mother inlaws ?

[romeijoe]

I have been reading with some interest over the past 4 yrs , and havent really wanted have much of a say, but i was wondering to myself the other day if i am just lucky or have we all got the same sort of mother inlaws?

Been married to my wife for 4 years now - been together a lot longer. she is a very easy going sort - unless of course you bring out the thai woman in her then -- well, we all know that one yer !!

So to discribe the mother in law-- always welcome here i spend most of my time trying to keep her here and not drive her home to her husband- stays 3-4 days then has to go home . she never interferes with us , looks after the kids like they were gold, helps with the cooking ( and she is better at it than the wife ) cleans the yard loves to garden with us,gees i could go on and on but enough is enough yer. but i will say that i am always asking her to relax take it easy and am not liking her just because she helps out. in all she is a joy to have in the house and just seems to round the family off well. I suppose im asking this because i havent read anything on the topic over the years ? surely im not the only lucky sod in thailand?

[ubonjoe]

Moved to the general forum

[glegolo]

I have got somewhat the same experience... In the beginning I was a bit irritated over her presence, but soon found out that it was me that was an idiot in some sense.. She never interfered in my family-stuff and was really shy in those matters. She always want to help ot.. So all good, and she also respect that this is our home, and not her home, and she never overstay her welcome...

I like her a lot...... But fancy her daughter a bit more I like to add...

Glegolo

[Costas2008]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

[sipi]

My mother in law is the same. And so is my father in law. Actually my wife's siblings help out and don't interfere.

My mother on the other hand was a different story.

[glegolo]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

As usual a very funny post made by you costas!! Only one thing that I doesn´t understand really. And that is how do you know that the mother in law is backtrashing you??? is really your wife reporting this to you?? THAT would surprice me 200%.... Or do you understand thai enough to hear her....

But for the rest of the stuff,,,,,, hahahaha.... great entertaining post!!

Glegolo

Edited October 15, 2014 by glegolo

[Costas2008]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

As usual a very funny post made by you costas!! Only one thing that I doesn´t understand really. And that is how do you know that the mother in law is backtrashing you??? is really your wife reporting this to you?? THAT would surprice me 200%.... Or do you understand thai enough to hear her....

But for the rest of the stuff,,,,,, hahahaha.... great entertaining post!!

Glegolo

Glegolo, Thank you for your nice words...........always try to do my best.

As about to how I know, if you have been living in Thailand for some time, you should know that Thais can't hold a secret.

And they don't need too much persuasion to tell you everything.

The secret is, never show dissatisfaction to what you hear, otherwise the info will stop forthcoming.

Sometimes it takes a little time for me to know, but the result is always the same

[glegolo]

hahahaha great Costas........ I vote costas to be Dr Phil of Isaan.......

Shall remember your words..

Glegolo

[Gecko123]

OP:

Just wait until she becomes incontinent.

(I'm strictly joking. Sounds like your mother-in-law loves you too, which in my experience means you're a good man. I tip my hat to you, sir. )

Edited October 15, 2014 by Gecko123

[Aussieroaming]

My mother in law is gold...and she never stays with us

[romeijoe]

OP:

Just wait until she becomes incontinent.

(I'm strictly joking. Sounds like your mother-in-law loves you too, which in my experience means you're a good man. I tip my hat to you, sir. )

dont worry we have had some bad times as well --- like the first time i tried to discipline the 4 yr old for being naughty,,, she went off her head big time, even came up the stairs which she never does, in order to tell me never do that again,, but i have since learnt a little about living with thais

well its good to hear some positives on the site keep it up gentlemen

[MobileContent]

Have a great MIL.

Yesterday we decided to go Wat That Phanom so MIL drunk the night before 3 bottles Lao Khao and the whole trip from Sakon Nakhon to That Phanom was a nightmare. Three 7/11 plastics with vomiting the rest of the Lao Khao that wasn't digested. She kept saying she want to die so Lassie said ok at the Wat they can burn you and Lassie is more then happy to pay a small Chedi.

I have a great relation with my MIL. She only drinks 3-4 times a year so I can handle it. My lassie is different and fights to her when she is drunk.

Otherwise I have to be honest. MIL helps a lot and doesn't want anything in return.

[Gecko123]

My mother-in-law is very gentle. Her husband (my FIL) died a couple of years ago. It is safe to say that he didn't care for me too much. But the mother-in-law was always very kind and understanding. At one point I had marital problems. My MIL reportedly told my wife many times she needed to shape up. The MIL never went the 'get rid of this turkey' route.

Once I gave her a one-speed bicycle. She promptly fell off it and screwed up her knee. I felt like a real bonehead. I gave her these leg massages, and tried a bunch of physical rehab stuff to help her get better. Another time, one of her grand daughters tried to lead her up a grassy slope leading up to my house. I was really terrified the MIL would slip and break a hip. I scolded the grand-daughter to never do that again. It got back to me that the MIL really appreciated that.

The MIL likes drinking Lactosoy milk. Very humble. Always glad to see me. Very hardworking. Tireless. She raises pigs. When the sows give birth she has to sleep next to the pig shed to keep an eye on the piglets. She never drinks, but she smokes roll-your-own-cigs, maybe 6-7 a day. She has a hard time understanding me, and I have a hard time understanding her when I talk to her on the phone, but somehow we always manage. I don't think I've ever hugged her, but I've grasped both her hands with both of mine many times, and it always feels like neither of us wants to let go. I've made a few mistakes which I'm pretty sure some MIL's would pounce upon as an opportunity to advocate giving me the heave ho, but she never did. It was like doing that never even occurred to her.

I have to say, she's one of the most forgiving women I've ever known. She's getting up there in years, and I do worry what will happen when she's gone.

[rgs2001uk]

Have posted this on here before, never mind, my MIL is brilliant, if anything ever happens to the mrs, I will either move in with the MIL, or she can move in with me.

The mrs is like a cat on a hot tin roof before her mother visits, cleans everything, the MIL comes round like some sort of Sgt Major doing an inspection, if its not up to her standards the mrs kops one.

The mrs doesnt like the language the MIL uses, ais and ees are flying, throw in some man, muengs etc etc, mrs is afraid I will use it.

The old cow looks as if butter wouldnt melt in her mouth, but she in no fool.

Always brings me about 5 kilos of beef mattsaman curry, she is a better cook than the mrs.

The language she uses to describe her Thai son in laws is something else, love it when they have to wai her and kiss her ass, she can see right through them.

The grandmother was something else, she put her long life (90+) down to a diet of lao kao and hand rolled cigarettes.

When she was dying the whole family came to Bkk (they were told she only had two weks left), after the third week she was still with us, the upcountry hillbillies head off to ban nork all pissed off.

A week later the old granny died, I am sure she did it on pupose just to piss them off.

On pride of place in the display cabinet in the front room is the grandmothers wedding bowl, she gave it to me, not the mrs, that infuriated them even more.

Despite what you may read on here, these people aint stupid.

[geronimo]

I too, am fortunate to have a gem of a MIL. Hardworking, proud and respected in the community.

[AYJAYDEE]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

will you ever run out of thais to bash?

[glegolo]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

will you ever run out of thais to bash?

To answer AYJAYDEE; Your eyes are useless, if your mind is blind!!

(famous prowerb)

[AYJAYDEE]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

will you ever run out of thais to bash?

To answer AYJAYDEE; Your eyes are useless, if your mind is blind!!

(famous prowerb)

now all you need is a question

[malt25]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

will you ever run out of thais to bash?

You ever heard of "tongue in cheek" ? or are you totally void of any sense of humor ?

[Bluetongue]

My mother in law only wants to chew mahk, too old to do anything but squat on her haunches all day pulling tiny weeds out, occasionally even out of my garden. When she was in the intensive care unit a while back we went to visit her and to her great chagrin they wouldn't let her chew mahk so she got better in one night and was chewing a gobfull on the front steps of the hospital by the time I got the car round. If she ever spills any of it in my car she'll get more than a gobfull from me. I secretly call her creeping death.

[AYJAYDEE]

OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

will you ever run out of thais to bash?

You ever heard of "tongue in cheek" ? or are you totally void of any sense of humor ?

yup

[scorecard]

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OP, you are not alone.

I, also have a mother in Law made of gold.

She lives near us, the father is dead, and she never lifted a little finger to help me or my wife in anything.

She just sits there, observing us and every so often expresses her dissatisfaction about something.

She is very grateful when I give her some money, and it is amazing how many times she appears at the beginning of the month when she knows I get my payment.

She never addresses me directly, but always complains about me to my wife.

I have allowed her full use of my garden and she never consulted me as to what is to be planted.

But when I plant anything it's no good.

Farang knows nothing.

Otherwise we have a lovely relationship.

will you ever run out of thais to bash?

You ever heard of "tongue in cheek" ? or are you totally void of any sense of humor ?

yup

Well I will share my relationship with the mother and father of my son's wife, retired farming folks

with a good income from their 200 rai of quite productive crops and fruit trees. And all well managed.

We are all the same age (around 70) and we have a great relationship all round. They are pleasant, intelligent,

never been more than perhaps 500k away from their birth place, and they love to have some intelligent conversation

and some silly fun.

Both speak zero English but not a problem I speak plenty of Thai so we have good communications.

The DIL's father tells everybody (not always sure if he's joking) he's saving his money to take his wife and me to see the snow.

Truth is his knowledge of geography is zero and his knowledge of where to see snow is also zero.

They visit often, they cook, and are always willing to try my cooking. They never interfere.

For me there's another bonus. I live with my Thai son and his Thai wife and my son's two young daughters. The kids see grandma and 2 grandpas being happy and enjoying life and the two girls are very often pulled into the enjoyment. To me that's bonus for the kids and for me.

Edited October 16, 2014 by scorecard

[chickenslegs]

I was out walking with my wife when we saw two men mugging my Mother in Law.

The wife said "Aren't you going to help?"

I replied "No, two should be enough".

Apologies to Les Dawson.

(It's just a joke, I don't have a mother in Law).

[Thongkorn]

My Thai Mother in Law is brilliant. She works in a Hospital, her Husband has long been dead, she supported herself and her daughter and two children, Now my wife. she did this for a number of years before i met the wife. She has never asked for one baht from me or the wife. None of this Big money falang thing., She often buys me things, I could not have wished to meet a happier person. They say if you look at your mother in law that's how her daughter will end up like, Well i cannot wait to be honest.

[devolad]

Have enjoyed this thread. thanks to the OP and others who have contributed.

My MIL is gold. The sort of person that operates in the background, without seeking praise, making sure everyone else is happy and comfortable.

MIL has not had the benefit of any formal education, but has some real natural wisdom that makes most of what she says worth listening too. Doesnt hurt that she has a great sense of humor.

In the early days my thai princess(TP) and I had our fair share of robust discussion - thai princess would call MIL for moral support/vindication. From what I could gather MIL often let TP have it both barrels. A couple of days later I would get a half arse appology from the TP ( which I know hurt her more than a dentist visit).

TP has a great relationship with her mum and there is a bundle of mutual respect and friendship evident. Both of us always look forward to catching up with Mum.

Have a good mate who also has thai MIL - have met her several times - she's a miserable selfish lady - the standard horror story we often read about here, am sorry for my mate but quietly blood# grateful I have mine, and not his.

[neverdie]

I have the best mother in Law in Thailand, perhaps even the world. Great woman, brilliant woman.

[arthurwait]

A couple of days later I would get a half arse appology from the TP (

This actually happens ?

[devolad]

Hand on heart mr arthurwait. Like I said my MIL is gold.

[kannot]

Mines so laid back shes.......................well dead!! has been before I knew my Wife, same with her Dad BOTH dead hoooooorah!!

[cornishcarlos]

I do worry about my MIL falling down the well... She can be very clumsy, especially after she has annoyed me..!