"The Family"

[starky]

3 minutes ago, Paul Catton said:

 

 

Complete and utter diatribe.

If, you have landed yourself with an extended family of rogues, thieves and vagabonds, without moral compass which also you could also encounter anywhere worldwide, suggest you question your own acumen first.

In this instance I might suggest there was no brain to begin with for loss at the airport.

[akentryan]

I got along great with the younger siblings in my wife's family. When the younger ones finished high school they migrated to Bangkok and lived with us as they went to university and/or found jobs. Then my wife died after a nine-day illness without a will.  The oldest brother and oldest sister took charge of things. Greed came to the surface and I was forced to pay one-third of the value of my house to keep it as well as one-third of the value of my car. Plus they took one-third of all my wife's bank accounts.Additionally I had to pay the inheritance tax on the two-thirds I was allowed to keep.The mother and father were no longer able to take care of themselves so I built a house for them in my village. The next to the youngest daughter owns it and looks after Mom. Dad died just before Christmas last year. Still have the house in Bangkok but I now have 11 siblings to deal with regarding selling it. I still send the youngest sister to the university where she is studying law. Revenge is sweet. I had the oldest brother in my will for 8 million baht. He and his wife and daughter now get zero. I have willed my two-thirds interest in the Bangkok house to my wife's closest sister. Never take for granted how much the family loves you or that your wife will outlive you. Make sure your wife has a will naming you as Executor.

[wwest5829]

17 hours ago, p_brownstone said:

 

"Phonically" that phrase does not mean what you apparently think it means!

 

Patrick

 

 

And your understanding of this translation?

[GOLDBUGGY]

11 hours ago, upside said:

 

Sum it up in 2 to 3 sentences please. Ain't nobody got time for that. 

Sorry! I didn't notice the guy standing next to you with the gun to your head and forcing you to read my long post. Although you somehow still found the time to comment on it. So I guess you are not as busy as you think or try to make us all think.  

 

May I suggest in the future that if you don't have time to read any of my posts, then just skip it.  

[GOLDBUGGY]

6 hours ago, georgemandm said:

No because that is how it is here 

if believe it is not then your like most    Foreigners who come here and  leave there brains at The airport.

Well! I certainly seems like you did. 

 

Why so bitter?

[georgemandm]

7 hours ago, Paul Catton said:

 

 

Complete and utter diatribe.

If, you have landed yourself with an extended family of rogues, thieves and vagabonds, without moral compass which also you could also encounter anywhere worldwide, suggest you question your own acumen first.

In this instance I might suggest there was no brain to begin with for loss at the airport.

Like you I think 

[transam]

4 hours ago, akentryan said:

I got along great with the younger siblings in my wife's family. When the younger ones finished high school they migrated to Bangkok and lived with us as they went to university and/or found jobs. Then my wife died after a nine-day illness without a will.  The oldest brother and oldest sister took charge of things. Greed came to the surface and I was forced to pay one-third of the value of my house to keep it as well as one-third of the value of my car. Plus they took one-third of all my wife's bank accounts.Additionally I had to pay the inheritance tax on the two-thirds I was allowed to keep.The mother and father were no longer able to take care of themselves so I built a house for them in my village. The next to the youngest daughter owns it and looks after Mom. Dad died just before Christmas last year. Still have the house in Bangkok but I now have 11 siblings to deal with regarding selling it. I still send the youngest sister to the university where she is studying law. Revenge is sweet. I had the oldest brother in my will for 8 million baht. He and his wife and daughter now get zero. I have willed my two-thirds interest in the Bangkok house to my wife's closest sister. Never take for granted how much the family loves you or that your wife will outlive you. Make sure your wife has a will naming you as Executor.

My wife's elder sister keeps on about wanting their mother dead so she can get the insurance to pay off her gambling debts....TRUE...

[georgemandm]

8 minutes ago, transam said:

My wife's elder sister keeps on about wanting their mother dead so she can get the insurance to pay off her gambling debts....TRUE...

That made made laugh mate made my day cheers 

[transam]

Just now, georgemandm said:

That made made laugh mate made my day cheers 

I no longer go to her sisters house, I do have principles that Thai folk do not understand....

 

I have always believed "what goes around comes around", daft I know but I have been proved right many times in my life.....This sister it seems now has malignant cancer....Their mum smiles, why, cos this sister TOLD the mum to hurry up and pop off.....TRUE...

[georgemandm]

6 minutes ago, transam said:

I no longer go to her sisters house, I do have principles that Thai folk do not understand....

 

I have always believed "what goes around comes around", daft I know but I have been proved right many times in my life.....This sister it seems now has malignant cancer....Their mum smiles, why, cos this sister TOLD the mum to hurry up and pop off.....TRUE...

Haha again made my day very true in your statement I believe the same as you .

thais are like children never grow up 

[zoza]

i have been with my wife more than ten years and looked after her and her three kids as well as

getting a new roof/retiled/painted and other improvements to her home in the village, apart from

a sister coming back after a party and taking all the food out of the fridge freezer and just taking to her home and the fact that when ever any jobs were put in the families hands the cost would rise by at least 30% I plodded on without to much fuss.

but as I had promised I would spend a few bob more once the kids had finished school I made the mistake of allowing the family to oversee the first few jobs, beforehand I had told the wife any more 30% on top and that would be the end of that the money would stay in the bank in blighty. 

so two jobs two rip offs and all of a sudden the wife is an interest free money lender but the brother decides that because he had decided 6 moths after he sold her some land it had been sold to cheap and the loan would now not be paid back and practically 60% of the family have now got loans with her I have explained to her it is her money and I would not give her any more until she gets every satang back. I have heard the other brother tell her older sister he hopes she dies alone because he had not made any money out of her daughters farang husband.

my wife is like a rabbit caught in the headlights and it is coming to a head as I will not let them cheat and scam me again, she still tries to defend them as they helped when her husband done a runner, but after a row last week she called me "jai dam" and I walked out.

I have been around long enough and seen enough to know this behaviour is quite common with some families in Thailand and especially the poorer areas of issan.

I was even getting told a friend who has suffered some kind of

breakdown is now kept in a room in the village with his gf holding

his atm and passport ect.....

[4MyEgo]

17 hours ago, upside said:

 

Sum it up in 2 to 3 sentences please. Ain't nobody got time for that. 

 

I dare say, if you haven't got time to read a reply to a post, GET OFF, and don't be so RUDE !

[georgemandm]

1 minute ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

I dare say, if you haven't got time to read a reply to a post, GET OFF, and don't be so RUDE !

Now now you not want to be Like me not like I on here you no me I not sleep when TV members block me haha just joking with you to tell you the truth your 

 Comments On here are very  interesting reading  4myego  I bet you miss the spanakopita .

 

 

 

[Wilsonandson]

i have been with my wife more than ten years and looked after her and her three kids as well as
getting a new roof/retiled/painted and other improvements to her home in the village, apart from
a sister coming back after a party and taking all the food out of the fridge freezer and just taking to her home and the fact that when ever any jobs were put in the families hands the cost would rise by at least 30% I plodded on without to much fuss.
but as I had promised I would spend a few bob more once the kids had finished school I made the mistake of allowing the family to oversee the first few jobs, beforehand I had told the wife any more 30% on top and that would be the end of that the money would stay in the bank in blighty. 
so two jobs two rip offs and all of a sudden the wife is an interest free money lender but the brother decides that because he had decided 6 moths after he sold her some land it had been sold to cheap and the loan would now not be paid back and practically 60% of the family have now got loans with her I have explained to her it is her money and I would not give her any more until she gets every satang back. I have heard the other brother tell her older sister he hopes she dies alone because he had not made any money out of her daughters farang husband.
my wife is like a rabbit caught in the headlights and it is coming to a head as I will not let them cheat and scam me again, she still tries to defend them as they helped when her husband done a runner, but after a row last week she called me "jai dam" and I walked out.
I have been around long enough and seen enough to know this behaviour is quite common with some families in Thailand and especially the poorer areas of issan.
I was even getting told a friend who has suffered some kind of
breakdown is now kept in a room in the village with his gf holding
his atm and passport ect.....

Did she iron your clothes? Wash your clothes?
Cook for you?
Clean the house?
Wash the dishes?
Lay underneath you once a month and pretend to orgasm?
If so, what more do you want. It's the simple things in life that are important.

[zoza]

2 hours ago, Wilsonandson said:

Did she iron your clothes? Wash your clothes?
Cook for you?
Clean the house?
Wash the dishes?
Lay underneath you once a month and pretend to orgasm?
If so, what more do you want. It's the simple things in life that are important.

she done all of the above and sometimes lay under me twice a month

but I seem to have a deep aversion to handing large amounts of money

to people who have never done anything for me and not armed.

[naboo]

Mother and Father in law are both great. One sister is great, and I get on very well with her husband (Thai) who wisely keeps himself at arms length from the family. The other sister and the brother are scam artists and thieves.

 

I fell out with the sister when she spent a day in hospital with my wife after the birth of our daughter trying to convince her to move in with her as it would be better for the baby. I fell out with the brother about three years ago after endless borrowing of my tools that were never returned.

 

The brother is, however, a useful source of cheap labour. He will be laying some concrete for me tomorrow for 300B for the day, and it would give me great pleasure to pay the little shit to shovel the sand around the garden for days on end just for the fun of it.

 

I haven't spoken to the nasty sister since the birth of my daughter. 

 

The nephew did guarantee the mortgage on the house, nice of him. He also owes me 6000B, the only loan I have ever provided to the family. Repayment hasn't happened, but 6000B is a good price to pay for an excuse never to loan the family money again. I won't chase him for it.

[colinneil]

Families here are a pain in the neck.

My outlaws are not welcome in our home.

Before my accident they would come over take things without asking, when i was in hospital for 7 months, and my wife stayed at the hospital my tool room was practically emptied, my clothes gone.

Now at home 2.5 years since my accident, outlaws have done nothing, i mean nothing whatsoever to help me or my wife, but still try to take things from here.

At 18..00 hours i lock the gate, before i go back on my bed because just after dark, when my wife is busy taking care of me, was the time they would sneak over and steal, not anymore.

My wife is a fantastic/caring lady, her family the complete opposite.

[pigeonjake]

19 hours ago, zoza said:

i have been with my wife more than ten years and looked after her and her three kids as well as

getting a new roof/retiled/painted and other improvements to her home in the village, apart from

a sister coming back after a party and taking all the food out of the fridge freezer and just taking to her home and the fact that when ever any jobs were put in the families hands the cost would rise by at least 30% I plodded on without to much fuss.

but as I had promised I would spend a few bob more once the kids had finished school I made the mistake of allowing the family to oversee the first few jobs, beforehand I had told the wife any more 30% on top and that would be the end of that the money would stay in the bank in blighty. 

so two jobs two rip offs and all of a sudden the wife is an interest free money lender but the brother decides that because he had decided 6 moths after he sold her some land it had been sold to cheap and the loan would now not be paid back and practically 60% of the family have now got loans with her I have explained to her it is her money and I would not give her any more until she gets every satang back. I have heard the other brother tell her older sister he hopes she dies alone because he had not made any money out of her daughters farang husband.

my wife is like a rabbit caught in the headlights and it is coming to a head as I will not let them cheat and scam me again, she still tries to defend them as they helped when her husband done a runner, but after a row last week she called me "jai dam" and I walked out.

I have been around long enough and seen enough to know this behaviour is quite common with some families in Thailand and especially the poorer areas of issan.

I was even getting told a friend who has suffered some kind of

breakdown is now kept in a room in the village with his gf holding

his atm and passport ect.....

 

It's you that is letting all this happen,

They will try it on, 

At the start of the relationship you just have to tell them straight  I'm not keeping your family,

I work hard for our money and my wife understands, I don't want to do 8 week trips off shore or in some other country but I'm thinking of the future of our children,

She sees this. I say to her if your dad dosnt want to work up to him I don't have a problem with that, but he will never get anything from us,

[transam]

8 minutes ago, pigeonjake said:

 

It's you that is letting all this happen,

They will try it on, 

At the start of the relationship you just have to tell them straight  I'm not keeping your family,

I work hard for our money and my wife understands, I don't want to do 8 week trips off shore or in some other country but I'm thinking of the future of our children,

She sees this. I say to her if your dad dosnt want to work up to him I don't have a problem with that, but he will never get anything from us,

I did similar, mind you I had sod all money to start with.....

[NoshowJones]

On 10/6/2016 at 11:53 PM, JJGreen said:

JJ's rule # 13 of Thai dating.

Only date orphans

What about the orphans who have Aunts, Uncles, Brothers etc, who take the place of parents?

[JJGreen]

What about the orphans who have Aunts, Uncles, Brothers etc, who take the place of parents?

It can happen...but not the same

[NoshowJones]

On 10/7/2016 at 9:10 AM, transam said:

I am so so glad I never built our house near her family. It took me a few years to work stuff out and so now I never go to her families town at all...They have accepted that and Mrs.Trans says they know why you stay away.

Happy bunny...

Maybe I'm just lucky, Mrs Possums family, and aunt and two brothers live just up the road from me, and

I have never had any problems with any of them.

[GOLDBUGGY]

On 8/10/2559 at 4:07 AM, starky said:

Without being facetious then, so your "Thai wife" has a family just like a family everywhere else in the world. Some good, some bad, the occasional fight, some are greedy, some aren't, some drink some are teetotallers.  So I guess what your saying is they are normal people. Which really makes wonder why there is thread after thread after thread on here constantly deriding Thai people and painting them with ridiculous stereotypes all whilst coming up with witty replies like "I'm just looking for a slim petite sterile orphan to look after me in my old age". No wonder so many have relationship problems here. 

I agree to a point that families are similar everywhere else in the world. You don't have to come to only Thailand to find Families Fighting over a Will. The Biggest Screw Job I ever heard of in my life was how my own Father got screwed out of his inheritance after my Grandmother died. 

 

My Grandparents were very rich, based on the prime property they owned. As a result of my Grandmother's Death (who held the Purse Strings in the Family as My Grandfather was a terrible gambler) everyone else in the Family became rich to, except my Father. They got all the money, property, and land after my Grandmother's Death. My Father basically ended up with nothing, except having to look after Poor Old Grandfather. as nobody else would take him. So I guess Greed lies in ever Family and in every country of the World.

 

As to In-Laws, I still have 2 Brothers-in-laws in Canada from my X-Wife's Family who still owe me money. One Big Money. This is now from about 30 years ago. One borrowed my New Lawn Mower, but never brought it back. I wonder what my chances are of ever seeing that again? At least in Thailand I could hire someone to go pay him a visit.

 

I think my Western Culture is also different then it is in Thailand. I remember a time growing up where we actually would go visit Grandmother on a Sunday Drive, or on Special Holidays, but they don't seem to do that anymore. Unless she is in some Nursing Home for the first year or so. People in my country seem to still have loving families, but that family extension doesn't seem to travel or go much beyond their front door.  

 

I am actually closer to My Thai Family then I ever was with my own back home. I have a sister and 2 brothers which we haven't communicated in over 15 years. With one brother we email once every couple of months to keep up with any news. But he doesn't have much contact with anyone else in our family either, and he lives their, so he knows about as much as I do.   

 

  

[NoshowJones]

On 10/8/2016 at 4:06 AM, Paul Catton said:

 

 

Complete and utter diatribe.

If, you have landed yourself with an extended family of rogues, thieves and vagabonds, without moral compass which also you could also encounter anywhere worldwide, suggest you question your own acumen first.

In this instance I might suggest there was no brain to begin with for loss at the airport.

"Foreigners who come here and  leave there brains at The airport".

What about the ones who don't have any brains in the first place? ie, the ones who walk about shirtless in Pattaya, and also

the ones who walk down Beach Road after 11pm showing of their gold and jewelry.

 

 

 

 

[JLCrab]

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[Rc2702]

My wife's family are lovely people and truth is I don't want to let them live where they live as they live amongst undesirable people who (compare the neighbours) way too much and gossip is the source of all problems where they live and continual issues arise usually due to dogs believe it not.

 

The mrs's immediate parents are great and I scratch my head sometimes trying to figure out what they want. What they never have they never need and they raised 4 children with very good manners, that alone given the environment commands respect IMO.

 

They are not strong in one sense though and they are not respected where they live from what I can see but respect seems to be given for the wrong reasons where they live.

 

I would love to take the parents the two other daughters and the son and his son and just write a new chapter for them as I think they deserve it. Peace and harmony and all that.

 

Question is the father had to fight for his 7 rai which makes no money requires round the clock surveillance and is positioned between his two evil cousins farm. He will never walk I don't think he will ever give up that land and whilst I respect him a lot I cannot help but think he is being stubborn as to a degree I think my wife is too. I am vehemently against that area and the people surrounding them. The aunt who lives on the land knows 1 word in english. Lottery. Her son is a lazy free for all who has no desire to work. We go each Sunday with food and instead of eating and enjoying a feast she blabbers throughout the whole meal about nothing in particular but self pity.

 

I find myself feeling sorry for the son of the aunt, having a mother like that continually complaining must be difficult but on the same note I get it given she only has sons and her children are supposed to be her support system.

 

Difficult times ahead but I never got into it for the easy life.