Do You Ask About Your Wife’S/Girlfriend'S Past Relationships And What She Done Before You Met?

[thaibeachlovers]

Strange question - OF COURSE I have asked her about her past relationships etc. I'm not going to say anything about it here.

I`m not asking anyone to go into detail or draw pictures, my point is, how open is your Thai partner with you regarding her past?

I think it's best you don't ask because it is unlikely you will get a truthful response! And then you may not really want to know anyway ...

how many self respecting women are going to admit to having 50-100-200+ lovers before they met you ?

probably not many ,they know what you want to hear anyway ,is it any surprise that they lie ?

would you tell a new prospective GF that in the past youve been very promiscious,slept with hundreds or thousands of ladies

and the last time you had sex was about 3 hours ago b4 your Gik went to work ?

i doubt it .......

I would suspect that not many "self respecting" women would have had over a dozen or so lovers.

IMO a real marriage can only work with total honesty. If one of the partners can't handle the truth, they are not the right person to marry.

[TommoPhysicist]

I would suspect that not many "self respecting" women would have had over a dozen or so lovers.

IMO a real marriage can only work with total honesty. If one of the partners can't handle the truth, they are not the right person to marry.

This was a joke post , right?

[thaibeachlovers]

I would suspect that not many "self respecting" women would have had over a dozen or so lovers.

IMO a real marriage can only work with total honesty. If one of the partners can't handle the truth, they are not the right person to marry.

This was a joke post , right?

Which part?

[bridge2bridge]

Have you told her about YOUR PAST.

If you are happy with your thai wife, let it be my friend, it is not worth the trouble.

Thai's think entirely different to us.

[thaibeachlovers]

Have you told her about YOUR PAST.

If you are happy with your thai wife, let it be my friend, it is not worth the trouble.

Thai's think entirely different to us.

Is that question directed at a particular person?

I told my wife everything about myself before we agreed to marry, and so far as I know, visa versa.

I'd hate to tell my wife that I never went out with a bar girl in Thailand, only to have a past TGF greet me in the street, and she wouldn't believe me anyway!

[samsiam]

if you picked your wife up in some "bar", you know her past

Yeah...she cannot handle her drink.

[YipYipYa123]

if you picked your wife up in some "bar", you know her past

Yeah...she cannot handle her drink.

or she has poor taste in men ?

[TommoPhysicist]

if you picked your wife up in some "bar", you know her past

Yeah...she cannot handle her drink.

It was her first night working there.

[brit1984]

I would suspect that not many "self respecting" women would have had over a dozen or so lovers.

I think a dozen would be below average back home (in the UK) but in Thailand I suspect the average is much lower. We know a few Thai girls who are still virgins in their 30s.

Sent from iPhone; please forgive any typos or violations of forum rules

[Nip]

i know that the wife was a girl of a good family, a virgin when we married, so yes she is an ""open book", me i have more than enough skeletons for the both of us.

to me, who cares whom they were or what they did, it is a choice of free adults whether to comitt to each other,

it your partner was a lady of the night, you know her past, dont delve into it, because its pointless, who would want too know what, fritz, wayne, sven and how a group of holidaying asian gentlemen interacted with her.

a village girl, with an ex-husband or boyfriend, well she too has something she may well wish too discuss or to forget.

You see I would argue that it does matter because in most cases a girl who works in a bar has made a career choice that is both calculated and an indictment of her mind set ... Her's is a business transaction hence they call us customers. We are nothing more than an better alternative ... And any of you out there who think that their denunciation of Thai men is sincere think again.... Because all over Thailand there are hundreds of bars for what are termed as Farang trophy Wives where they go to ogle young Thai boys and do the business just like the male of the species do... They also pay bar fines and go to seedy rooms.

[2unique]

I once had a work college back in the States who met his American born Thai wife at a New Jersey university; they were both students together in the same group.

A couple of years into the marriage and this guy considered himself very happy and believed his wife was a mild decent girl that butter wouldn’t melt in her mouth.

One day the guy met an old friend he knew from university and discovered that not long prior to his marriage that his then Thai girlfriend went to a party and ended up in a bed with two guys having a threesome. The worse of it was that he knew these two guys and was still in contact with them, plus it appeared everyone knew except him.

He questioned his wife and asked her why she had never confided in him regarding this incident and that because of it, he now feels humiliated and would never be able to face his old university friends again. Not long after that, the marriage ended in divorce, because it was just something the guy could not live with.

So hiding the past can have two opposite affects. Firstly, if a person discovers something unsavoury about they’re partner’s past, it could have devastating results or on the other hand, what one doesn’t know, may never hurt them? That is the question.

That's very sad that the man was so unable to accept that his wife had a past that is quite "normal" for many people, that he had to throw it all away.

These days, it would be unreasonable to expect that a woman would be virginal on her wedding day.

As for the other people knowing, by all means cut them from his life if he couldn't face them, but why make his wife suffer for it? She was the same person after he found out as before, it is just his inability to accept the truth that is at fault here. Better to spend some money on a good psychologist, than a divorce.

BTW, the chance of him finding someone compatible that doesn't have the same sort of past is almost nil, IMO.

When I spoke with my work college after the divorce, he said the clincher was that he discovered his wife could be two different people and believed he hardly knew her at all.

He said; when she was with him, the sex part was so, so and that she could be rather inhibited in lots of ways towards him. But during later conversations with other people who knew her before the marriage, his wife had a reputation of being an out going party girl who had limited inhibitions and was partial to being easy and sleeping around.

There was probably a lot more to this story than what my friend was letting on and afterwards for some reasons he just did not trust her anymore.

But it does prove a point that no matter how long we are with people, we never truly get to know what they are really like and I always consider people that are reluctant to mention their past and have obvious secrets as suspect.

That explanation makes a LOT of difference. If I had a wife that was so so in bed, and I found out she was a real "goer" with other people, I would suspect that she was only with me to take advantage of my money, rather than because she loved me, and that would ruin it beyond salvage.

would you afford her the courtesy of telling you why she was less of a goer or would you sit and seethe? she may be stressed or depressed about something happening with her family that she chooses not to burden you with in case you think she's only with you to take advantage of your money rather than love you!

ah you see what i did there ...

[BigJohnnyBKK]

This was a joke post , right?

Which part?

The part where you claim a woman with as many lovers in her past as you and I and the average man here has does not (cannot, should not whatever) respect herself.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

The game I most enjoy is asking Thai women do they have a boyfriend or husband? Her husband may be parking the car but 99.9999999999% will look you straight in the eye and answer "no hab!"

Another great one is catching customer service reps and sales ladies in shops etc slipping off their wedding ring when a handsome customer is approaching.

Sometimes even for me, and I'm far from handsome anymore. . .

[kerryk]

i know that the wife was a girl of a good family, a virgin when we married, so yes she is an ""open book", me i have more than enough skeletons for the both of us.

to me, who cares whom they were or what they did, it is a choice of free adults whether to comitt to each other,

it your partner was a lady of the night, you know her past, dont delve into it, because its pointless, who would want too know what, fritz, wayne, sven and how a group of holidaying asian gentlemen interacted with her.

a village girl, with an ex-husband or boyfriend, well she too has something she may well wish too discuss or to forget.

You see I would argue that it does matter because in most cases a girl who works in a bar has made a career choice that is both calculated and an indictment of her mind set ... Her's is a business transaction hence they call us customers. We are nothing more than an better alternative ... And any of you out there who think that their denunciation of Thai men is sincere think again.... Because all over Thailand there are hundreds of bars for what are termed as Farang trophy Wives where they go to ogle young Thai boys and do the business just like the male of the species do... They also pay bar fines and go to seedy rooms.

Well Nip you got part of it right but to be honest I imagine you have been reading instead of experiencing. To be fair the Thai married ladies who go to those places have both Thai and Farang husbands and to be honest a lot of the guys who work in those places are gay. You see the ladies like a lot more things than just sex to include dancing and singing and in general being a fun guy. A lot of Thai and Farang men have not figured out just how to do this yet.

[BigJohnnyBKK]

I told my wife everything about myself before we agreed to marry, and so far as I know, visa versa.

> and so far as I know

key phrase that.

That explanation makes a LOT of difference. If I had a wife that was so so in bed, and I found out she was a real "goer" with other people, I would suspect that she was only with me to take advantage of my money, rather than because she loved me, and that would ruin it beyond salvage.

More likely you should look in the mirror, you just haven't yet taken the time and trouble to learn how to drive her to heights of wild ecstasy.

This is very important even for transactional relationships, sure it's their duty to do the same for you, but you won't really get the best performance unless you're reciprocating as well, at least sometimes, they have to know you're at least capable of servicing them properly when you feel like it. . .

[BigJohnnyBKK]

Well Nip you got part of it right but to be honest I imagine you have been reading instead of experiencing. To be fair the Thai married ladies who go to those places have both Thai and Farang husbands and to be honest a lot of the guys who work in those places are gay. You see the ladies like a lot more things than just sex to include dancing and singing and in general being a fun guy. A lot of Thai and Farang men have not figured out just how to do this yet.

Well the young stunners I bother with these days would certainly not need to pay for it, just a wink and a nod and they'd have nearly anyone they want twisted around their little finger.

Of course once they figure that out they're outta here, so let's keep it between ourselves shall we?

[Nip]

i know that the wife was a girl of a good family, a virgin when we married, so yes she is an ""open book", me i have more than enough skeletons for the both of us.

to me, who cares whom they were or what they did, it is a choice of free adults whether to comitt to each other,

it your partner was a lady of the night, you know her past, dont delve into it, because its pointless, who would want too know what, fritz, wayne, sven and how a group of holidaying asian gentlemen interacted with her.

a village girl, with an ex-husband or boyfriend, well she too has something she may well wish too discuss or to forget.

You see I would argue that it does matter because in most cases a girl who works in a bar has made a career choice that is both calculated and an indictment of her mind set ... Her's is a business transaction hence they call us customers. We are nothing more than an better alternative ... And any of you out there who think that their denunciation of Thai men is sincere think again.... Because all over Thailand there are hundreds of bars for what are termed as Farang trophy Wives where they go to ogle young Thai boys and do the business just like the male of the species do... They also pay bar fines and go to seedy rooms.

Well Nip you got part of it right but to be honest I imagine you have been reading instead of experiencing. To be fair the Thai married ladies who go to those places have both Thai and Farang husbands and to be honest a lot of the guys who work in those places are gay. You see the ladies like a lot more things than just sex to include dancing and singing and in general being a fun guy. A lot of Thai and Farang men have not figured out just how to do this yet.

I have most of it right Kerryk. I have been living in Thailand for 14 years. Take Patong for instance. There are a few venues where the bar girls go for kicks. Far away from Soi Bangla and Tiger Disco where they drink and buy drinks for young Thai boys and then at the end of the night pay the bar fine and take him to various hotel rooms. And here is a thing for all you blokes out there these boys are also taken on trips back home. The fact that these men are gay is nothing to do with it. Yes some swing both ways but they are in it for the money and the fact is they do it mainly with bar girls past and present and with women with farang husbands. To suggest that a bar girl or former bar girl or a Thai woman is not interested in sex and just wants to dance and sing is naïve. Fact is they enjoy sex as much as we do in fact probably more - as many become addicted to it. How else would they bang old codgers like me and appear as if they are enjoying it. Because they have their eyes closed and imagine they are doing it with somebody they actually find attractive.

[2unique]

To suggest that a bar girl or former bar girl or a Thai woman is not interested in sex and just wants to dance and sing is naïve. Fact is they enjoy sex as much as we do in fact probably more - as many become addicted to it. How else would they bang old codgers like me and appear as if they are enjoying it. Because they have their eyes closed and imagine they are doing it with somebody they actually find attractive.

A friend of mine in the porn industry said something similar in that the producers try to lock down the stars off of the set as the women get horny from all that fake sex and want some real sex despite being penetrated (not continuously) for hours.

[kerryk]

i know that the wife was a girl of a good family, a virgin when we married, so yes she is an ""open book", me i have more than enough skeletons for the both of us.

to me, who cares whom they were or what they did, it is a choice of free adults whether to comitt to each other,

it your partner was a lady of the night, you know her past, dont delve into it, because its pointless, who would want too know what, fritz, wayne, sven and how a group of holidaying asian gentlemen interacted with her.

a village girl, with an ex-husband or boyfriend, well she too has something she may well wish too discuss or to forget.

You see I would argue that it does matter because in most cases a girl who works in a bar has made a career choice that is both calculated and an indictment of her mind set ... Her's is a business transaction hence they call us customers. We are nothing more than an better alternative ... And any of you out there who think that their denunciation of Thai men is sincere think again.... Because all over Thailand there are hundreds of bars for what are termed as Farang trophy Wives where they go to ogle young Thai boys and do the business just like the male of the species do... They also pay bar fines and go to seedy rooms.

Well Nip you got part of it right but to be honest I imagine you have been reading instead of experiencing. To be fair the Thai married ladies who go to those places have both Thai and Farang husbands and to be honest a lot of the guys who work in those places are gay. You see the ladies like a lot more things than just sex to include dancing and singing and in general being a fun guy. A lot of Thai and Farang men have not figured out just how to do this yet.

I have most of it right Kerryk. I have been living in Thailand for 14 years. Take Patong for instance. There are a few venues where the bar girls go for kicks. Far away from Soi Bangla and Tiger Disco where they drink and buy drinks for young Thai boys and then at the end of the night pay the bar fine and take him to various hotel rooms. And here is a thing for all you blokes out there these boys are also taken on trips back home. The fact that these men are gay is nothing to do with it. Yes some swing both ways but they are in it for the money and the fact is they do it mainly with bar girls past and present and with women with farang husbands. To suggest that a bar girl or former bar girl or a Thai woman is not interested in sex and just wants to dance and sing is naïve. Fact is they enjoy sex as much as we do in fact probably more - as many become addicted to it. How else would they bang old codgers like me and appear as if they are enjoying it. Because they have their eyes closed and imagine they are doing it with somebody they actually find attractive.

I have a different take on it but it is from personal experience. The guy was a dancer and singer at an Issan night club in Pattaya. There are a number of them that feature big names from TV and Movies along with local house bands. The guy in question was fought over by two of the ladies. I took the looser to the hospital. The lady that he liked the best was the one who didn't ask him for sex. (I knew the guy too.) At the Issan clubs most of the women who use the services of the house bands and entertainers have Thai husbands. BTW I never saw any short time rooms at the night clubs. But none of the young men ever left alone. Sometimes it was married women and sometimes just the normal girls night out. Either way the girls always paid the tab.

[riclag]

Hi,I don't know where to post this but its in Eastern Thailand (Sakhon Nakhon). There's been a lot of rain lately .my GF didn't call the other day because she said she couldn't because of the "big rains". I don't know if I believe her. Is this a common occurrence in Sakhon Nakhon Issan,that the cell phone service go's out? I've been bitten before by Thai girls with there Go Hoak Ghaang Jai .

Rick

[pokerkid]

Farangs in Thailand should understand that the Thai girl that they're with is going to have a history--100% of the time. A virgin Thai girl, for example, is not going to be interested in a farang. Her first love will be a Thai guy. That's just the way it is. If it doesn't work out, then she may opt for Plan B. Do you want her to come clean? Then she'll say that the one and only man she ever loved broke her heart. But if it was up to her, she'd prefer to be back with him...but it's just not possible. Is that what you really want to hear? I think not.

If she wants to open up, she will. If not, let her be. She has her reasons.

utter nonsense. this is maybe true for you and the people you surround yourself with. Edited June 17, 2012 by pokerkid

[Nip]

Hi,I don't know where to post this but its in Eastern Thailand (Sakhon Nakhon). There's been a lot of rain lately .my GF didn't call the other day because she said she couldn't because of the "big rains". I don't know if I believe her. Is this a common occurrence in Sakhon Nakhon Issan,that the cell phone service go's out? I've been bitten before by Thai girls with there Go Hoak Ghaang Jai .

Rick

Interesting if you happen to be German because I may be able to give you some information on a woman from said Sakhon Nakhon and answer your question at the same time.... A girl who works for me was unashamedly telling me in passing that she has a friend from Sakhon Nakhon who told her German boyfriend that she is at home working in a restaurant when in fact she is in Chaing Mai with one of her many wealthy Thai boyfriend. She rang my friend because her German boyfriend had been calling the day previously and she could not answer or sms him because she can not write English and was with this Thai man. The excuse that was sms'd by my employee who speaks and writes English to her friend and was forwarded to this hapless German was "Sakhon Nakhon have big rain my telephone not work." I tried to point out that conspiring with this woman to etc etc but was to no avail... "She my friend!" Justification enough I guess?

[BigJohnnyBKK]

Hi,I don't know where to post this but its in Eastern Thailand (Sakhon Nakhon). There's been a lot of rain lately .my GF didn't call the other day because she said she couldn't because of the "big rains". I don't know if I believe her. Is this a common occurrence in Sakhon Nakhon Issan,that the cell phone service go's out? I've been bitten before by Thai girls with there Go Hoak Ghaang Jai

No idea what that transliteration's supposed to mean, but to answer your question - possible but unlikely, certainly never experienced any network outages or interference that's lasted more than say an hour.

Generally if she's out of your sight, safest to assume your relationship is "on a break" and you're both free to go with other people, don't worry about it as long as you're both happy when you're together, life's too short to worry. . .

Edited June 17, 2012 by BigJohnnyBKK

[BigJohnnyBKK]

utter nonsense. this is maybe true for you and the people you surround yourself with.

Once again it would be more useful if you were specific about which points you disagree with and state why.

Otherwise you might as well not post!

[riclag]

Sorry I don't understand your reply. I will tell you that I'm not German.I just wanted to know if cell phone service go's out because of big rains,in the Issan villages

Rick

[BigJohnnyBKK]

Sorry I don't understand your reply. I will tell you that I'm not German.I just wanted to know if cell phone service go's out because of big rains,in the Issan villages

And your question has been answered, just ignore the ones that don't.

possible but unlikely, certainly never experienced any network outages or interference that's lasted more than say an hour.

Edited June 17, 2012 by BigJohnnyBKK

[pokerkid]

utter nonsense. this is maybe true for you and the people you surround yourself with.

Once again it would be more useful if you were specific about which points you disagree with and state why.

Otherwise you might as well not post!

fair enough. I disagree with the fact that he says it is true 100% of the time.

[Nip]

Sorry I don't understand your reply. I will tell you that I'm not German.I just wanted to know if cell phone service go's out because of big rains,in the Issan villages

Rick

No is the answer ... Well very very unlikely! If you want to keep tabs on a Thai woman pay for a land line in her house or make her call you from a pay phone or buy her two phones one with DTAC the other !2 Call.... Remove all chances of an excuse.... You clearly dont believe her... And perhaps with good reason...

[meom]

Hi,I don't know where to post this but its in Eastern Thailand (Sakhon Nakhon). There's been a lot of rain lately .my GF didn't call the other day because she said she couldn't because of the "big rains". I don't know if I believe her. Is this a common occurrence in Sakhon Nakhon Issan,that the cell phone service go's out? I've been bitten before by Thai girls with there Go Hoak Ghaang Jai

Generally if she's out of your sight, safest to assume your relationship is "on a break" and you're both free to go with other people, don't worry about it as long as you're both happy when you're together, life's too short to worry. . .

Probably not the answer he like to hear but some pretty good advice there.

[riclag]

I don't fool around and I expect her not too. It is what it is.I'm on the fence..As far as being apart and doing our thing .this isn't good I don't want to worry about HIV nor do I want to pass it on either.I don't know what to believe . Because she told me she could not call or get through because of big rains it just gives my mind stupid thoughts. I'm tired I'm old and lonely.