Over 50 and Feeling the Frustration

[habuspasha]

45 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

To me it’s an issue of being a man versus being an adolescent. So you do you.
 

But if you want to know more about the truth about women, they generally need more stimulation, it takes more time than men for them to reach climax, and it typically involves stimulation of multiple erogenous zones.
 

Generally, when a woman makes a lot of noise and appears to reach orgasm very quickly, it’s usually because she’s not enjoying it and simply wants it to stop. But don’t take my word for it. Read about it. Many women have written books about it. It’s also been discussed a lot online.

Thanks, Dad.  I've only be doing this for 70 years--to better and better  reviews.  Enough time to learn that "typically" and"Generally" don't count.

[Patong2021]

On 10/29/2024 at 11:14 AM, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

Pleasingly plump, Rubenesque men then. They have manboobs. Remember what Cornorshop used to say? Everyone needs a bosom for a pillow.

[save the frogs]

2 hours ago, RSD1 said:

Generally, when a woman makes a lot of noise and appears to reach orgasm very quickly, it’s usually because she’s not enjoying it and simply wants it to stop.

or she could be faking an orgasm because she knows the next paycheck is just around the corner.

 

[RSD1]

2 hours ago, Patong2021 said:

Pleasingly plump, Rubenesque men then. They have manboobs. Remember what Cornorshop used to say? Everyone needs a bosom for a pillow.

You make a really good point there. I mean if boobs is his thing then why should he limit his options like that?

 

[Ralf001]

5 hours ago, RSD1 said:

You need to live outside SEA to do that?

SEA has wall to wall flange on tap... no need to do the job yourself.

[RSD1]

8 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

SEA has wall to wall flange on tap... no need to do the job yourself.

Thank you for not telling us how well you growl on flange. This topic has become flooded already with old men who think that the whole world wants to know about their flange licking endeavors. 

[RSD1]

2 hours ago, save the frogs said:

or she could be faking an orgasm because she knows the next paycheck is just around the corner.

 

Suffice to say, any girl 20-30 (or more) years younger than their sponsor husband is faking lots of things. 

[Ralf001]

16 minutes ago, RSD1 said:

Thank you for not telling us how well you growl on flange. This topic has become flooded already with old men who think that the whole world wants to know about their flange licking endeavors. 

 

Were did I mention licking flange ?

[mikebell]

On 10/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

once you start down that path, is there any going back?

Yes.  I'm 82 and 'Go back' twice a week.

[Will B Good]

On 10/29/2024 at 10:14 PM, MalcolmB said:

I don’t like men. 
I like boobs. If I can play with boobs for five minutes I am good.

 

 

 

Not many expats over here without boobs......might be worth a buzz.....if you haven't tried it don't knock it.

 

 

[Peterphuket]

On 10/29/2024 at 3:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

I don't understand that, when I turned 50, now 27 years ago, I was very happy. I had just sold my company and settled in Thailand, and I have not regretted it for a moment, so I am still happy until death...it's not so difficult.

And don't forget 'Paradise on earth does not exist', that is my motto.

[JimTripper]

Why force something your body no longer wants to do?

 

I lost almost all interest at about 53. That would be mental interest that went away along with the physical. For me, the two are intertwined. It's still something I can do and enjoy, it's just far less often because I'm usually not interested.

 

I heard that some guys mentally are still there like you say, but the body is not. Can't tell you much about that, but it does not sound pleasant.

[GammaGlobulin]

On 10/30/2024 at 12:01 AM, StreetCowboy said:

Getting older is all its cracked up to be.  
If you don't like it, don't do it, and make room for the rest of us.

 

Of course, being younger would be better, and I tried that, back in the day.

 

SC

 

Seems to me, Sir....

 

That you have been quite successful at being younger.

 

For one thing:  Your passion for riding is a definite PLUS in your life.

 

As for me, I had taken GREAT PLEASURE in ROWING.....when I was younger.

 

Wishing you WELL, Sir.....as you age further.

 

You are a...GOOD MAN, IMHO.

 

As I know you know that I know that you are...INDEED.....

 

NOTE4:  Maybe, someday, I will visit Scotland, and I will find out what is so special about that place.  But, FIRST, I will visit Ireland....something I dearly wish to do....before I die.

 

I want to visit Ireland, to FEEL the land that created GREAT WRITERS.....as you might imagine....

 

THWACK

THWACK

THWACK

 

There was NO BETTER typewriter I might have purchased, when I was 16, back in the day, other than the OLYMPIA Office-Model, electric, which weight a tonne!

 

Just trying to move that typewriter, off my desk, in order to dust underneath, caused me a slipped disk, in my callow youth, which I still live with, so unfortunately.

 

Still, this slipped disk is worth having, since it reminds me of that wonderful KRAUT engineering, that I love...including the engineering of the Benz I owned, later in life.

 

By the way, I forgot to tell you:

 

After my Olympia was stolen, and it was stolen in that forbidden isle of Formosa, that HELLHOLE of an island....

 

I purchased an IBM SELECTRIC typewriter with the BALL.

 

Balls are the best.

 

IBM is an amazing company, even today.

 

=======

 

I could gush on, further, about IBM and Olympia.

 

Soon, I will start a Topic about both companies....

Hope you do not mind.

 

=========

 

NOTE4:  IMHO, and to all TV Members...  I would say that it might be almost impossible to find a better member than StreetCowboy, on the TV Forum.

 

My advice to all member is to do one's best to emulate StreetCowboy in all ways.  Doing so would definitely improve the inherent quality of this magnificent forum, a forum that I have been in love with...for many years.

 

I will not leave TV until forced to do so.

Hopefully, this will NEVER HAPPEN....

 

 

 

 

[Hummin]

2 hours ago, JimTripper said:

Why force something your body no longer wants to do?

 

I lost almost all interest at about 53. That would be mental interest that went away along with the physical. For me, the two are intertwined. It's still something I can do and enjoy, it's just far less often because I'm usually not interested.

 

I heard that some guys mentally are still there like you say, but the body is not. Can't tell you much about that, but it does not sound pleasant.

You dont have a partner?

[JimTripper]

5 minutes ago, Hummin said:

You dont have a partner?

I'm talking about my sex drive, not partners or relationships.

[Hummin]

29 minutes ago, JimTripper said:

I'm talking about my sex drive, not partners or relationships.

if you do not cultivate a sex life, then you might loose it, but my guess there is something wrong if you lost your sex drive at your 50ies. 

 

And if you have a partner, it is essential for the relationship as well

[save the frogs]

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

if you do not cultivate a sex life, then you might loose it,

yep. use it or lose it. 

 

[scubascuba3]

4 hours ago, save the frogs said:

yep. use it or lose it. 

 

Back home losing it must be widespread 

[save the frogs]

22 hours ago, JimTripper said:

I'm talking about my sex drive, not partners or relationships.

Try MACA pills or powder

 

It increases libido

 

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322511#ten-benefits

 

[NowNow]

23 hours ago, Hummin said:

if you do not cultivate a sex life, then you might loose it, but my guess there is something wrong if you lost your sex drive at your 50ies. 

 

And if you have a partner, it is essential for the relationship as well

 

'Sex drive' is misleading. By that description, I already lost my sex drive in my teens. But what I really lost interest in, was meaningless sex. Having it on tap as a teenager showed me how things worked. How I worked. Got to the point wherein I was simply performing and detached. Mid-flow I was asking myself why I was doing it. 

I guess one way to put it is giraffes aren't attracted to elephants. I'm not interested in hooking up with just anyone or anything.

Whereas some people are happy to have sex at all, no matter how filthy or sordid.

I'm not driven by the compulsion to have sex with anything. Sometimes I get an offer wherein the little head says yes, but the big head says no, as you already know that the aftermath would be unhealthy. Some do not have the same self restraint.

Often acting like horny dogs, confirming what many women already think about men. So they get those fools to pay for the privilege. One way or another. They understand those types are two a penny. Worthless in fact. Even dogs only have sex when the female is in heat. It's pitiful reading about men pumping themselves full of drugs to be able to perform. Nothing natural about that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[save the frogs]

55 minutes ago, NowNow said:

was meaningless sex.

I'm not sure there is such a thing as "meaningless" sex.

The term itself is too vague as to practically not mean anything.

 

[Hummin]

58 minutes ago, NowNow said:

 

'Sex drive' is misleading. By that description, I already lost my sex drive in my teens. But what I really lost interest in, was meaningless sex. Having it on tap as a teenager showed me how things worked. How I worked. Got to the point wherein I was simply performing and detached. Mid-flow I was asking myself why I was doing it. 

I guess one way to put it is giraffes aren't attracted to elephants. I'm not interested in hooking up with just anyone or anything.

Whereas some people are happy to have sex at all, no matter how filthy or sordid.

I'm not driven by the compulsion to have sex with anything. Sometimes I get an offer wherein the little head says yes, but the big head says no, as you already know that the aftermath would be unhealthy. Some do not have the same self restraint.

Often acting like horny dogs, confirming what many women already think about men. So they get those fools to pay for the privilege. One way or another. They understand those types are two a penny. Worthless in fact. Even dogs only have sex when the female is in heat. It's pitiful reading about men pumping themselves full of drugs to be able to perform. Nothing natural about that.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh my,,,,

[NowNow]

40 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

I'm not sure there is such a thing as "meaningless" sex.

The term itself is too vague as to practically not mean anything.

 

 

Hmmm... my keyboard is broken and I haven't gotten around to fixing it yet, so elaborating is difficult. Let's just say I respect myself and others and remember that is someone's daughter, sister etc and treat them accordingly. That for me means no exploitation, coercion nor wrongdoing. I'm not one of those who pretends to be helping someone by giving her money in exchange for sexual favours. Sex with someone who doesn't really want to have sex with you certainly qualifies as meaningless, as does sex with someone with whom you have no connection. For me, that is akin to (censored).

[JimTripper]

7 hours ago, NowNow said:

Sex with someone who doesn't really want to have sex with you certainly qualifies as meaningless, as does sex with someone with whom you have no connection. For me, that is akin to (censored).

 

[Ben Zioner]

On 10/29/2024 at 9:51 PM, 123Stodg said:

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

Jeez!..  get Taladafil 5mg daily. No side effects other than solid morning wood, most days. End of story.

 

I started ED at 56, it gave me another 16 years of happy sex life. And still going.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/30/2024 at 3:51 AM, 123Stodg said:

Well, let’s just cut to the chase—getting older isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. There’s the inevitable grey hair, the mysterious aches and pains, and, let’s face it, some truly annoying changes on the “personal health” front. I’m talking about a certain lack of enthusiasm below the belt. Once you hit 50, it’s like a switch flips, and suddenly your body decides it’s gonna make things more difficult in the bedroom. For most of my life, I didn’t give a second thought to, let’s call it, “rising to the occasion.” But now? Let’s just say that even when I’m mentally ready, my body’s got other plans.

 

I’ve tried every “natural” suggestion out there—believe me, I’ve done my research. Eating clean, quitting caffeine, working out regularly. They say “get more sleep,” but try telling that to the never-ending to-do list waiting every morning. I’ve loaded up on leafy greens, upped my water intake, and even swapped out some old habits for new, healthier ones. I’ve even gotten into meditation, trying to manage stress levels. But when it comes down to it, no matter how many vegetables I eat or how many squats I do, the problem persists.

 

And let’s talk about supplements. I’ve probably spent a small fortune on everything from ginseng to maca root, L-arginine to zinc. If it’s sold as a “natural” performance booster, it’s probably sitting somewhere in my drawer right now. But here’s the reality: it’s just not working. I’ve tried powders, pills, smoothies, and shakes—anything that promised even a glimmer of hope. All I got was stack full of bottles and a lingering sense of defeat.

 

Now, being in Thailand, let’s just say there’s no shortage of… commercial options. I’ve tried visiting a few of the top spots and, let’s be real, the experience is enough to leave anyone starry-eyed. Even had a go with a few young, eager hands-on assistants who are pretty dedicated to the “art” of service, and, yes, sometimes with more than one helping at a time. But here’s the thing—even with all that charm, dedication, and sheer effort in the mix, the results haven’t exactly changed much. Sure, it’s enjoyable and exciting, but my body just isn’t playing along the way it used to. If anything, it only adds to the frustration, knowing the mind’s all there, but the engine just won’t fire up like it once did.

 

Of course, there’s always the pharmaceutical route. But the idea of taking potentially risky meds doesn’t sit well with me. We’ve all seen the lists of side effects, and they’re no joke: headaches, dizziness, stomach issues and other health risks in general. Not exactly the kind of excitement I’m looking to add to my day. And, let’s be real—once you start down that path, is there any going back? I don’t want to be dependent on a prescription just to function normally, let alone to feel more confident.

 

So here I am, wondering if there’s some magic solution I haven’t stumbled across yet or if I just have to accept this as part of the new normal. It’s humbling, no doubt. And it’s frustrating beyond belief. But I’m also hoping there’s someone out there with some real advice—because, at this point, I’ll take any tips that don’t involve side effects or miracle powders. Hoping there are other people out there with wisdom who are on the same page.

You seem like the sort of person the so called health industry loves, as you help make them rich with their BS alternative therapies. I also contributed till I woke up and realised it's all smoke and mirrors.

 

Cialis works, and I had zero side effects. Giving it a go doesn't mean you have to continue if there are side effects.

 

Of course, you could just buy her a rabbit for Christmas and live a lesser life.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/1/2024 at 5:35 AM, Hummin said:

And if you have a partner, it is essential for the relationship as well

Women disagree with you. Both mine decided that they could cut me off that sort of thing and I'd still be an ATM. They were wrong.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/1/2024 at 4:58 AM, Hummin said:

I lost almost all interest at about 53. That would be mental interest that went away along with the physical. For me, the two are intertwined. It's still something I can do and enjoy, it's just far less often because I'm usually not interested.

That's not normal, especially as you are sometimes "interested".

 

However, take advantage of it. You'll be wealthier if you never have the urge again, as long as you don't keep supporting a woman without any benefits.

I'd have been better off if I'd lost "interest" at 20.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 10/31/2024 at 8:27 PM, Peterphuket said:

I don't understand that, when I turned 50, now 27 years ago, I was very happy. I had just sold my company and settled in Thailand, and I have not regretted it for a moment, so I am still happy until death...it's not so difficult.

And don't forget 'Paradise on earth does not exist', that is my motto.

Agree, but Thailand was a close to Paradise as I'm ever going to find on this rotten world.

[thaibeachlovers]

12 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Try MACA pills or powder

 

It increases libido

 

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322511#ten-benefits

 

If the problem is erectile gaining libido without the ability to use it would be cruel.