Living alone in Bangkok

[georgegeorgia]

I know all single male expats go to live in Pattaya 

But can you do it in Bangkok 

Is it more lonely for a single male than Pattaya ?

Who lives here in Bangkok.... alone?

[Harrisfan]

Why do you want to live alone? 

[PeachCH]

When I was working in Bangkok for 15 years, was living alone. Had a maid for cleaning.

Independent in Krungthep is a gift for men.😁👍

[sikishrory]

"all single male expats go to live in Pattaya"

Yea nar

[fredwiggy]

I would think living in a much bigger city, away from the main prostitution areas, would give a single expat a much better chance to find a regular woman, with a better job, and have a better assortment of good food and things to do, still being close to the beach areas.

[Andrew65]

On 3/25/2025 at 10:26 AM, Harrisfan said:

Why do you want to live alone? 

Bangkok's the best place in the world to be single, why would you want to be living with someone?

I lived there on my own for 20 years.

[Andrew65]

1 hour ago, PeachCH said:

When I was working in Bangkok for 15 years, was living alone. Had a maid for cleaning.

Independent in Krungthep is a gift for men.😁👍

A maid for cleaning.
Your laundry's done.
You eat out anyway.
Nookie, no problemo.😊

[Harrisfan]

3 minutes ago, Andrew65 said:

A maid for cleaning.
Your laundry's done.
You eat out anyway.
Nookie, no problemo.😊

What about love?

[Andrew65]

4 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

What about love?

"Don't talk to me about love."😊

[Yagoda]

On 3/25/2025 at 5:25 PM, georgegeorgia said:

I know all single male expats go to live in Pattaya 

But can you do it in Bangkok 

Is it more lonely for a single male than Pattaya ?

Who lives here in Bangkok.... alone?

Why wouldnt you live there alone? There are girls everywhere. 

[Grumpy one]

Years ago, after living in hell with a cow from Khon Kaen, I moved to BKK

Stayed there a year, I lived alone but was never alone

My liver made me leave; it couldn't handle my nightly activities 

[Cat Boy]

I've lived alone in Bangkok for nearly 20 years now. 

I did live briefly in Khao Lak, 5-months, as I came to Thailand, on work, just after the Tsunami, but moved to Bangkok in January 2006. It's a wonderful city to live in, the arts, cinema, wonderful parks, I bicycle everyday, nearly everywhere.

I could walk anywhere in Bangkok and feel safe anytime of the day or night, that's critical.

My Thai is adequate, but minimal. BTS/MRT/AirportLink go everywhere now. 

In all these years, I've never felt homesick, no once. The two times that I did briefly return for a week in 2006 when my father died, and later a for a week to renew my then B-visa. The first time was unavoidable, the second, complete waste of time. If I never see that country again I wouldn't miss it.

I see absolutely no issues about living alone, if that is your preference and you're secure in yourself.

It's really more of a personal issue, no mater where in the world you choose to live.

[Cat Boy]

37 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

What about love?

As Tina Turner so aptly put it "What's love got to do with it?".

Again, that's on you, no mater where you chose to call home.

 

[KhunLA]

5 minutes ago, Cat Boy said:

I see absolutely no issues about living alone, if that is your preference and you're secure in yourself.

It's really more of a personal issue, no mater where in the world you choose to live.

Of the 50  years adulthood, 20+ years of those were living alone, by choice, and at few different locations, state, and 2 different counties (USA & TH).

 

Enjoy relationships, until I don't.  Living alone is fine, and quite enjoyable.  Never lonely, or without company when wanting.

 

As stated, need to be secure with yourself, and not an introvert, if going to be happy, for me anyway.  Ability to self entertain, and get out & about locally and not be sedentary.  

 

You'd be amazed how many are like minded like yourself.  If not meeting the present wife, while not looking for a relationship, then it would be almost 40 years living alone.

 

[hotsun]

On 3/25/2025 at 3:26 AM, Harrisfan said:

Why do you want to live alone? 

When youre married, thats all you ever think about

[Andrew65]

51 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

What about love?

If you're looking for love in go-go bars you're probably looking in the wrong place. But you can get Thai women who have ordinary jobs too.

I'm now 7 years living back in the UK, and still living on my own, in that regard, out of choice. I'm 60 and for pretty much all of my adult life I've lived on my own.

[Harrisfan]

1 minute ago, Andrew65 said:

If you're looking for love in go-go bars you're probably looking in the wrong place. But you can get Thai women who have ordinary jobs too.

I'm now 7 years living back in the UK, and still living on my own, in that regard, out of choice. I'm 60 and for pretty much all of my adult life I've lived on my own.

Go go bars lol

I've only been to 2. 

[Andrew65]

2 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Go go bars lol

I've only been to 2. 

Yes, but for many that's what it's about.

In the last 5 years that I lived there I went in one once a year, or even less than that, and then only to meet someone for a drink.

[Cameroni]

I don't believe many men want to live alone.

 

Yes, maid and sex service is easily had in Thailand.

 

But neither man nor woman is really happy alone, bar very few exceptions.

 

 

[Andrew65]

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

I don't believe many men want to live alone.

 

Yes, maid and sex service is easily had in Thailand.

 

But neither man nor woman is really happy alone, bar very few exceptions.

 

 

...and then you get the multiple-divorcees who can't believe that anyone wouldn't want to be married?

[hotsun]

2 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

I don't believe many men want to live alone.

 

Yes, maid and sex service is easily had in Thailand.

 

But neither man nor woman is really happy alone, bar very few exceptions.

 

 

Never happy no matter what then. In order for men and women to coexist, at least one has to be tolerant which is rare

[jas007]

On 3/25/2025 at 5:25 PM, georgegeorgia said:

I know all single male expats go to live in Pattaya 

But can you do it in Bangkok 

Is it more lonely for a single male than Pattaya ?

Who lives here in Bangkok.... alone?

I'm in Pattaya, and every once in a while I think about moving to Bangkok, just for a change of scenery.  Big cities can be fun.  I once lived in New York City, so it's not as if a big city would be anything new for me.

 

Anyway, I think about it and then I finally come to my senses and decide I'd be better off maintaining a condo at the beach in the Pattaya area as a base of operations and then travel around when I want.  Bangkok isn't that far away if I ever want to go and spend a month there.  It doesn't have to cost too much to stay there for a month.  Ditto for trips to just about anywhere else in Thailand or even elsewhere in SE Asia.  Just hop on a plane and in an hour or so, you're there.  There's no real reason why I have to be anywhere, so long as I have my laptop, my phone, and my iPad and internet access. 

[Cameroni]

3 minutes ago, Andrew65 said:

...and then you get the multiple-divorcees who can't believe that anyone wouldn't want to be married?

 

Without a doubt these exist, men who have been so cheated, traumatised and disappointed with their partner that they want to go their own way. Women too of course.

 

But they are a minority I think, even if a man or woman had a bad divorce or a couple of bad ones, most of the time they still try again. Precisely because the pull of duality, the draw of the other, is so strong.

 

 Having a partner does not just make your life easier, in the sense that they do housework or cook or perform sexual relief. It is a different way of life, to have the purpose of helping someone else, them helping you, supporting you emotionally, joking with you, providing the human touch. Very few men or women want to be without that.

 

8 minutes ago, hotsun said:

Never happy no matter what then. In order for men and women to coexist, at least one has to be tolerant which is rare

 

In oder for man and woman to have a relationship there HAS TO BE inequality. Or else there would be no reason to have a relationship. One has to want something from the other you don't have, or you would not enter into the relationship. This inequality continues in that one party ALWAYS is the adored party and the other the adorer. So one has to be tolerant of not feeling love, if you are the adored. By its very nature love is a compromise.

[Watawattana]

These debates always make me think about this cartoon.  Me personally?  I live with someone just now.  Sometimes I regret it, but not for long.  You get a "good one" (don't ask me to define), then the regrets are rare.  Equally, I have lived on my own before for a few years, did not regret that as could always find 'company' if I wanted it.  But there was definitely something missing.  That's missing for me personally, and doesn't not mean it'd be missing for someone else.  Biggest thing for me is to recognise any mental health issues that you have, and to find ways of mitigating those.  Learn to look after yourself is a key thing.  The person who left Bangkok to look after his liver is a good example.

[camper star]

2 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

What about love?

love is negotiated I guess 

[charmonman]

3 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

What about love?

What’s love got to do, got to do with it?

[1happykamper]

2 hours ago, Yagoda said:

Why wouldnt you live there alone? There are girls everywhere. 

The chances of finding a, woman that ADDS to my life is slim. I choose to live alone...its sooooo much easier, cheaper and frankly... I'm happier 

[Ralf001]

On 3/25/2025 at 5:25 PM, georgegeorgia said:

I know all single male expats go to live in Pattaya 

But can you do it in Bangkok 

Is it more lonely for a single male than Pattaya ?

Who lives here in Bangkok.... alone?

 

Bangers is better for picking up the sluzza's.

[georgegeorgia]

6 hours ago, Ralf001 said:

 

Bangers is better for picking up the sluzza's.

A man of your age ! 

Disgusting 

I wish you had met that big Scottish lady in the pool 

[Ralf001]

2 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

A man of your age ! 

Disgusting 

 

What is my age ?