3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Yeah the numbers look fake, follow up polls needed, including Have you bought properties? car, motorbike? send money to family? built a house on the thai wife/gf land?

Properties, cars, motorbikes all built for our (wife & self) use.

Money to family .... Hell NO

Built houses on land not owned by family, or even near 2nd, current Thai wife's family.

3 hours ago, SiSePuede419 said:

$0.00b If my wife needs 100b for a delivery and I give her 500b, she then gives me back the change 400b....Whenever she needs something, she asks....I almost never say no....Cheers🥂

Wife never has to ask for money, as she has it all, well most already. What ever I don't keep as 'pocket money', which at times if quite a bit, as I take out ~300k every 4th month, to avoid FBAR filing.

Good part gets deposited in her account. She'll QR pay whatever from one of her accounts. If needing banks notes, she just takes it out of my wallet, if she is out. No need to ask.

I do most of the food shopping, so she really doesn't need much 'cash', or we're together for any shopping, and I'll usually pay out of my wallet. Unless her CC has a promo with vendor.

Having her to ask for money all the time, would be really degrading. She does know how to spend (and invest) responsibly, so never an issue. Can't say that about the 1st Thai wife, and part of the reason that ended.

Edited 4 hours ago4 hr by KhunLA

14 hours ago, atpeace said:

Nothing wrong with that at all and I bet many of us were raised in similar households. 98% of Expats here pay the vast majority if not all household expenses. Definitely exceptions but they are rare. For better or worse, most Thai women are looking for financially secure men and that goes for women with good jobs. My relationship is one of those exceptions but I just wandered into it and that wasn't my intent. I could really care less when I met her if she had money.

Previous generations in the West, many / most women didn't work.

But wages did not keep up with housing costs and women were pushed into the workplace. Unless you were a doctor, it was hard to live on one income.

In Thailand, many/most women seem to be working their butts off, doing long hours.

If a woman latches on to a well-heeled foreigner who pays all the bills and no longer needs to work, then I guess she has hit the jackpot. But modern Thailand is not equivalent to the West in the 50s, where most women were staying at home raising kids. Most Thai men's wages and having to support extended family simply does not make it feasible for most women to stop working.

Edited 3 hours ago3 hr by save the frogs

4 hours ago, Geoff914 said:

Of course they do. The only thing that surprises me that only wanted a share not all. To be fair I think I would agree to a joint account, I would just make sure my earnings went into my sole account. Only my share of expenses would go into the joint account. And don't tell me any gf wouldn't do exactly the same.

They are just looking out for number "1". Most people on this forum get unglued if you have a minor disagreement or ask a question about their post, yet they expect their wife to be civil during a divorce.

I had three properties and asked nicely to divide them equally but that didn't go so well as I expected. Plan B - surprise her with an OK but it has to be finalized today. That was my approach and the Thai government employee doing the paperwork smiled when she asked me, are you sure and I with no hesitation said YES. Divorce done and all my other assets untouched. Sucked but oh well and after 20 years she probably deserved the properties.

58 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

Having her to ask for money all the time, would be really degrading. She does know how to spend (and invest) responsibly, so never an issue. Can't say that about the 1st Thai wife, and part of the reason that ended.

My current has her own money but during Covid all her revenue sources pretty much disappeared after about a year. Stressful for her! I just gave her my ATM that I use for monthly expenses and told her not to worry about how much she needs. I used my account that I keep my immigration dollars in.

Some months when property fees fees were due it would be a large amount but about 2 years ago I noticed the ATM card was back in my wallet and her cash flow issues were no longer an issue.

She can rely on me to help her financially if she ever needs it and almost without limits. Good men don't expect their wife to ask when it is apparent that she needs money.

11 hours ago, Hummin said:

You might be better off focusing more on yourself instead of spending so much time on other people’s weaknesses.

That's okay, I'm on to it. Thanks for your concern.

How are you doing, Mr ChatGPT?

5 hours ago, fredwiggy said:

Check your notes.

How much do you pay @fredwiggy ? So many posts here but yet you haven't said. Why is that?

Similarly with your friend @Hummin . You both beat around the bush, but don't actually tell the whole truth.

8 minutes ago, atpeace said:

My current has her own money but during Covid all her revenue sources pretty much disappeared after about a year. Stressful for her! I just gave her my ATM that I use for monthly expenses and told her not to worry about how much she needs. I used my account that I keep my immigration dollars in.

Some months when property fees fees were due it would be a large amount but about 2 years ago I noticed the ATM card was back in my wallet and her cash flow issues were no longer an issue.

She can rely on me to help her financially if she ever needs it and almost without limits. Good men don't expect their wife to ask when it is apparent that she needs money.

Wife was self sufficient before meeting me, working at sis's 'restaurant', very busy stall at night market. Quite enjoyed the work, after a few years of computer grahic design at Krung Thep, for clothing manufacturer.

First marriage ended, so she was on a, relationship / corperate world stress break, when we started hanging out. Liked the work with sis, but way too many hours, and to live with me, meant retiring. Apparently I'm very needy 🙄 and of course, my daughter had to give the approval stamp, which previous gals didn't get.

Really hard decision for her, even though knowing she could return to work with sis if we failed. Actually more concerned about her sis finding a replacement, which never really happened, but sis's son filled it, since graduating Uni, around same time. She rolled the dice and it worked out for both of us, actually, all 3 of us.

Edited 2 hours ago2 hr by KhunLA

Do you disagree with my post @ColeBOzbourne ? Have you seen either of them tell us how much they pay? They join the thread as imposters. A lot of words, but saying nothing at all. Having you noticed?

2 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Do you disagree with my post @ColeBOzbourne ? Have you seen either of them tell us how much they pay? They join the thread as imposters. A lot of words, but saying nothing at all. Having you noticed?

I have noticed that you try to goad and bully people into answering a question that is none of your business. That's what I've seen from you, over and over.

14 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

They join the thread as imposters. A lot of words, but saying nothing at all.

And you are not an imposter with a lot of worded redundancies? If you say no then you are a liar. If you say yes then you are a hypocrite. Which is it?

My wife works with her now third generation family food business. It is not large but it meets this definition of a successful business: They could sell more product than they can make.

20 minutes ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

I have noticed that you try to goad and bully people into answering a question that is none of your business. That's what I've seen from you, over and over.

May I remind you of the topic title? How much do you pay your girlfriend/wife?

It's a legitimate question. How much do you pay? If you don't want to talk about it, then what are you doing here?

8 minutes ago, ArchieBunker said:

And you are not an imposter with a lot of worded redundancies? If you say no then you are a liar. If you say yes then you are a hypocrite. Which is it?

No, I'm not an imposter and your assertions are just the rantings of an addled mind. It certainly makes no sense to me.

Worded redundancies are simply words and phrases with the same or similar meanings, so how does that impact on whether my statements are true or not?

It's just rubbish, isn't it? Using phrases that you don't understand in the hope of fooling someone into believing that you know what you are talking about.

It certainly worked with @ColeBOzbourne 😊

How much do you pay your wife/girlfriend? That what we are here to discuss. How are you doing?

2 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

May I remind you of the topic title? How much do you pay your girlfriend/wife?

It's a legitimate question. How much do you pay? If you don't want to talk about it, then what are you doing here?

It is a legitimate question, and everyone has the prerogative to answer or not answer. It is not mandatory. The thread is open for anybody to participate, and comment as they please. May I remind you that you are not the forum police officer here to question people's motives for joining the thread. It all falls under the same category, @IsmeUno , it's none of your business.

3 minutes ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

It is a legitimate question, and everyone has the prerogative to answer or not answer. It is not mandatory. The thread is open for anybody to participate, and comment as they please. May I remind you that you are not the forum police officer here to question people's motives for joining the thread. It all falls under the same category, @IsmeUno , it's none of your business.

Indeed they have that prerogative, but the question still remains. Why join the thread, making so many posts, but yet not even one on-topic?

Sorry, but this is the wrong place to suggest that one should mind their own business. That's the whole point of a discussion forum.

Right now, whose 'business' are you minding? Yours?

A bit of a hypocrite, aren't you?

I understand that once your argument runs out of steam @ColeBOzbourne , you revert to emojinal outbursts.

Impressive maturity shown by what is likely an old man. What happened to your wisdom?

11 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Indeed they have that prerogative, but the question still remains. Why join the thread, making so many posts, but yet not even one on-topic?

Sorry, but this is the wrong place to suggest that one should mind their own business. That's the whole point of a discussion forum.

Right now, whose 'business' are you minding? Yours?

A bit of a hypocrite, aren't you?

You're a waste of time.

1 minute ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

You're a waste of time.

You mean that your argument was weak, fell down and now you are demonstrating that you are a bad loser.

What a bad loser you are @ColeBOzbourne . Shameful behaviour of an old man.

2 hours ago, save the frogs said:

Previous generations in the West, many / most women didn't work.

But wages did not keep up with housing costs and women were pushed into the workplace. Unless you were a doctor, it was hard to live on one income.

In Thailand, many/most women seem to be working their butts off, doing long hours.

If a woman latches on to a well-heeled foreigner who pays all the bills and no longer needs to work, then I guess she has hit the jackpot. But modern Thailand is not equivalent to the West in the 50s, where most women were staying at home raising kids. Most Thai men's wages and having to support extended family simply does not make it feasible for most women to stop working.

The farang wins too.

Oh dear, I see another member of the herd has arrived, @Keeps 😊

6 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Oh dear, I see another member of the herd has arrived, @Keeps 😊

He turns up to give thumbs down. Strange man.

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

He turns up to give thumbs down. Strange man.

Doesn't have enough going on between his ears to actually discuss the topic.

9 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Doesn't have enough going on between his ears to actually discuss the topic.

Lots of toxic farangs in Thailand.

2 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Lots of toxic farangs in Thailand.

Not surprising when you read about how much they hate their country and their women.

1 hour ago, ColeBOzbourne said:

You're a waste of time.

Eventually the whole forum will see how disturbed these two are, and will ignore them like I finally have, instead of wasting time and annoying other members here trying to prove them wrong, albeit they always are. Amusing how the known trolls are always trying to gang up on others, not realizing how they look to the rest of the forum. Watch how when you ignore them, they then turn against one another.

Edited 36 minutes ago36 min by fredwiggy

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Eventually the whole forum will see how disturbed these two are, and will ignore them like I finally have, instead of wasting time and annoying other members here trying to prove them wrong, albeit they always are. Amusing how the known trolls are always trying to gang up on others, not realizing how they look to the rest of the forum. Watch how when you ignore them, they then turn against one another.

You keep making assumptions about strangers.

19 hours ago, novacova said:

Everyone has ego, even monks. Though to the point of getting flared out having to be noticed and regarded as being the center of special and a delusional belief of being infallible is a bit childish.

Okay. But do I have to give up my position as the centre of the known universe?

17 hours ago, atpeace said:

Nothing wrong with that at all and I bet many of us were raised in similar households. 98% of Expats here pay the vast majority if not all household expenses. Definitely exceptions but they are rare. For better or worse, most Thai women are looking for financially secure men and that goes for women with good jobs. My relationship is one of those exceptions but I just wandered into it and that wasn't my intent. I could really care less when I met her if she had money.

That goes for everywhere. We all want to be upwardly mobile. Women everywhere want a man with money. Marrying up. Look at Melanoma. I've been looking for a gig with money since I was 20!

1 hour ago, IsmeUno said:

No, I'm not an imposter and your assertions are just the rantings of an addled mind. It certainly makes no sense to me.

Worded redundancies are simply words and phrases with the same or similar meanings, so how does that impact on whether my statements are true or not?

It's just rubbish, isn't it? Using phrases that you don't understand in the hope of fooling someone into believing that you know what you are talking about.

It certainly worked with @ColeBOzbourne 😊

How much do you pay your wife/girlfriend? That what we are here to discuss. How are you doing?

Yes you are most definitely an imposter and I already answered that question you half-witted contemptuous numb skull but since you have an attention span that of a pile of dog crap then how would you know.