Dating In Thailand : On Immaturity

[JimTripper]

I'm meeting extremely immature women in Thailand when I date.

 

Is that the culture? Some are fun to be around but I can't imagine introducing any to my family or doing something serious.

 

Best I describe it is immaturity, giggling, kind of a shallowness of character or superficiality. Or, is it a language issue where nothing serious is discussed because the language is not there?

 

Anyone else have this problem?

[scubascuba3]

Are they giggling at you? is it the way you look? perhaps the way you come across?

 

I find them fine but i don't go on serious dates

[Lacessit]

The level of education in Thailand is of a standard ( deliberately kept that way ) where individual thought is discouraged.

 

You might have better luck with older women, who have more life experience.

[OneMoreFarang]

Some of us like immature giggling girls.

Many Thais try to behave and say what they think the other person wants to see and hear. 

[susanlea]

53 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I'm meeting extremely immature women in Thailand when I date.

 

Is that the culture? Some are fun to be around but I can't imagine introducing any to my family or doing something serious.

 

Best I describe it is immaturity, giggling, kind of a shallowness of character or superficiality. Or, is it a language issue where nothing serious is discussed because the language is not there?

 

Anyone else have this problem?

What is their education level?

[JimTripper]

12 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Some of us like immature giggling girls.

Many Thais try to behave and say what they think the other person wants to see and hear. 

I understand that. After years living here however, I'm increasingly finding the immaturity a turn off and an irritation. It seems like they can't be serious (without being mad or gloomy) for want of a better description. So it's either immature shallow stuff and 'stupid happy', or the other extreme of mad no talk, etc.

 

The other thing I don't like that kind of goes along with the immaturity is the pinching and play slapping stuff. Can't stand that unless it's only once in awhile.

 

I'm even seeking non-thai's more and more and only wanting to date foreigners because the maturity level is so much better. 

[OneMoreFarang]

1 minute ago, JimTripper said:

I understand that. After years living here however, I'm increasingly finding the immaturity a turn off and an irritation. It seems like they can't be serious (without being mad or gloomy) for want of a better description. So it's either immature shallow stuff and 'stupid happy', or the other extreme of mad no talk, etc.

 

I'm even seeking non-thai's more and more and only wanting to date foreigners because the maturity level is so much better. 

I think many of them don't want to be serious. I think serious is for many like sad, or maybe it reminds them of work.

 

Let's have fun, enjoy life, don't be serious. I think that is what many Thai (women) want. Thinking is for many the same as headache, they don't like it.

[susanlea]

8 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I understand that. After years living here however, I'm increasingly finding the immaturity a turn off and an irritation. It seems like they can't be serious (without being mad or gloomy) for want of a better description. So it's either immature shallow stuff and 'stupid happy', or the other extreme of mad no talk, etc.

 

The other thing I don't like that kind of goes along with the immaturity is the pinching and play slapping stuff. Can't stand that unless it's only once in awhile.

 

I'm even seeking non-thai's more and more and only wanting to date foreigners because the maturity level is so much better. 

You seriously picked the wrong country. Thais love to joke around.

[scubascuba3]

40 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I understand that. After years living here however, I'm increasingly finding the immaturity a turn off and an irritation. It seems like they can't be serious (without being mad or gloomy) for want of a better description. So it's either immature shallow stuff and 'stupid happy', or the other extreme of mad no talk, etc.

 

The other thing I don't like that kind of goes along with the immaturity is the pinching and play slapping stuff. Can't stand that unless it's only once in awhile.

 

I'm even seeking non-thai's more and more and only wanting to date foreigners because the maturity level is so much better. 

Sounds like you'd be better off with a grumpy fat farang woman circ 60

[JimTripper]

11 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Sounds like you'd be better off with a grumpy fat farang woman circ 60

I'm looking for a smart worldly sophisticated woman like the kind James Bond meets. They could be of any nationality or color. I'm not finding that here.

 

Can you see James Bond with these immature Thai ladies? Would never happen.

[daveAustin]

What demographic are you aiming at? Professional--pharmacists, air hostesses, businesswomen--or the 'other' professional? Big difference. How's your Thai?

[scubascuba3]

1 minute ago, JimTripper said:

I'm looking for a smart worldly sophisticated woman like the kind James Bond meets. They could be of any nationality or color. I'm not finding that here.

 

Can you see James Bond with these immature Thai ladies, would never happen.

I think you need to look in the mirror and keep it real. An older pom pui farang isn't so bad, more cushion for the pushin

[susanlea]

7 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I'm looking for a smart worldly sophisticated woman like the kind James Bond meets. They could be of any nationality or color. I'm not finding that here.

 

Can you see James Bond with these immature Thai ladies? Would never happen.

Why would a model date you? 

[susanlea]

5 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

I think you need to look in the mirror and keep it real. An older pom pui farang isn't so bad, more cushion for the pushin

I thought you hated fat people.

[RSD1]

1 hour ago, susanlea said:

What is their education level?

Don't tell us yours please. We already know. 

[RSD1]

6 minutes ago, susanlea said:

I thought you hated fat people.

How fat are you? 

[susanlea]

Just now, RSD1 said:

Don't tell us yours please. We already know. 

Yeah 3 levels above you. JJ market is your idea of travel 

[scubascuba3]

8 minutes ago, susanlea said:

I thought you hated fat people.

sometimes i like a bit of cushion for the pushin

[bob smith]

Thais are mostly very immature.

 

Not all of them, but most of them.

 

bob.

[scubascuba3]

1 minute ago, bob smith said:

Thais are mostly very immature.

 

Not all of them, but most of them.

 

bob.

Thai's are big kids, there's your answer 

[RSD1]

2 minutes ago, susanlea said:

Yeah 3 levels above you. JJ market is your idea of travel 

Got any more 40 Baht bargains for us this week? 
 

 

[susanlea]

Popular TV shows are silly. Silly humour appeals. Hard to find a serious Thai woman outside a top professional role.

[susanlea]

1 minute ago, scubascuba3 said:

Thai's are big kids, there's your answer 

Small really. Half the adults are smaller than kids.

[GinBoy2]

Well it's not genetic for sure.

 

Mrs G is all Thai, but brought up in the US, moved to Singapore where we met.

 

She's as feisty and mature as they get.

 

She's actually better educated than me, and trust me holds her own in fight

 

In fact our adult son remarked recently that his wife said to him, "i'd never mess with your Mom, she'd whip my ass"

 

Never a truer statement, and dammit I love that feisty badass lol

[RSD1]

3 minutes ago, susanlea said:

Hard to find a serious Thai woman outside a top professional role.

How would you know? Sad. 

[bob smith]

all you need to do to assess their maturity level is take a look at the garbage they watch every night on TV.

 

bob.

[scubascuba3]

6 minutes ago, susanlea said:

Small really. Half the adults are smaller than kids.

calling them small kids doesn't work 

[GinBoy2]

7 minutes ago, bob smith said:

all you need to do to assess their maturity level is take a look at the garbage they watch every night on TV.

 

bob.

Well I question that.

 

I've been married to two very smart women and both of them had and do have some very questionable choices in TV program preferences

 

....that may be genetic!

 

[stoner]

31 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I'm looking for a smart worldly sophisticated woman like the kind James Bond meets. They could be of any nationality or color. I'm not finding that here.

 

Can you see James Bond with these immature Thai ladies? Would never happen.

 

problem is you are not james bond. 

[susanlea]

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

calling them small kids doesn't work 

100kg 17yos and 40kg 30yos. Western diet now in Thailand.