The OP forgot to mention that both Bubble Tee girls are anatomically male.

3 hours ago, Will B Good said:

 

Won't tell my story here....but, oh boy....yes!!!

 

I only went from Nana to Asoke.....!!!

 

It's the boredom! The BTS system feels intimidating and boring. You feel alone. A friendly stranger comes up and is nice to you...who would not like that?

17 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends.

Please tattoo your user name on your wrist so we can connect the dots after the Jomtien Balcony tournament.

1 hour ago, Cameroni said:

 

It's the boredom! The BTS system feels intimidating and boring. You feel alone. A friendly stranger comes up and is nice to you...who would not like that?

 

Casually smiled at each other at the same time......I motioned with my head...... "do you want to get off here with me"........a pleasant week in Koh Chang followed.

12 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

Casually smiled at each other at the same time......I motioned with my head...... "do you want to get off here with me"........a pleasant week in Koh Chang followed.

 

Be still my beating heart...

1 minute ago, Cameroni said:

 

Be still my beating heart...

 

The good old days.....long gone.

Just now, Will B Good said:

 

The good old days.....long gone.

 

Well, you bagged an A1 woman, isn't NOW the good days?

Just now, Cameroni said:

 

Well, you bagged an A1 woman, isn't NOW the good days?

 

Should be the best......but......miss it.

Just now, Will B Good said:

 

Should be the best......but......miss it.

 

The chase?

17 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

Casually smiled at each other at the same time......I motioned with my head...... "do you want to get off here with me"........a pleasant week in Koh Chang followed.

 

 

Weird....who is it?

Just now, Cameroni said:

 

The chase?

 

Partly......but the girl friend experience more than anything (well not quite anything).

 

I assume they still deliver that......it had me totally sold for years.

19 hours ago, 123Stodg said:

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

Did this once with a girl back in my home country about 25 years ago.  Her friend told her a bit about her dating experience with me after we broke up and the friend decided she wanted to shoot her shot too.  We went out on one date and it was obvious what she was after.  It's funny how real things get when the E wears off and when the lights come on.

8 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

Partly......but the girl friend experience more than anything (well not quite anything).

 

I assume they still deliver that......it had me totally sold for years.

Who is it?

 

Harrisfan

 

proton

 

freedomnow

 

Cameroni

 

Bangkokhatter

 

TorquayFan

 

sidjameson

Yawn. Move on. No one cares who you are dating.

10 hours ago, JoseThailand said:

 

Check out his posts about wild nights with ladyboys

 

I'll pass.

1 hour ago, Will B Good said:

 

 

Weird....who is it?

 

Very weird, not me obviously, there's a plethora of weirdos and this emoji has lost all meaning now.

If you are still on good terms with Bubble Girl …maybe the three of you could get together now and then …

1 hour ago, Will B Good said:

 

Partly......but the girl friend experience more than anything (well not quite anything).

 

I assume they still deliver that......it had me totally sold for years.

 

The romance goes out the window after a few years I guess, you get used to each other.

11 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

The romance goes out the window after a few years I guess, you get used to each other.

 

Romance is over-emphasized in songs and hollywood movies.

Causing delusions and false expectations. 

12 hours ago, save the frogs said:

 

Romance is over-emphasized in songs and hollywood movies.

Causing delusions and false expectations. 

 

Yes, it is over-used quite clearly. However, romance is a strange thing. Even if all sexual relationships are transactional, and they are, you can't state that openly. Just as you can't state in a job interview "I'm only here to get paid".

 

So both men and women use romance to "seal the deal" and succeed in securing their relationship opportunity. It can then become a "shared mental illness" in that the words are obviously untrue, however, they are believed by both parties, which is the most important. So effectively they become "true" for both parties, ie "truly felt".

 

Women use romance more skillfully but men are more prone to the delusion due to greater power of imagination I suspect.

23 minutes ago, Cameroni said:

Yes, it is over-used quite clearly. However, romance is a strange thing. Even if all sexual relationships are transactional, and they are, you can't state that openly. Just as you can't state in a job interview "I'm only here to get paid".

Off topic,

In job interviews, I always said I was applying for the 'generous wage' or the 'short working hours'.

Whichever one was relevant, why wouldn't you?

 

One job, I only applied for the free expenses for the London interview, it was just before Xmas and I wanted to go Xmas shopping in Oxford street. Didn't bother much during the interview, just treated it as a bit of fun ........ was completely gobsmacked at the end when they said, "we'd like to offer you double your current wage"

Didn't particularly want the job, but it was too much money to turn down

11 hours ago, Cameroni said:

It can then become a "shared mental illness"

 

Relationships should begin with the following conversation on the first date:

- How much money will we need to keep this relationship afloat? Your Thai Friendly profile claims that you don't like stingy men. What do you consider stingy? How much do you need/want?

- What is your neurosis? What are your character flaws? Are you willing to accept my character flaws?

 

I just saw a dating site account profile where she was begging for "toxic people" to leave her alone. This one was a freelancer. I wonder what "toxic issues" the punters are bothering her with. But clearly, it's not lovey dovey and even though it's not a relationship there are relationship-like issues popping up. 

 

 

10 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Relationships should begin with the following conversation on the first date:

- How much money will we need to keep this relationship afloat? Your Thai Friendly profile claims that you don't like stingy men. What do you consider stingy? How much do you need/want?

- What is your neurosis? What are your character flaws? Are you willing to accept my character flaws?

 

I just saw a dating site account profile where she was begging for "toxic people" to leave her alone. This one was a freelancer. I wonder what "toxic issues" the punters are bothering her with. But clearly, it's not lovey dovey and even though it's not a relationship there are relationship-like issues popping up. 

Nah,

Bang 'em first, leave conversations for after, if the sex was good enough.

11 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Nah,

Bang 'em first, leave conversations for after, if the sex was good enough.

you got the job when you asked for a reduced working week and higher pay? 

 

 

14 hours ago, Cameroni said:

 

The romance goes out the window after a few years I guess, you get used to each other.

 

The Eagles song is a killer....

 

"You're not quite lovers and not quite friends after the thrill has gone"

14 minutes ago, Will B Good said:

 

The Eagles song is a killer....

 

"You're not quite lovers and not quite friends after the thrill has gone"

 

What the f uck.....first post of the day.......

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Off topic,

In job interviews, I always said I was applying for the 'generous wage' or the 'short working hours'.

Whichever one was relevant, why wouldn't you?

 

 

 

Well, obviously highly qualified superstars like you can say anything they like and still get the job. But for mere mortals it's generally prudent not to speak of "short working hours" or the money paid., but to talk about how much you love the oil rig. You have to play the game. 

 

2 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Relationships should begin with the following conversation on the first date:

- How much money will we need to keep this relationship afloat? Your Thai Friendly profile claims that you don't like stingy men. What do you consider stingy? How much do you need/want?

- What is your neurosis? What are your character flaws? Are you willing to accept my character flaws?

 

You're thinking logically. Logically that makes sense, however, you can't ask a girl "how much money will need for this relationship". First of all she has to think the relationship is her idea, you shouldn't talk about it at all, and secondly if you underline the transactional character it will kill her boner.

 

2 hours ago, save the frogs said:

I wonder what "toxic issues" the punters are bothering her with. But clearly, it's not lovey dovey and even though it's not a relationship there are relationship-like issues popping up. 

 

Women want everything now, and they're wise to men thanks to social media. They don't want issues, even freelancers are choosy now sometimes.

 

 

 

 

1 hour ago, Will B Good said:

 

The Eagles song is a killer....

 

"You're not quite lovers and not quite friends after the thrill has gone"

 

Love the Eagles, also:

 

Nothing's wrong as far as I can see
We make it harder than it has to be

And I can't tell you why

 

 

Do you recall the name "John Bobbit?"

On 7/15/2025 at 12:24 AM, 123Stodg said:

Back again with an update I didn’t exactly expect to be making when I first posted about my situation on here, but things can change quickly and sometimes life takes turns you don’t see coming.

 

Long story short, I ended up breaking things off with the bubble tea girl. No big blowout, no drama. The truth is I started feeling like I was forcing it. The fun was there at the start, everything felt fresh and exciting, but then I could feel myself losing interest. Hard to explain, it just felt like the spark wasn’t there anymore. I figured it was better to be honest rather than drag it out and waste both our time. We had a pretty calm conversation, bit of emotion but nothing messy. I tried to be decent about it, gave her a bit of money, and that was that.

 

Fast forward a few weeks, and here’s where things get a bit messier. I’ve been seeing someone new… who just so happens to be one of her friends. Yeah, I know how that sounds. Believe me, I didn’t plan it. We’d met a couple of times before in passing, I always thought she was cute but obviously never acted on it. After the breakup we bumped into each other a couple of times in the BTS station, started chatting on LINE, met for dinner, and well… here we are.

 

It’s been casual, low-key, but honestly I’m enjoying it. She’s a bit older than the first girl, a bit more English, bit more laughs, and a lot less of that wide-eyed innocent routine. It just feels easier, more relaxed, less pressure. No talks about family obligations or sending money anywhere… at least not yet.

 

I know some of you are going to say this is a disaster waiting to happen. Part of me agrees. But part of me also thinks Bangkok is Bangkok and these things just happen sometimes. I’m not really sure what kind of fallout I’m heading for. I do not know if I’m setting myself up for headaches, some revenge drama, or maybe nothing at all. I’ve kept things under the radar for now, but it is only a matter of time before word gets back to the ex and I doubt she will be thrilled.

 

So, how bad of an idea is this really? Am I just overthinking or am I basically poking a sleeping snake here? I felt like I got out of the first situation clean, no major bridges burned, but now I’m half expecting a drama bomb to go off when this all comes out.

 

Anyone else been through something like this? Not sure if I should bother keeping it quiet or just accept this is Thailand, circles are small, and things could get messy no matter what. Hopefully I’m not walking straight into a minefield.

Too long story.

I'll read it later, or next week, or never.

Good luck anyway 👍