I saw a comment on another topic that prompted this one.

Have you reached a point in life where you've done most of what you wanted to do?

If you were diagnosed with something serious such as cancer, would you go through potentially difficult treatments in the hope of gaining more time, or would you choose comfort care, accept the situation, and focus on making the most of whatever time remained?

Personally, I think I'd choose quality of life over quantity. I wouldn't want my remaining time dominated by hospitals, side effects, and discomfort. For me, being comfortable and able to enjoy each day would matter more than extending life at any cost.

As for unfinished business, I can't think of anything that leaves me with major regrets or a strong feeling that I still need to achieve it before I go. There are always things I'd like to do, but nothing that feels essential.

What about you? Is there something you still want to accomplish, experience, or put right before you'd feel at peace with the idea that your time was up?

Regardless of what I have done, there is always more to add to the list. I'v seen people trying to extend their lives while spending most of it in a hospital bed. What's not a good quality of life.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by TedG

Done too much compared the average person, it often shocks me how the majority of people pisses their life away. It is not different in Thailand too, as the majority of people coming here are already at retired age when finally realizing the rat race is a joke, and having gone trough 1-2 divorces + lost half their net worth (to then often repeat it another time with a Thai bar girl).

Many people appear to live their life as if they have 3 lifes in time. While life is in most cases more likely shorter than longer than expected. After all, 1/4 male dies before age 65, hence the retirement age too, it was designed based on the average death.

If you ask the average guy if he realizes that he has a 25% chance to not even make it to 65, they just look clueless to you. If you asked the same guy if he would risk his net worth to double up at a 25% chance to lose all, they would never risk it.

This generation that now is around 50 years old really messed up this world, not only in the world but also in economy and in parenting. It will take another world war and global depression to reset this again. The third generation always fks it up.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by Spider5511

I would do anything I can to live as long as possible, for two reasons. I want to see my daughter here grow up and be independent, working, and even married if I can live that long. I also want to finish my bucket list of traveling to certain places and fishing and hunting in many more. If I could pass after reeling in a 1000 lb Black Marlin, and watching it swim away, at age 100, that would make my day.

Nope, been chasing life all my life, and found out, less is more!

Now it is more about enjoying life without looking back, now is good.

I chased life for years.

Now I just enjoy it.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by Hummin

I've seen the elephant, more than once. Still enjoying life, but content with what I've accomplished.

This post has made me think about tomorrow, when I am going for a DRE at Bangkok Hospital in P'lok. First time in my 78 years that anyone has been there.

What will I do if he says yes to the big C and need chemo/radio/medication, to keep me alive for a further 6 or 12 months to add to my 78 at an horrendous price, or let Mother Nature take her course.

After University at age 22, I started my professional music career, lasting until 2016, where I have seen so many different countries, and girls, India, Nigeria, Scandinavia, all of Europe, and I still have the same Fender Jazz bass I bought at the start. So all in all I have done most things I wanted to.

Did 14 years as manager/chef in my own hotel in Macclesfield, had two boys who are now both musicians in Dubai, with my Grandkids. Sadly my wife, their mother, died from breast cancer 12 years ago, and now I am happily settled here, with my Thai girlfriend, her daughter and son who is 6.

So if the big C is diagnosed, I have no regrets whatsoever. If I were in severe pain, I have ways and means of stopping it.

So tomorrow a finger up my bum will determine my future.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by wil iam not

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

I would do anything I can to live as long as possible, for two reasons. I want to see my daughter here grow up and be independent, working, and even married if I can live that long. I also want to finish my bucket list of traveling to certain places and fishing and hunting in many more. If I could pass after reeling in a 1000 lb Black Marlin, and watching it swim away, at age 100, that would make my day.

Odd how many devout Christians will do anything to avoid meeting their god.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by BritManToo

7 minutes ago, wil iam not said:

This post has made me think about tomorrow, when I am going for a DRE at Bangkok Hospital in P'lok. First time in my 78 years that anyone has been there.

What will I do if he says yes to the big C and need chemo/radio/medication, to keep me alive for a further 6 or 12 months to add to my 78 at an horrendous price, or let Mother Nature take her course.

I really would like to reach 80 as my boys are arranging a big party!

Thats a good reason to hang on, isn't ?

1 minute ago, BritManToo said:

Odd how many Christians will do anything to avoid meeting their god.

And yet certain other religions are ready to go see , how many is it, 50 virgins.

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Odd how many devout Christians will do anything to avoid meeting their god.

No, life is precious, but is never long enough. Yes, Christians can't wait to meet God, so we'll all know more, but still want to live as long as possible as there are things on earth to enjoy. All people would love to meet God, even those who think he doesn't exist. You can't avoid meeting with God, as we all will eventually.

2 hours ago, CharlieH said:

Have you reached a point in life where you've done most of what you wanted to do?

Yes absolutely, everything from here on out is a bonus.

2 hours ago, CharlieH said:

Personally, I think I'd choose quality of life over quantity.

Quality supersedes quantity, if I exceeded my limits of quality for quantity the happiness is degraded and forfeited.

2 hours ago, CharlieH said:

What about you? Is there something you still want to accomplish, experience, or put right before you'd feel at peace with the idea that your time was up?

Am currently accomplishing life’s experience.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

No, life is precious, but is never long enough. Yes, Christians can't wait to meet God, so we'll all know more, but still want to live as long as possible as there are things on earth to enjoy. All people would love to meet God, even those who think he doesn't exist. You can't avoid meeting with God, as we all will eventually.

I sold my soul to Santa!

After a long discussion on "Is there a dog!"

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

I sold my soul to Santa!

After a long discussion on "Is there a dog!"

Or the answer to the Universe and everything is 42? We can choose what we want, and thats the beauty of life, true beauty of life

Edited June 3Jun 3 by Hummin

Yep, checked all that off, and can't think of anything, I'm not willing to sit on a plane or spend money to see or experience anything new.

Already did more and seen more than I ever thought I would.

Would like to see aurora borealis, but that's about all I can think of. Wife wants to see snow, so a combo trip would work ... but. Dog has to pass to do, them maybe. Saying that, I hope I never see it.

34 minutes ago, wil iam not said:

And yet certain other religions are ready to go see , how many is it, 50 virgins.

Without an age and weight guarantee, I'll give the 50 virgins a miss.

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Without an age and weight guarantee, I'll give the 50 virgins a miss.

I am 78 years old and weigh 68 kg. Can I get a few Virgins please. 555

44 minutes ago, wil iam not said:

This post has made me think about tomorrow, when I am going for a DRE at Bangkok Hospital in P'lok. First time in my 78 years that anyone has been there.

What will I do if he says yes to the big C and need chemo/radio/medication, to keep me alive for a further 6 or 12 months to add to my 78 at an horrendous price, or let Mother Nature take her course.

I really would like to reach 80 as my boys are arranging a big party!

Like you, I've lived a long and very healthy life. It wasn't until I hit 80, earlier this year that I contracted a nasty bacterial infection and was hospitalized for a week. (my 1st time ever) The doctor said that had I not been so. it was possible that I could have succumbed to sepsis. After one week in hospital, I wish I bloody well had!

It was the most dreadful experience of my life which I never want to repeat!

1 hour ago, wil iam not said:

And yet certain other religions are ready to go see , how many is it, 50 virgins.

That is not entirely correct. Only 'martyrs' fall for that nonsense, fed to them by despicable mullahs in the madrassas. (72 virgins actually) The vast majority of Muslims do not aspire to being martyrs.

However the point that @BritManToo made is a poignant one. It is the monotheistic religions that seem to foster this 'fear of death' thing. It seems to be a feeling that they are facing fearsome judgement and retribution if they haven't 'got it right' during this life.

I'm atheist, bordering on nihilism, so it doesn't bother me one little bit.

42 minutes ago, Moonlover said:

Like you, I've lived a long and very healthy life. It wasn't until I hit 80, earlier this year that I contracted a nasty bacterial infection and was hospitalized for a week. (my 1st time ever) The doctor said that had I not been so. it was possible that I could have succumbed to sepsis. After one week in hospital, I wish I bloody well had!

It was the most dreadful experience of my life which I never want to repeat!

Private or Government hospital? Where?

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

All people would love to meet God, even those who think he doesn't exist.

Silly statement Fred. ALL people DO NOT want to see God. I would rather meet Paul McCartney!

Although, if I did go 'up there' I would meet Brian Wilson, but God Only Knows when that may be. 555

If, like me, you don't believe God (whichever religion you have been conned into) exists, why would I want to meet him, that's IF he is male.

Edited June 3Jun 3 by wil iam not

2 minutes ago, wil iam not said:

Silly statement Fred. ALL people DO NOT want to see God. I would rather meet Paul McCartney!

Although, if I did go 'up there' I would meet Brian Wilson, but God Only Knows when that may be. 555

Trust me, GOD would not want to see me, as I'd have a few words with IT, IT definitely wouldn't appreciate. IT's got a wrarped sense of humor the way IT's running things down here.

1 minute ago, wil iam not said:

Silly statement Fred. ALL people DO NOT want to see God. I would rather meet Paul McCartney!

Although, if I did go 'up there' I would meet Brian Wilson, but God Only Knows when that may be. 555

Most are curious, even if they don't believe. Of course anyone would want to see the creator of the universe, especially more than a musician that was one of many. And when I go there, I get to see, and jam with Hendrix, Lynyrd Skynyd and Molly Hatchet's whole band, Neal Casal, Jim Croce, Freddie Mercury, The Allman Brothers, Mick Ralphs, Myles Goodwyn, John Lodge, Prince, Ozzy, Morrison, Joplin, B.B. King, Lennon, Mason, Harrison, Rhoads, Dio, Bowie, Gary Moore, Jerry garcia and many more.

2 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Trust me, GOD would not want to see me, as I'd have a few words with IT, IT definitely wouldn't appreciate. IT's got a wrarped sense of humor the way IT's running things down here.

But he is in charge, so always has the last word. And remember, 100 years or so doesn't compare to a perfect place forever.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

But he is in charge, so always has the last word. And remember, 100 years or so doesn't compare to a perfect place forever.

So did God tell that Sikh animal to stab the white boy. Or the cops to cuff his white hands when he was on the ground?

I know others will ask why God allows all the War and fighting wherever it goes on, does he give people cancer or other illnesses.

If I were in charge as you say God is, I would get fired....which in my mind, he has.

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

But he is in charge, so always has the last word. And remember, 100 years or so doesn't compare to a perfect place forever.

Yea, I'd get the boot pretty quick. If IT's religions are an example of his ... " My way or the highway " thinking.

Kneel & obey or pay to play seems the only 2 options with IT's religions. Either those, or Get the F out, you infidel.

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

Without an age and weight guarantee, I'll give the 50 virgins a miss.

Fifty--or 72 virgins---is Hell, not paradise. Not that I'm a believer in anything, but that alone would keep me off that particular faith.

I had a couple of virgins when I was 16 or so. Not the most exciting trysts.

Just now, wil iam not said:

So did God tell that Sikh animal to stab the white boy. Or the cops to cuff his white hands when he was on the ground?

I know others will ask why God allows all the War and fighting wherever it goes on, does he give people cancer or other illnesses.

If I were in charge as you say God is, I would get fired....which in my mind, he has.

God isn't about telling others to hurt others. That's learned at home, where free will has some thinking anything goes, and what they saw dad do, was okay for them also.

God allows all things to happen, as far as we can see, with some unexplained miracles that do occur, because this is still just a test.

Like I mentioned earlier, and yes, life does suck at times and is hard for most, but 100 years or less compared to eternity does not compare. People are responsible for evil.

Why diseases are here, along with venomous snakes that can kill people, mosquito born diseases, cancer, gnats and flies more than needed, along with other maladies, I would like to know, but maybe they're here to teach humans how to control them to help others, like many have proven to do in history. Or jsut to prove we aren't in charge, and again, this is temporary.

Getting a bit off topic. So back on track, I have fulfilled most of what I wanted with the help of any God...well McCarney and Wilson's music helped a lot! 555

1 minute ago, fredwiggy said:

God isn't about telling others to hurt others. That's learned at home, where free will has some thinking anything goes, and what they saw dad do, was okay for them also.

God allows all things to happen, as far as we can see, with some unexplained miracles that do occur, because this is still just a test.

Like I mentioned earlier, and yes, life does suck at times and is hard for most, but 100 years or less compared to eternity does not compare. People are responsible for evil.

Why diseases are here, along with venomous snakes that can kill people, mosquito born diseases, cancer, gnats and flies more than needed, along with other maladies, I would like to know, but maybe they're here to teach humans how to control them to help others, like many have proven to do in history. Or jsut to prove we aren't in charge, and again, this is temporary.

You certainly have a strange way to explain things. If I learned to do bad things learned at home, who taught my parents to teach me?

If a venomous snake or mosquito bites me, and I go up to 'heaven to meet God' will he refuse entry because I did not pass his test?

Now back on topic. How has your God helped you do all you wanted to?