7 minutes ago, ezzra said:

I'm all out of ''words of wisdom'' to offer,

Many regard retirement to be something that can be analysed, optimised etc.

I though conventional wisdom said pick somewhere 5+ years ahead of time and visit numerous times on vacation to meet locals and make a few friends. Then when you eventually make the step you are already familiar with the place have a few friends and know all the plusses and minuses?

Not just arrive find it disappoints and then moan.

15 minutes ago, VocalNeal said:

Many regard retirement to be something that can be analysed, optimised etc.

I though conventional wisdom said pick somewhere 5+ years ahead of time and visit numerous times on vacation to meet locals and make a few friends. Then when you eventually make the step you are already familiar with the place have a few friends and know all the plusses and minuses?

Not just arrive find it disappoints and then moan.

Most rich people work til their health gives way.

13 hours ago, CG1 Blue said:

You just described me!

Samui is my happy place. For your next move maybe consider Bohput area where a lot of the expats live, and you'll never be far away from Chaweng beach and the party scene.

Almost any island is better than Pattaya, Patong, or Hua Hin. I cannot understand why younger single people who are still mobile, healthy, and not dependent on hospitals or certain facilities choose to stay in places like that.

Some islands offer the whole package for an active and healthy lifestyle, with outdoor activities, beaches, and afternoon beach parties where people sing and dance. If I were single again and still wanted to live in Thailand, Koh Phangan or Koh Samui would be perfectly good bases. Both are large enough to have what you need without feeling trapped in a tourist city.

4 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

Yeah I'm 56 i can get it for free sometimes with effort but it's just not worth it, they will expect /hope for a relationship which is probably just misleading so i don't bother anymore

Some men make it a game to exploit women looking for a real relationship. Then they complain that everything in Thailand is about money and that women are gold diggers.

Maybe they forget who taught some of those women the game. In the end, good men often pay the price.

4 hours ago, Rockyroad said:

All humans are users. Money, sex and power are the 3 things most crave. Women also crave safety and comfort. Fun and action are two other most common things. Basically 99% of human behaviour is based around getting those things.

Humans lie with words 50% of the time but body language is the truth 99% of the time.

💎 Hummin nugget

Life is about seeing the solutions beyond the negativity.

4 hours ago, save the frogs said:

You don't really need goals if you're retired.

Nothing "shallow" about sports and sex.

Who is "deep" and has a "deep life" that you know besides Leo Tolstoy? And this guy is so deep, no one can barely understand what he's talking about anyway.

Once you truly understand and feel what Tolstoy was saying, life becomes much simpler, even when it isn’t easy.

Is this another 'mental health' thread? 😊

Each reply illustrates the personal struggles of the individual.

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

💎 Hummin nugget

Life is about seeing the solutions beyond the negativity.

The solution is to use the emotions of others to get what you want and avoid highly toxic people.

2 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

What are your goals? maybe 10 likes on here a day?

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5 minutes ago, Hummin said:

💎 Hummin nugget

Life is about seeing the solutions beyond the negativity.

Nonsense 😊 That's not what life is about. That's simply positive psychology. A thought process that you try to follow.

4 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Is this another 'mental health' thread? 😊

Do you want it to be?

2 minutes ago, scottiejohn said:

I think there is a misprint in your quote above and that it should read; "What are your goals? maybe 10 likes on here a day month/year?

Zero is fine with me. I'm not obsessed with thumbs down like you. Since they opened up the names you went quiet. Seems you don't like being exposed as a serial thumbs down guy. No hobbies in the real world but a former king of thumbs down. Your mum would be ashamed of you if still alive.

3 minutes ago, Rockyroad said:

The solution is to use the emotions of others to get what you want and avoid highly toxic people.

What if your mania is highly toxic to those who prefer calm? It's all relative, isn't it?

It's also just more nonsense. You can choose to behave that way, but it isn't a solution, it's again just a way of life. Not everyone has that ability. You can glean that from the conversations and interactions here.

3 hours ago, Rockyroad said:

Jordan Peterson is rich and famous. He suffers from depression. He could do 100 things. So maybe it is excess thinking that causes depression. That's what Tolle says who had depression for 10 years.

Big thinkers are often wired differently. They notice details others ignore, question what most people accept, and rarely stop thinking. That same mind can be a gift for creativity, but also a burden to carry.

Years of criticism, defending unpopular ideas, and constantly questioning yourself can wear anyone down. Tolstoy struggled with depression. Peterson has spoken openly about it. Maybe the same mind that sees further also feels deeper.

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Do you want it to be?

Why didn't you move to Spain?

3 minutes ago, scubascuba3 said:

Do you want it to be?

I have no preference either way. Just interesting reading the contributions.

2 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Big thinkers are often wired differently. They notice details others ignore, question what most people accept, and rarely stop thinking. That same mind can be a gift for creativity, but also a burden to carry.

Years of criticism, defending unpopular ideas, and constantly questioning yourself can wear anyone down. Tolstoy struggled with depression. Peterson has spoken openly about it. Maybe the same mind that sees further also feels deeper.

Excess thought creates depression according to Tolle. I agree. Being a perfectionist also creates constant unhappiness as the world is always broken.

11 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Is this another 'mental health' thread?

Definitely will be now that you showed up to the party.

1 minute ago, Rockyroad said:

Why didn't you move to Spain?

I went to spain a few times but it's no Thailand and in many places the Little Britain council estates put me off

4 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Nonsense 😊 That's not what life is about. That's simply positive psychology. A thought process that you try to follow.

Context matters, Isme. I never said ignore negativity. I said see the solutions beyond it. There is a big difference between ignorance and practical psychology.

2 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Definitely will be now that you showed up to the party.

I think I need to make popcorn now.

2 minutes ago, save the frogs said:

Definitely will be now that you showed up to the party.

External things, my friend. I just bring another perspective. It doesn't change your core being, does it?

7 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

What if your mania is highly toxic to those who prefer calm? It's all relative, isn't it?

It's also just more nonsense. You can choose to behave that way, but it isn't a solution, it's again just a way of life. Not everyone has that ability. You can glean that from the conversations and interactions here.

Bit of a word salad there.

Just now, fredwiggy said:

I think I need to make popcorn now.

You certainly watch enough TV to justify it. Go on then.

Just now, Rockyroad said:

Bit of a word salad there.

Perhaps, if you are lacking in the skills of simple comprehension. But I don't believe that at all. I think it's just your reaction to my mention of 'mania'.

4 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Context matters, Isme. I never said ignore negativity. I said see the solutions beyond it. There is a big difference between ignorance and practical psychology.

Your reply doesn't appear to have any connection to what I wrote. My response was linked to your statement of Life is about seeing the solutions beyond the negativity.

No, it is not.

19 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Is this another 'mental health' thread? 😊

Each reply illustrates the personal struggles of the individual.

I have to give you a point for this one ☝️😁

13 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

What if your mania is highly toxic to those who prefer calm? It's all relative, isn't it?

4 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Your reply doesn't appear to have any connection to what I wrote. My response was linked to your statement of Life is about seeing the solutions beyond the negativity.

No, it is not.

Life is about surving one day at a time. 1 million will die today.

4 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Your reply doesn't appear to have any connection to what I wrote. My response was linked to your statement of Life is about seeing the solutions beyond the negativity.

No, it is not.

I can’t help you if you don’t see the connection. Context matters.

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

I have to give you a point for this one ☝️😁

I don't need your points, But thank you anyway.

It's simply a discussion from differing perspectives. Each one framing their particular views of life as universal. They are not. They are simply the solutions of the individual to their own struggles.