Telling Thai gf how much I'm REALLY worth?

[puukao]

Let's say I'm really worth 500k USD, zero debt (no mortgage, house paid off, etc...). I know, not the greatest amount, but not the least amount. Sure, I wish it was 1 million, but i'm super lazy and would rather exercise than work. Good investments over the last 20-years, which isn't really working either. Anyhow...who cares. I exercised 3 hours today, zero work. feels good....

I really want to tell my gf I am not broke, but certainly don't want her to think I'm rich. Yes, gf that I don't trust 100%. Are we getting to 100%?...yes, but who knows when. I want her to know that I'm "successful" (I really think money is a horrible metric for success, but whatever) and not some worthless backpacker; however, I don't want to put a bullseye on my chest....

So my TVF experts......how should i spin this web????

Trust me, people ask questions and more questions. How can you not work? How much money do you have? Do you own house back home? Are you rich? blah, blah, blah......

Of course i want her to like me thinking i'm poor....but not run away thinking i'm some loser (which i don't label poor people, but some here do). anyhow.....

[ukrules]

I want her to know that I'm "successful" (I really think money is a horrible metric for success, but whatever)

You had a good run, what are you going to do for the next 20-30 years ?

Tell her nothing

Edited March 27, 2015 by ukrules

[RandomSand]

Money can't buy love.

[lanng khao]

Money can't buy love.

hit the nail on the head there mate, khwarm rak gin Mai dai, good auld thai saying...

[kingalfred]

Some crazy guys who need advice on how to have a partner who "isn't after their money" , really?

[losgrad]

I want her to know that I'm "successful" (I really think money is a horrible metric for success, but whatever)

You had a good run, what are you going to do for the next 20-30 years ?

Tell her nothing

Yes, for a few years minimum, "Tell her nothing." Resist the temptation until she's reading and ready to sign the prenuptial agreement along with two or more lawyers in her primary language.

It's easy to tell more, it's impossible to retrieve that information back unless you have one of those 'light-emiiting pens' from "Men in Black," that erase memories.

Be confident knowing you don't have to show or know your wealth to keep her interested in you. Does a man really want a lady to stay with him becaue she knows he has 'bank?' You'll learn more about her when she doesn't know whether you have money or not... It's easy for a woman (or man) to spend your $500k and then say, 'Nice knowing ya, now get out of my house, condo, etc...!!'

P.S. Yes, I know you trust her 99%, but many years from now, she may recall something you said or did years before as the spark to initiate her goodbye .

Good luck!

Edited March 27, 2015 by losgrad

[CWMcMurray]

The fact that you are living here without any job but have money to spend ... Presumably from interest on your nest egg should be a good enough indicator that you are ok financially

Wouldn't advise going into details with GF or anyone for that matter about your actual

Net worth or how much money you have .... No ones business...

If some time down the road plan to get married... Ok ... Then her business... But not as just a GF..

Thais have plenty of ways to answer indirectly to questions they don't want answer directly... Just do it Thai style

If she asks about money... Just say ' enough to get by ' or similar

[Ayutthaya11]

Tell her you're poor. When she walks away, flash the cash! Then you'll know she's nothing but a gold digger

[slightlychilled]

She's already miles ahead of you. She knows you have money.

Lamb to slaughter...............

[96tehtarp]

Tell her nothing.

Then kick her out!

Why? Because you don't trust her.

Be very careful or your bank account will look just like her's did before she met you.

[Stan42]

Just don't bring up the topic, girls love "mysterious men".

[wangsuda]

Never trust anything that bleeds for seven days straight and lives (yes, I know it's sick). Tell her nothing. If forced, tell her you receive a small pension, similar to a TEFL salary.

[sipi]

You are worth nothing.

According to your profile you are Female..

[MaeJoMTB]

Apart from the thousand in the morning, why would you discuss money with a 'Thai gf'.

PS

Is this the 45yo mother or the 21yo (100x hotter) daughter?

Edited March 28, 2015 by MaeJoMTB

[sipi]

Apart from the thousand in the morning, why would you discuss money with a 'Thai gf'.

PS

Is this the 45yo mother or the 21yo (100x hotter) daughter?

Hey person.

You are finally getting it.

She is a troll, and you are a slow learner.

Welcome to ThaiVisaForum..

[lanng khao]

You've got yo treat em like mushrooms at first, keep them in the dark and feed them sh!te..

[Brit_Doggie]

Go ahead and tell her but start getting worried when you see cartons of rat poison pellets in your room or these on your favourite dish. Edited March 28, 2015 by Brit_Doggie

[lanng khao]

Didn't realise my ex was using them on me till people kept asking me why I left the room through a hole in the skirting board..

[elgordo38]

I want her to know that I'm "successful" (I really think money is a horrible metric for success, but whatever)

You had a good run, what are you going to do for the next 20-30 years ?

Tell her nothing

Yes, for a few years minimum, "Tell her nothing." Resist the temptation until she's reading and ready to sign the prenuptial agreement along with two or more lawyers in her primary language.

It's easy to tell more, it's impossible to retrieve that information back unless you have one of those 'light-emiiting pens' from "Men in Black," that erase memories.

Be confident knowing you don't have to show or know your wealth to keep her interested in you. Does a man really want a lady to stay with him becaue she knows he has 'bank?' You'll learn more about her when she doesn't know whether you have money or not... It's easy for a woman (or man) to spend your $500k and then say, 'Nice knowing ya, now get out of my house, condo, etc...!!'

P.S. Yes, I know you trust her 99%, but many years from now, she may recall something you said or did years before as the spark to initiate her goodbye .

Good luck!

Be very wary about disclosing to much even if she pushes the issue. See how things play out. Always have a plan B ready i.e. bags packed ready to move on at least for a couple of years till you get to know her and from my experiences you never really know someone entirely and people change. Her family will come first and if she works thats fine you always need some breathing room. Thai women can do a 360 on a dime so be careful don't lead with your heart. Be careful building a house for her etc as you can own nothing but a condo. Prenup if your serious definitely

[Costas2008]

Money can't buy love.

For how long have you been living in Thailand?

[Tchooptip]

You are worth nothing.

According to your profile you are Female..

my dear Watson.

[elgordo38]

Read the topic "Wife changed when she got back to the village" Just below your thread. This is the norm not a one off

[Kerryd]

Never be worth more dead than you are alive.

[Emster23]

Money can't buy love, but I do know where you can rent or lease it

What possible good would it do you for her to know how much you have?

Don't be surprised if you get something like Stalin's reaction when told US developed Atomic bomb. He already knew, he had his spies. These ladies are very adept at inferences regarding your net worth from just tidbits of evidence here and there.

[Zob65]

When I told my missus what im worth , she went bonkers, its seems $7.23 didnt impress her!

[Gordy Gambino]

I buy tilak condo in her name so my son not get. He get house in aussie but he greedy. Too bad. Only child I raised.

[SpokaneAl]

No matter how much you are worth, in their eyes you are the Bill Gates of your neighborhood. You can handle living here in the custom that you wish and deserve. There is no need, and much reason to never go further than that.

[Gordy Gambino]

Tilak not care so long as the gravy train to mommas house 50000 baht a month is maintained she doesn't care where it comes from or what I got to do to get it.

[flyingdoc]

Give nothing away! If you are in doubt now, then you should run a mile! I always reiterated the opposite of the T shirt slogan ' Have lovely honey, but no money'' That performed an instant selection process ! Never looked back !!

[BKResort]

I told EVERY women I met here the TRUTH.

I was broke, and I was living with my SS retirement of $900US/month, no properties, and not rights to my retirement when I die, if we cannot live in my country for a while...something that was not going to happen.

For about 2 years, most walked out or laughed at me. With some, I had just a one night stand, or short time good moments. Was fun.

Finally, and susprisingly, the best good looking, younger, and independent one, ask ME if I wanted to get married, and we are together for 3 years already, living a peaceful and simple happy life.

That was my TRUTH, but...if I was rich, I will do it in the same way...until I find one that was interested in me, and not in my money, because I found out that a couple without kids, can live very well with just $900.00 US/month in Thailand.