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Why do some Thai wives have to phone their husbands every 20 minutes or less sometimes when the hubby is out for a couple of hours for a few beers with mates.

There's five of us who meet to have a beer now and then and two seem to have phone calls non-stop during the two or three hours we are together.

Who really has the problem?

Husband or wife?

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When we're in Thailand Sundays are my days exclusively. After many years of marriage my wife understands a chap needs a little freedom. 

After maybe a little shopping, a walk with the dogs and kids on the canal in the morning, I am at liberty to do what I please, where and with whom I please.

Usually I do nothing more exciting than head to Lower Sukhumwit, see who is biffing around, maybe go a little further afield to enjoy a little nostalgic trip down memory lane popping into little corners I've long forgotten, maybe watch a little football or cricket if there is any on, if I find a good source of cider in  a place with a nice open smoking area I'll have a few pints of cider and a cigar or two, and so on, and so forth... 

The only time the wife will call me is if I'm needed to buy something we've forgotten while near the shops. In fact, it is usually I who tend to call her to see if there is anything we need before I head for home in the evening.

One of my pals is seldom off the phone to his wife to the extent I've had to insist he turns the bally thing off when he turns up as I'm sick of getting halfway through a sentence or deep into an interesting chat, only to be interrupted by the endless beeping.

Were we out chasing dolly birds and his wife the unintelligent, insecure type , I could understand it, but she is a fine sensible lady and we are two middle aged family men, long time married, long time settled in Thailand but his phone will start beeping as soon as we get sat down.  

While I understand the value of mobile technology, if my phone was constantly going off, albeit the wife, a pal, work, I think it would drive me bonkers...

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9 minutes ago, Merylhighground said:

When we're in Thailand Sundays are my days exclusively. After many years of marriage my wife understands a chap needs a little freedom. 

After maybe a little shopping, a walk with the dogs and kids on the canal in the morning, I am at liberty to do what I please, where and with whom I please.

Usually I do nothing more exciting than head to Lower Sukhumwit, see who is biffing around, maybe go a little further afield to enjoy a little nostalgic trip down memory lane popping into little corners I've long forgotten, maybe watch a little football or cricket if there is any on, if I find a good source of cider in  a place with a nice open smoking area I'll have a few pints of cider and a cigar or two, and so on, and so forth... 

The only time the wife will call me is if I'm needed to buy something we've forgotten while near the shops. In fact, it is usually I who tend to call her to see if there is anything we need before I head for home in the evening.

One of my pals is seldom off the phone to his wife to the extent I've had to insist he turns the bally thing off when he turns up as I'm sick of getting halfway through a sentence or deep into an interesting chat, only to be interrupted by the endless beeping.

Were we out chasing dolly birds and his wife the unintelligent, insecure type , I could understand it, but she is a fine sensible lady and we are two middle aged family men, long time married, long time settled in Thailand but his phone will start beeping as soon as we get sat down.  

While I understand the value of mobile technology, if my phone was constantly going off, albeit the wife, a pal, work, I think it would drive me bonkers...

 

Similar situations.

We all decided to go for a beer and watch a football game and the two guys in question missed half the game running outside every 10 minutes to answer calls.

Suggestions to switch off phones didn't even get an answer.

Totally amazes me.

 

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29 minutes ago, jerojero said:

No trust it seems, if wife has to check up on hubby like that. No good situation.

 

Well, I didn't feel qualified to provide an answer here, but I do know someone who might be. The wife. So I ran this one by her and the answer was unequivocal. No trust! And I have to admit, I was not surprised by her answer.

 

This is not necessarily a slur on the two gentlemen concerned. Many Thai women have very bad experiences with their partners, my own included. Whilst she was abroad working and sending money back to support the family, her ex was out drinking, whoring and neglecting the family. And sadly there is little in the way of support and protection on such cases. So, quite simply, their life experiences condition them to mistrust their menfolk.

 

It can also come from the father's behaviour as well. My wife's daughter does not trust men at all and wants nothing to do with them. And it's a direct result of her father's actions.

 

'Land of Smiles?' Sorry. Not in my judgement. A figment of TATs imagination.

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Really good question. The mrs does not worry where I go. I love to be alone sometimes. She may have had a hard time at the beginning but now I doubt she questions that sort of stuff. In bkk I noticed a few things. Green eyed monster in her came out. Where we live now I notice she is much less concerned about that type of thing. The neighbours are a lot more concerned. I get reported for going on a bike ride on my own or even if they see me in big c grabbing a kfc something like that. I met her on the Internet to begin and chatted with her for about a month whilst I was touring thailand.

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My wife never phones me.

She never worries about what i get up to, i can go wherever i want.

Funny thing is if i go anywhere i cannot get out of my wheelchair to get up to any mischief.

Also being catheterised it is impossible to do anything. Mind is willing body is f.....d.

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Similar situations.

We all decided to go for a beer and watch a football game and the two guys in question missed half the game running outside every 10 minutes to answer calls.

Suggestions to switch off phones didn't even get an answer.

Totally amazes me.

 

 

Indeed.

I could maybe understand if it's a new thing and the first full flushes of romance are still in full spate, where you can't stand not hearing your partner's voice for an hour, but when you've been wed to her for a while and just left her an hour or so ago, the mind does boggle when they're on the phone most of the afternoon while they're supposed to be enjoying a pal's company and a little 'freedom' for the afternoon/evening.

I had to remind my pal that he would be spending the next three weeks in her company exclusively (he only gets one 'day off' a month), when I really should have slapped him abaft the onion with a large dead fish....

To address the OPs question, I think it just 'goes with the 'being wed' territory' as it were. I don't think it is a specifically cultural issue.

Since returning to the UK, I've re-connected with several old pals who have married in the time I was in Thailand, and even they have to 'check in' with 'the boss' regularly.

Some women are happy to give their husband a little space, while others aren't so understanding or independent. I think my wife has come to enjoy her Sundays at home with the kids, and her pals, while' I'm out and about, as much as I do. Indeed some Sundays she can't wait to get me in a taxi which I must admit got me wondering....until I got home to find her and a few pals in the garden, giggling like schoolgirls, my cider and cocktail supplies rather depleted....

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Not much to say just my Mrs rings me if l go off on my Versys because she is scared of it and just checks to know l'm OK,  l only see it as a caring thing don't see whats wrong with that.

 

Don't see the need for compositions on the topic.

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