3 examples of bad parenting in Thailand. Do you have any other?

[advancebooking]

1. The parents of the 16 yr old who let their daughter get involved with the 29 yr old American tiktok pedo (recently in the news). Why didn't they know what their daughter was up to for so long? 

2. Recently picked up my son from school. We were approaching the zebra crossing on a busy 4 way intersection. A 4 yr old girl was standing there alone with head down. She looked scared. No cars were stopping. We helped her cross and on she walked by herself. Where are her parents?

3. We went away recently and asked a Thai friend and her daughter to stay at our crib whilst we were away. I showed them the kitchen and said they can cook meals if they want. Oh no muma says 'we eat dinner from 7 eleven everynight'.  Nuff said. 

 

Any other examples, please write them below. 

[pgrahmm]

Unfortunately free range kids are very common here.....

Our 16 y/o is basically glued to her phone.....I wanted to set reasonable limits & my wife basically takes the "up to her" stance....

To my daughters credit, she is holding a 3.6 at school....She is very talented/gifted in many ways, however,  I have watched the creativity spiral downward close to zero with all her extra time going to playing on the phone.... Electronically free range....

I don't look forward to the wake up call....

[JeffersLos]

4 minutes ago, pgrahmm said:

Unfortunately free range kids are very common here.....

Our 16 y/o is basically glued to her phone.....I wanted to set reasonable limits & my wife basically takes the "up to her" stance....

To my daughters credit, she is holding a 3.6 at school....She is very talented/gifted in many ways, however,  I have watched the creativity spiral downward close to zero with all her extra time going to playing on the phone.... Electronically free range....

I don't look forward to the wake up call....

You have more than 10,000 posts on this one forum. Leading by example. ???? 

[CharlieKo]

In response

 

1. The age of consent in Thailand is 15. Not defending the American.

 

2. Why is this bad parenting. Surely the cars should stop when a pedestrian wants to cross at a zebra crossing.

 

3. Maybe that is what they can afford. Plenty of people by food from walking streets every night. which is probably cheaper than buying food you have to cook. Seems to me you are wrong about bad parenting.

[Adumbration]

Letting toddlers play on a busy road.

[pgrahmm]

7 minutes ago, JeffersLos said:

You have more than 10,000 posts on this one forum. Leading by example. ???? 

It's the only forum I'm involved in & it's taken 14 years.... Yeah, some time wasted as initially I got involved with some of the word games that account for half the total and certainly = wasted time....

I dropped participating in that when I noticed how the "posts" count accumulated....

 

I tend to ebb & flow posting....

 

But = point taken....

[pgrahmm]

2 minutes ago, Adumbration said:

Letting toddlers play on a busy road.

Toddlers standing up on motorcys between parents legs, gripping the handlebars to hang on.....Makes cringe every time....

[rattlesnake]

The most prominent example of bad parenting is not being bothered to take care of your kids and dumping them with the grandparents. Officially to go work and earn money… but when said money is spent on a top of the range car one can't afford… enough said. My parents always drove cheap cars, but they were with me every day.

[brianthainess]

26 minutes ago, pgrahmm said:

Unfortunately free range kids are very common here.....

Our 16 y/o is basically glued to her phone.....I wanted to set reasonable limits & my wife basically takes the "up to her" stance....

To my daughters credit, she is holding a 3.6 at school....She is very talented/gifted in many ways, however,  I have watched the creativity spiral downward close to zero with all her extra time going to playing on the phone.... Electronically free range....

I don't look forward to the wake up call....

Sorry just asking, do you ever suggest to your daughter about doing something maybe active together, where you can't look at a phone. 

[Lorry]

3 minutes ago, brianthainess said:

Sorry just asking, do you ever suggest to your daughter about doing something maybe active together, where you can't look at a phone. 

That would be child abuse

[FritsSikkink]

Maybe look at the parenting in your own country, is that much better or did you find a way to start Thai bashing?

Edited September 8, 2023 by FritsSikkink

[KhunLA]

Geez, would you all just leave already.  That would be a big improvement in you life ... or not.

[orchis]

1 hour ago, pgrahmm said:

Our 16 y/o is basically glued to her phone

another instance of bad parenting.

[pgrahmm]

40 minutes ago, brianthainess said:

Sorry just asking, do you ever suggest to your daughter about doing something maybe active together, where you can't look at a phone. 

Yes, I've booked & asked about activities, set up family times/games..... Supplied musical instruments she wanted to pursue that lasted for a short time.... She's the most accomplished freehand artist I've seen and I supplied everything she could possibly need....

We have Dad/Daughter days + slurpy days every Thursday....

I've managed to get us all out camping a few times.... I've taken them out for archery, mini golf trips....Have had her out bumping/digging/setting a volleyball, badminton, Frisbee toss & catch, also had her out hitting softballs off a tee & playing catch.....

Any ambition she's embraced she's had support....

 

[DudleySquat]

43 minutes ago, FritsSikkink said:

Maybe look at the parenting in your own country, is that much better or did you find a way to start Thai bashing?

It took a while. The old tried, and true chestnut.  "THAI BASHING!"

 

Don't let the kids see. 

[pgrahmm]

24 minutes ago, orchis said:

another instance of bad parenting.

Agreed, it took major contesting on my part to invoke an 8PM phone curfew on school nights....Which I think is still too lenient....

[FruitPudding]

My favorite is: adult on motorcycle wearing a helmet; child no helmet.

 

[DudleySquat]

11 minutes ago, FruitPudding said:

My favorite is: adult on motorcycle wearing a helmet; child no helmet.

 

Said child is an airbag. 

A helmet might get in the way.

[FruitPudding]

1 hour ago, FritsSikkink said:

Maybe look at the parenting in your own country, is that much better or did you find a way to start Thai bashing?

Uhm, yes, parenting is a lot better in my country in general.

[brianthainess]

*Sending kids of around 10 to 7/11 

*Granny sitting side saddle while a ten year old is driving

*Great Grand ma ma driving with small child in front, rubber necking every single house on the way.

*Holding an umbrellas, driving a motor bike, holding a baby, while looking at their phone

*Well anything to do driving motor bikes really.

[FruitPudding]

Turning a blind eye to your daughter doing sex work while pressuring her for money every month.

 

That's another classic.

[DudleySquat]

7 minutes ago, FruitPudding said:

Turning a blind eye to your daughter doing sex work while pressuring her for money every month.

 

That's another classic.

You will cause a great suction never seen or experienced on this forum.  They will fully unretire the old Chestnut of THAI BASHING!

 

 

 

[Gottfrid]

2 hours ago, advancebooking said:

1. The parents of the 16 yr old who let their daughter get involved with the 29 yr old American tiktok pedo (recently in the news). Why didn't they know what their daughter was up to for so long? 

2. Recently picked up my son from school. We were approaching the zebra crossing on a busy 4 way intersection. A 4 yr old girl was standing there alone with head down. She looked scared. No cars were stopping. We helped her cross and on she walked by herself. Where are her parents?

3. We went away recently and asked a Thai friend and her daughter to stay at our crib whilst we were away. I showed them the kitchen and said they can cook meals if they want. Oh no muma says 'we eat dinner from 7 eleven everynight'.  Nuff said. 

 

Any other examples, please write them below. 

You just started a never ending thread. Congrats!

[OneMoreFarang]

There are many reasons why I don't have kids and I am not a parent.

One reason is that if I would be a parent, I would like to be a good parent. Unfortunately, that is very difficult. So many things to do wrong, so many things which are impossible to get right.

And what is right? What grandmother suggests? Or the newest book from that famous bestseller author? It's impossible to get it right. I am sure many parents try their best. 

The easiest way is obviously not having kids and seeing all those mistakes from the others. ???? 

[Olav Seglem]

I have 3 children at home, luckily grown with own families and managed ok (plus).

But when i try to give small advice to my wife about upbringing of her daughters 2 boys, she dont listen at all, rather opposite. And yes, wifes daughter left for factory work in bangkok, leaving children with wifes 65 yrs old mother.

She cant assist with school work. Asked wife check up on their skills in reading, math etc-she only answer "have done"...

And go back to "tik-tok" :-(

 

[2baht]

9 hours ago, FritsSikkink said:

Maybe look at the parenting in your own country, is that much better or did you find a way to start Thai bashing?

It's not hard! 

[FritsSikkink]

13 hours ago, DudleySquat said:

It took a while. The old tried, and true chestnut.  "THAI BASHING!"

 

Don't let the kids see. 

It is when you blame the Thai parents for the evil actions of an American teacher.

[FritsSikkink]

12 hours ago, FruitPudding said:

Uhm, yes, parenting is a lot better in my country in general.

What country might that be?

[FritsSikkink]

14 hours ago, CharlieKo said:

In response

 

1. The age of consent in Thailand is 15. Not defending the American.

 

Not for a person who holds authority over the child. You are defending the teacher.

Edited September 9, 2023 by FritsSikkink

[FritsSikkink]

4 hours ago, Olav Seglem said:

I have 3 children at home, luckily grown with own families and managed ok (plus).

But when i try to give small advice to my wife about upbringing of her daughters 2 boys, she dont listen at all, rather opposite. And yes, wifes daughter left for factory work in bangkok, leaving children with wifes 65 yrs old mother.

She cant assist with school work. Asked wife check up on their skills in reading, math etc-she only answer "have done"...

And go back to "tik-tok" ????

 

If you are married, they are your kids too. What have you done parenting wise?