return to my isaan bungalow after 3- 4 years

[Dumbastheycome]

Why   even ask the  question ?  

[Foozool]

It could be still in good shape.

you never know. 

Lets hope. 

 

[Fulwell53]

On Thursday, June 01, 2017 at 2:45 PM, tomwct said:

Looks like Thainess took over maintaining the house. Amazing Thailand.

Here we go again.

Thousands of homes are handed back to owners eaxh year all but gutted by previoys tenants...all over the western world.

But no for some its a uniquely thai trait to trash the homes of others.

Some of the bigotry on here astounds me. 

 

[Fulwell53]

1 hour ago, Foozool said:

It could be still in good shape.

you never know. 

Lets hope. 

 

Exactly....however because thais are involved some feel the need to confidently predict negative outcomes based on nothing more than their hatred for thais.

It's disgraceful and in mine and my expat acquaintences totally unwarranted.

Then again we are normally adjusted mature people  who feel no need to have a downer on their surroundings and life in general.

Maybe this what happens when you can no longer 'perform'.

[Fulwell53]

6 hours ago, paul18620 said:

You haven't learned your lesson from the first time have you ,gluten for more punishment from a Thai lady if you are going back to her ,hope there is no high balcony in the house so you don't become a member to the jumper club.

Gluten

??????

[neeray]

I think many members would really like you to post a follow up after your return. 

Hope you do. 

Best of luck. 

[Konaboy1]

15 hours ago, oxo1947 said:

Well... welcome back to Udon Thani Pumpjack--- Sure your be amazed to hear that the night-life...which was nearly non existent , has got worse in that time....closed down Tongs and got quite strict with times etc.

Didn't you make just 1 friend who could check on it while you were doing your 3 years here..?

I wouldn't think that anything would happen to the pipes.....air con--they are prime targets to be stolen if no one is looking out or your in a seclude spot--maybe your better off if the family did live in it. If they didn't then as mentioned the vegetation  would have probably grown over the house..anyway as you probably know there is an Udon site....post on there if you want to line up some local Chaing --maybe someone lives near to the house and can give you a report--there a friendly bunch .

cant put the link here --but PM it to you... in case you need it...good luck with everything

expect nothing and you will not be diappointed

[lungnorm]

Seems you have far too much money and a lot has been wasted but you still are with this woman. Anyone with any pride would have flown the coup long ago. You get what you deserve in this life unless you strive for something you really want.By your simple attitude in this post I suspect you have one or more wifey's scattered around Thailand and that's the reason for your nonchalance. Best advice is to ditch her for good.

[bangkokairportlink]

Thai are the best and the nicest persons to take care of property, do not worry, everything will be fine.

 

[oxo1947]

55 minutes ago, lungnorm said:

too much money and a lot has been wasted but you still are with this woman. Anyone with any pride would have flown the coup long ago.

 

12 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

as for your relationship, well from my previous experience, if it doesn't start off well, your doomed,

Guys your a bit harsh on the woman when you all really dont have a clue what their problems are about. So many ex-pats come here carrying a lot of baggage from past relationships & with a lot of high expectations. She is still with him--and by the post wants them to go back to the village and give it a go in their house--a scammer would be telling him "yes no good there" and be selling the house...he would never know, house prices in Udon have gone nuts.

As with all relationships there are always 3 sides---- His ---Hers---The Truth.

 

Some of the post say more about your relationships than his..............

[oxo1947]

14 minutes ago, bangkokairportlink said:

Thai are the best and the nicest persons to take care of property, do not worry, everything will be fine

Thats nice BKKairportlink---is it yours ?......where is it?.

 

**Are you one of those guys that are going for the longest name prize........

[lungnorm]

1 minute ago, oxo1947 said:

 

Guys your a bit harsh on the woman when you all really dont have a clue what their problems are about. So many ex-pats come here carrying a lot of baggage from past relationships & with a lot of high expectations. She is still with him--and by the post wants them to go back to the village and give it a go in their house--a scammer would be telling him "yes no good there" and be selling the house...he would never know, house prices in Udon have gone nuts.

As with all relationships there are always 3 sides---- His ---Hers---The Truth.

 

Some of the post say more about your relationships than his..............

A clairvoyant you are not. 

[oxo1947]

2 minutes ago, lungnorm said:

A clairvoyant you are not.

No I used to be a medium.......... but now I am an XL........

-

No I'm not  lungnorm but then  I am not judging him or her --to do that would I  have to know the couple , I guess all those posters that are telling him what a fool he is do.

[4MyEgo]

24 minutes ago, oxo1947 said:

 

Guys your a bit harsh on the woman when you all really dont have a clue what their problems are about. So many ex-pats come here carrying a lot of baggage from past relationships & with a lot of high expectations. She is still with him--and by the post wants them to go back to the village and give it a go in their house--a scammer would be telling him "yes no good there" and be selling the house...he would never know, house prices in Udon have gone nuts.

As with all relationships there are always 3 sides---- His ---Hers---The Truth.

 

Some of the post say more about your relationships than his..............

Mate

 

What are you on about, I have been happily married for 10 years, my wife has never left me, and I have never left her and we seldom argue which is a blessing.

 

If he wants to stay with her, that's his prerogative, and I did say good luck and hope it all works out.

 

Now from where I am sitting, I am entitled to my opinion when someone makes a post, and I don't need guys like you who don't read my quotes thoroughly enough to understand plain English to try and psychoanalyse me or my relationship.

 

Now, I could spell it out for you, but that would take more of my time, try reading it again, you just might get it, the coin has two sides, which way it lands, is up to him. 

 

Seriously man, get a grip !

Edited June 3, 2017 by 4MyEgo

[oxo1947]

10 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

Now from where I am sitting, I am entitled to my opinion

And we are all entitled to ours---and if you wish to publish yours on an open forum, then except that people are allowed to comment on it, instead of getting all defensive like someone has really harmed you.

 

No it wasn't quite deep enough to psychoanalyse  4myego...just to pass a comment on....

[steven100]

[KittenKong]

I think that the OP may find the walls still standing and the roof and windows gone, but I hope I'm wrong.

 

Some photos to show the reality when he gets there would be very interesting.

[4MyEgo]

11 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

Guys your a bit harsh on the woman when you all really dont have a clue what their problems are about. So many ex-pats come here carrying a lot of baggage from past relationships & with a lot of high expectations. She is still with him--and by the post wants them to go back to the village and give it a go in their house--a scammer would be telling him "yes no good there" and be selling the house...he would never know, house prices in Udon have gone nuts.

As with all relationships there are always 3 sides---- His ---Hers---The Truth.

 

Some of the post say more about your relationships than his..............

 

10 hours ago, oxo1947 said:

And we are all entitled to ours---and if you wish to publish yours on an open forum, then except that people are allowed to comment on it, instead of getting all defensive like someone has really harmed you.

 

No it wasn't quite deep enough to psychoanalyse  4myego...just to pass a comment on....

Entitled to an opinion on this forum you are, but in my opinion

 

11 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

Some of the post say more about your relationships than his..............

The above is having a go

 

As for getting defensive, well with a comment like that, its expected, enjoy your tea

[oxo1947]

2 minutes ago, 4MyEgo said:

As for getting defensive, well with a comment like that, its expected, enjoy your tea

Gosh you are a drama queen 4MYEGO............give it a rest--go enjoy your tea.....

[4MyEgo]

25 minutes ago, oxo1947 said:

Gosh you are a drama queen 4MYEGO............give it a rest--go enjoy your tea.....

You mean Johnny Blue, sip sip, gulp 555

[Dumbastheycome]

"Glass  houses!  are  now  mostly  built  using  plastic. They  do  not seem to last  any longer  but at  least the  debris  is less  dangerous. 555

[Dumbastheycome]

I am still on  topic ?  Yes? lmao

 

[Khon Kaen Dave]

Why would anybody want to take up a relationship after 4 years. That's too long a break. They are both different people now, more her than him. If there is a child involved, make an arrangement, and pay maintenance.You will probably lose access to the kiddy anyway in the long run.As for the house, if it is still standing,it will be overrun with all kinds of vermin, even the human kind.I wouldn't expect your 'Chez Nouse' to be anything but a shit heap now.The question that niggles is, why did you let it happen?

CHOCK DEE.

[bkk6060]

 

48 minutes ago, Khon Kaen Dave said:

Why would anybody want to take up a relationship after 4 years. That's too long a break. They are both different people now, more her than him. If there is a child involved, make an arrangement, and pay maintenance.You will probably lose access to the kiddy anyway in the long run.As for the house, if it is still standing,it will be overrun with all kinds of vermin, even the human kind.I wouldn't expect your 'Chez Nouse' to be anything but a shit heap now.The question that niggles is, why did you let it happen?

CHOCK DEE.

WOW,  it certainly seems inappropriate to give relationship advice to someone you do not even know.  Telling him he is going to lose his kid and the house will be a shit heap.  What a terrible thing to say to someone who is just trying to get his life back together. Horrible comments truly.

[Khon Kaen Dave]

Ok,enough is enough, firstly, if you read the other answers on this thread, you will find that i am not alone in my opinions.Did you send them the same reply? Secondly, you are now becoming a pest. It would seem that you are purposely waiting for me to post something and then waiting behind a corner, so to speak and jumping out on me. I suggest you read the conditions of use, re other posters,like flaming and trolling and harassment by 'haunting a fellow poster through the forum.I am a reasonable person, and i understand that you may have immature intellect problems.However if you keep on popping up with insulting answers to all my posts, i will report you.I have never done this before, but in your case i will make an exception.I dont know whether you might have a personal attraction for me, but i have explained that i am not interested.Now let us agree to just, nicely ignore each other and we can both go on our merry way.

[NanLaew]

10 hours ago, Khon Kaen Dave said:

Why would anybody want to take up a relationship after 4 years. That's too long a break. They are both different people now, more her than him. If there is a child involved, make an arrangement, and pay maintenance.You will probably lose access to the kiddy anyway in the long run.As for the house, if it is still standing,it will be overrun with all kinds of vermin, even the human kind.I wouldn't expect your 'Chez Nouse' to be anything but a shit heap now.The question that niggles is, why did you let it happen?

CHOCK DEE.

Nope. can't see anywhere in the OP where he was seeking relationship guidance. Not even the sort of advice based on your 'been there, done that' take on your own fairly mundane and assumably childless exercise in living the dream in LOS.

 

He says "separated on and off for about 4 years", not completely separated for 4 years.

 

Thanks for your opinion on the house but not so much for your opinion on the OP's wife's rels though.

[Khon Kaen Dave]

10 minutes ago, NanLaew said:

Nope. can't see anywhere in the OP where he was seeking relationship guidance. Not even the sort of advice based on your 'been there, done that' take on your own fairly mundane and assumably childless exercise in living the dream in LOS.

 

He says "separated on and off for about 4 years", not completely separated for 4 years.

 

Thanks for your opinion on the house but not so much for your opinion on the OP's wife's rels though.

These are my opinions, and if you dont like them, i have others

(Groucho)

[eddysmit]

On 6/2/2017 at 3:10 PM, Retiredandhappyhere said:

Even if your Thai wife or family had been living in the house all the time after you left, you probably would not want to see it now. No maintenance at all would have been carried out and most equipment will either be missing or not working.  As one poster said, you might not even be able to find the house amongst all the junk and vegetation.  I know this from personal experience in leaving a 4 bed, 5 bath, fully furnished  luxurious home with ten air cons in my ex-wife's hands, while paying her maintenance for my son who lives with her.

 

As maintenance costs money, I do not entirely blame her for the state of the house, except for the fact that it is filthy with junk occupying every available space inside and out. I should add that I have no financial interest in the house any more following the divorce agreement.

Your story sounds exactly like mine, very similar, in what was a beautifully clean and smart property now resembles a junk yard, not one single repair has been done for years it's almost falling down now, the electric doesn't work for half the property as well,I gave regular payments(for my child that has now thankfully moved near to me for work) plus the extra lumps for doing repairs, no need for me to mention if any repairs were done.

[MadMuhummad]

On 02/06/2017 at 10:54 AM, Senechal said:

Invest in some WiFi cameras.

 

They're great for peace of mind in the future when you're not around.

Connected to which wifi would that be? He's been gone 4 years with no talk about utilities being paid etc. 

[Rc2702]

On 2017-6-3 at 9:41 PM, Khon Kaen Dave said:

Why would anybody want to take up a relationship after 4 years. That's too long a break. They are both different people now, more her than him. If there is a child involved, make an arrangement, and pay maintenance.You will probably lose access to the kiddy anyway in the long run.As for the house, if it is still standing,it will be overrun with all kinds of vermin, even the human kind.I wouldn't expect your 'Chez Nouse' to be anything but a shit heap now.The question that niggles is, why did you let it happen?

CHOCK DEE.

Very bad advice. Better to simply wish them luck. Did you consider that if they are now different then perhaps they will make a better go of it given it broke down as the people they were previously?

 

 Are you not the same guy that lost his dog for 6 months. Is your dog different now? 

 

PJack hope you sewn your seeds and all the best. I think you will need it.