Beating children

[Hummin]

Two houses  I have lived in Isaan now, and the neighbour across the street beat her twins every day.

 

Now at the farm, closest neighbour is 350m away, and the grandma beating her 3 year old granddaughter almost every day. 

 

I'm sick and tired off hearing her crying, and it tears me up inside knowing what's going on. But everyone's who knows, keeps to themselves and do nothing. 

 

No wonder so many ending up in Tourist districts in young age. 

[brewsterbudgen]

Call the police.  Corporal punishment has been made "illegal" in Thailand. Good luck!

[Hummin]

5 minutes ago, brewsterbudgen said:

Call the police.  Corporal punishment has been made "illegal" in Thailand. Good luck!

Here they never call the police, can not trust police, and even trying to do good, you put yourself out

[hotsun]

Reality of why i cant live in thailand was because i decided to have kids. Homeschooling would be the only way

[hotsun]

10 minutes ago, brewsterbudgen said:

Call the police.  Corporal punishment has been made "illegal" in Thailand. Good luck!

Dont make me laugh

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, Hummin said:

Two houses  I have lived in Isaan now

 

Move away from Isaan. It's a backward place.

What's the point of owning a cheap giant house, but living in a place with a backward mentality?

 

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, hotsun said:

Reality of why i cant live in thailand was because i decided to have kids. Homeschooling would be the only way

They stopped beating at the school, here, at least wife's niese living with us. 

 

She went from lowest ranked to top 1-4. From being bullied to be the one everyone wants to be on the team with.

 

All it took, meet up and talk to the teachers at their sport day. Normal conversation where I asked them questions how they teaching philosophy was, and if they still beating their kids as before, with a smile of course 

[Hummin]

1 minute ago, save the frogs said:

 

Move away from Isaan. It's a backward place.

What's the point of owning a cheap giant house, but living in a place with a backward mentality?

 

It gives me more freedom and space while in Thailand. No place in Thailand is perfect, so it is give and take. 

 

But this is first time I know about they take care of their granddaughter while parents working Bangkok 

 

 

[hotsun]

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

They stopped beating at the school, here, at least wife's niese living with us. 

 

She went from lowest ranked to top 1-4. From being bullied to be the one everyone wants to be on the team with.

 

All it took, meet up and talk to the teachers at their sport day. Normal conversation where I asked them questions how they teaching philosophy was, and if they still beating their kids as before, with a smile of course 

My experience, my daughter 3 years old, one day of daycare, one hard slap on the wrist for being more curious than the others. Not until i took her to school in the US where she stopped being afraid. Child beating and dog beating will always be a part of the culture, why the country will never progress

[Hummin]

16 minutes ago, hotsun said:

My experience, my daughter 3 years old, one day of daycare, one hard slap on the wrist for being more curious than the others. Not until i took her to school in the US where she stopped being afraid. Child beating and dog beating will always be a part of the culture, why the country will never progress

True

 

My father beat me as well as old school he was. 4 years I stepped between him and mom, and he backed away. Never saw him beating her, but I believe it happened. He didnt stop besting me before I hit him back at 16. I was angry at him and blamed him until I came to peace with everything at one point decades later, and amazingly at once I forgave him, my life improved, and continued to improve after that.

 

Stopped chasing life and could finely rest. Long story short

 

Abusive childhood do something to people, and unfortunate not everyone recover. My relationship with my father today is okay, not good, but okay

[proton]

Some kids deserve a good beating, but not every day

[Hummin]

News, 

 

I told mother in law to tell neighbor grandma I did not like what I hear, and she just laughed at me, and said she already told her yesterday that the farang heard her beating the kid. She excused herself with, the kid didnt listening, and spit food out, and she was shouting at her. 

 

She is home from school these days because of covid

[Hummin]

2 minutes ago, proton said:

Some kids deserve a good beating, but not every day

Some parents deserves a good beating once and awhile, but kids, no, 3 years? Definitely no. 

 

 

[hotsun]

6 minutes ago, proton said:

Some kids deserve a good beating, but not every day

Other peoples kids. Why you would do it to your own i dont know, youre only hurting yourself. What do you want them to remember you for

[save the frogs]

13 hours ago, Hummin said:

Abusive childhood do something to people, and unfortunate not everyone recover.

 

My father was abusive and my older brother repeated the same pattern to his son.

The boy has been diagnosed with bipolar and is a drug user and gets into violent altercations with people.

Seriously damaged for life. 

 

[hotsun]

9 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

My father was abusive and my older brother repeated the same pattern to his son.

The boy has been diagnosed with bipolar and is a drug user and gets into violent altercations with people.

Seriously damaged for life. 

 

Abusing your own child is an animal impulse that only happens when youve lost control of your child. I actually cant speak for everyone since my kids have never been that bad. The thai daycare woman who slapped my child is a weak minded individual, she represents all thai people to me now

 

if you dont treat your kids good, whos going to?

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, hotsun said:

when youve lost control of your child.

 

No, it's not so much the child. It's your own psychology is messed up. You have a low sense of self-worth and you consider your life a failure, even though people have jobs that pay 60K or whatever is not being a failure. It's just that everyone thinks they should become a millionaire and then beat their kids when they don't make it. 

[fredwiggy]

2 hours ago, proton said:

Some kids deserve a good beating, but not every day

No child deserves a beating. If you're going to hit your child, which teaches them to do the same to those weaker, and that will repeat itself in adulthood, which can means prison time, a smack on the butt isn't going to hurt much but discipline again, doesn't have to mean physical. Some resort to hitting because that's all they know, experiencing it themselves. Talking and listening to your kids is a much better approach. Taking away things they really like is discipline, because they do need discipline.

 

To the OP, record everything you can on your phone and show it to the proper authorities, which isn't the police. Let the woman know you're staring her down, although it probably won't do much good, as physical punishment is accepted here, as it's still done in schools, although illegal.

[fredwiggy]

Found the link for you..........https://bangkokcommunityresources.isb.ac.th/child-protection

[Barnet1900]

11 hours ago, proton said:

Some kids deserve a good beating, but not every day

What? How does a child (check the size of your hand against his/her face) deserve a "good" beating?

 

How's a "good" beating different to a bad one?

 

How can any positive adjective be aligned with the word beating? A paedo, rapist, burglar...they deserve a beating but a kid for Christ's sake!

 

The argument for/against hitting kids stops instantly upon reviewing your size to theirs. 

 

Anybody who hits children deserves a  "good beating" themselves.

 

Sick cowards who can't control their emotions. 

 

Remember this, it will stand you in good stead, the only person capable of making me angry, is myself. 

[Purdey]

I got beatings from my father and teachers. Never did me any good. I'm still lazy. Some not as lucky.

 

[IsaanT]

On 5/29/2025 at 8:52 AM, save the frogs said:

 

Move away from Isaan. It's a backward place.

What's the point of owning a cheap giant house, but living in a place with a backward mentality?

 

That's so inaccurate.  You've gone done several rungs in my estimation.
 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, IsaanT said:

That's so inaccurate.  You've gone done several rungs in my estimation.
 

 

Yeah actually in retrospect that was not a fair statement as I have never even been there.

But clearly if child-beating still takes place, it's a problem. But then again, does child-beating take place in Bangkok too? I don't know. 

But not fair of me to judge an entire place I've never even been to.

 

[Lacessit]

On 5/29/2025 at 9:23 AM, proton said:

Some kids deserve a good beating, but not every day

Stupid post. Beating only creates resentment, and possibly retaliation when the child grows up.

 

Disciplining a child does not need physical violence. Deprivation - toys, activities, freedom of movement are all effective strategies.

 

Criminologists agree children who are physically abused have a much higher risk of becoming the same as parents, and the child more likely to become anti-social or criminal in their teens.

 

You reap what you sow.

[hotsun]

11 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

 

Yeah actually in retrospect that was not a fair statement as I have never even been there.

But clearly if child-beating still takes place, it's a problem. But then again, does child-beating take place in Bangkok too? I don't know. 

But not fair of me to judge an entire place I've never even been to.

 

Of course, its part of thai culture. Forever uncivilized in cars and to children 

[save the frogs]

11 hours ago, hotsun said:

Of course, its part of thai culture. Forever uncivilized in cars and to children 

 

Takes place in Bangkok too? So it's not a rural thing. So my comments about Isaan are not valid. 

[StevieAus]

On 5/29/2025 at 8:47 AM, hotsun said:

Reality of why i cant live in thailand was because i decided to have kids. Homeschooling would be the only way

 

On 5/29/2025 at 8:47 AM, hotsun said:

Reality of why i cant live in thailand was because i decided to have kids. Homeschooling would be the only way

I have to say that your post makes little sense to me can you explain why you want to home school a child.

[Nick Carter icp]

3 minutes ago, hotsun said:

Of course, its part of thai culture. Forever uncivilized in cars and to children 

 

   From my experience, its only the very lowest class of Thais that hit their children .

   Talking about living in bamboo huts and the always borrowing money types .

   Thais above that level do not tend to hit children 

[hotsun]

5 minutes ago, StevieAus said:

 

I have to say that your post makes little sense to me can you explain why you want to home school a child.

Because i dont trust thai people with my kids?

[hotsun]

3 minutes ago, Nick Carter icp said:

 

   From my experience, its only the very lowest class of Thais that hit their children .

   Talking about living in bamboo huts and the always borrowing money types .

   Thais above that level do not tend to hit children 

My experience was in bangkok, at a regular thai daycare, similar to all the others