Help, I am being stalked.

[Straight8]

Dont block her. Meet her and sort her out yourself.

Yes, don't block her, no point, she will just grab another sim and be able to contact you unless you change your number.

Having said that, as a stalker you could start making xx amount of calls at all hours, and that aint pleasant.

Had one fruit-loop bang over 20 calls [missed] in one day years ago. Fortunately it did last more than a weekend.

[umbanda]

Did you told her that you now have a girl friend and you told your girl friend about her behavior and her details? Thai woman is very afraid in getting trouble with other women. Keeping your profile on the dating site means that you still "available"....

[tomdfc]

I asked this question on the Ask the Lawyer forum recently. Techically, it seems the police are correct in what they said but as has been pointed out in the answer and elsewhere there are ways to bring pressure to stop this nonsense, hopefully. Link attached -

http://www.thaivisa.com/forum/topic/767188-stalking/

I think this is a law which should exist but that doesn't help you much right now so you should consider all the advice given.

[godden]

I'd buy some kevlar underpants.

[mesquite]

The scary part of this is the OP has never even met the woman in person.

[petercool]

post using profanity removed along with reply quoting that

[8OA8]

I suggest that you go and talk to the most senior high ranking Thai lady that you know, even if you have to go to a friend of a friend, and ask her to please make one phone call to the stalker telling her never to contact you again.

I had a situation in my office a few years ago, one of the girls (Thai) was received unwanted attention from a Thai man, she had met on a dating site and they met once for coffee. She had decided that she wasn't going to have any further relationship, however the guy wasn't accepting that and was calling and texting her all the time including at her work. She came to me because she didn't know what to do, she was even contemplating leaving her work to return overseas and do further studies. I suggested that if she didn't want to ask her father to make that one call then I could ask a friend to make it, however it really would be better coming from someone that she actually knew. We decided on her uncle, an equally powerful voice as her father and this way it could be handled without her father knowing she was on dating sites. One phone call was all it took. She bounced into the office the next morning saying everything was taken care of and her uncle had called her back to say he had spoken to him the guy and that she would never be contacted by the guy. She never was, at least not for the next couple of years before she headed off to do further studies.

[NoshowJones]

Match her with an expat desperate to find a wife.

Good idea, but it would have to be someone he hates.

[CharlieH]

A post advocating violence has been removed

[ToddinChonburi]

Seems like she probably has a child at the same school, She may not even look like the pictures you have.

Has there been any women at the school that seems to stick out in your mind that is overly friendly or just smiles at you a lot. She has to be standing or sitting near you to get a good picture. Look at the angle of the picture and do your own detective work. You should be able to see were she was when the picture was taken.

Very unlikely that she just wandered into the school and took the picture or pictures. Sounds like you have put some good safe guards in place, do not panic hopefully it is just a passing crush the women has on you.

I will stick my neck out and say I am guessing this women is not very attractive maybe even over weight and this is why she has not revealed herself to you.

Edited November 14, 2014 by ToddinChonburi

[A1Str8]

Just continue ignoring the <deleted> and keep everything recorded. Photos msgs etc. But why not change number or delete the account or in whatever way you receive those messages. Who cares about bullies, and sick <deleted>. They are nothing.

[garyinhuahin]

Got stalked by a gay Thai cop for a period of nearly 2 years. Never physically threatening but awfully uncomfortable. Finally got rid of him when he sent me some explicit gay porn (anonymously. Like I didn't know exactly where it came from). I promised that if he ever bothered me again, I would give the pictures and a full account of his behavior to his superiors and the local press. That finally got through to him.

[ukguyinthai]

hire a nice girl to walk through the market hand in hand and take your kid to school with you for a few days, Make it look like you have a women. Then reply ( as the new woman ) in a threatening manner to any more messages. mark your site account as "in a relationship"

lets us know how it all ends........If you survive the experience.ha

[ChrisY1]

Why haven't you blocked this woman from sending text messages to your phone?

The meeting site is on my computer.

Not on my cell phone.

I blocked her 1 time, but she was back with another name the next day.

Shut the site down and go to another one......

[Confuscious]

Seems like she probably has a child at the same school, She may not even look like the pictures you have.

Has there been any women at the school that seems to stick out in your mind that is overly friendly or just smiles at you a lot. She has to be standing or sitting near you to get a good picture. Look at the angle of the picture and do your own detective work. You should be able to see were she was when the picture was taken.

Very unlikely that she just wandered into the school and took the picture or pictures. Sounds like you have put some good safe guards in place, do not panic hopefully it is just a passing crush the women has on you.

I will stick my neck out and say I am guessing this women is not very attractive maybe even over weight and this is why she has not revealed herself to you.

In the school of my child, a lot of people are walking around every day.

People who go for eat a breakfast with their children or simply like to hang around.

I asked 1 time a few years ago to meet the director about this.

This was inviting pedofiles to hang around children.

Other schools have the school ground sealed of for parents and visitors.

I

[Alan653]

I agree with ToddinChonburi,

Examine all the photo's carefully.

Go to the area's and try to locate the spot that come's closest to the photo.

You obiviously know she work's at a market selling underwear.

Go there...take your camera, and snap off as many photo's of vendors selling

underwear there.

Watch if any react in a way that might tip off who she is.

If so, take as many photo's of her as you can.

Do the same thing at your child's school.

Look to see if any of the vendors from the market show up to pick up their child

(assuming this woman has a child).

Again take photo's.

And document everything. Time of day, date, etc, etc..

Edited November 14, 2014 by Alan653

[Confuscious]

Why haven't you blocked this woman from sending text messages to your phone?

The meeting site is on my computer.

Not on my cell phone.

I blocked her 1 time, but she was back with another name the next day.

Shut the site down and go to another one......

I have the strong feeling that leaving that site would be great mistake.

Now I can follow her mind setting and her steps.

But she don't know that as I can visit other accounts without leaving a trace.

The photo's at the market and later the photo's at the school gave her steps away without that she know it.

But I will never reply to any messages from her.

That would be a complete mistake.

[mesquite]

Why haven't you blocked this woman from sending text messages to your phone?

The meeting site is on my computer.

Not on my cell phone.

I blocked her 1 time, but she was back with another name the next day.

Shut the site down and go to another one......

I have the strong feeling that leaving that site would be great mistake.

Now I can follow her mind setting and her steps.

But she don't know that as I can visit other accounts without leaving a trace.

The photo's at the market and later the photo's at the school gave her steps away without that she know it.

But I will never reply to any messages from her.

That would be a complete mistake.

Sounds like you're enjoying it too much.

Edited November 14, 2014 by mesquite

[soistalker]

I'd shag her until she couldn't walk right....ever. Take my advice: I never have to break up with chicks; I make sure they break up with me. Anal? Anal?

[sundrenched]

Seems like resistance is futile. So just get it over with and marry her.

[happynthailand]

if this has been going on for 10 months

it seems like your enjoying it

you could have stoped this months ago,if you wanted to

just my 1tb worth

[tim armstrong]

Pepper spray.

[RolandRat]

Irresponsible idiot ! This has been going on for 10 months, and now you decide you dont want to play anymore ?

By leaving it this long you have in effect encouraged this person.

If you had any balls, you would have dealt with this ages ago, but perhaps your ego enjoyed the attention, you should encourage this person to meet, be friendly, then at the meeting (take someone with you) make it quite clear you want nothing to do with her and if she persists further action via the Police or whatever will follow.

Stop being a whimp and a push-over, sort it out man, that's what parents do ! when their child is involved.

Edited November 14, 2014 by RolandRat

[cup-O-coffee]

I would suck it up and politely ignore her as well as her advances. In time this wears off, and they go looking for another host. People like this, if they think you are nice, but politely avoid their advances, will not go schizo and not stab you or shoot you, and instead find another host. If you do not exacerbate their sick mental condition, they will move on.

On the other hand, if you give ANY kind of attention, you will open a can of worms. This is typical narcissistic behavior, and anyone who knows this behavior will tell you to ignore ignore ignore... politely, and on your guard, but still ignore. Without you as a resource, their sickness will not last.

All the best.

[Forethat]

Sometimes, the best way to repel idiots is to act like one yourself.

Military service is compulsory in my home country and very few exemption warrants. A friend who didn't want to spend time in the military wrote a letter to the army after receiving his calling up paper shortly after his 18th birthday. He thanked them for the opportunity to learn how to kill, and he wrote to let them know he wanted to learn how to kill efficiently in as many ways as possible. He also said that he wanted to serve in a unit where it was likely he'd be given the chance to kill other people in action. He even let them know that he wanted to discuss a few methods of killing he'd drafted himself. Two weeks later he received his exemptions. They didn't want anything to do with him.

You could use a similar tactics with this woman. Why not start chatting with her on this dating site and after a while begin to behave as you are the one chasing after her? Call her, email her, chat with her as much as you can. If she swallows the bait she'll get more and more annoyed with you. Start mixing the conversations with hints that you are in financial trouble and that you need to borrow money. At that point you may want to introduce a few suggestions involving swinger clubs (and at least if she says yes you'll get proper sha**ed). Arrange a date and make sure you show up smelling like a dog (he**, rub yourself somewhere with dog poo, just enough to give her a slight whiff every now and then), interrupt her all the time and talk abut all your problems. During dessert you can start talk about animal sex. And ask for a loan in between. You should have no issues with this woman again.

Edited November 14, 2014 by Forethat

[FritsSikkink]

Just go to her and tell her

You obviously have not read the OP his comments on this thread....might be helpfull before you post though...

You got that wrong, i did read it but think he is too soft in his approach to this girl. She obviously didn't get the message through normal conversation.

[Strangebrew]

Look dude want this to stop just tell her you like <deleted> sex but hard to find lady who likes it too. If that don't stop her then either she is freaky and likes it.

[Confuscious]

On the other hand, if you give ANY kind of attention, you will open a can of worms.

That was my way of thinking too.

If I would reply or give any reaction, that would be seen as an attention and the real troubles would start.

[RolandRat]

On the other hand, if you give ANY kind of attention, you will open a can of worms.

That was my way of thinking too.

If I would reply or give any reaction, that would be seen as an attention and the real troubles would start.

After 10 months ! you are a simpering coward, any excuse not to deal with the situation, anyone suggests "do nothing" and you are right behind it, and how has that worked out for you for the last 10 months ?.......exactly!

Its time to confront the issue and deal with it, OR shut the hell up and get on with it, and stop moaning to all and sundry over your in-action.

[mataleo]

hire some girl, as an actor and go around with her