Your house is my house!

[Na Fan]

Lived here for more than a decade and mostly happily so. But this one thing seriously annoys the hell out of me.

 

Why does everyone feel like they can just walk into your property?

 

There is a door bell. You can ring it.

There is a door. You can knock.

You have a voice. You can ask before you enter.

 

But most people just don't give a damn and just walk  right in, as if they owned the damn place.

 

What the hell is up with that?! I am seriously asking. What are they thinking? It must be some cultural thing? But what on earth is the thinking behind it?

 

It would never even occur to me to do this to someone else.

 

 

 

[G_Money]

1.  Who are these people walking in?  Neighbors, total strangers, Thai post, family members, wife’s or GF  relatives?

 

2.  Does your door have locks?

[CallumWK]

10 minutes ago, Na Fan said:

Why does everyone feel like they can just walk into your property?

 

There is a door bell. You can ring it.

There is a door. You can knock.

You have a voice. You can ask before you enter.

 

I don't have that issue.

 

[daveAustin]

You gotta put your foot down and set boundaries from day one. 

[KhunLA]

You could actually tell them not to.   If they don't get the message, lock the door, then I guess they will have to knock.

 

First wife's family & friends did that, till I told them not to, and the addition of a 3 meter front wall w/locked door enforced that rule.

 

[Na Fan]

37 minutes ago, G_Money said:

1.  Who are these people walking in?  Neighbors, total strangers, Thai post, family members, wife’s or GF  relatives?

 

2.  Does your door have locks?

1. Neighbors, housekeepers, repairmen, friends, many different people

2. Yes, sure, but it feels silly to have to lock your door while you're at home. Also difficult to handle with kids as they go in and out a lot.

 

[Na Fan]

And to be clear, I mean INTO THE HOUSE. Not into the yard or lawn or driveway.

 

They walk right into the living room.

[Hummin]

2 minutes ago, Na Fan said:

And to be clear, I mean INTO THE HOUSE. Not into the yard or lawn or driveway.

 

They walk right into the living room.

And where is this? 

[blaze master]

Stop being a push over and tell them what you expect. 

[Hummin]

We have a dog who just the way he look, nobody comes without calling first. The other dog is in his kennel during to day, and released in the evening, so no surprises here at the doorstep. 

[Na Fan]

3 minutes ago, Hummin said:

And where is this? 

 

Central Thailand.

[G_Money]

Sounds like a leadership problem in the home.

[Hummin]

Central Thailand is big, but I guess a smaller a Village where everybody knows everyone, and local custom is to drop by and chat for hours, make small things for budda days, etc? 

 

At my parents in law house, it is like that, and the whole street is mostly family, and people who have lived all their lives there

[marin]

10 minutes ago, Na Fan said:

And to be clear, I mean INTO THE HOUSE. Not into the yard or lawn or driveway.

 

They walk right into the living room.

So you have no fence, gate or a lock? Seems the problem is yours alone. 

[OneMoreFarang]

54 minutes ago, Na Fan said:

What are they thinking?

Do you have any evidence that they are thinking?

qed

[Hummin]

4 minutes ago, G_Money said:

Sounds like a leadership problem in the home.

Most likely lack of understanding culture. I do not say it is like this everywhere in Thailand,.but my experience, it not unusual 

[OneMoreFarang]

31 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

You could actually tell them not to.   If they don't get the message, lock the door, then I guess they will have to knock.

 

First wife's family & friends did that, till I told them not to, and the addition of a 3 meter front wall w/locked door enforced that rule.

 

 

And obviously you see the same wall, just the other side of it. Do you like that view?

I understand that you want to set your rules. But is living in a bunker not a little restrictive? 

[transam]

6 minutes ago, G_Money said:

Sounds like a leadership problem in the home.

Why is that.....?

Any way, you live in a rented flat, so you will NEVER have a problem, try thinking about those who live in real properties, gardens, etc..

Thailand is NOT faragland, they have a way of life very different, including visiting habits.......😋

[Ralf001]

Yeah 3m walls here and video door bell on the gate.

 

Only those that have permission enter.

[transam]

2 minutes ago, Ralf001 said:

Yeah 3m walls here and video door bell on the gate.

 

Only those that have permission enter.

Prison......?   

[Ralf001]

3 minutes ago, transam said:

Prison......?   

Privacy.

[Hummin]

28 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Do you have any evidence that they are thinking?

qed

I have given up, and also given up everything I have made to make things easier, ans as well the routines I established at the farm. They will not adopt or change "their way" of doing things. Even 2 hours works takes my way, takes them a whole day if lucky.

[MalcolmB]

Can you speak Thai?

They probably just ignore you if not.

[Na Fan]

1 minute ago, MalcolmB said:

Can you speak Thai?

They probably just ignore you if not.

Yes. Our household is purely Thai spoken.

[transam]

2 minutes ago, MalcolmB said:

Can you speak Thai?

They probably just ignore you if not.

No they don't, but they may do in your bar hang-outs.......

 

But, we know you don't speak Thai, only been here a few months, your flip-flops may get you ignored though.....😬

[G_Money]

Living the dream in a Thai village or in the boonies.  
 

One reaps what they sow.

 

Not only no but Fuc- no

[Grumpy one]

Get an angry dog or grow a set and bark at them yourself

All that is needed is 2 words   F##k Off  used with a bit of anger works well

[transam]

5 minutes ago, G_Money said:

Living the dream in a Thai village or in the boonies.  
 

One reaps what they sow.

 

Not only no but Fuc- no

Not all like sitting in a rented flat in a girly bar town like you, though...................😬

[KhunLA]

1 hour ago, OneMoreFarang said:

 

And obviously you see the same wall, just the other side of it. Do you like that view?

I understand that you want to set your rules. But is living in a bunker not a little restrictive? 

That's the front, which has no view, and a bit too much traffic.  Besides i need the privacy, since not a big fan of wearing clothes.

 

Back yard sloped down a wee bit, and a view, sort of, other side of the seasonal stream.

 

Plenty of areas to sit, all without annoying in-laws or unwanted neighbors popping in at a whim 😎

 

 

 

 

No dog when living there ... 

 

Actually the wall was a plus, when sitting on front porch ...

... and people love leaving doors open, and would hate to have our peacock get run over 🙄

 

 

or in the AC, looking out ..

 

[mokwit]

Nobody borrowed your car yet?