Daughter Wants To Move To Pattaya...............

[chrisinth]

I was talking to a friend last night, and his 24 year old step-daughter has made her mind up that she wants to move to Pattaya for work as she is bored with her life here up-country.

He asked me what he thought about this and I had to tell him that it has been almost 14 years since I lived there, so couldn't really advise.

The girl is 24 and in all honesty, a stunner (not often I compliment like that!). She has also made a bit of a name for herself up here!

He sees it as losing his step-daughter as she is moving away (typical father reaction).

What would your advice be?

[BigJohnnyBKK]

IMO like sending her straight to downtown Sodom and Gomorrah.

Only if she's a very strong and confident young lady will her character and self-respect survive.

She could very well end up permanently damaged.

[Ulysses G.]

There are plenty of good, wholesome girls in Pattaya, but I'm not sure how long they stay that way.

[jpinx]

She is already experienced (from what you say) and probably have friends who "work" in pattaya or silom, etc, and she is well-old enough to make her own decisions about her life. Girls in this situation need support, not guidance or critiicism...

Yes - I have 2 daughters older than that..........

[krisb]

Put it this way, I understand why some do, they perhaps meet a good man that will take care of her, get married etc, but theres alot of crap and risks in between all that.

Id never ever let my daughter go there to work.

OP, havnt you got any good friends that could introduce her to?...Thats what she really is after I think.

[TexasRanger]

If she is bored why not get Dad to pay for her to do a university course or some other qualification in Bangkok?

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[David48]

Chris ... in degrees of seperation

• 24
  
• Friend
  
• Daughter-in-Law
  

= little infulence

But, wish her good luck ... and hope that she has something solid lined up job wise there.

[farang000999]

So she is his Thai step daughter? What do you mean she has made a name for herself up north? What does she want to do down there?

[robblok]

Chris ... in degrees of seperation

• 24
  
• Friend
  
• Daughter-in-Law
  

= little infulence

But, wish her good luck ... and hope that she has something solid lined up job wise there.

Probably working in a bar, you know how it goes there. But its not all bad some guys will enjoy her

To be honest if you go there and no job lined up and a looker.. 1 + 1 =

[somtampet]

What name has she made for herself

[culicine]

If she decides to go, tell her to be the good step-daughter and send back 80% of her income to her dear old dad and family. That's what they normally do isn't it? That should stop her in her tracks Who on earth goes to Pattaya to work because they are 'bored'??

[pattayadingo]

With so many foreigners in Pattaya and the idea of big money, partying every night and so many other exciting things to do here it must seem like paradise to a young woman. She will have heard the stories from friends and others.

Yet, IMHO, nothing could be further from the truth.

So many bars are empty, many Thai people are disgruntled and many also return home but to save 'face' they still tell how great Pattaya is.

So many arrive here with great expectations of a much better and exciting lifestyle yet it is there only for a few. Yet she may well understand what she is doing and in many cases the idea of excitement and partying is way better than a dull life in the village 'up north'.

What can be done?

Give her friendly advice and also tell her the door will always be open for her return if things go badly.

The more you try to dissuade someone the more you drive them into it and at 24 she is no longer a baby.

[Beetlejuice]

What does the OP mean by (She has also made a bit of a name for herself up here!)?

Depends on how this woman has been brought up, her character and reputation.

The advice to the OPs friend should be: depends on how close he is to his step-daughter, how much the woman’s parents and family are willing to support her, who she would be associating with and what sort of work she would be involved with in Pattaya.

Unless the OP responses to these questions, than it`s impossible to give any advice.

[kevkev1888]

If she decides to go, tell her to be the good step-daughter and send back 80% of her income to her dear old dad and family. That's what they normally do isn't it? That should stop her in her tracks Who on earth goes to Pattaya to work because they are 'bored'??

Young bright good looking girls who want a bit of fun and excitement in their lives. Opportunities in life that they will never find in the Village.

For some it works out, some do not take to it and are home in a few weeks, for some it can become a downward cycle.

Let her go if it is what she wants, be their to support her, she may well do just fine.

[farang000999]

With so many foreigners in Pattaya and the idea of big money, partying every night and so many other exciting things to do here it must seem like paradise to a young woman.

Except that the men are older than her father. I would imagine that is every (non-impoverished) girls nightmare.

But this is the type of logic (that the girls are having the time of their life) that leads guys to thinking that the girl loves him and leads to him losing his life savings. The girls are there for one thing only: money.

[chrisinth]

Sorry, perhaps I should expand on the OP a little bit, I was keeping the OP short on advice from many posters in the past that long OP’s lose attention (perhaps that should be rethought!) OP link:

Whereas all the points in the OP are correct, perhaps I should explain………….

The 24 year old step daughter is a chemical engineer, working for one of the major oil companies here in Thailand. Her monthly salary is about 85K a month and she is expecting a substantial raise next year. She is bored with her life up here because she is commuting to work and is only here for the weekends.

Her intention is to buy a property down there, somewhere between 3 and 4 million baht, and her reasons for choosing Pattaya over Rayong/ Map Ta Phut/ Ban Chang was really for the shopping more than anything else. Commuting to work won’t be a problem as she has her own transport and her mileage will be covered by the company. The real advise the father was asking was the area in Pattaya where she could live.

Oh, she made a bit of a name for herself up here when she came top of her degree class, leaving the others (males) far behind. She is also fluent in Thai (obviously) English and French.

It was interesting to read the replies, how almost everyone answered regarding the “dark side” even though nothing was mentioned in the OP regarding this. With the exception of a few, (farang000999. Somtampet & BJ) asking how she made a name for herself, everyone else went for the bar girl side.

Bit of an exercise in human nature……………

[kevkev1888]

Popular misconception I am afraid, one I believed myself at one time.

[robblok]

Not really human nature.. more an exercise in chances. If your a gambling man the chances were better to the other replies then the story you come up with now.

[farang000999]

The only concern now is that once she sees all the fun her sisters are having getting drunk and tattooed, parading around half naked in public with their arms wrapped around grandpa - will she abandon her education and career and take up swinging on a pole? It is such an amazing opportunity and she can meet so many interesting farang men this way. It will be a real testament to her character if she can resist.

[fareastguy]

I think she has contacts or friends down there who are saying what are you wasting your time for back home.

She can make a bit of a name for herself in Pattaya but make 10 times the money for the same effort.

[TexasRanger]

Sorry, perhaps I should expand on the OP a little bit, I was keeping the OP short on advice from many posters in the past that long OP’s lose attention (perhaps that should be rethought!) OP link:

Whereas all the points in the OP are correct, perhaps I should explain………….

The 24 year old step daughter is a chemical engineer, working for one of the major oil companies here in Thailand. Her monthly salary is about 85K a month and she is expecting a substantial raise next year. She is bored with her life up here because she is commuting to work and is only here for the weekends.

Her intention is to buy a property down there, somewhere between 3 and 4 million baht, and her reasons for choosing Pattaya over Rayong/ Map Ta Phut/ Ban Chang was really for the shopping more than anything else. Commuting to work won’t be a problem as she has her own transport and her mileage will be covered by the company. The real advise the father was asking was the area in Pattaya where she could live.

Oh, she made a bit of a name for herself up here when she came top of her degree class, leaving the others (males) far behind. She is also fluent in Thai (obviously) English and French.

It was interesting to read the replies, how almost everyone answered regarding the “dark side” even though nothing was mentioned in the OP regarding this. With the exception of a few, (farang000999. Somtampet & BJ) asking how she made a name for herself, everyone else went for the bar girl side.

Bit of an exercise in human nature……………

Not everyone

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[kevkev1888]

So your original post was deliberately misleading, exercise in human nature my ass.

Exercise in trolling.

[MrRed]

85K a month,sorry you lost me there....what company is that again? up-country?

[jpinx]

TV member baiting --- good sport

[kevkev1888]

"I was talking to a friend last night, and his 24 year old step-daughter has made her mind up that she wants to move to Pattaya for work as she is bored with her life here up-country."

So she is not wanting to move to Pattaya for work. She is wanting to move and to buy a house as she will sill be able to commute to her very well paid job, and have plenty of shopping opportunities to spend her considerable wages.

"The girl is 24 and in all honesty, a stunner (not often I compliment like that!). She has also made a bit of a name for herself up here!"

We have all totally misinterpreted this totally innocent comment.

Thanks for pointing out our shortcomings.

wanke_r.

[Songhua]

If the OP had said that she wanted to move to Pattaya to be closer to work rather than 'wants to move to Pattaya for work', I may not have jumped to a predictable conclusion. My human nature stands tested but still not correctable.

[Lancelot]

The pull of the bright lights of the city...

IMHO the days of poor village girls going to Pattaya to find a good (rich) man are gone. Now its a life style choice for attractive young women. They

can earn some serious money, support a hard bodied Thai boy toy, party till the wee hours and sleep during the heat of the day.Whats not to like?

Sure, if a woman stays more than a few months, she will most likely suffer some emotional damage but TIT and well, you know, "Don't think too much"

[jbrain]

The girl is 24 and in all honesty, a stunner

I guess it's time to get shaved if a stunner is on her way.Any indication about time of arrival?

[jbrain]

With the exception of a few, (farang000999. Somtampet & BJ) asking how she made a name for herself, everyone else went for the bar girl side.

Then I suggest you shouldn't have written the OP in that baiting way.

[billd766]

"I was talking to a friend last night, and his 24 year old step-daughter has made her mind up that she wants to move to Pattaya for work as she is bored with her life here up-country."

So she is not wanting to move to Pattaya for work. She is wanting to move and to buy a house as she will sill be able to commute to her very well paid job, and have plenty of shopping opportunities to spend her considerable wages.

"The girl is 24 and in all honesty, a stunner (not often I compliment like that!). She has also made a bit of a name for herself up here!"

We have all totally misinterpreted this totally innocent comment.

Thanks for pointing out our shortcomings.

wanke_r.

What is wrong with pointing out your shortcomings.

After all all of you that got it incorrect made assumptions based on the little information that was given.

It wasn't the OPs fault but your own.

Mr Red, the company she works for according to the OP is NOT upcountry as a chemical engineer for an oil company.