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Expectations Vs Reality

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3 hours ago, Freebird13 said:

I have a young mindset, probably 30's, though I am much older, late 50's. I don't see that as a problem. Old guys bobbing up and down in the pool is not my scene, but I would be down for a beach party, swimming laps or ocean time.

You just described me!

Samui is my happy place. For your next move maybe consider Bohput area where a lot of the expats live, and you'll never be far away from Chaweng beach and the party scene.

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    Yeah it's crap. I keep telling people but they dont listen

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    Reading between the lines : You seemed to be looking for place where you can meet and befriend bargirls for free when they aren't working and get free sex because they like you ? And what you fo

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8 hours ago, Freebird13 said:

that's exactly what I am looking for. The more free sex the better.

Keep it real, at your age you won't be getting much for free

12 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

farang are bad at reading the room, the women look down at the floor but it doesn't stop the dirty farang having a go, this is often why thai women have farang fatigue

Down at the floor or down at their phones?

23 minutes ago, jacko45k said:

Down at the floor or down at their phones?

Non verbal caveman types look anywhere but in someones eyes

12 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Non verbal caveman types look anywhere but in someones eyes

How can you look in their eyes if they're looking down at the floor or their phone?

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10 hours ago, Rockyroad said:

Nobody listens to you. Many farangs go to Patts cause they can't speak Thai and want western stuff. Then after 6 to 12 months end up disappointed.

Your life is sad too. You rant about Trump daily.

Somebody must be listening to me. A positive approval rating speaks for itself.

OTOH , your negative rating proves the few people who don't have you on ignore are downvoting you on a daily basis. Now that IS sad.

24 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Somebody must be listening to me. A positive approval rating speaks for itself.

Attacking Trump will help your upvotes a lot on this forum.

Not saying none of your posts are valid tho.

26 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Somebody must be listening to me. A positive approval rating speaks for itself.

OTOH , your negative rating proves the few people who don't have you on ignore are downvoting you on a daily basis. Now that IS sad.

You have low self esteem. You crave likes from 15 strangers online. Most of which sit around doing nothing 7 days a week. Now that is truly sad.

55 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

How can you look in their eyes if they're looking down at the floor or their phone?

Talk to them in Thai. Ask them to go on a road trip.

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36 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

You have low self esteem. You crave likes from 15 strangers online. Most of which sit around doing nothing 7 days a week. Now that is truly sad.

You appear to be member of both groups:

Those who crave approval

Those who sit around doing nothing to the point of accumulating 5000 posts since March.

So something more than 30 posts a day, more than a post an hour.

Again, the pathetic emoji is sorely missed.

1 minute ago, cdemundo said:

You appear to be member of both groups:

Those who crave approval

Those who sit around doing nothing to the point of accumulating 5000 posts since March.

So something more than 30 posts a day, more than a post an hour.

Again, the pathetic emoji is sorely missed.

Been to 4 towns in 2 weeks. Not doing nothing.

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3 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Keep it real, at your age you won't be getting much for free

I did not think of that, but makes sense. That lack of satisfaction I'm referring to could be due to me getting older and not the location. A gradual process of getting laid for free less and less over time and people pulling away in general that increases with age. I'm still young in my head, but people see an old guy. I'm 58 btw.

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9 minutes ago, Freebird13 said:

I did not think of that, but makes sense. That lack of satisfaction I'm referring to could be due to me getting older and not the location. A gradual process of getting laid for free less and less over time and people pulling away in general that increases with age. I'm still young in my head, but people see an old guy. I'm 58 btw.

Go travel. Use gyms. Read books. See some live music. Learn more Thai. Learn muay thai.

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23 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

Been to 4 towns in 2 weeks. Not doing nothing.

I cleaned my car today and vacuumed the entire house.

2 hours ago, BritManToo said:

How can you look in their eyes if they're looking down at the floor or their phone?

obviously they look away being introverted non verbal types

1 hour ago, Rockyroad said:

Talk to them in Thai. Ask them to go on a road trip.

Gay

19 hours ago, Freebird13 said:

Expectations

1. A young socially vibrant scene in an upscale condo building.
2. A nice pool with many young women swimming and sunbathing & having fun.
3. People around in the evening & night partying and drinking.
4. Women open to conversation and being friendly outside of an "arrangement" setting or venue.
5. People from all over the world visiting and interacting in a relaxed casual manner.
6.. A lot of India type guys who are not very friendly outside of their own group.

Hard to compare to Santa Cruz where relationships are much more real vs Pattaya where relationships are fake for the most part. Not all is bad about Pats but you seem to be looking for a place to relax and feel young. Pats revolves around insincerity and loners seem do well there. If you like beaches there are many better options for a guy that has a life outside of bars and women.

Your expectations sound like they were based on a week in Pats. You and a bunch of friends at a nice hotel. Nice if life was a perpetual holiday. Best of luck but I would try some other towns and bounce around around for a while. Pick a place and book a couple months with Airbnb.

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1 hour ago, Freebird13 said:

I did not think of that, but makes sense. That lack of satisfaction I'm referring to could be due to me getting older and not the location. A gradual process of getting laid for free less and less over time and people pulling away in general that increases with age. I'm still young in my head, but people see an old guy. I'm 58 btw.

Yeah I'm 56 i can get it for free sometimes with effort but it's just not worth it, they will expect /hope for a relationship which is probably just misleading so i don't bother anymore

4 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Gay

Dating women is gay? I think you are confused.

5 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Yeah I'm 56 i can get it for free sometimes with effort but it's just not worth it, they will expect /hope for a relationship which is probably just misleading so i don't bother anymore

So you just cycle, golf and use hookers? Sounds like a very shallow life. No purpose, no goals. Nothing to look forward too.

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1 hour ago, Rockyroad said:

You have low self esteem. You crave likes from 15 strangers online. Most of which sit around doing nothing 7 days a week. Now that is truly sad.

Wrong on all counts, as is usual from you. I don't care whether I get approval or disapproval from other posters, I call a spade a spade.

You have 16 posts on this thread, I have 2 or 3. When you talk about doing nothing 7 days a week, that's what I call doing it on your own doorstep.

1 hour ago, Rockyroad said:

Talk to them in Thai. Ask them to go on a road trip.

By norn do-I gan, dai mai?

Was always good enough for me, I never wanted to drive them around.

2 minutes ago, Lacessit said:

Wrong on all counts, as is usual from you. I don't care whether I get approval or disapproval from other posters, I call a spade a spade.

You have 16 posts on this thread, I have 2 or 3. When you talk about doing nothing 7 days a week, that's what I call doing it on your own doorstep.

I'm at the beach. Going for a walk soon. Living in Rai you could do the Nan and MHS loops 5 times each. Up to you.

12 minutes ago, atpeace said:

Hard to compare to Santa Cruz where relationships are much more real vs Pattaya where relationships are fake for the most part.

All heterosexual relationships are fake, some people just don't understand that.

If you ain't got something they want, they ain't gonna f@#$ you.

Applies equally to hookers, girlfriends and wives!

Not sure if it's the same for gay relationships, as I've never had one.

Back on topic,

I never had any expectations when I arrived in Thailand.

But if I had any, they would have been exceeded beyond my wildest dreams. Unlimited access to sex with slim attractive women, reasonably priced accomodation, warm weather, wide choice of food ..... what's not to like?

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17 hours ago, Nick Carter icp said:

He seems to he hoping to become a Youtube influencer , one of the ,many who have tried that .

Hopefully that falls through and he can make money another way.

'Influencer' is not a credible job.

Too many of these vloggers are ruining locations all over the world, not to mention increasing prices for everyone.

I hope Thailand bans all the content creators and tech bros.

1 minute ago, Rockyroad said:

I'm at the beach. Going for a walk soon. Living in Rai you could do the Nan and MHS loops 5 times each. Up to you.

Golf three times a week and swimming every day. I write essays for paid publication when I am not wasting my time on ASEAN.

1824 bends in the road to MHS, twice was enough.

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

All heterosexual relationships are fake, some people just don't understand that.

If you ain't got something they want, they ain't gonna f@#$ you.

Applies equally to hookers, girlfriends and wives!

Not sure if it's the same for gay relationships, as I've never had one.

All humans are users. Money, sex and power are the 3 things most crave. Women also crave safety and comfort. Fun and action are two other most common things. Basically 99% of human behaviour is based around getting those things.

Humans lie with words 50% of the time but body language is the truth 99% of the time.

4 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

All heterosexual relationships are fake, some people just don't understand that.

If you ain't got something they want, they ain't gonna f@#$ you.

Applies equally to hookers, girlfriends and wives!

Not sure if it's the same for gay relationships, as I've never had one.

Most relationships in Thailand are transactional. Provider and carer.

That's not to say they can't develop into something deeper and more connected, with time.

1 hour ago, cdemundo said:

You appear to be member of both groups:

Those who crave approval

Those who sit around doing nothing to the point of accumulating 5000 posts since March.

So something more than 30 posts a day, more than a post an hour.

Again, the pathetic emoji is sorely missed.

The guy is on his long awaited holiday and is spending more time here than traveling. Can you imagine how his girlfriend feels, waited for him for months and now he just sits, sweats, grimaces and types all day long.

He does not seem to understand the weather and seasons here. Been complaining about the weather down in Prachuap and Ban Krut, too much rain. Well he has more today, which is par for the course in July and August. I wonder if he cant afford to go down to the southern islands.

2 minutes ago, marin said:

The guy is on his long awaited holiday and is spending more time here than traveling. Can you imagine how his girlfriend feels, waited for him for months and now he just sits, sweats, grimaces and types all day long.

He does not seem to understand the weather and seasons here. Been complaining about the weather down in Prachuap and Ban Krut, too much rain. Well he has more today, which is par for the course in July and August. I wonder if he cant afford to go down to the southern islands.

My wife complains I just sit on the sofa all day (when I come back from my morning 15Km cycle ride).

I ask her what her 73yo mother does all day, and what she expects a 70yo guy to do?

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