Oh well, we're very well known in this department. I can understand insecurity in relationship usually leads to jealousy. Is it different between Thai women and Western women? Do Western women get jealous as easy as.. err.. us?

I'm posting here as I've been in a weird mood and am still not ready to handle all the fcukwits that would give me more headache on this subject.

LC .... all I can say about this is...

In my experience Thai women that I've known do tend to get jealous alot easier than the Western women I've known. Thai women seem to have a shorter fuse also.

Now saying that... I would say that women from any culture will experience jealousy given the same circumstances, I think it depends on how each culture reacts to this feeling. Maybe Thai's are more open and prefer to air their feelings, sometimes through anger, whereas a western women may prefer to keep their feelings hidden away, therefore it would seem that Thai women get jealous easier than western women.

Regarding jealousy.. I was once in a relationship with a very beautiful girl, now I used to get extremely jealous and it complety ruined our relationship, so much to the point where she ended up disliking me - being jealous was something I just couldn't help, and she couldn't give me the reassurances that I needed ( not her fault ) - I guess what i'm saying is that it isn't just women who get jealous.

totster

I think jealousy is an emotion evolved by both sexes as a defensive mechanism. Brain says subconsciously: "Must keep partner. Copulation necessary for the survival of the species. Must copulate. Must destroy competition."

I heard many falangs in Thailand complain about their Tgf being too nosey or too paranoid. I have never experienced such wrath, as long as the communication is flowing smoothly between my gf and I. However, this is a society where monogamy has just recently been incorporated into law (i.e. bigamy has been outlawed). Historically, Thai women have a right to be paranoid and jealous. Precedents have been set. So perhaps this emotion (jealousy) has been installed into Thai women genetically and socially.

Or perhaps I'm talking out my ass.

Either way, from my experience, Thai women are not that much different than western women.

Most of my experience on this subject comes from the Thai women that I know that live in the states. It seems to me that they tend to be more jealous than western women, but they are extremely jealous amongst their own thai friends. I am including my wife in this generalization. There is always some termoil among them and there are only a handful of thai women in the area I live in. When they are all together everybody seems to have a good time but when one of them leaves that's when the knives come out. And it does not matter who leaves.

I argue with my wife all the time telling her not to say anything about anyone behind there back. She said she can not help it that the other thai girls get her going by saying that who ever left said something about her, and she talks back to defend herself.

loosing battle

In short Thai women are imho more jealous than western women

PKG

Elsie I won't answer your question directly but I'll talk about jealousy in general as my experience is as a male. I found at a very young age (18), in a relationship with a beautiful girl, that I got a bit jealous and behaved not too nicely. I was more disturbed about my reactions that I vowed not to be like that again!

It was difficult later as I married an ex model coloured girl who would get hit on rather a lot when we were out. I would not allow myself to get jealous and I can now say that (I hope) that I don't have a jealous bone in my body!

Jealousy is an emotion that, with self discipline, can be controlled!!

I hope this helps explain some of what you ask!

This is quite civilised, not trolls,nothing about BG's ect Wow

Anyway I think that in a relationship jealousy and insecurity go hand in hand. If you are insecure in the relationship you will feel jelousy.

I think on the whole thai women are more jelous than western women (but not always), but you also have to consider the oppertunaties to be unfaithful are also far greater in thailand especialy if you live in Bkk,pattaya ect

My wife gets really anoyed sometimes at my lack of jelousy, I think she see's it as if i'm not jelous then I dont care!!

Usually if she's been a bit flirty with someone, she will say " your not jelous are you", which I will reply jokingly " no, why he want to go with you" she usually hits me with heavy things then

gotta go with the consensus here, my strife definately is a lot more jealous than a falang woman.

At first she could'nt understand the fact that I still communicated with my ex, but gradually she came to understand that in this falang world, when dealing with ex's you catch more flies with honey.

She is still unsure of my friends on the TV Chat and thinks I have Mia Noy ( aye Elsie ) but she is coming to accept it.

I've noticed a habit of my (Thai) wifes' - she'll hang back a bit if we're passing some girlie bars or other such "opportunity". I asked her about it and it was obvious that she actually got a kick out of seeing other women coming on to me. She reckoned it made her feel fortunate to have someone that another woman wanted (her words not mine).

However, many girls know of my wife and run a mile!

My previous farang wife would have been very jealous.

I think jealousy is healthy sometimes as long as it does not get out of hand makes you appreciate what you have

i live in the states and american women are very jealous some show it to a bad extent and some don't show it all

i had met a girl(on the internet actually on bangkok chat) while i knew my wife(thai woman) and this girl is thai but she has a BF and now is married when i told my wife about her Ohhhhh first thing out of her mouth don't trust thai girls on internet she told me Sound jealous to any of you??

Yeah, I think there is more jealousy here, but as people pointed out already, it's for obvious reasons - it used to be a polygamous culture before, and many men are still in the habit... some women too.

Also, I am constantly amazed at how married Thai men can spend months to get into the pants of office girls they deal with through their work, and how the 'nice' office girls don't tell them to just fock off but still giggle decoratively. Self-discipline to the extreme... or something else?

I’ve been in two full-blown relationships now with Thai girls. One was a “live-in” relationship with a bar girl, which lasted about 6 months. The other currently is a girl I work with in the office – we’ve been together 18 months now, don’t live together, but it’s still going very smoothly.

Now the girl I work with claims that she’ll never get jealous of me and other women. I don’t believe this entirely, but she never questions what I get up to when I’m out with friends. She sometimes jokes that she’ll never get jealous of me with other girls, but she will get jealous when I give my turntables too much attention

This (and you might have been expecting it) is a stark contrast to my ex, who got jealous about every living being I went near. I might of mentioned it once or twice before, but in short, it turned into h3ll.

I personally feel there are two or three reasons for this:

My ex presumed that since I met her in a bar and she moved in quickly, another girl could easily take her place.

The class divide issue - “You like lady office, they better than me”. To me and my little Western mind, this was one of those most alien concepts I’ve ever heard of.

But there’s one more point, yet to be tested but I believe will eventually apply to both girls:

Thai girls always look out for the man. When I came home from work, my ex had got the food in, had the place tidy, beer on the table, and would run any errand I asked for. In short, for the time I spent in her company in my apartment, I was made to feel like a king. I’m quite sure that when it comes to my current girlfriend moving in with me, it’d be a very similar situation. This doesn’t come for nothing, however - There should be something expected in return, as with any human being. That something could be as simple as being there, but you do have to be there.

Now if she’s going out her way for you on this level, and you’re out on the piss at every available opportunity, there is going to be an air of rejection and very possibly suspicion of somebody else involved. Taking this into account, I’ve already made a pact with my girlfriend that should we ever start living together, there’s a rate of two or three days a week were we have our personal freedom.

Compared to Western women? Well I’ve got an opinion here, but may not come across to well until I give it some further thought…

Looking back on life, The two most jealous women I ever knew were both Thai, but so was the most laid back. I have had frequent debates on this subject with my closest friend who swears his, (farang), wife is the most dangerous there is, but we agree to disagree.

I personally feel the jury is out on this one, and will remain so. So much depends on circumstances, the time of the monthly cycle and other factors that true comparisons can never be made.

... So much depends on circumstances, the time of the monthly cycle ...

When my g/f goes off on one, I ask her "Your blood come soon?" She either laughs and everything's OK, or she gets even more pissed off and I have to try a different approach

Cheers gentlemen. Very nice inputs indeed. Thank Goodness I've posted it here.

I actually get jealous once in a while. Like when I know that my man can't be trusted (i.e. the Ex File). And when I did get jealous, the Ex File started praying he would get some sleep that night. So, basically, yeah, it was because of my own insecurity in the relationship.

Getting a bit jealous every now and then is acceptable, IMO. But not too much and too often to <deleted> up all good things around. Especially.. when there is completely nothing to be jealous of.

I think jealousy and trust are intertwined.

A bit of self dicipline and trust in your partner should alleviate jealousy.

If you have an attractive girlfriend in the west you have to decide if you will trust her not to take up the offers she will get, if that is important to you.

here in thailand it seems to be the opposite side of the coin with gender..the amount of times I have been told I am very good looking here in thailand is heaps, and while I was living in australia, none.

if you do not think you can trust your partner, and a monagamous relationship is important to you - maybe its time to find a partner you are able to trust.

Cheers gentlemen. Very nice inputs indeed. Thank Goodness I've posted it here.

I actually get jealous once in a while. Like when I know that my man can't be trusted (i.e. the Ex File). And when I did get jealous, the Ex File started praying he would get some sleep that night. So, basically, yeah, it was because of my own insecurity in the relationship.

Getting a bit jealous every now and then is acceptable, IMO. But not too much and too often to <deleted> up all good things around. Especially.. when there is completely nothing to be jealous of.

Hear Hear Lovely Cutie I had a Farang GF before and I came home One of the times she decide to do laundry she was taking things out of my pants coins and old papers she found a paper with a phone number and she came running back to the apartment yelling at me "what's her name?" she says to me I said what are you talking about. so we had gotten into an argument over a little phone number it turned out the phone number was from a good friend of mine and he was a man.

I can understand if your BF GF finds you with another man or woman but cmon don't go crazy over a piece of paper jealously to the extreme.

gotta go with the consensus here, my strife definately is a lot more jealous than a falang woman.

At first she could'nt understand the fact that I still communicated with my ex, but gradually she came to understand that in this falang world, when dealing with ex's you catch more flies with honey.

She is still unsure of my friends on the TV Chat and thinks I have Mia Noy ( aye Elsie ) but she is coming to accept it.

Is she accepting Thai Visa or the mia noi Bronco ?

My Ex was a type of BG (a barmaid in England ) and she was regularly chatted-up, bought drinks, kissed (on the cheek, she wouldn't have any of that lip stuff ). Sometimes it happened when I was in the pub in a vain attempt to wind me up. When I was asked "Don't you get annoyed?" my answer would always be "I know that, at the end of the evening, she'll come back to MY bed".

I meant it as well.