The only advice I can offer from many years and vast experience is:

Try and chose a lady that has no immediate family, as it should make life a lot simpler in the long run with no one asking for money for family etc, etc. This quest, can be challenging but it is a quest that will keep you busy for many days and many nights!

But whoever you chose, remember always act with understanding and respect to her religious beliefs.

Take care of her, and treat her like a lady, just as you would want your own sister to be treated, with dignity and respect!

Some of them are Angels and some of them are even, dare I say it, Devils! Have fun finding out and enjoy the ride!

You are here just once, on this pale blue dot we call planet earth only once, so live life to the full and die happy!👻

On 6/3/2026 at 6:28 PM, richard_smith237 said:

"Cameroni did alright ?????" ..... By what metric ?

He was completely delusional and attached himself to multiple escorts and pay for play women before settling for one who was prepared to 'settle' for him - a woman who lied to him, cheated on him, kept multiple dating profiles running, maintained Tinder, disappeared whenever convenient, demanded financial support, left him for another bloke, and appears to regard exclusivity as more of a creative suggestion than a rule.

The relationship consisted largely of lies, excuses, phone signal issues, mysterious disappearances, competing men, emotional gymnastics, and Cam explaining why this latest red flag is actually evidence of her deep affection.

That's called a complete train-wreck.... Cam called it a soulmate....

If this is what "doing alright" looks like, I'd hate to see what failure looks like.

The only person who's done alright out of this arrangement is her - Cameroni is the antithesis or roll model in this case.

I just got a text from him.

Him and his beloved are lying in bed, naming five things they’re grateful for. She said all five of them were him.

She has a job, she’s learning English. In the long run, there may not be a long run.

But they certainly seem happy for now.

9 hours ago, NoshowJones said:

I have read stories on Youtube, ie a farang aged 70, a Santa Claus lookalike with a thick white beard and pot belly, with a beautiful Thai girl age 22 and genuinely believes that she loves him.

He is paying for her extended family, medical bills, university fees etc, etc. To me it seems the guy must be mentally retarded in some way.

If he can afford it, why not? Even if she doesn't love him, she's loving to him. If that comes at a price, who are you to insult the guy?

On 6/3/2026 at 6:15 PM, Prubangboy said:

Why did you not reveal your age after being asked a bunch of times?

He kept waffling on about everything but his age, which in these types of discussions is key information. Perhaps he's much older than double her age and embarrassed to admit it.

On 6/3/2026 at 8:57 AM, BritManToo said:

Same for all the self righteous posters, no money = no sex.

So I'm guessing they probably are lacking in sex drive, nothing wrong with that, I had an Aussie pal in his late 40s whom was quite happy with sex once a month from his wife.

And that's probably more than he wanted, but she insisted.

When I said his post was AI, I meant it was written in that generic maybe this, maybe that style that reeks of AI slop.

A recent example which I had a lot of fun ridiculing was when the Bogan said that there are many 7-Eleven’s, some are big, some are small. It’s the bland equivocating that usually gives AI so called help away.

No sentient being thinks that that that is how people talk,but a robot does; it’s just pure laziness to put your story into AI and have it rewritten.

Autism funneled through AI is a drab morass that we see the obtuse results of every day here.

I also left open the possibility that this person is just a dullard who could barely fog a mirror and actually communicates like this.

In which case, his odds with the waitress are even lower than the consensus here says they are.

So I am rooting for him and that he’s just lazy.

And since someone here was asking for French toast recommendations in CM, I recommend the butter is better deli. Probably the best I’ve had in Thailand.

The great Larry David-like owner passed away a couple weeks ago, so if you knew him, take a moment to give thanks and praise.

On 6/3/2026 at 9:50 AM, scubascuba3 said:

That's not the point, they are often looking for money the only difference is time scale, i see little difference in someone wanting money by the hour and someone wanting money for a few years marriage. A friend of mine was paying his wife 100k a month and a big payoff at the divorce, but you keep on dreaming it's always a genuine relationship

No, I think Richard stumbled into a relationship where his money was of no concern. It happens at all levels in Foreigner/Thai relationships but has more to do with luck than anything else. I stumbled in such a relationship. Not because I cared or was looking for a lady that didn't need my money. In very rare situations foreigners by pure luck meet one of these unicorns :) Acting as if it is normal is bizarre and don't get where the other poster you replied to is coming from.

You only live once ! If you don’t try you don’t fail and only trou failure you learn . Enjoy the moment !

The overwhelming number one determinant of happiness in a relationship is if both parties were happy and functional before the relationship.

I’m with someone who likes her job, likes, but it’s not beholden to her family, does charitable good deeds at the temple, and has respectable professional women friends.

On my end, I fill my days productively and working on my health.

So add in a plausible dose of mutual attraction and we are good to go.

Like I said, the mutual attraction has to be vaguely believable.

Which is why I remain skeptical about the OP who is still being very coy about his age.

9 hours ago, atpeace said:

No, I think Richard stumbled into a relationship where his money was of no concern. It happens at all levels in Foreigner/Thai relationships but has more to do with luck than anything else. I stumbled in such a relationship. Not because I cared or was looking for a lady that didn't need my money. In very rare situations foreigners by pure luck meet one of these unicorns :) Acting as if it is normal is bizarre and don't get where the other poster you replied to is coming from.

More likely he's either 1. deluding himself or 2. lying to us.

I've met several guys of the 'I don't pay them to be with me' guys and their wives, they all had massive fails and asset losses after a while and they were all really nice guys.

Edited June 4Jun 4 by BritManToo

9 hours ago, atpeace said:

No, I think Richard stumbled into a relationship where his money was of no concern. It happens at all levels in Foreigner/Thai relationships but has more to do with luck than anything else. I stumbled in such a relationship. Not because I cared or was looking for a lady that didn't need my money. In very rare situations foreigners by pure luck meet one of these unicorns :) Acting as if it is normal is bizarre and don't get where the other poster you replied to is coming from.

I don't know or care about Richard's specific circumstances, i was talking generally and I'm generally right, but of course near everyone on here will claim to be the exception

Just now, scubascuba3 said:

I don't know or care about Richard's specific circumstances, i was talking generally and I'm generally right, but of course near everyone on here will claim to be the exception

Not me,

I pay my wife to pretend to love me, and she's really good at her job!

Sometimes I can almost believe she really does love me.

13 hours ago, JensenZ said:

Yes, we can leave it to people like you with perfect genes to do the breeding. Instead of wasting all your time posting cr*p on here, you should get busy improving the gene pool. Time is a wasting - get to it, stud.

The only time being wasted on here is YOURS. You are the one reading my cr*p and feeling compelled to exercise your small cleverdickedness with witless ripostes.

My two stellar contributions to population, society and humanity are doing great BTW, thanks for asking.

I wonder how many of you have relationships with a true Gerontophile, someone ONLY sexually attracted to those aged 60+.

Statistics are scarce but prevalence is about 0.15% of the population.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Not me,

I pay my wife to pretend to love me, and she's really good at her job!

Sometimes I can almost believe she really does love me.

Brilliant. Why not publish the complete "how to guide" for the rest of us forum mugs on how to successfully pay for the girlfriend experience without ending up with that dreaded long-time from hell drama that never ends?

1 hour ago, scubascuba3 said:

I don't know or care about Richard's specific circumstances, i was talking generally and I'm generally right, but of course near everyone on here will claim to be the exception

And who is this mysterious Khun Ree-Chart? A co-conspirator of the great Soi 6 bob?

Met up with her again last night on our usual Thursday evening schedule.

Work first, as always, then a quick beer after. No dinner this time. Both of us had early starts this morning.

At some point last night, I asked whether she has a boyfriend. It felt like a reasonable thing to finally put out there before suggesting a date or making any romantic advances.

She does. Since high school, apparently. Close to ten years already, I guess, and by that time I was already around 40. Makes me feel old. He’s an engineer working on a construction project somewhere outside CM. They see each other a couple of times a month.

She didn’t say much beyond that, just that things have felt different with him lately, not in a positive way, and that she’s been doing a lot of thinking. She mentioned something about trust without going into detail. I didn’t push.

I just listened. She didn’t ask for my opinion, and I didn’t offer one.

But I’ve been thinking about it a lot since.

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

More likely he's either 1. deluding himself or 2. lying to us.

I've met several guys of the 'I don't pay them to be with me' guys and their wives, they all had massive fails and asset losses after a while and they were all really nice guys.

I don't know Richard and he seems honest for what that is worth :) If you meet a Thai woman outside the bar scene and even the online dating apps, your odds increase dramatically ( still slim but better ) in finding a woman that is financially secure. I did it but it was pure luck! I just saw her walking in a fruit market and had guts that day to get off my motorbike and start a conversation. Then Covid hit which cemented our bond.

I'm not special and it could have happened to you if you were at the right spot at the right time. Nothing wrong with supporting your partner and having a good life. I've always done this in past relationships.

2 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

I don't know or care about Richard's specific circumstances, i was talking generally and I'm generally right, but of course near everyone on here will claim to be the exception

Probably right and like I have mentioned before, I have supported all my previous partners here financially.

All I can say is that age gap relationship can work as it had done for me. Met her when she was her 19 and we are still together with 3 children (17,18,20) now. Age difference is 24 years. Invest your time money and energy with expectation to just move away if things go south. Just invest what you can lose comfortably. Let fate be your guide.

Is it ever acceptable to give money to a romantic partner, given the extreme income balance over here?

I have helped out with some medical stuff that she has long put off. I have tossed some cash on top of her temple donations.

I don’t want to pay her bills, but this just seems reasonable. Thoughts?

6 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

Is it ever acceptable to give money to a romantic partner, given the extreme income balance over here?

I have helped out with some medical stuff that she has long put off. I have tossed some cash on top of her temple donations.

I don’t want to pay her bills, but this just seems reasonable. Thoughts?

Perfectly reasonable and I you respect her needs, it is the honorable thing to do. If you have the means and she is lacking ignoring it would be awful and reflects poorly on you. You helped her because it was the right thing to do.

There’s definitely some mad scheming going on in a lot of these relationships, but on average, they are just nice people with a lot of less money than us, and a lot of pent up unmet needs.

I am an old lonely guy with too much money. If she wants some hair extensions, or to get her eyelashes done, I am happy to spread a little joy.

3 hours ago, NanLaew said:

The only time being wasted on here is YOURS. You are the one reading my cr*p and feeling compelled to exercise your small cleverdickedness with witless ripostes.

My two stellar contributions to population, society and humanity are doing great BTW, thanks for asking.

I only read your cr*p as it was a direct reply to me. I read nothing else from you in this thread, and I've only read a small number of posts here. You might live here, but I have other things to do.

I'm well aware of population demographics and the below-replacement fertility rate in Thailand and many other countries, and I'm not interested in what you have to say on the topic. There is more than enough good information on the topic available online. Had you not replied to my post, you would never have heard from me.

I'd suggest you find someone else to annoy.

This sounds like it was AI generated, verbose, overly detailed,

Whether just to harvest clicks or promote engagement, I’m sure many have asked themselves this question or similar.

Reality Checklist: We’ll assume you’re twice her age,

1. You are not hansom,

2. Age appropriateness will ultimately determine whether a relationship is sustainable,

3. You would look ridiculous together anywhere other than SE Asia,

4. If it feels cringy, it probably is,

16 hours ago, BilllyGOAT said:

19 hours ago, richard_smith237 said:

Entertainment - it was that, watch netflix or get involved in the 'Trump' threads !!!

Dunno. 770 carefully formulated replies to a single windup over a period of seven months sounds like a pretty big personal investment.

That you're so interested in both the quantity and formulation of my contributions might, invite a little introspection of your own.

On 6/4/2026 at 10:57 AM, NanLaew said:

AI-enhanced "discussion" and "opinion" expressed on a forum is very obvious, especially when the copy/paste includes the original browser formatting.

Absolutely. The dead giveaway isn't even the AI part anymore, it's when someone copy-pastes the output complete with browser formatting, bold headings, bullet hierarchies, and enough whitespace to qualify as a PowerPoint presentation.

Nothing says "this is my carefully considered personal opinion" quite like:

Key Takeaways

• Firstly...

• Secondly...

• Furthermore...

Conclusion

In summary, while nuanced perspectives exist...

Generated by ChatGPT at 14:32 GMT

15 hours ago, Prubangboy said:

I just got a text from him.

Him and his beloved are lying in bed, naming five things they’re grateful for. She said all five of them were him.

Him:

1) Sex

2) BJ's

3) HJ's

4) Cleaning

5) Cooking

Her:

1) Allowance

2) Compensation

3) Remuneration

4) Sponsorship

5) Financial support

23 minutes ago, cobra said:

This sounds like it was AI generated, verbose, overly detailed,

Whether just to harvest clicks or promote engagement, I’m sure many have asked themselves this question or similar.

Reality Checklist: We’ll assume you’re twice her age,

1. You are not hansom,

2. Age appropriateness will ultimately determine whether a relationship is sustainable,

3. You would look ridiculous together anywhere other than SE Asia,

4. If it feels cringy, it probably is,

Just sayin'

6 hours ago, BritManToo said:

15 hours ago, atpeace said:

No, I think Richard stumbled into a relationship where his money was of no concern. It happens at all levels in Foreigner/Thai relationships but has more to do with luck than anything else. I stumbled in such a relationship. Not because I cared or was looking for a lady that didn't need my money. In very rare situations foreigners by pure luck meet one of these unicorns :) Acting as if it is normal is bizarre and don't get where the other poster you replied to is coming from.

More likely he's either 1. deluding himself or 2. lying to us.

I've met several guys of the 'I don't pay them to be with me' guys and their wives, they all had massive fails and asset losses after a while and they were all really nice guys.

The idea of a normal relationship is so alien to you that you simply can't believe they exist.

On a number of occasions you've told us how badly you've been burnt in the past. So badly, in fact, that anything outside a transactional, mercenary arrangement now seems beyond your comprehension. It's a perspective that calls for a little introspection, but that would require the very self-awareness and self-reflection you seem determined to avoid.

Ironically, it's probably that failure which prevents you from ever having achieved a healthy relationship in the first place.

That said, if you're happy to pay someone to pretend to love you, who am I to argue? I have a wife who pretends to ignore me half the time, so we're both investing in fantasies of one sort or another.