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15 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

When people lacked the ability, or eloquence to make a coherent argument while hidding behind dumbed-down one-liners that fell flat and never actual land, the next move was always the same: accuse whoever dismantled them of using "word salad"..... or "Wall of Text"....

Now they've updated the script. The new accusation is "AI"....

It never occurs to them that the problem might not be the person with whom they disagree. It might be their own inability to understand a well-constructed argument.

AI-enhanced "discussion" and "opinion" expressed on a forum is very obvious, especially when the copy/paste includes the original browser formatting.

I have read stories on Youtube, ie a farang aged 70, a Santa Claus lookalike with a thick white beard and pot belly, with a beautiful Thai girl age 22 and genuinely believes that she loves him.

He is paying for her extended family, medical bills, university fees etc, etc. To me it seems the guy must be mentally retarded in some way.

On 6/3/2026 at 1:24 AM, 123Stodg said:

But the longer I’ve lived in Thailand, the less confident I’ve become about reading situations with Thai girls like this.

Back home, people tend to be more direct. Here, patience, politeness, and consideration seem woven into everyday life in ways that can be difficult to interpret if you’re not careful. Sometimes what looks like interest is just kindness. Sometimes what looks like kindness is something more.

Maybe that’s why I’ve found myself thinking about it more than I probably should. Just when I think I’ve got it figured out, I find myself questioning it all again.

To my knowledge a relationship with a Thai lady outside the nightlife, is a long slow procedure that might require some level patience from a Western male.

About age difference — double up of an mid 20s age — I've hear several Thai ladies in their 20s talking about a "dream farang" is a man being is mid 40s, not married and no children. It seems like common in Thailand that elder men are better; which might also mean better providers.

Apart from the often heard Thai-lady comment "don't think too much", I think you should just enjoy the situation and move on, if you feel good and is seriously interested in a relationship. If you are not serious, don't — i.e., don't disappoint the young lady — just keep it as plain friendship, not more.

You owe it to yourself to take this friendship to the next level. To meet a younger educated Thai femail without an obvious agenda is quite rare in Thailand. Good luck.

On 6/3/2026 at 7:09 AM, richard_smith237 said:

Not all girls in Thailand are hookers & will only ffff for money - that’s just your limited circle of exposure.

That is true as the vast majority of Thai women are married to Thais, mostly around their own age, I haven't seen a single Thai woman who is with a Thai guy old enough to be her father.

It is also true of the Thai women I know who are with farangs of the same age more or less, that seem to be the standard set up.

I do live in Phuket though, maybe it is different in the north of Thailand which is poorer.

Not all farangs in Thailand are stupid or delusional enough to not know that nowhere in the world a young woman could really fancy an old bloke unless money is the target.

Let's face it, any one of use could get a young woman if we wanted to as long as we knew what the relationship was based on, it would just be a case of getting a wallet out on an ongoing basis.

I laughed each time I meta a farangs with a young Thai women who had been convinced it is normal in a relationsh to pay for the upkeep of her, her mother and father and even some other family member.

They must be terminally stupid or desperate.

Edited June 4Jun 4 by JamesPhuket10
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17 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

"Cameroni did alright ?????" ..... By what metric ?

He was completely delusional and attached himself to multiple escorts and pay for play women before settling for one who was prepared to 'settle' for him - a woman who lied to him, cheated on him, kept multiple dating profiles running, maintained Tinder, disappeared whenever convenient, demanded financial support, left him for another bloke, and appears to regard exclusivity as more of a creative suggestion than a rule.

The relationship consisted largely of lies, excuses, phone signal issues, mysterious disappearances, competing men, emotional gymnastics, and Cam explaining why this latest red flag is actually evidence of her deep affection.

That's called a complete train-wreck.... Cam called it a soulmate....

If this is what "doing alright" looks like, I'd hate to see what failure looks like.

The only person who's done alright out of this arrangement is her - Cameroni is the antithesis or roll model in this case.

But apart from that she was perfect. 🤣

On 6/3/2026 at 9:24 AM, 123Stodg said:

Been thinking more lately about a newish female friendship that has developed. It’s been confusing me, and I might benefit from a reality check from others who’ve actually been around Thailand long enough to know what they’re talking about.

I’ve been in Chiang Mai for close to seven months now. Left Bangkok in mid November last year to work on a side income project I had been toying with for a while. I’ve begun manufacturing something up here in the north in small amounts and, if all goes well over the next two months, then I’ll begin exporting it to the US and parts of Europe. It’s something I’ve done before, have some experience with, and had good success with in the past. Other than the work up here, though, I’ve been keeping to myself mostly.

About three months ago I started going to the same little local cafe near Nimman, usually about four mornings a week. Average place, but they do decent coffee and some good Western style breakfasts. There’s a girl who works there behind the counter, mid 20s, not one of those obviously done up girls, just naturally pretty in a subtle way. Small, nice smile, looks athletic, also a bit northern Thai Chinese looking, good skin, the kind of girl you find yourself looking forward to seeing at the start of the day. We started exchanging the usual pleasantries, then longer conversations. After about two weeks she started remembering which things I like to order, which I know sounds like no big deal, but somehow it felt like something.

About six weeks in, she mentioned she was taking an online course in the evenings to improve her English and asked if I’d be willing to review some of her written assignments occasionally. Her English is pretty good already, so I said sure, thinking it would be a one off. It wasn’t. We’ve been meeting at a coffee shop around the corner from the cafe on most Thursday evenings for about a month and a half now. Just talking, going over her work, sometimes for two hours.

A few weeks ago things shifted a little. Nothing major, just grabbed a quick dinner after reviewing her work when, while sharing a beer, it started feeling like possibly a bit more than just a friendship to me. Then another dinner like that the next week. She’s easy to be around. No performance, no agenda that I can detect, just genuinely friendly company. She also grabbed my hand the last time while walking back to where she parks her motorbike and then gave me a gentle hug. That’s as far as it’s gone physically, but I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t started wondering about the possibility of something more. And up until recently I’d assumed I would leave Chiang Mai in a few months once the business project is sorted, but now I’m not quite as certain about leaving so soon because I’m enjoying this new situation.

The age gap is significant, though. I’m very aware of that. She’s never brought it up and neither have I, but it’s obviously sitting there. And frankly, I’m not entirely sure what she sees in this. Maybe I’m the one projecting something onto it. Wouldn’t be the first time a man my age in Thailand convinced himself something was there with a much younger woman when really he was just being useful to someone.

But then she does things that don’t fit that explanation either. A couple of weeks ago, while we were going over something she’d written, she leaned across the table to point at something on my laptop. Her face got really close to mine, close enough that I was very aware of her, and I could smell some light perfume on her for the first time. She didn’t seem to notice what I was sensing, or if she was, she gave nothing away.

Last week she said something that’s also been stuck in my head. We were talking about nothing in particular and she said, “I like that you talk to me like my opinion matters.” Just said it casually. But it gave me a positive impression of her.

But the longer I’ve lived in Thailand, the less confident I’ve become about reading situations with Thai girls like this.

Back home, people tend to be more direct. Here, patience, politeness, and consideration seem woven into everyday life in ways that can be difficult to interpret if you’re not careful. Sometimes what looks like interest is just kindness. Sometimes what looks like kindness is something more.

Maybe that’s why I’ve found myself thinking about it more than I probably should. Just when I think I’ve got it figured out, I find myself questioning it all again.

Just go with the flow Joe. Age has no barrier here in my opinion. I say that because there is 21 years difference with my wife and I and we have been happily married for 19 years.

What are her options, a Thai guy, most Thai girls want security, i.e. someone to look after them, (don't spoil here) by buying her lavish gifts if it goes further.

I would roll the dice and say, hey, so what's your story, do you have a boyfriend, if she replies no, then say, are you looking for one and smile, you will soon find out if she interested.

Good Luck and feel free to PM me anytime.

I think you're focusing too much on trying to decode individual moments and not enough on the bigger picture.

The perfume, the close proximity while looking at your laptop, and the fact that she remembers your order are not particularly meaningful on their own. Those are exactly the kinds of details people tend to overanalyze when they have feelings for someone.

What stands out more are the facts: she chose to spend time with you outside of work, you've developed a regular routine together, you've shared meals, and she has initiated physical contact by holding your hand and giving you a hug. Those things suggest that you matter to her in some way.

That said, I wouldn't jump straight to the conclusion that this is definitely romantic. In Thailand, as elsewhere, kindness and genuine affection don't always mean romantic interest. People are individuals, and there is no reliable cultural shortcut that can tell you exactly what she's thinking.

My advice would be to stop trying to interpret every signal and instead create an opportunity for more clarity. Invite her to do something that has nothing to do with her English assignments—a nice dinner, a weekend outing, or an activity that feels more like a date than a study session. Then pay attention to how she responds.

If she is genuinely interested, she will likely make time for you, show enthusiasm, and perhaps begin taking more initiative herself. If she prefers to keep things in the friendship category, that will become clear too.

Most importantly, don't assume that a younger Thai woman must have an agenda simply because she's showing interest in an older foreign man. At the same time, don't assume that every warm gesture is romantic. Stay open-minded, enjoy getting to know her, and let the situation develop naturally rather than trying to solve it like a puzzle.

On 6/3/2026 at 1:24 AM, 123Stodg said:

Been thinking more lately about a newish female friendship that has developed. It’s been confusing me, and I might benefit from a reality check from others who’ve actually been around Thailand long enough to know what they’re talking about.

I’ve been in Chiang Mai for close to seven months now. Left Bangkok in mid November last year to work on a side income project I had been toying with for a while. I’ve begun manufacturing something up here in the north in small amounts and, if all goes well over the next two months, then I’ll begin exporting it to the US and parts of Europe. It’s something I’ve done before, have some experience with, and had good success with in the past. Other than the work up here, though, I’ve been keeping to myself mostly.

About three months ago I started going to the same little local cafe near Nimman, usually about four mornings a week. Average place, but they do decent coffee and some good Western style breakfasts. There’s a girl who works there behind the counter, mid 20s, not one of those obviously done up girls, just naturally pretty in a subtle way. Small, nice smile, looks athletic, also a bit northern Thai Chinese looking, good skin, the kind of girl you find yourself looking forward to seeing at the start of the day. We started exchanging the usual pleasantries, then longer conversations. After about two weeks she started remembering which things I like to order, which I know sounds like no big deal, but somehow it felt like something.

About six weeks in, she mentioned she was taking an online course in the evenings to improve her English and asked if I’d be willing to review some of her written assignments occasionally. Her English is pretty good already, so I said sure, thinking it would be a one off. It wasn’t. We’ve been meeting at a coffee shop around the corner from the cafe on most Thursday evenings for about a month and a half now. Just talking, going over her work, sometimes for two hours.

A few weeks ago things shifted a little. Nothing major, just grabbed a quick dinner after reviewing her work when, while sharing a beer, it started feeling like possibly a bit more than just a friendship to me. Then another dinner like that the next week. She’s easy to be around. No performance, no agenda that I can detect, just genuinely friendly company. She also grabbed my hand the last time while walking back to where she parks her motorbike and then gave me a gentle hug. That’s as far as it’s gone physically, but I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t started wondering about the possibility of something more. And up until recently I’d assumed I would leave Chiang Mai in a few months once the business project is sorted, but now I’m not quite as certain about leaving so soon because I’m enjoying this new situation.

The age gap is significant, though. I’m very aware of that. She’s never brought it up and neither have I, but it’s obviously sitting there. And frankly, I’m not entirely sure what she sees in this. Maybe I’m the one projecting something onto it. Wouldn’t be the first time a man my age in Thailand convinced himself something was there with a much younger woman when really he was just being useful to someone.

But then she does things that don’t fit that explanation either. A couple of weeks ago, while we were going over something she’d written, she leaned across the table to point at something on my laptop. Her face got really close to mine, close enough that I was very aware of her, and I could smell some light perfume on her for the first time. She didn’t seem to notice what I was sensing, or if she was, she gave nothing away.

Last week she said something that’s also been stuck in my head. We were talking about nothing in particular and she said, “I like that you talk to me like my opinion matters.” Just said it casually. But it gave me a positive impression of her.

But the longer I’ve lived in Thailand, the less confident I’ve become about reading situations with Thai girls like this.

Back home, people tend to be more direct. Here, patience, politeness, and consideration seem woven into everyday life in ways that can be difficult to interpret if you’re not careful. Sometimes what looks like interest is just kindness. Sometimes what looks like kindness is something more.

Maybe that’s why I’ve found myself thinking about it more than I probably should. Just when I think I’ve got it figured out, I find myself questioning it all again.

you are imagining things and projecting your feelings. You are definitely in the friend zone, brother.

Yes you are.

4 hours ago, NanLaew said:

AI-sourced "discussion" or "opinion" on a forum sticks out like dogsballs.

I must respectfully register my disagreement with this characterisation. The presupposition that AI-generated discourse is intrinsically identifiable appears founded upon a somewhat reductionist interpretative paradigm insufficiently calibrated to contemporary developments in computational-linguistic sophistication.

Indeed, what is routinely dismissed as "obviously AI" may simply constitute an admirable commitment to epistemological thoroughness, contextual multidimensionality, and communicative hyperarticulation. To equate lexical grandiloquence with artificial authorship seems, at best, methodologically precarious.

Furthermore, the contention that such prose protrudes like a canine testis risks overlooking the possibility that some contributors merely possess an unusually enthusiastic relationship with semantically enriched circumlocutionary expressiveness.

I remain unconvinced—although the regrettably ostentatious sesquipedalianism of this very comment may be rendering that position increasingly indefensible.

On 6/3/2026 at 6:24 AM, 123Stodg said:

Been thinking more lately about a newish female friendship that has developed. It’s been confusing me, and I might benefit from a reality check from others who’ve actually been around Thailand long enough to know what they’re talking about.

I’ve been in Chiang Mai for close to seven months now. Left Bangkok in mid November last year to work on a side income project I had been toying with for a while. I’ve begun manufacturing something up here in the north in small amounts and, if all goes well over the next two months, then I’ll begin exporting it to the US and parts of Europe. It’s something I’ve done before, have some experience with, and had good success with in the past. Other than the work up here, though, I’ve been keeping to myself mostly.

About three months ago I started going to the same little local cafe near Nimman, usually about four mornings a week. Average place, but they do decent coffee and some good Western style breakfasts. There’s a girl who works there behind the counter, mid 20s, not one of those obviously done up girls, just naturally pretty in a subtle way. Small, nice smile, looks athletic, also a bit northern Thai Chinese looking, good skin, the kind of girl you find yourself looking forward to seeing at the start of the day. We started exchanging the usual pleasantries, then longer conversations. After about two weeks she started remembering which things I like to order, which I know sounds like no big deal, but somehow it felt like something.

About six weeks in, she mentioned she was taking an online course in the evenings to improve her English and asked if I’d be willing to review some of her written assignments occasionally. Her English is pretty good already, so I said sure, thinking it would be a one off. It wasn’t. We’ve been meeting at a coffee shop around the corner from the cafe on most Thursday evenings for about a month and a half now. Just talking, going over her work, sometimes for two hours.

A few weeks ago things shifted a little. Nothing major, just grabbed a quick dinner after reviewing her work when, while sharing a beer, it started feeling like possibly a bit more than just a friendship to me. Then another dinner like that the next week. She’s easy to be around. No performance, no agenda that I can detect, just genuinely friendly company. She also grabbed my hand the last time while walking back to where she parks her motorbike and then gave me a gentle hug. That’s as far as it’s gone physically, but I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t started wondering about the possibility of something more. And up until recently I’d assumed I would leave Chiang Mai in a few months once the business project is sorted, but now I’m not quite as certain about leaving so soon because I’m enjoying this new situation.

The age gap is significant, though. I’m very aware of that. She’s never brought it up and neither have I, but it’s obviously sitting there. And frankly, I’m not entirely sure what she sees in this. Maybe I’m the one projecting something onto it. Wouldn’t be the first time a man my age in Thailand convinced himself something was there with a much younger woman when really he was just being useful to someone.

But then she does things that don’t fit that explanation either. A couple of weeks ago, while we were going over something she’d written, she leaned across the table to point at something on my laptop. Her face got really close to mine, close enough that I was very aware of her, and I could smell some light perfume on her for the first time. She didn’t seem to notice what I was sensing, or if she was, she gave nothing away.

Last week she said something that’s also been stuck in my head. We were talking about nothing in particular and she said, “I like that you talk to me like my opinion matters.” Just said it casually. But it gave me a positive impression of her.

But the longer I’ve lived in Thailand, the less confident I’ve become about reading situations with Thai girls like this.

Back home, people tend to be more direct. Here, patience, politeness, and consideration seem woven into everyday life in ways that can be difficult to interpret if you’re not careful. Sometimes what looks like interest is just kindness. Sometimes what looks like kindness is something more.

Maybe that’s why I’ve found myself thinking about it more than I probably should. Just when I think I’ve got it figured out, I find myself questioning it all again.

(Sorry, new to this thread and haven't read through 5 pages of replies)

You've gone to a lot of trouble to write a long story, without actually stating your age. Don't be shy, come out and say it.

It all depends on relative age. I had a great 20-year relationship in my 40s with a lady 28 years younger. She was from the Philippines. Now I'm with a 35-year-old Thai lady who was 34 when I met her, and I'm nearly 67. It's the best relationship I've ever had. She's the most caring lady I've ever been with, and we've been going great for 18 months and counting. She had her own apartment, a car, and a full-time administrative job, and still works 6 days a week. She has a university degree, and the bonus is that she doesn't want children. That was an important consideration for me. She had only one other relationship, with a Thai man, and has only one sister and father for family. Her sister, 3 years younger, doesn't want children either, so they do exist. I tend to prefer Thai women who cannot speak English, but want to learn.

There are good women around, but finding them is a tough job.

A 24-year-old lady (with no children of her own) won't work unless you are quite financially stable and you want children. If you don't want children or children to look after, you're going to have to aim for ladies in their late 30s, preferably early 40s, with grown children, unless you're lucky enough to find one younger who doesn't want children.

3 hours ago, JamesPhuket10 said:

But apart from that she was perfect. 🤣

Oh absolutely - ignoring every photo Cam published of her - she was 8.5 out of 10 even without the makeup, if I recall correctly...

Never marry the Cutie or get involved with her family. Enjoy, enjoy, have the quinky fun and when she trys to grab for more, well then it's next. You'll live far happier, and your bank balance will last longer.

Edited June 4Jun 4 by SingAPorn

3 minutes ago, SingAPorn said:

Never marry the Cutie or get involved with her family. Enjoy, enjoy, have the quinky fun and when she trys to grab for more, well then it's next. You'll live far happier, and your bank balance will last longer.

Did your last love in life make you cry your heart out? Sound like you learned the hard way!

Whats wrong with you guys?

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

Did your last love in life make you cry your heart out? Sound like you learned the hard way!

Whats wrong with you guys?

Not that I am trying to upset you...but you are wrong. But I guess I won't take this any further as in the world you do have 2 types of people..those who are cautions, aware or whatever you may call them...and the others who are fools maybe ? Farewell and welcome to my ignore list.

21 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

"Cameroni did alright ?????" ..... By what metric ?

He was completely delusional and attached himself to multiple escorts and pay for play women before settling for one who was prepared to 'settle' for him - a woman who lied to him, cheated on him, kept multiple dating profiles running, maintained Tinder, disappeared whenever convenient, demanded financial support, left him for another bloke, and appears to regard exclusivity as more of a creative suggestion than a rule.

The relationship consisted largely of lies, excuses, phone signal issues, mysterious disappearances, competing men, emotional gymnastics, and Cam explaining why this latest red flag is actually evidence of her deep affection.

That's called a complete train-wreck.... Cam called it a soulmate....

If this is what "doing alright" looks like, I'd hate to see what failure looks like.

The only person who's done alright out of this arrangement is her - Cameroni is the antithesis or roll model in this case.

So whatever happened to Cameroni? Did he ever get to stick his fork into the juicy Cannelloni, and at what cost and loss? And what happened to him after he posted all the fake photos of that girl and ran out of twists and turns to keep his windup going? I’m guessing he rode off into the sunset and disappeared, taking all his fake shame and humiliation with him.

Anyway, it was all just fiction and I only ever read a few posts of that story before losing interest pretty quickly, but if it were real, I genuinely cannot understand what he would get out of sharing so much of his personal life with everyone and their dog, especially at the risk of her eventually discovering the photos he posted and everything he had written about her online. That’s why it all had to be a hoax. But as a complete windup for the fun of it, it makes total sense to keep baiting and rebaiting everyone who swallowed the hook, as long as the hook was still well set in place.

6 minutes ago, SingAPorn said:

Not that I am trying to upset you...but you are wrong. But I guess I won't take this any further as in the world you do have 2 types of people..those who are cautions, aware or whatever you may call them...and the others who are fools maybe ? Farewell and welcome to my ignore list.

Just the annoying attempts to exploit every woman available, and convince others that it is normal and a decent thing to do.

It comes with the mindset.

Weak

48 minutes ago, richard_smith237 said:

I must respectfully register my disagreement with this characterisation. The presupposition that AI-generated discourse is intrinsically identifiable appears founded upon a somewhat reductionist interpretative paradigm insufficiently calibrated to contemporary developments in computational-linguistic sophistication.

Indeed, what is routinely dismissed as "obviously AI" may simply constitute an admirable commitment to epistemological thoroughness, contextual multidimensionality, and communicative hyperarticulation. To equate lexical grandiloquence with artificial authorship seems, at best, methodologically precarious.

Furthermore, the contention that such prose protrudes like a canine testis risks overlooking the possibility that some contributors merely possess an unusually enthusiastic relationship with semantically enriched circumlocutionary expressiveness.

I remain unconvinced—although the regrettably ostentatious sesquipedalianism of this very comment may be rendering that position increasingly indefensible.

Gold.

49 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

(Sorry, new to this thread and haven't read through 5 pages of replies)

You've gone to a lot of trouble to write a long story, without actually stating your age. Don't be shy, come out and say it.

It all depends on relative age. I had a great 20-year relationship in my 40s with a lady 28 years younger. She was from the Philippines. Now I'm with a 35-year-old Thai lady who was 34 when I met her, and I'm nearly 67. It's the best relationship I've ever had. She's the most caring lady I've ever been with, and we've been going great for 18 months and counting. She had her own apartment, a car, and a full-time administrative job, and still works 6 days a week. She has a university degree, and the bonus is that she doesn't want children. That was an important consideration for me. She had only one other relationship, with a Thai man, and has only one sister and father for family. Her sister, 3 years younger, doesn't want children either, so they do exist. I tend to prefer Thai women who cannot speak English, but want to learn.

There are good women around, but finding them is a tough job.

A 24-year-old lady (with no children of her own) won't work unless you are quite financially stable and you want children. If you don't want children or children to look after, you're going to have to aim for ladies in their late 30s, preferably early 40s, with grown children, unless you're lucky enough to find one younger who doesn't want children.

40 - 28 =.... I assume you were in your late 40's?

As for women and couples wishing to remain childless, this is creating a huge imbalance in the nation's age demographic. However, it's the same in other Asian nations such as Korea and Japan. A common argument is that the cost of bringing up a child and raising a family, housing, etc. is all too prohibitive. Personally, I think that's just being selfish.

On 6/3/2026 at 7:07 AM, richard_smith237 said:

There was the ‘Cameroni thread’ - ages gap, p4p women he refused to accept were in it only for the money - a series of train wrecks & a prime example of delusion.

I just noticed that after Cameroni and his 2,600 posts, you were actually the second highest poster on that topic with nearly 800 posts of your own. So you were heavily invested over quite a long period of time. A bit obsessive, one might even conclude. Between the two of you, you accounted for close to half of the total 8,200 posts. I do wonder what got you so sucked in on such claptrap. Whether it was all fake or not, I could never see myself becoming so invested in a tale of romantic and sexual balderdash.

2 hours ago, Andiro said:

I think you're focusing too much on trying to decode individual moments and not enough on the bigger picture.

The perfume, the close proximity while looking at your laptop, and the fact that she remembers your order are not particularly meaningful on their own. Those are exactly the kinds of details people tend to overanalyze when they have feelings for someone.

What stands out more are the facts: she chose to spend time with you outside of work, you've developed a regular routine together, you've shared meals, and she has initiated physical contact by holding your hand and giving you a hug. Those things suggest that you matter to her in some way.

That said, I wouldn't jump straight to the conclusion that this is definitely romantic. In Thailand, as elsewhere, kindness and genuine affection don't always mean romantic interest. People are individuals, and there is no reliable cultural shortcut that can tell you exactly what she's thinking.

My advice would be to stop trying to interpret every signal and instead create an opportunity for more clarity. Invite her to do something that has nothing to do with her English assignments—a nice dinner, a weekend outing, or an activity that feels more like a date than a study session. Then pay attention to how she responds.

If she is genuinely interested, she will likely make time for you, show enthusiasm, and perhaps begin taking more initiative herself. If she prefers to keep things in the friendship category, that will become clear too.

Most importantly, don't assume that a younger Thai woman must have an agenda simply because she's showing interest in an older foreign man. At the same time, don't assume that every warm gesture is romantic. Stay open-minded, enjoy getting to know her, and let the situation develop naturally rather than trying to solve it like a puzzle.

A very fair and realistic outlook IMO....

Op - do you have a car ?.... getting away somewhere is much more convenient...

The suggestion for 'dinner' outside of a 'study session' in a date like format is good - it makes it more clear its a date.

The suggestion to go for a movie is also a good idea - choose the honey-moon seat and go for cheeky fondle !

Push the boundaries - report back - this could be another Cameroni thread !

16 minutes ago, BilllyGOAT said:

I just noticed that after Cameroni and his 2,600 posts, you were actually the second highest poster on that topic with nearly 800 posts of your own. So you were heavily invested over quite a long period of time. A bit obsessive, one might even conclude. Between the two of you, you accounted for close to half of the total 8,200 posts. I do wonder what got you so sucked in on such claptrap. Whether it was all fake or not, I could never see myself becoming so invested in a tale of romantic and sexual balderdash.

Entertainment - it was that, watch netflix or get involved in the 'Trump' threads !!!

8 hours ago, Leopold Bloom said:

I don't often follow these threads (on what to expect in "romance" between falang and madame Thai) but I have to say this is one of the most perceptive contributions I have ever read (here) on this subject.

I always expected frequent sex, and was always happy that my expectations were justified.

Apparently some of you expect more than that?

Edited June 4Jun 4 by BritManToo

1 hour ago, NanLaew said:

40 - 28 =.... I assume you were in your late 40's?

As for women and couples wishing to remain childless, this is creating a huge imbalance in the nation's age demographic. However, it's the same in other Asian nations such as Korea and Japan. A common argument is that the cost of bringing up a child and raising a family, housing, etc. is all too prohibitive. Personally, I think that's just being selfish.

Yes, 40s is between 40 - 49 LOL. I don't believe I said 40.

I have no interest in world demographics. I'm an antinatalist, always have been, but that's a discussion for another day. Suggesting people like me are selfish for not wanting to breed is absurd; Who am I being selfish to? The Thai government? It's a humane decision, not wanting to bring more misery into the world. You can breed an extra couple of children to make up for it... But don't worry too much, Indonesia, Philippines, Laos, Cambodia, and Myanmar will make up for the shortfall. I think Thai couples are smart, having small families.

15 minutes ago, JensenZ said:

Yes, 40s is between 40 - 49 LOL. I don't believe I said 40.

I have no interest in world demographics. I'm an antinatalist, always have been, but that's a discussion for another day. Suggesting people like me are selfish for not wanting to breed is absurd; Who am I being selfish to? The Thai government? It's a humane decision, not wanting to bring more misery into the world. You can breed an extra couple of children to make up for it... But don't worry too much, Indonesia, Philippines, Laos, Cambodia, and Myanmar will make up for the shortfall. I think Thai couples are smart, having small families.

At least you're doing the gene pool a favor.

1 minute ago, NanLaew said:

At least you're doing the gene pool a favor.

Yes, we can leave it to people like you with perfect genes to do the breeding. Instead of wasting all your time posting cr*p on here, you should get busy improving the gene pool. Time is a wasting - get to it, stud.

Just jump in head first mate, you only live once.

You can always run if her mum gets cancer or the buffalo gets a twisted gut.

If you don't go for it then you'll always wonder and compare future women with this one which will be a mind <deleted>.

Good luck and enjoy

2 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Entertainment - it was that, watch netflix or get involved in the 'Trump' threads !!!

Dunno. 770 carefully formulated replies to a single windup over a period of seven months sounds like a pretty big personal investment.