I have battled this perception in the west for years. Apparently my wife was a money hungry Thai girl.

Not in reality, but in the perception of my friends who only have the media as a guide to thai culture and life. They look at my lifestyle and assume I support my wife.

my western friends hold a totally skewed view of thai women.

I would like to know who else has had to defend the ridiculous notion that thai women only marry for money and opportunity, because I married into a family that were far more well off than I was. Although I never realised this as I never discussed it with my wife, who in her defence never wanted to talk about it.

I didn't marry her for money either, it was just two like minded people who happened to fall in love.

As it turned out she was far wealthier than me, but she never showed it or talked about it and I was shocked to find out her upbringing. I definitely learned the hard way that our perception of our worth doesn't always reflect reality.

who cares what other ppl think...

You meet a daughter of wealthy parents and you are SHOCKED !!!! Funny man you.

Any statement that says ALL ... ARE ... is never correct. I thought you would have known this

IMO, the perception, not just in the western world but in asia also, that a majority of the thai girls married to older westerners are poor, under educated and from a rural background and that such relationships are primarily based on economic needs and not on love alone is not entirely incorrect.

... Well done ... another farang who mets & weds a wealthy HiSo Chinese/Thai... ... your post says it all !!

plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

OP forgot to tell us how many masters degrees she has. And her possition in one of the top companies in the land.

We know she is in the top 1% of the best looking women. Not same has mine bottom 1%. No masters still never mind she is a good cook

Ha Ha why is it that people post about 'others' perceptions of Thai women and then go on to say that of course it's not true in their case . . . . . .oh yeh. I get it now 555

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plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

Not sure there's tons of actual rich Thai's queuing up to meet farangs but there's certainly plenty of girls who are not poor who are open to dating a farang.

The main reason most Thai girls (whether poor or not so poor) want to date a farang is because Thai guys aren't interested in them or at least Thai guys on a similar educational and economic level and they don't want to date down.

The majority of girls I've come across who are interested in myself and other farangs I know is because they struggle to get a Thai boyfriend of course they mostly don't admit this and say "thai men no good...they cheat, they lie, they steal, they drink, they gamble etc" (no different from most of us then?).

Reasons they can't get a local bf include....

1) The way they look - not necessarily ugly but maybe darker skin / short / pudgy / not the typical Thai perception of beauty - but often still appealing to farang.

2) They are overweight by Thai standards - again doesn't mean fat or obese we can be talking 50kgs here which most Thai's consider very fat yet they can look anything but if they are tall especially compared to Western women who would do anything to be so slim.

3) Single mums - Thai guys will not accept another guys kids.

Not all. I've met plenty who didn't fit into any of the above but seemed to have a thing for farang still, a lot of them had lived abroad for study and work and had maybe had a taste of a life style or man they liked and didn't want to go back to dating local guys for whatever reason.

plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

Not sure there's tons of actual rich Thai's queuing up to meet farangs but there's certainly plenty of girls who are not poor who are open to dating a farang.

The main reason most Thai girls (whether poor or not so poor) want to date a farang is because Thai guys aren't interested in them or at least Thai guys on a similar educational and economic level and they don't want to date down.

The majority of girls I've come across who are interested in myself and other farangs I know is because they struggle to get a Thai boyfriend of course they mostly don't admit this and say "thai men no good...they cheat, they lie, they steal, they drink, they gamble etc" (no different from most of us then?).

Reasons they can't get a local bf include....

1) The way they look - not necessarily ugly but maybe darker skin / short / pudgy / not the typical Thai perception of beauty - but often still appealing to farang.

2) They are overweight by Thai standards - again doesn't mean fat or obese we can be talking 50kgs here which most Thai's consider very fat yet they can look anything but if they are tall especially compared to Western women who would do anything to be so slim.

3) Single mums - Thai guys will not accept another guys kids.

Not all. I've met plenty who didn't fit into any of the above but seemed to have a thing for farang still, a lot of them had lived abroad for study and work and had maybe had a taste of a life style or man they liked and didn't want to go back to dating local guys for whatever reason.

4) according to the previous 3 points, they are third rank .

Strange how you can marry a girl without knowing the financial status of her parents.

Although you may not like what people think, they have got grounds for believing what they do.

If you can't accept it you'll go insane and start making up false stories about her to boost your own low self-esteem.

plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

Not many that want a poor farang though so please explain how this reverse scamming works because I don't really want to get stuck with a ten thou restaurant bill for food that's hardly been touched.

plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

Not many that want a poor farang though so please explain how this reverse scamming works because I don't really want to get stuck with a ten thou restaurant bill for food that's hardly been touched.

Some Thai girls actually meet foreigners and fall in love without taking their bank account into consideration.

Of course if the guy is past it and the only Thai he knows is how to say poom pui or poong, then the girl will obviously want some financial compensation.

plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

Not many that want a poor farang though so please explain how this reverse scamming works because I don't really want to get stuck with a ten thou restaurant bill for food that's hardly been touched.

not really reverse scamming but if you dress good,look good,speak thai,decent salary and not a old fart plus 40 its pretty easy..

just do things with the girls the standard thai guy wouldn't do with them..

i have a good example

Thai guy buys a chanel bag for the girl in present you surprise her and take here for white water rafting, for sure she never done that before but the bag she have 30 others back home already..

I seem to remember having to support my western wife& GFs .... i guess all your friends wives are well to do

... Well done ... another farang who mets & weds a wealthy HiSo Chinese/Thai... ... your post says it all !!

My Thai wife is a HiSo woman of Japanese origin and she spits of the HiSo Chinese girls. It`s embarrassing, but she will do it.

Also I met her in a bar, but she was different from all the rest.

Also I met her in a bar, but she was different from all the rest.

Different as in more expensive

my western friends hold a totally skewed view of thai women.

Erm, so what brought you to Thailand?

Well I'm convinced my wife didn't marry me because I am was a millionaire even if no one else does.

Also I met her in a bar, but she was different from all the rest.

Taller?

Thai guy buys a chanel bag for the girl in present you surprise her and take here for white water rafting, for sure she never done that before but the bag she have 30 others back home already..

No need to buy them handbags or take them on expensive (I assume?) outings IME.

Nope, never been an issue for me; can't understand what you are on about

In the topic about living in the West with a Thai wife nearly ever single post talks about how all the Thai women living in the West (besides their wife) are a bunch of gambling, lying, cheating, gossiping villains?

I assume you are not American because the average American can't even find Thailand on a map! Taiwan? Is that in China? Is it close to Shanghai? Tom Cruise went there in Mission Impossible III.

plenty of rich thai girls in bkk that wants farangs, so why deal around with poor issan girls..

reverse scamming is the shit..

Not many that want a poor farang though so please explain how this reverse scamming works because I don't really want to get stuck with a ten thou restaurant bill for food that's hardly been touched.

not really reverse scamming but if you dress good,look good,speak thai,decent salary and not a old fart plus 40 its pretty easy..

just do things with the girls the standard thai guy wouldn't do with them..

i have a good example

Thai guy buys a chanel bag for the girl in present you surprise her and take here for white water rafting, for sure she never done that before but the bag she have 30 others back home already..

My wife would prefer the hand bag and accuse me of trying to murder her if I tried to take her rafting. Sounds like you date imaginary very out going Thai women.

Any statement that says ALL ... ARE ... is never correct. I thought you would have known this

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Which people think about Thai's in any context if they have no connection with Thailand?

IMO, the perception, not just in the western world but in asia also, that a majority of the thai girls married to older westerners are poor, under educated and from a rural background and that such relationships are primarily based on economic needs and not on love alone is not entirely incorrect.

Well they may be poor and uneducated but which is the smartest. A poor uneducated women married to an older Farong. Or an older Farong married to a young poor uneducated Thai lady.

Just my point of view but love is over rated. there has to be tolerance and concideration given by both sides.

"I definitely learned the hard way"

Yep that must have been a terrible experience to discover your wife was actually filthy rich. Did she also hide her 3 PhDs?