When you're old & lonely

[NextG]

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

Even more weird, I've been to those Thai BBQs several times, wouldn't dream of taking my own food, next time you go ask them if they think it's weird you take your own food

That’s because you lack imagination. Baaaaaaa ???? 

I don’t need to ask them, I’ve already told you how they treat me. 
I don’t need to delve into the minds of every individual. That would be weird. 
I have a great time, eating a variety of foods, enjoying conversation with friends, eating quality meats with hand made marinades, alongside the items provided by the restaurant. 
Not only that, but the staff are there when needed and actually clean up my mess.

Like a garden party with staff but all for a very reasonable price. 
In fact some staff members actually prepare food for me to ensure an authentic taste. 
So for this experience, it’s natural to tip generously. I don’t think of it as just paying for the food. I have an enjoyable time there and want to share my good feeling and am happy when I see a staff member jump for joy or express the gratitude profusely. 
Spreading the love. The fact that I take my own quality products does not impact on the restaurant in any negative way. In fact the only effect is positive for everyone concerned. 
So who cares what a sheeple thinks? I am happy, they are happy. But scuba thinks it’s weird ???? Hey ho…

[Bobthegimp]

2 hours ago, NextG said:

That’s not the full story with ‘pets’. Animals can love you if you are kind to them, even without feeding them. 
This isn’t just a theory. I’ve experienced this over many years. Even the animals I do feed are usually more interested in wallowing in the attention. Food is secondary, believe it or not. 

 "my pet is different " 555   

[BritManToo]

24 minutes ago, NextG said:

The fact that I take my own quality products does not impact on the restaurant in any negative way.

Just tell them you only eat Halal.

[NextG]

Just now, BritManToo said:

Just tell them you only eat Halal.

???? ???? 

Though it’s really not an issue. It’s a win:win for everyone; my party, the restaurant owner and the staff. 
It just blew scuba’s mind. Let’s hope he makes a full recovery. 

 

[NextG]

7 minutes ago, Bobthegimp said:

 "my pet is different " 555   

Actually I don’t have any pets…

[xylophone]

4 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

So some expats pay to be loved and have someone care for them?

I believe that to be true, and my experiences here seem to have borne that out.

 

On a personal level I prefer to be on my own and I'm never lonely, always finding something to keep me interested, despite a few ladies I've met trying to determine that I really do need someone to care for me, despite my protests (nicely so I may add).

 

Yonks ago I posted about the "mutually beneficial relationships" that I know of, where an older farang ties up with a younger Thai woman, and both seem to get on okay, and why not because he has someone to take care of him, and occasionally get some rumpy pumpy, and she has someone to care for her financially, and perhaps her family, with potentially a windfall when the farang pops his clogs. It's a win-win for them.

 

As if to confirm this, just yesterday I was having a manicure and a very large and older Australian man sitting next to me was lamenting the fact that he was in ill health with diabetes and other ailments, and the fact that he had difficulty walking, he was not in a good way. However he said that he was looking forward to a weeks time when he was moving in with his girlfriend up North, and his girlfriend was waiting outside of the shop for him and I would say was in her late 30s/early 40s.

 

So he had found someone to take care of him, and she had found someone to take care of her, so what's not to like?

[Bobthegimp]

2 minutes ago, NextG said:

Actually I don’t have any pets…

Woosh. 

[NextG]

2 minutes ago, Bobthegimp said:

Woosh. 

So you imagine ????

You had the opportunity to just keep it going. 

[bignok]

49 minutes ago, hotandsticky said:

Rubbish...'other people' have caused sadness when I was happy - others have made me happy when I wasn't.

Do others control your diet?

[Lacessit]

3 hours ago, NextG said:

Is there such word as misanthropist? ????

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mis·an·thrope

/ˈmis(ə)nˌTHrōp/

noun

noun: misanthropist

1. a person who dislikes humankind and avoids human society.

   "Scrooge wasn't the mean-spirited misanthrope most of us believe him to be"

    

   Misanthrope is more commonly used, although I have never heard of a philanthrope. One of the quirks of English.

[NextG]

11 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

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mis·an·thrope

/ˈmis(ə)nˌTHrōp/

 

noun

noun: misanthropist

1. a person who dislikes humankind and avoids human society.

   "Scrooge wasn't the mean-spirited misanthrope most of us believe him to be"

    

   Misanthrope is more commonly used, although I have never heard of a philanthrope. One of the quirks of English.

I still am not convinced. 

[JimTripper]

Guys who “utilize the services of prostitutes” are the loneliest guys around. It can be worse then just doing life solo.

 

Same for the prostitute.

 

Both are trying to provide something that’s not really there. It’s just an act.

Edited September 13, 2023 by JimTripper

[Adumbration]

Jeezus wept more fake content.

[kinyara]

Bye Reg

 

1) Was the airport packed with friends and family eagerly welcoming you home ?

2) How was the party, they did organise a party for you surely ?

3) What about the rest of life partner, it's only been a few weeks but any luck down the bingo club ?

 

But more importantly georgegeorgia want to know R U Okay ?

[LaosLover]

1 hour ago, NextG said:

So for this experience, it’s natural to tip generously

That settles it.

 

I wouldn't do it, but I occasionally pop into a tin shack place and I see it being done a bit. No one seems to care. I saw this happen at a Shan noodle dive too.

 

Tip them like it's a corkage fee. I'd toss them a hundred, what to you throw them?

Edited September 13, 2023 by LaosLover

[NextG]

2 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

That settles it.

 

I wouldn't do it, but I occasionally pop into a tin shack place and I see it being done a bit. No one seems to care. I saw this happen at a Shan noodle dive too.

 

Tip them like it's a corkage fee. I'd toss them a hundred, what to you throw them?

????????‍♂️ It’s nothing like a corkage fee ???? That is ridiculous. What don’t you understand about a single all in price? In other words, I could sit and eat their food all day. But in this case I am eating much less of their food, so it costs them less to have me as a customer. Win for the owner. Win for me because I get better food and a Win for the staff because I show my appreciation. 

A corkage fee covers you not buying alcoholic drinks at marked up prices(usually 300%) and using their glasses and their staff to open your bottle and to serve you. Extra costs for them that need to be compensated. 
There is no extra usage, no extra service, no loss, no negative outcome on either side. 
So there is absolutely no need for any kind of fee and therefore it’s not an issue. 
 

But my tips can be more generous than you suggest. Staff will even come out to thank me afterwards. They work hard and they appreciate that someone notices. 

[bignok]

57 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

Guys who “utilize the services of prostitutes” are the loneliest guys around. It can be worse then just doing life solo.

 

Same for the prostitute.

 

Both are trying to provide something that’s not really there. It’s just an act.

What about guys who date ladyboys?

[bignok]

26 minutes ago, LaosLover said:

That settles it.

 

I wouldn't do it, but I occasionally pop into a tin shack place and I see it being done a bit. No one seems to care. I saw this happen at a Shan noodle dive too.

 

Tip them like it's a corkage fee. I'd toss them a hundred, what to you throw them?

I tip drivers 3 to 7 baht

[transam]

2 minutes ago, bignok said:

What about guys who date ladyboys?

Tell us about it........????

[NextG]

1 hour ago, JimTripper said:

Guys who “utilize the services of prostitutes” are the loneliest guys around. It can be worse then just doing life solo.

 

Same for the prostitute.

 

Both are trying to provide something that’s not really there. It’s just an act.

I don’t altogether agree. It’s not as clear cut as you might imagine. 
I have met, in the past, girls coming down from Bangkok just to have sex. So they would wait for someone they actually liked. Yes, they told me so. I would walk past them every day with my shopping, so they didn’t see me as a sex tourist. I would hear things that the normal tourist/expat would not. 
Not just Asian girls, but one Caucasian told me similarly, that she gets her ‘love’ from her customers. 
So in some cases, it’s not just an act. 
They are still people. But of course they’ll also have customers that just want to use them and don’t care how they feel. 
You’d be surprised at how these girls can fall head over heels for the ‘right’ person. 
I was a particular target because they would see me every single day carrying my shopping and ignoring them. So after a while they really wanted to get to know me. I got to hear a lot that the average Joe would not. 


 

[Captain Monday]

5 hours ago, NextG said:

Is there such word as misanthropist? ????

A misanthropic philanthropist

A patron of evil doers and psychopaths?

 

[JimTripper]

1 hour ago, bignok said:

What about guys who date ladyboys?

Makes no difference who it is. Dating is one thing, "utilizing the services of prostitutes" is another. There's no grey area like guys like to believe. Someone is either there for the money, or not. It's not good or bad, just reality. Take money out of the relationship and you have your answer.

 

Maybe this guy ran out of money and discovered that he was lonely all along?

Edited September 13, 2023 by JimTripper

[hotandsticky]

2 hours ago, bignok said:

Do others control your diet?

Lost me there.......

 

...but that is not something new.

[bignok]

1 minute ago, hotandsticky said:

Lost me there.......

 

...but that is not something new.

Diet- body food

Thoughts and feelings - mind food

 

You should never let others control your thoughts and feelings. If they want to be bad so be it. You control your feelings not them.

 

If others can easily make you sad then they are masters and you a slave

[hotandsticky]

1 hour ago, bignok said:

Diet- body food

Thoughts and feelings - mind food

 

You should never let others control your thoughts and feelings. If they want to be bad so be it. You control your feelings not them.

 

If others can easily make you sad then they are masters and you a slave

I think that you think too much 

 

Fact - others (without having any control over you) can impact your mood; positively or negatively.

[bignok]

1 minute ago, hotandsticky said:

I think that you think too much 

 

Fact - others (without having any control over you) can impact your mood; positively or negatively.

Only if you let them. With training you can learn to ignore others. Your subconcious mind controls your mind. If you believe others can make you sad then so it is. Roger Bannister broke the 4 min mile. Nobody thought it could be done. Within 18 months lots of people did it. You are sad or happy because you programmed your thoughts a certain way.

[bignok]

https://medium.com/mariposa-magazine/sadness-is-more-addictive-than-happiness-44f996680c39

[still kicking]

This should be in General Thai, I am old and not lonely so I can't answer?

[scubascuba3]

6 hours ago, bignok said:

Only if you let them. With training you can learn to ignore others. Your subconcious mind controls your mind. If you believe others can make you sad then so it is. Roger Bannister broke the 4 min mile. Nobody thought it could be done. Within 18 months lots of people did it. You are sad or happy because you programmed your thoughts a certain way.

Reading too many self help books isn't good for you

[SiSePuede419]

Most Farangs would probably scowl and not say anything if you asked them "Are you OK"? ????