Great, insightful topic, Charlie. Glad it popped into your head.

I've got no bucket list, I'm content where I am. Contentment is a lot more important than transient happiness.

My Living Will, in Thai and English, states Do Not Resuscitate and then lists all the other reasons docs should let me visit the next bardo.

We shouldn't be ruled by our fears but dementia, strokes, wheelchairs, bedbound are particularly tragic endings. Without the option of euthanasia--which I firmly support--what else is left?

I don't want my sweet wife having to wipe my ass, bathe me, feed me aso. Better to just check out.

3 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

No, life is precious, but is never long enough. Yes, Christians can't wait to meet God, so we'll all know more, but still want to live as long as possible as there are things on earth to enjoy. All people would love to meet God, even those who think he doesn't exist. You can't avoid meeting with God, as we all will eventually.

Anyone with their eyes open here can meet the Divine in all of nature.

56 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Some days are extra special while most are average in hookups. I lost a Sailfish I never saw, as it jumped twice while I was putting the rod in the holder. I'm hoping my time will come.

Remember Hemingway!

Perhaps there is reincarnation. If so, I would prefer to be something other than human, a creature who doesn't fear death and drops in its tracks when the time comes.

4 hours ago, KhunLA said:

Yep, checked all that off, and can't think of anything, I'm not willing to sit on a plane or spend money to see or experience anything new.

Already did more and seen more than I ever thought I would.

Would like to see aurora borealis, but that's about all I can think of. Wife wants to see snow, so a combo trip would work ... but. Dog has to pass to do, them maybe. Saying that, I hope I never see it.

At your age your on your way out

How long do you think you got left?

Unfortunately this has now become a "God thread" and as I don't believe there is one, I won't follow that line of thought/communication.

I guess I have done all I really wanted to do in my life, from extensive travelling and working overseas ranging from the Nigerian jungle, to the Sahara desert, to working for oil companies in Norway and the North Sea and if you add onto that an extensive tour of French wine growing regions, a cruise round the Yasaka Islands and trips to Australia, New Zealand, as well as playing football in Belgium, then there's not much else I want to do.

And before I forget I have been lucky enough to play a warmup game of tennis against Steffi Graf and Jelena Dokich (both very nice women), played semiprofessional football and played alongside the former Chelsea centre half, Marvin Hinton (who even at the age of 42 was very, very good).

I was even able to sail the New Zealand America's Cup Challenger yacht around Auckland Harbour (with some help of course) and also the smaller boat the K 27 around the Bay of Islands.

Many other things, but don't want to bore folks, however I did build an Investment Fund for a major NZ bank, starting with a $100,000 seed capital and building it to just under $2 billion in funds under management, before taking early retirement.

So there is absolutely nothing else I want to do and nowhere else I want to go, so I spend much time on the computer, seeking out and buying good wine and looking out for the occasional good movie, and the nightlife in Patong long ago ceased to be a drawcard for me. So I'm perfectly happy as I am.

19 minutes ago, unblocktheplanet said:

Great, insightful topic, Charlie. Glad it popped into your head.

I've got no bucket list, I'm content where I am. Contentment is a lot more important than transient happiness.

My Living Will, in Thai and English, states Do Not Resuscitate and then lists all the other reasons docs should let me visit the next bardo.

We shouldn't be ruled by our fears but dementia, strokes, wheelchairs, bedbound are particularly tragic endings. Without the option of euthanasia--which I firmly support--what else is left?

I don't want my sweet wife having to wipe my ass, bathe me, feed me aso. Better to just check out.

Anyone with their eyes open here can meet the Divine in all of nature.

Remember Hemingway!

Perhaps there is reincarnation. If so, I would prefer to be something other than human, a creature who doesn't fear death and drops in its tracks when the time comes.

Truth.

Yes, The Old man and the Sea is one reason I want that Marlin, as it's a favorite movie my daughter and I watched recently.

I don't think we get but one chance to get things right. if there was reincarnation and it was proven, many would do whatever they wanted, letting the next life get things right.

8 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

At your age your on your way out

How long do you think you got left?

Mr. Doom and Gloom returns with yet another prophesy.

7 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

I would do anything I can to live as long as possible, for two reasons. I want to see my daughter here grow up and be independent, working, and even married if I can live that long. I also want to finish my bucket list of traveling to certain places and fishing and hunting in many more. If I could pass after reeling in a 1000 lb Black Marlin, and watching it swim away, at age 100, that would make my day.

Funny how I get 3 thumbs downs on a reply that is personal to only myself. Shows how some weirdos here think. Hopefully they'll change back to showing who posts emojis, so they'll show us more about a certain few. Remember it's stalking when there's no reason for it. Like just now

Edited June 3Jun 3 by fredwiggy

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

Funny how I get 3 thumbs downs on a reply that is personal to only myself. Shows how some weirdos here think. Hopefully they'll change back to showing who posts emojis, so they'll show us more about a certain few.

Exactly,don't blame yourself, I like you Freddy

Even though no one liked you when through out your working career as you know you weren't the most popular team member

, I still like you mate

Edited June 3Jun 3 by georgegeorgia

Just now, georgegeorgia said:

Exactly,don't blame yourself, I like you Freddy

Even though no one liked you when through out your working career as you know , I still like you

Why would I blame myself for another's mental illness? Tell us, how would you know no one disliked me during my working career, or any other time. For an academic, your grammar sucks.

Some people have really been around.

I've had a boring mundane life.

Maybe I will travel a bit before dropping dead.

Just now, fredwiggy said:

Why would I blame myself for another's mental illness? Tell us, how would you know no one disliked me during my working career, or any other time. For an academic, your grammar sucks.

Well I'm thinking as you were a Parking Officer.they used to call them brown bombers in the UK although that would be racist now I guess

..the likelihood of anyone liking you would be statistically low my friend, although i guess it was good to think positive

I love you mate and thankyou for the years of service stopping those cars parked in No stopping zones

Edited June 3Jun 3 by georgegeorgia

Just now, georgegeorgia said:

Well I'm thinking as you were a Parking Officer.theyvused to call them brown bombers in the UK although that would be racist now I guess

..the likelihood of anyone likinh you would be statistically low my friend, although i guess it was good to think positive

I love you mate

Just say no.

2 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Some people have really been around.

I've had a boring mundane life.

Maybe I will travel a bit before dropping dead.

Yes, get that bucket list in, asap. I'm sure there are many things you've always wanted to do. I couldn't because I've been raising kids for decades, but I'll find time when we return home.

4 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Some people have really been around.

I've had a boring mundane life.

Maybe I will travel a bit before dropping dead.

People who say "maybe" never do. I heard this for 20 years. If you wanted to travel you would just do it.

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

People who say "maybe" never do. I heard this for 20 years. If you wanted to travel you would just do it.

Traveling isn't easy if you have more important responsibilities or more would do it. It's easy for a single person, unattached, with no children and retired.

8 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

I want to see my daughter here grow up and be independent, working, and even married if I can live that long. I also want to finish my bucket list of traveling to certain places and fishing and hunting in many more. If I could pass after reeling in a 1000 lb Black Marlin, and watching it swim away, at age 100, that would make my day.

Strange, that wasn't on any list for me, kids. Turned out to be the best thing ever, and lucky enough to complete the job.

She made it to adulthood, unpregnant, no alcohol or drugs, Uni grad, independent, and got a great fiancé, that anyone would be proud to have as a son.

If that was the only thing I ever did correct, that would have been enough for me.

6 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Strange, that wasn't on any list for me, kids. Turned out to be the best thing ever, and lucky enough to complete the job.

She made it to adulthood, unpregnant, no alcohol or drugs, Uni grad, independent, and got a great fiancé, that anyone would be proud to have as a son.

If that was the only thing I ever did correct, that would have been enough for me.

Pretty much the most important thing anyone can do. All my kids are doing well, even if their moms weren't doing their jobs. One daughter got into some trouble, hanging out with "friends" I didn't approve of, until she found her husband, who's the best thing that could have happened for her.

7 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Pretty much the most important thing anyone can do. All my kids are doing well, even if their moms weren't doing their jobs. One daughter got into some trouble, hanging out with "friends" I didn't approve of, until she found her husband, who's the best thing that could have happened for her.

How come kids come from good families commit murder?

Edited June 3Jun 3 by Rockyroad

7 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Odd how many devout Christians will do anything to avoid meeting their god.

"For to me, to live is Christ and to die is gain." Philippians 1:21

Christians are not afraid of dying, just the opposite. What they might be trying to "avoid" is causing pain to their loved ones.

45 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

How come kids come from good families commit murder?

Can never tell what goes on in another's home unless you live with them 24/7. Some, very few, are born with psychopathic traits. Sociopaths are made at home.

4 hours ago, xylophone said:

Unfortunately this has now become a "God thread" and as I don't believe there is one, I won't follow that line of thought/communication.

I guess I have done all I really wanted to do in my life, from extensive travelling and working overseas ranging from the Nigerian jungle, to the Sahara desert, to working for oil companies in Norway and the North Sea and if you add onto that an extensive tour of French wine growing regions, a cruise round the Yasaka Islands and trips to Australia, New Zealand, as well as playing football in Belgium, then there's not much else I want to do.

And before I forget I have been lucky enough to play a warmup game of tennis against Steffi Graf and Jelena Dokich (both very nice women), played semiprofessional football and played alongside the former Chelsea centre half, Marvin Hinton (who even at the age of 42 was very, very good).

I was even able to sail the New Zealand America's Cup Challenger yacht around Auckland Harbour (with some help of course) and also the smaller boat the K 27 around the Bay of Islands.

Many other things, but don't want to bore folks, however I did build an Investment Fund for a major NZ bank, starting with a $100,000 seed capital and building it to just under $2 billion in funds under management, before taking early retirement.

So there is absolutely nothing else I want to do and nowhere else I want to go, so I spend much time on the computer, seeking out and buying good wine and looking out for the occasional good movie, and the nightlife in Patong long ago ceased to be a drawcard for me. So I'm perfectly happy as I am.

OOPs, forgot to mention a few other places I have visited, some of which I liked very much, namely Spain, Rarotonga, New Caledonia, Hawaii, Trinidad and Tobago, Japan and the Philippines, Noumea, Malta, as well as skiing in Italy and France, so as I said, nowhere else I want to go in the few years I've got left, but would love to spend them close to my Thai daughter here in Phuket.

I guess the answer to these questions are different for everyone, and a lot of it comes down to one's own means, but in my view, if you haven’t done most of what you want to do in life by your very early fifties, then you’re on a slippery slope. By your late fifties and early sixties, things can change. Health and other aspects of life become more unpredictable.

I think bucket lists are a waste of time. The concept made for an entertaining film 20 years ago, but it’s not how I think people should live. Do the travel, or whatever it is you want to do, now while you still have the chance.

I have a number of wealthy friends who have the option to do whatever they want at this point, yet they continue putting off many of their desires because they believe they’ll get around to everything once they retire. But as we get older, our interests and motivations can change, and so can our physical capabilities. I’ve seen plenty of people make those kinds of future plans, only never to carry them out.

Personally, I’ll just keep doing what I’ve always done: traveling and living life at my own rhythm, without holding back or postponing things for some distant future. Whenever the music stops, that’s when it stops. No regrets.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by BilllyGOAT

I learned early on from my time in the Navy, work hard … play hard. I’ve been successful at both, I’ve been successful professionally and traveled extensively, enjoying it all with a great partner! I may have learned it as a child from my parents due to our regular moving because of my father’s work.

We’re here in Bangkok now, with a house in NC I hope we don’t go back to. As long as we’re healthy, we’re traveling and going to experience life until our last breaths!

On 6/3/2026 at 2:09 AM, CharlieH said:

Have you reached a point in life where you've done most of what you wanted to do?

Far from — I need at least 25 more years — and if something serious happens, as you OP describe, I would choose what's most important 'to do', and see if I can manage to get that done before I move on. On the other hand — apart from accidents can happen to all, despite of age — when you get older you might begin to plan little different ang get something of it done, so it's not too complicated for those you leave behind, if you suddently are not here anymore.

At 85 I am happy with my life even though there are many things I wish I had done which I haven't done, and many things I have done which I wish I hadn't done. Now I try not to dwell in the past, and to be thankful for each day as it comes.

I must say this is a brilliant topic and kudos to the OP whoever that is

Thankyou for your service

Whilst many of you say you travelled here there and everywhere

How about driving around Tasmania?

How about going through the Australian desert ?

How about going from Sydney to Perth across the Nullarbor?

How about visiting the pink water lake in South Australia?

How about walking through Alice Springs on a late Friday night?

13 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Whilst many of you say you travelled here there and everywhere

How about driving around Tasmania?

How about going through the Australian desert ?

How about going from Sydney to Perth across the Nullarbor?

How about visiting the pink water lake in South Australia?

How about walking through Alice Springs on a late Friday night?

Ive done Cairns to Perth via Adelaide.

14 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Whilst many of you say you travelled here there and everywhere

How about driving around Tasmania?

How about going through the Australian desert ?

How about going from Sydney to Perth across the Nullarbor?

How about visiting the pink water lake in South Australia?

How about walking through Alice Springs on a late Friday night?

It takes a certain amount of travel before you realize the next destination is just another destination,,,,,,

On 6/3/2026 at 7:09 AM, CharlieH said:

I saw a comment on another topic that prompted this one.

Have you reached a point in life where you've done most of what you wanted to do?

If you were diagnosed with something serious such as cancer, would you go through potentially difficult treatments in the hope of gaining more time, or would you choose comfort care, accept the situation, and focus on making the most of whatever time remained?

Personally, I think I'd choose quality of life over quantity. I wouldn't want my remaining time dominated by hospitals, side effects, and discomfort. For me, being comfortable and able to enjoy each day would matter more than extending life at any cost.

As for unfinished business, I can't think of anything that leaves me with major regrets or a strong feeling that I still need to achieve it before I go. There are always things I'd like to do, but nothing that feels essential.

What about you? Is there something you still want to accomplish, experience, or put right before you'd feel at peace with the idea that your time was up?

Never was a bucket list type. I do what I want to do and try not to chase the next thing on a list. People seem preoccupied with planning the next adventure while there is more to be enjoyed in everyday life that they fail to grasp. I'll go on trips in the future and probably enjoy them but a list seems so limiting.

Went on a trip to Australia with a couple friends that had a list of things to check off. By day three, I was avoiding them like the plague and I'm sure I came off as a jerk but it was too much to handle. I hadn't seen them in years and they were preoccupied with a checklist. My best memories are mostly just hanging with friends and not worrying about anything and enjoying the moment.

11 minutes ago, Hummin said:

It takes a certain amount of travel before you realize the next destination is just another destination,,,,,,

I don't have the energy I did when I was in my 20s and 30s.

It's too exhausting to try to rattle off 1000 bucket list places.

Many tourist sites are not worth it -- pickpockets, over-crowded ..

Some of the most interesting places may be remote and difficult to get to.

Even more exhausting.