Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[Hummin]

2 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

Why not just have the big handed LB rub the gel on your shoulders for you? Or did you try that and it didn't work?

Honestly, I went to Bangkok Hospital anti age center and got proper help after I had back problems and nerve damages with low vitamin D, T,  and severe depression. Managed to turn it all around and back in business.

Edited October 29 by Hummin

[Alpha84]

2 minutes ago, Olmate said:

Got that 100% right, monthly visit to an expert mature age massage shop owner near me is more than ample! She  somehow seems to know when that 'touch up' is needed too!! 

Only the finest pleasures in life, aye?

[Alpha84]

1 hour ago, KhunLA said:

OP, might want to go see a doc, as 50 is way to young to be having that problem.

It can actually happen at any age.

[Olmate]

2 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

Only the finest pleasures in life, aye?

No 'input' required from you thankfully ... 'exspurt alfie'! 😭

[Alpha84]

13 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Honestly, I went to Bangkok Hospital anti age center and got proper help after I had back problems and nerve damages with low vitamin D, T,  and severe depression. Managed to turn it all around and back in business.

You've lost me now. So where does the big handed LB fit into all this?

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

You've lost me now. So where does the big handed LB fit into all this?

That was supposed to be a joke 🙏

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

You've lost me now. So where does the big handed LB fit into all this?

Bur I have to admit I have experienced a few prostate massages throughout my life, and I can recomend if you dare, but not necessarily from a ladyboy with big hands. 

 

All mine was my kinky gf's 

[HighPriority]

7 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

Find yourself a ladyboy and wear your co-pilots cap 👍🏼

[RSD1]

6 minutes ago, HighPriority said:

Find yourself a ladyboy and wear your co-pilots cap 👍🏼

Two a year doesn't make you queer, right. Just ask GammaGlobs

[Ralf001]

31 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

So that's how you roll?

Any two particular fingers that you favor?

 

1 thumb.... from each hand.

 

She clap a tune whilst wiggling them.

[RSD1]

Just now, Ralf001 said:

 

1 thumb.... from each hand.

 

She clap a tune whilst wiggling them.

Post photos or it didn't happen.

[Olmate]

6 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

 

1 thumb.... from each hand.

 

She clap a tune whilst wiggling them.

I think Alphie would need   to evacuate prior to any procedure for sure! 

[Alpha84]

16 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

 

1 thumb.... from each hand.

 

She clap a tune whilst wiggling them.

Think I'd prefer two tongues rather than two thumbs. Have you tried that?

[1FinickyOne]

That's a lot of words to say you have ED

[Ralf001]

2 hours ago, RSD1 said:

Post photos or it didn't happen.

My arms are not long enough to reach round with me camera.

[MalcolmB]

8 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

 

Getting his hands on a t!t must easy enough - just play with himself... 

what ever you say Little Dickie.

[OneMoreFarang]

11 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

There is a big difference between not being so horny anymore, and not being able to perform.

I am not as horny as I was when I was younger, and I think overall that is good news. Many years ago, very horny, I needed to find some girl for the night. And more than one time I found one which did the job, but I wouldn't exactly introduce her to my friends.

Now, if I see a sexy girl and I get horny, fine, let's do it.

And if I don't see any girl like that, then it's also no problem. Let's go to sleep, fine.

 

And I think the performance depends a lot on what's on offer. I am sure with many ugly women I would not be able to perform. No problem, I don't want to f#$# ugly women.

Pretty cute girls still make me horny and the performance with the right girl is just fine.

 

[KhunLA]

4 hours ago, Alpha84 said:

It can actually happen at any age.

Happens, yes, no doubt ...

... but surely not normal, and something is causing.

 

OP doesn't offer much info.  Past relationship, or present 'type' of relationship/encounters.   

 

Just a thought, using myself, but a good part of the 'excitement' is the challenge of meeting like minded, verbal & visual engagement and anticipation of, well before any sex.

 

If op is simply a P4P customer, that wouldn't work for me either, especially if just ST or happy massages .... BORING in my world.

 

Did have a week long rental on first visit to TH, and that was fun.  But can't see the excitement in ... 'Hi ... how much ... OK ... bye'   .... BORING 

 

Wouldn't do much foe me either, not worth the lack of effort or cost 

[fredwiggy]

Are you waking up with morning wood? If so, it isn't physical and might be psychological and a need to see someone who can help with that. This might help................https://www.forhims.co.uk/blog/no-morning-erection-what-morning-wood-says-about-your-health

Edited October 30 by fredwiggy

[BritManToo]

6 hours ago, RSD1 said:

Ah yes, the classic “mind over matter” approach to physiology—because that’s definitely cracked the code for every guy facing midlife challenges! And Yohimbe bark? Nothing like a bit of mystery bark to tackle complex biology. Gotta love some solid bro science advice!

I always found cocoa powder worked well, banana and cocoa smoothie every morning.

This was when I was a bit ill a few years back, don't need it now.

 

Not expensive,

https://www.lazada.co.th/shop/ccspecialist

[ElwoodP]

Troll posts an replies removed.

Stop it now please.

[RSD1]

10 hours ago, NowNow said:

 

Mind over matter.... or find Yohimbe bark.

 

Brilliant. Truly groundbreaking stuff—you should write a self-help book or at least score a late-night infomercial slot. Your sage wisdom on mystery herbs and “imagination” is about as helpful as a street tout.

 

But please, go on—tell us more about how mind tricks and bark-rubbing have elevated your life. The rest of us will be over here, sticking to reality, while you work your magic on the nearest tree. If only they were capable of running away when they see you coming. 

[actonion]

12 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

Not much fun being 50 as you say,  but at least at 50 you know u not gonna die at 49

[NowNow]

1 minute ago, RSD1 said:

 

Brilliant. Truly groundbreaking stuff—you should write a self-help book or at least score a late-night infomercial slot. Your sage wisdom on mystery herbs and “imagination” is about as helpful as a street tout.

 

But please, go on—tell us more about how mind tricks and bark-rubbing have elevated your life. The rest of us will be over here, sticking to reality, while you work your magic on the nearest tree. If only they were capable of running away when they see you coming. 

 

What's going on with you this morning? Hormones?

 

Before Viagra etc, there was Yohimbe bark and Tongkat Ali.

They aren't mind tricks. It's just that many get distracted from optimal health and eventually lose control of their faculties. But you can regain function if your mind is right.

 

[PeachCH]

To get old and being old sucks big Time 😩

[jippytum]

13 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

 

[Nemises]

10 hours ago, habuspasha said:

I use testosterone gel (Andro-gel)

Where do you buy this?

[Sorted2024]

Shilajit 

[Thingamabob]

13 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

Infantilism.

[NowNow]

7 minutes ago, Thingamabob said:

Infantilism.

 

So? 😊