I met Mr Independent

[georgegeorgia]

So today I spent the afternoon in LK metro 

There was no alcohol but I sat in a bar which I was happy there was no alcohol I don't drink it!

 

But to get to the story I spoke to another farang and we brought up the topic he is known as Mr Independent because he does live in Pattaya without any support 

 

He won't have a GF he doesn't even have family back in Belgium 

And we watched and watched time and time again farangs elderly who NEED a girl friend as a mother figure 

 

Be brutally honest,how many of you expat guys living in Thailand Don't have a girlfriend or some emotional person support 

Are you independent or you NEED a person to be there 

Mr Independent doesn't ,a string Belgium man 

[Nick Carter icp]

When I go to shopping centres the only people that I see holding hangs are Mothers with their  Children and Thai woman with their felang boyfriend .

   In both situations the woman is in control of the Male 

[georgegeorgia]

11 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

When I go to shopping centres the only people that I see holding hangs are Mothers with their  Children and Thai woman with their felang boyfriend .

   In both situations the woman is in control of the Male 

That's because the man WANTS it like that 

He needs a mother figure any Girl will do as long as he has SUPPORT whilst living here emotional which is fake but makes him feel like he is ok .

 

Some don't even have sex they just need a boss girl to look after them 

 

I would like expats here who are Mr Independent and rely on no one but themselves to get through life , unfortunately none nowadays 

 

[simon43]

I've lived in Thailand/south-east Asia for 22+ years.  The worst time that I had was when I had a Thai GF/wife.

 

Now divorced (for the 3rd time about 10 years ago), I am completely independent of anyone, Thai or otherwise.  I prefer it that way.  I no longer have the responsibility of considering the views of a wife or partner.  I can do what I want and go where I want. I'm a social guy, but have zero interest in sharing my life with a partner.

 

Since getting divorced all those years ago, I have traveled to or lived in Mauritius, Turkish coast, UK, Khao Lak, Koh Lanta, Koh Phangan, Samui, Pattaya, Ranong, Bueng Kan, Yangon, Mandalay, Naypyitaw, Luang Prabang... I'm not sure that I could do that with a partner 'in tow'.

[Enoon]

4 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

So today I spent the afternoon in LK metro 

There was no alcohol but I sat in a bar which I was happy there was no alcohol I don't drink it!

 

But to get to the story I spoke to another farang and we brought up the topic he is known as Mr Independent because he does live in Pattaya without any support 

 

He won't have a GF he doesn't even have family back in Belgium 

And we watched and watched time and time again farangs elderly who NEED a girl friend as a mother figure 

 

Be brutally honest,how many of you expat guys living in Thailand Don't have a girlfriend or some emotional person support 

Are you independent or you NEED a person to be there 

Mr Independent doesn't ,a string Belgium man 

 

There is nothing peculiar about human beings requiring and obtaining emotional support from other human beings.

 

It fact it rates 10/10 on the "Being a Normal Human" scale.

 

There is no arguing with that...... except from weird, delusional, dysfunctional, lonely, isolated, creepjerks.

 

"To be brutally honest".

 

🙂

 

 

 

 

[Hummin]

5 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

When I go to shopping centres the only people that I see holding hangs are Mothers with their  Children and Thai woman with their felang boyfriend .

   In both situations the woman is in control of the Male 

You must have a poor life Mr Nick 😁

 

Everywhere in the world, happy couples hold hands, not only at supermarkets in Thailand. 

 

I have to admit, I prefer to sit at the coffe shop while my wife shopping, or stay home. 

[KhunLA]

Been holding my partner's hand in public for over 50 years, in 7 or 8 different countries.   TH just happens to be one of them.

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Been holding my partner's hand in public for over 50 years, in 7 or 8 different countries.   TH just happens to be one of them.

Since my first gf in 3. Grade proud holding hands to

[Nick Carter icp]

53 minutes ago, Hummin said:

You must have a poor life Mr Nick 😁

 

Everywhere in the world, happy couples hold hands, not only at supermarkets in Thailand. 

 

I have to admit, I prefer to sit at the coffe shop while my wife shopping, or stay home. 

 

   I don't often see Thai couples holding hands .

Not even teenage couples .

Its just Parents with Children and Felangs with a Thai woman who hold hands in public

[Hummin]

15 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   I don't often see Thai couples holding hands .

Not even teenage couples .

Its just Parents with Children and Felangs with a Thai woman who hold hands in public

Young thais do more and more holding hands, hugs and kissing in public, but I have to admit it is more a western thing than a Thai culture. 

 

 

 

[Nick Carter icp]

12 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Young thais do more and more holding hands, hugs and kissing in public, but I have to admit it is more a western thing than a Thai culture. 

 

 

 

 

   I have never seen a Thai couple kissing in public . but yeah, a few hello and goodbye hugs and thats it 

[balo]

We don't hold hands in Thailand, it's a western thing.  Keep the distance and be respectable to each other. 

 

[scubascuba3]

In Pattaya mostly see guys dragging their girlfriends around 24/7, for some it's just an LT, others it's a monthly paid one. For a lot of men their partner is a rent a friend, who don't like being on their own.

 

Personally i like being independent, see friends and girls when i want, I don't drag anyone round

[EVENKEEL]

When in the mall with the ole lady, there'll be an old foreigner ahead of us holding hands with a lady and mine gently nudges my fingers and giggles.

 

[georgegeorgia]

9 hours ago, simon43 said:

I've lived in Thailand/south-east Asia for 22+ years.  The worst time that I had was when I had a Thai GF/wife.

 

Now divorced (for the 3rd time about 10 years ago), I am completely independent of anyone, Thai or otherwise.  I prefer it that way.  I no longer have the responsibility of considering the views of a wife or partner.  I can do what I want and go where I want. I'm a social guy, but have zero interest in sharing my life with a partner.

 

Since getting divorced all those years ago, I have traveled to or lived in Mauritius, Turkish coast, UK, Khao Lak, Koh Lanta, Koh Phangan, Samui, Pattaya, Ranong, Bueng Kan, Yangon, Mandalay, Naypyitaw, Luang Prabang... I'm not sure that I could do that with a partner 'in tow'.

Probably you have hit living independently 

But....where do you get your emotional support from?

Eg who care for you ?

Unless you talk to family overseas etc and rely on them 

[georgegeorgia]

2 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

In Pattaya mostly see guys dragging their girlfriends around 24/7, for some it's just an LT, others it's a monthly paid one. For a lot of men their partner is a rent a friend, who don't like being on their own.

 

Personally i like being independent, see friends and girls when i want, I don't drag anyone round

Ahhh that's the word I'm looking for ..rent a friend...Rent emotional support.....it makes them feel like someone cares .

Look ...how many of you and Bangkok would be the hardest place being a City...but how many of you expats only have yourself and can live independently by yourself and do everything by yourself?

I would hazard a guess 1% 

 

[georgegeorgia]

6 hours ago, Enoon said:

 

There is nothing peculiar about human beings requiring and obtaining emotional support from other human beings.

 

It fact it rates 10/10 on the "Being a Normal Human" scale.

 

There is no arguing with that...... except from weird, delusional, dysfunctional, lonely, isolated, creepjerks.

 

"To be brutally honest".

 

🙂

 

 

 

 

You have been mothered all your life it seems and that's not to be negatively 

But you can't do things yourself you need a "person" to be there for you.

And you admitted it 

It probably stems from your childhood where your Mum was there all the time yo wash your clothes etc 

[georgegeorgia]

9 hours ago, simon43 said:

I've lived in Thailand/south-east Asia for 22+ years.  The worst time that I had was when I had a Thai GF/wife.

 

Now divorced (for the 3rd time about 10 years ago), I am completely independent of anyone, Thai or otherwise.  I prefer it that way.  I no longer have the responsibility of considering the views of a wife or partner.  I can do what I want and go where I want. I'm a social guy, but have zero interest in sharing my life with a partner.

 

Since getting divorced all those years ago, I have traveled to or lived in Mauritius, Turkish coast, UK, Khao Lak, Koh Lanta, Koh Phangan, Samui, Pattaya, Ranong, Bueng Kan, Yangon, Mandalay, Naypyitaw, Luang Prabang... I'm not sure that I could do that with a partner 'in tow'.

You Sir are the true meaning of Mr Independent.

You look after yourself, and can survive only making your OWN decisions.

These other guys need to ask a Thai/Filipino GF theirs.

 

Strangely Filipino girls are more sought after by foreigners because they are true "mother type " figures 

 

So look at the psychology behind guys who go after Filipino partners in particular 

[KannikaP]

12 hours ago, georgegeorgia said:

So today I spent the afternoon in LK metro 

Did you have the Zimmer with you?

[fredwiggy]

6 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   I don't often see Thai couples holding hands .

Not even teenage couples .

Its just Parents with Children and Felangs with a Thai woman who hold hands in public

This goes along with outdated thinking. Showing support, care and love for your partner is normal behavior. Holding hands being one part of this. The lack of care here is obvious and this is one way it shows. I do see more people holding hands than when I first moved here, albeit only 6 years ago, and I'm thinking more have also noticed. The younger generation wants things like westerners do. They like our music, fashions, movies and other things so adopting holding hands comes with that, and is normal. It's the elders that frown on this. Part of a country becoming a developed one instead of third world, suppressed thinking.

[fredwiggy]

19 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

You Sir are the true meaning of Mr Independent.

You look after yourself, and can survive only making your OWN decisions.

These other guys need to ask a Thai/Filipino GF theirs.

 

Strangely Filipino girls are more sought after by foreigners because they are true "mother type " figures 

 

So look at the psychology behind guys who go after Filipino partners in particular 

I'm thinking it's attraction more than psychology, and the fact they speak English a lot more there. Some men want a mother figure, most want a girl like their mom in some ways, and to look different than her for obvious reasons.

[fredwiggy]

23 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

You have been mothered all your life it seems and that's not to be negatively 

But you can't do things yourself you need a "person" to be there for you.

And you admitted it 

It probably stems from your childhood where your Mum was there all the time yo wash your clothes etc 

Everyone needs someone to be there for them. That's human behavior. Some don't want it because of negative relationships where a woman hurt them. You can be independent and still want someone there for company, sex, shared times, a team to get things done. I learned to cook watching my dad, and also to clean. Taking more care of my children than my ex's did, and do. Sometimes a man has to be Mr. Mom because the mom doesn't want the job. A stable man learns from both parents, that the other is a partner and not a slave. A boy sees mom doing everything and thinks that's mom's job, and all dad has to do is bring home money. That always leads to strife.

[KhunLA]

6 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   I don't often see Thai couples holding hands .

Not even teenage couples .

Its just Parents with Children and Felangs with a Thai woman who hold hands in public

You obviously need to get out more, or at least open your eyes, as @Hummin points out, 'hand' holding is catching on.   I emphasize 'hand' holding, as when I first got here, I thought half the people were gay.

 

As seen so many woman / girls, men / boys, holding each others arms while walking about and in malls.  Much more physical contact than same sex friends where I grew up / USA.

 

Couples have morphed that down to hand holding, probably due to western TV viewing.  Rarer, but some even show affection in public now, though nothing like westerners.

[Nick Carter icp]

11 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

The younger generation wants things like westerners do. They like our music, fashions, movies and other things so adopting holding hands comes with that,

 

   What is that based on ?

Anyway , I was referring to older foreigners, rather than young Thais 

[Nick Carter icp]

12 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

You obviously need to get out more, or at least open your eyes, as @Hummin points out, 'hand' holding is catching on. 

 

   What is that based on ?

[fredwiggy]

Just now, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   What is that based on ?

Anyway , I was referring to older foreigners, rather than young Thais 

I was referring to what you said, that you don't see Thai couples holding hands much, which is true, although what I meant is that it's been catching on, where I see more doing it now than when I first moved here, and hear about it more also. Thai's adopt many things from westerners, and this is one of them, along with some kissing in public I've seen.

[KhunLA]

6 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   What is that based on ?

Seriously ...

... you forgot to ask for a source or a link to that info 

 

... as stated, get out more & open your eyes.  Pay attention with an unbias, preconceived mind, and you'll learn quite a bit.

[simon43]

1 hour ago, georgegeorgia said:

Probably you have hit living independently 

But....where do you get your emotional support from?

Eg who care for you ?

Unless you talk to family overseas etc and rely on them 

Emotional support?!!  The only people who need emotional support are those who are mentally-ill or soft-brained!  My father was 'old-skool' and I was brought up to understand that the world owes you nothing and you have to stand on your own 2 feet.  I have friends and family, both in-person and online, but contact with them is for social/family reasons, not for this new-fangled woke reason of emotional support. FFS grow a pair!

[Nick Carter icp]

3 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

 

 

... as stated, get out more & open your eyes.

 

   OK, I shall do that ,

Where should I go to where I will see Thais holding hands ?

I shall get out more .

Where shall I go to ?

[Nick Carter icp]

8 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Seriously ...

... you forgot to ask for a source or a link to that info 

 

   I was asking you what you opinion was based  on .

( BTW , Using emojis is rather juvenile , just like holding hands is )