt25 Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 5:16 PM, save the frogs said: you love her enough to live in isaan? What's wrong with Isaan ? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
verticalift Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 Sorry to say this but…… If and when you arrive in Issan, be prepared to hand over a lotta Baht. You will have become a walking ATM machine….. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
save the frogs Posted July 9, 2023 Share Posted July 9, 2023 5 minutes ago, malt25 said: What's wrong with Isaan ? it was a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kennw Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 4:27 PM, Myran said: "after < 1 month of dating" "but do feel I love her" You can't love someone that you don't know, and getting to know someone on that level takes considerable time. Considering you're just a month in and already giving her money and getting invited to the family, it doesn't really sound promising. Only you can decide what works for you, but it's not a relationship I would take any further. Long covid sounds fishy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 12 hours ago, spidermike007 said: I think finding a good woman requires a proper qualification process. Taking a long time to make a determination to see if she is worthy of your time, and devotion, is always a good idea. See what she is made of. See what kind of heart and soul she has. 55555555555555555 Took me 5 years to find out that the women I first lived with wasn't worth my time. She was a good woman, but not right for me. You try to make it like we can have auditions for a partner, but life isn't like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 1 hour ago, Gecko123 said: All these warnings that the family will likely descend upon the OP with endless financial hardship stories and conniving invitations to go sightseeing at the local Big C Supercenter, as amusing and entertaining as they are, are mostly just bar stool tales which have been embellished and handed down over the years. The chances of the OP encountering this behavior on an initial visit are pretty slim. Everyone is going to be on their best behavior. The girlfriend will be keeping everyone on a short leash, not only so as to not scare the OP off, but to make sure she remains the main beneficiary of his generosity. Yes, happened to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post thaibeachlovers Posted July 10, 2023 Popular Post Share Posted July 10, 2023 11 hours ago, riclag said: True! But too early in the relationship for that ! For the consideration she’s got two kids . This drastically lowers the sinsot contribution ! Its in his favor. imop He doesn't owe any sin sod on a woman with children. At the most give something for show and get it back after ( what I did ). 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rocketboy2 Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 1 hour ago, malt25 said: What's wrong with Isaan ? Way to hot this year. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DILLIGAD Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 On 7/8/2023 at 5:22 PM, proton said: More like mr frog Somethings wrong here. The blokes in Thailand in a suit and tie and NOT Bible bashing, beware!!!!! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DILLIGAD Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 18 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said: Yes, happened to me. +1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thaibeachlovers Posted July 10, 2023 Share Posted July 10, 2023 16 minutes ago, thaibeachlovers said: He doesn't owe any sin sod on a woman with children. At the most give something for show and get it back after ( what I did ). I don't get what is so funny about that. It's a fact he doesn't have to give sinsod for a woman with kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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