My Love Story with a Thai girl – Sweet or Bitter?

[Nicholas1986]

At this moment of a week ago, 6am in the morning, I was in Bangkok, standing at a place where I have never thought of visiting as a tourist, inside an industrial area where only workers walked around, waiting with a bunch of red roses in hands for a girl who I have never met before but I had dreamed of meeting for all along. She did not know I was there. I was planning to surprise her by picking her up after her night shift in the early morning. She is J and the story started around 2 months ago.

 

2 months ago I went to Bangkok for vacation. At that time I found Thai girls look so nice. After flying back to Hong Kong, as I was single, I just had a thought that perhaps I might try to look for a Thai girl as girlfriend, so then I went to a Thai dating website and registered for an account. Searching, sending messages and asking for Line ID, finally I got around 20 Line IDs of pretty girls. However, some did not really reply, some were too boring and some could hardly communicate in English. But, there was an outstanding one, perhaps the sweetest one on my list, who could talk well in English and did reply and talk with me. She is J.

 

Since then I talked everyday with her. At the beginning she replied with only a few messages and usually very late. More chatting later, I knew more about her and I told her more about myself. I found out she was single (I really wondered at that time, too pretty and hard to believe), an independent and highly educated girl, living on her own with a tiring job with changing shifts every day. Since I did not know what time she was working or sleeping, it became my habit checking the phone frequently to see whether she had replied or not and when I got one I would feel so excited. We kept chatting every day and in the hours between messages I could not help thinking of what she was doing, was she doing well? At that time I knew that I kind of loved her. It was a really lovely period.

 

One day, unfortunately there was a bad news hurting every Thai’s hearts, so as J’s. I was so sad to know she kept crying. I wanted to make her happy but I could do nothing other than just some comforting words which everyone knows how to say. I wished I could be by her side to support her at that time. When I knew she got night shifts, I tried to sleep less in order to talk more with her. I went online, found a Bangkok florist and sent a bunch of roses to her workplace without my name, with a hope of getting her at least a smile. Yeah, she got it and seemed she liked it. I felt good as long as she was happy. After that we talked more and more, exchanged pictures and telling each other what we were doing all the time and it seemed she might also be interested in me, so I proposed to fly to Bangkok and visited her face to face.

 

Jesus! She was happy with the idea and seems she also wanted to see me. Though she had very few days off and was always tired, she took 4 days off to receive me and planned to take me to play around Bangkok. She told me where she lived and helped me to find a place to stay in the same condo building as hers. I knew she was so tired so I wanted her to relax and rest in her valuable day offs. So I proposed to spend a night in a decent hotel in Huahin to swim, rest and just relax. She was also happy with that, even fine with having a night on the same bed with a stranger like me who she had never met. I like girls who know cooking and she promised to cook for me when I arrived. Everything made me wonder: perhaps she also liked me? Was I in a dream? Would she be my girlfriend?

 

Unfortunately, I did not want to admit but I was wrong. I felt no happiness from her when she saw me waiting outside her workplace. Am I too ugly in real? No, she had seen my photos before. On the way home she did not talk much. I just thought maybe she was too tired to talk and did not like my way of surprise. Unlike in Line, she talked much less in person. It was usually that I asked her something then she answered with a few words only. As I know the time with her was so precious, I tried to keep the conversation with different topics, but there were still a lot of dead air. Though there were only two of us, she liked playing with her cell phone more than with me and I usually ended up watching her playing her phone. After she took some rest we had an early dinner outside then had a drink in a bar. That’s it. I had given her a boring 1^st day. I asked myself: Have I done something wrong? Why it happened totally different from what we talked in Line?

 

The most expecting day to Huahin came. Decent hotel, beautiful beach, nice swimming pool and spa which I selected elaborately for her, I wished she could feel better and be happier with me on this day. No surprise on the way to Huahin, we did not have much communication and she just slept. In the hotel we had drinks, massage, relaxed by the pool, walked along the beach and a nice dinner. It was a really lovely memory. I gave her a little gift when we relaxed besides the pool after dinner. You may tease me, I was like a dude at that time, I asked her whether I could hold her hand. Jesus, you just need to hold it and no one would ask a girl such a stupid question, which I really did ask, but I was so happy that she said yes. I thought she almost became my girlfriend and I was crazily happy about that.

 

However, I was wrong again. She seemed not like my holding her hands, usually took back her hands and would not hold my hands back. Always kept some sort of distance from me and enjoyed herself in her world playing cell phone, listening to music and doing nail polish. I was like a stupid dog swinging my tail running around her trying to get her attention all the time. I know it did not look man but I could not hold it since I really loved her. She had a little bit headache so I helped her with head massage. It then became another boring night to her and me though we slept on the same bed but nothing happened. I asked myself again then: What wrong have I done? Do I really that suck?

 

On the 3^rd day, nothing happened. Our hotel room got a large jaccuzi which was a feature that I arranged for her to relax. I invited her to relax together, with swimming suits, but she refused. I was serious to her and behaved very well all the time and did not have any evil thoughts. I was really down at that time and kept asking myself: What am I doing here? Why did I spend the time, money and effort flying such a long distance for a girl who did not treat me even like a normal friend? All the time looking cool, without smile, keeping silent, walk on her own, enjoying herself with her phone. What wrong have I done? Do I really that suck?

 

On the last day, nothing happened at all. We only met and just have five minutes talk before I took a taxi going to the airport on my own. During our time, I always would like to know more about her, what she liked to do, to eat, to read, to listen to and to think. I was serious to her and really wanted her to be my girlfriend. That’s why I flew the long distance to meet her in real to know more about her. She said she was not as sweet as she looks and I agreed with her that she was really cool and bitter. She always kept saying that she would let me down by what she really was. On the contrary, after I know her more, I could not even free myself a second from thinking of her and I knew I even loved her more. I have fallen in love with the cool and bitter girl. I told her I would learn Thai, flying for her Bangkok more often and save money to marry her. Again, I saw no feeling from her face. Though she said we might see what will happen between us, I could feel it was already the end.

 

For all those nights, except the one night in Huahin, I could not help thinking of her and hardly sleep. It continued even though after coming back to Hong Kong, I was extremely tired, and crashed my car on the next day on my way to office. At this moment I was lying on the bed in hospital and typing this story. When you cannot move and have plenty of time thinking of one person who you love but was like a bitter ice to you, you will know how slowly time flows. However, what important is that, in these two days, I discover who treasure me and who does not. I know who I should live for and love. Therefore, I am sharing this story to you and make it a past memory to let it go. She apologized to me finally in Line for she had let me down. I am rather happy that she did what she was and gave me no hope when she did not like me. It is actually me who should apologize for letting her down to make her does not like me and have wasted her few days. She deserves a better man.

 

My friends laughed at me that I should be a player and aimed for sex, but to one I really love I would respect her, am serious to her and would strive for a long-distance relationship. To me, distance does not matter, what matters is the distance between your hearts. You will know how bitter it feels when you are holding a hand but cannot feel any soul or heart in it. These few days are really tough to me, but I will move on. By the time I can speak to J as a normal friend again, I think I have already recovered or perhaps filled with love by some others.

Thank you for your time reading my story.

[Peterw42]

Is it possible you read a little to much into the relationship, before you even met her. Talking about love and hoping she will be your girlfriend after a few messages. I thought I was a hopeless romantic, lol.

 

Thai girls dont often show outward signs of affection, especially in public. And not when they first meet you. They are often painfully shy and quiet, especially in English, as this is second language. 

 

Your perception of what this meeting would be, and reality, seem worlds apart. 

 

Great first post though.

 

 

Edited November 2, 2016 by Peterw42

[Kwasaki]

[sipi]

Were they long-stem roses or short-stem?

Ok, chalk it up to experience and move on.

 

[mcfish]

This is why you rent by the hour

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[rhythmworx]

Maybe she was packing what you might like to call  'a gentleman sausage', and thats why she said " she would let you down by what she really was"

 

Be thankful it didn't come to the point where you went down for the sausage  gravy

Edited November 2, 2016 by rhythmworx

[HooHaa]

your problem is you are desperate - among other things. 

i cant conceive of why you would even bother either with her or writing the date up.

[Nicholas1986]

4 hours ago, Peterw42 said:

Is it possible you read a little to much into the relationship, before you even met her. Talking about love and hoping she will be your girlfriend after a few messages. I thought I was a hopeless romantic, lol.

 

Thai girls dont often show outward signs of affection, especially in public. And not when they first meet you. They are often painfully shy and quiet, especially in English, as this is second language. 

 

Your perception of what this meeting would be, and reality, seem worlds apart. 

 

Great first post though.

 

 

Yes, really a little bit too much, but love makes one blind and stupid and I admit that. Appreciate your comment, I love to hear different views. 

[Nicholas1986]

3 hours ago, sipi said:

Were they long-stem roses or short-stem?

Ok, chalk it up to experience and move on.

 

Really a first-time and great experience for me. Thanks! ! 

[Nicholas1986]

1 hour ago, rhythmworx said:

Maybe she was packing what you might like to call  'a gentleman sausage', and thats why she said " she would let you down by what she really was"

 

Be thankful it didn't come to the point where you went down for the sausage  gravy

Do u mean she may be a ladyboy?  Sorry i dun really get what u mean, but she is definitely not. 

[swissie]

 

Not the same thing meeting someone by way of social media versus meeting someone in person

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Meeting the OP in person, she may have found "he is not my type", after all.

- Apparently she doesn't love the OP. She does not even like him

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- She seems to be a bit of a "twisted chick" that does not need a boyfriend but rather a good psychiatrist.

OP: Move on !
Cheers.

[ScotBkk]

Honesty is the key to a good sincere relationship. If you can fake that, you’re in.

Couldn't be bothered with all that Romance <deleted> I'm more the 'let's get the show on the road' type and F3%k the expense - gets better results!!!

I think the OP's of late are clutching at straws and filling us up with a loada tripe verging on lunacy through sheer boredom lol




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[JHolmesJr]

One word: cunnilingus. 

[Nigel Farang]

For many Thai girls, meeting up with a farang for primarily economic reasons, there must be an element of self-loathing -  and faking pleasure at being with the farang can't be easy

[Nicholas1986]

4 hours ago, Nigel Farang said:

For many Thai girls, meeting up with a farang for primarily economic reasons, there must be an element of self-loathing -  and faking pleasure at being with the farang can't be easy

Believe it or not, she's not that type of girl, but its true that faking pleasure is not easy

[Nicholas1986]

Thanks gentlemen, please show some respect to the lady.

[Elkski]

Im Glad you posted your story.  your young and since you believe love can happen like this it has a chance.  Unlike the old farts here.  

I think your mistake was surprising her after a shift at work and the 2nd batch or flowers.   A woman wants to have time e to look her best to meet a new guy.  I also think women have desires and think just like men.  Your lack of advanced in private disappointed me and I bet her.   Women want a Take charge man.  And a man who seems to want them.     I laughed at the post above, but going around security and the direct approach of hot breath blowing through panties has worked well for me.  Shake it off and try again.   

[meatboy]

41 minutes ago, Nicholas1986 said:

Thanks gentlemen, please show some respect to the lady.

but you never got the chance to find out if IT was a LADY.

dont be toooooooooooo down hearted there are plenty that would love the chance to be your girlfreind.

[samsensam]

 

i'm guessing you dont have much experience of having relationships. here's a thought; suppose one of your friends told you the story you have written, what advice would you give them?

 

i'm sorry but this girl is clearly not interested in you, not only that she but doesn't even have common courtesy and politeness. 

 

you say she is highy educated, so why is she a shift worker in a factory? why does she have no idea of her shifts? this does not sound like a highly educated person. i have dated educated girls here they worked as lawyers, doctors, hospital directors, physical therapists, own business owners. certainly not factory shift workers.

[roo860]

Im Glad you posted your story.  your young and since you believe love can happen like this it has a chance.  Unlike the old farts here.  
I think your mistake was surprising her after a shift at work and the 2nd batch or flowers.   A woman wants to have time e to look her best to meet a new guy.  I also think women have desires and think just like men.  Your lack of advanced in private disappointed me and I bet her.   Women want a Take charge man.  And a man who seems to want them.     I laughed at the post above, but going around security and the direct approach of hot breath blowing through panties has worked well for me.  Shake it off and try again.   

What's the name of the dating site you use?

[JHolmesJr]

Coconutbar.com

[Nicholas1986]

2 hours ago, Elkski said:

Im Glad you posted your story.  your young and since you believe love can happen like this it has a chance.  Unlike the old farts here.  

I think your mistake was surprising her after a shift at work and the 2nd batch or flowers.   A woman wants to have time e to look her best to meet a new guy.  I also think women have desires and think just like men.  Your lack of advanced in private disappointed me and I bet her.   Women want a Take charge man.  And a man who seems to want them.     I laughed at the post above, but going around security and the direct approach of hot breath blowing through panties has worked well for me.  Shake it off and try again.   

Logically I did not believe it worked but I just followed my heart at that moment. Yes, I also think my surprise became a shock. Thanks~

[Nicholas1986]

1 hour ago, meatboy said:

but you never got the chance to find out if IT was a LADY.

dont be toooooooooooo down hearted there are plenty that would love the chance to be your girlfreind.

Please stop arguing about that and I have no doubt on my love~Lol

Thx anyway~~

[Nicholas1986]

1 hour ago, samsensam said:

 

i'm guessing you dont have much experience of having relationships. here's a thought; suppose one of your friends told you the story you have written, what advice would you give them?

 

i'm sorry but this girl is clearly not interested in you, not only that she but doesn't even have common courtesy and politeness. 

 

you say she is highy educated, so why is she a shift worker in a factory? why does she have no idea of her shifts? this does not sound like a highly educated person. i have dated educated girls here they worked as lawyers, doctors, hospital directors, physical therapists, own business owners. certainly not factory shift workers.

Yeah, not much, especially with foreign girls. I tried that but when I am deeply in it, its hard for me to think outside the situation, so I am here to share and learn.

She is kind and polite, but only is not interested in me....

Not exactly workers, the job is faked to protect her privacy.

[Nicholas1986]

1 hour ago, roo860 said:

 

 

What's the name of the dating site you use?

 

 

Thaifriendly man, its good.

[JHolmesJr]

You're a sad guy nicholas1986….thailand is for pros…..you are going to get burned very soon if you don't chill out and stop over thinking this basic stuff.

 

Thai women are verrrrry easy to deal with….they just want you to take care of them…….if sex is involved then its financial….otherwise they expect to be fed, entertained and fussed over generally.

 

Reboot and put on your best cad persona….you will flourish….then destroy your posts like hillary clinton.

[meatboy]

here's some good advice nik. 

NEVER surprise a thai girl like you did.

1 coming off nights,she might have been doing a shift on her back.

2 going home with her without letting her know you were coming,you might find a pair of size 10 sandals outside.

3 never mind if she say's they are her brothers.

4 forget the flowers,a somtam and sticky rice.

5 next time you visit this wonderful country ask the taxi to take you to SOI COWBOY.

you will get the ride of your life. 

 

[Nicholas1986]

2 hours ago, JHolmesJr said:

You're a sad guy nicholas1986….thailand is for pros…..you are going to get burned very soon if you don't chill out and stop over thinking this basic stuff.

 

Thai women are verrrrry easy to deal with….they just want you to take care of them…….if sex is involved then its financial….otherwise they expect to be fed, entertained and fussed over generally.

 

Reboot and put on your best cad persona….you will flourish….then destroy your posts like hillary clinton.

Thx Holmes. Are u sure thai women really so easy to deal with??! I have already taken great great care of her.

I am trying to reboot, but some memory in rom takes time to delete..........

[Nicholas1986]

10 minutes ago, meatboy said:

here's some good advice nik. 

NEVER surprise a thai girl like you did.

1 coming off nights,she might have been doing a shift on her back.

2 going home with her without letting her know you were coming,you might find a pair of size 10 sandals outside.

3 never mind if she say's they are her brothers.

4 forget the flowers,a somtam and sticky rice.

5 next time you visit this wonderful country ask the taxi to take you to SOI COWBOY.

you will get the ride of your life. 

 

Sorry I dun quite get it. Who might be the owner of the sandals even though the girl is single?

HAAH, SOI COWBOY and NANA, but I am coming for relationship but not for sex......

Thx anyway, I like your advice!

[nottocus]

If you speak as briefly as you write then you have no chance.